So, if you have a guy you are sleeping with that has also pretty much become one of your bestfriends... but you have agreed that you are not dating and that each is free to pursue other people... do you get them a present for x-mas?
or does that cross the line?
It's kind of a fling where we don't mind the other spending the night and just goofing off and doing stupid stuff too. (but again, we have agreed that it is just a fling)

12/15/2005 11:16:45 AM

Just fuck him for xmas you slut.

12/15/2005 11:18:50 AM

Yes, you get them a present.

He's a friend, you'd get him a present.
He's a "best friend" - duh you get him a present.

You're sleeping together and that means he cant get a gift?
wtf?

12/15/2005 11:22:10 AM

it's weird, that's why i ask. i don't want to push and make him think i am trying to get a relationship out of it after we have already had that conversation...
and also because i don't buy presents, i make them... which is more personal.
I've never done the fling thing before... and mine is not anywhere near the same as what the ppl I know do.
... i shouldn't have bothered posting on here... I apparently had a mind lapse about how mean ppl might be on the topic.

12/15/2005 11:30:14 AM

Just get him something small and simple like a good cd or dvd. you could also get him a 12pk of his favorite type of beer, that always works for guys. Or just go over to his place wearing nothing but a bow

12/15/2005 11:37:04 AM

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"I've never done the fling thing before... and mine is not anywhere near the same as what the ppl I know do."

Uh...what?

You're sleeping with some guy that you aren't dating.

How is that different from what anyone else does?

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it, but drop the fucking moral high-horse act.

12/15/2005 11:42:26 AM

get him a joke gift or something sexual, or both. That way you are still getting him a gift, but it's within the borders of your relationship. Shows that you're not trying to get serious or anything.

maybe one of those Christmasy man-thongs that have white fur on them

or like a comically enormous jar of KY

the possibilities are endless

12/15/2005 11:42:56 AM

I wasn't trying to be mean, but, i dont get how you can say someone is a "best friend" but not get them a gift.

12/15/2005 11:43:09 AM

6 pack of good imported beer (or a domestic microbrew ) is definatly the way to go there. It says Lets just hang-out rather than saying lets get married. (which might be the case with a made gift)


Also, you might be over-thinking the situation.

12/15/2005 11:44:07 AM

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"the fling thing"

Please, you're the girl he calls when he can't find ass anywhere else.

Your gift to him is being able to have his cake and eat it too.

12/15/2005 11:46:50 AM

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"Just fuck him for xmas you slut."

as harsh as he put it, that's the best present.

12/15/2005 11:51:53 AM

Give him something small if anything.


btw I swear I posted in this thread before but it disappeared.

12/15/2005 11:59:24 AM

You really just want to know if he is getting you something for xmas, because he should - you're letting him fuck you without all the relationship stuff. That should be worth something shiny, or at least some cash - am I right?

12/15/2005 11:59:32 AM

Yes, please give the guy a gift. Make sure it's not expensive, and it doesn't look like you spent hours looking for the perfect gift for him. No hand-made stuff. Something like a CD, a DVD, a good beer glass from Pottery Barn (<$10) come to mind. The point is for him to know that you appreciate him, but not so much that you'd want to date him seriously

[Edited on December 15, 2005 at 12:12 PM. Reason : semantics]

12/15/2005 12:06:19 PM

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"Uh...what? You're sleeping with some guy that you aren't dating. How is that different from what anyone else does? I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it, but drop the fucking moral high-horse act."

i agree completely, good call-out

-ZiP!-

12/15/2005 12:15:57 PM

grill him a steak, bring him a beer, and give him a blowjob

12/15/2005 12:30:12 PM

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"just go over to his place wearing nothing but a bow "

12/15/2005 2:14:01 PM

I hope not

I'd go broke

12/15/2005 2:25:46 PM

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"Or just go over to his place wearing nothing but a bow"

or give him a blumpkin

12/15/2005 2:31:05 PM

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"get him a joke gift or something sexual, or both. That way you are still getting him a gift, but it's within the borders of your relationship. Shows that you're not trying to get serious or anything. maybe one of those Christmasy man-thongs that have white fur on them or like a comically enormous jar of KY the possibilities are endless "

agree with nerdchick. good idea.

12/15/2005 2:31:22 PM

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"and it doesn't look like you spent hours looking for the perfect gift for him"

The ship may have already sailed for that one...spending time asking lots of people what to buy for this person that she is sleeping with and cares for as much as a best friend.

12/15/2005 2:50:07 PM

I bet $50 she gets hurt from this non-relationship - any takers?

12/15/2005 2:56:32 PM

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"i shouldn't have bothered posting on here... I apparently had a mind lapse about how mean ppl might be on the topic"

People aren't being mean on here. You said you were a ho (whether you admit it or not), so they are being honest about what a ho should do. Where are people being mean?

[Edited on December 15, 2005 at 3:10 PM. Reason : ]

12/15/2005 3:10:18 PM

I SAY DON'T GET THE GUY A GIFT.....UNLESS YOU THINK HE IS GOING TO GIVE YOU A GIFT....USUALLY GUYS DON'T REMEMBER TO GET THEIR FRIENDS GIFTS REGUARDLESS OF WHETHER THEY ARE SLEEPING WITH THEM OR NOT.....

DO NOT GIVE HIM A GIFT....YOU WILL LOOK LIKE YOU ARE WANTING MORE THAN A FLING

12/15/2005 4:15:23 PM

Has he hit it anal? If so then he will probably get you a gift.

[Edited on December 15, 2005 at 4:16 PM. Reason : if not then anal could be your gift]

12/15/2005 4:16:28 PM

this is no way this is going to end well

12/15/2005 4:20:24 PM

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"Just fuck him for xmas you slut. "

12/15/2005 4:25:16 PM

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"Has he hit it anal? If so then he will probably get you a gift. [Edited on December 15, 2005 at 4:16 PM. Reason : if not then anal could be your gift]"

winner

12/15/2005 4:26:02 PM

Yeah, I won this thread twice.

12/15/2005 4:27:09 PM

what? anal? why would that make a difference (not that I've done it, just curious)?

and as for being on a high horse, i can be if i want to. I'm not a ho, i'm not a slut, and I'm not a whore. i was engaged to the only other two people that i have slept with....not that it really makes it any better, i just like to ride my high horse.
If you always take things seriously life is just gonna suck. And, yes, i probably am thinking too much about this situation... but, I'm learning to relax, and i don't think too much about it being a fling... i care more about our friendship... i don't want another relationship any time soon.

[Edited on December 15, 2005 at 6:15 PM. Reason : ...]

12/15/2005 6:11:01 PM

The gift should be sex related...like a strap-on, you think he's down?

12/15/2005 6:30:47 PM

No, the gift should be a 3-way with a female friend, since you obviously don't care who either of you sleep with.

12/15/2005 7:04:26 PM

Get him a card that says you're pregnant

12/15/2005 7:04:54 PM

^ bahahaha.

yeah good way to not be serious in life is to get engaged multiple times by the time you are 22 as far as high horses go, that matters about as much as anal. i could ask every bitch i fucked to marry me.

...or were they just trying to get in dem panties with the old bait and switch marriage proposal?

12/15/2005 7:40:41 PM

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"grill him a steak, bring him a beer, and give him a blowjob"

12/15/2005 7:54:18 PM

they make comically enormous jars of KY?

12/15/2005 7:56:39 PM

^ of course

frat parties don't fill their wrestling tubs with KY by squeezing a thousand little tubes

12/15/2005 8:33:37 PM

2 engagements isn't something i'd brag about

12/15/2005 10:00:06 PM

Neither is having a boy toy.

12/15/2005 10:45:27 PM

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"and also because i don't buy presents, i make them... which is more personal. "

No they're not.
They're gay and crappy.

Girls always like to act like handmade gifts are so awesome, but in reality they're just crappy gifts that serve no real purpose and fall apart quickly and could have been replaced by something that costs just a little more, takes much less time to find, and are much more useful.


[Edited on December 15, 2005 at 11:21 PM. Reason : plural]

12/15/2005 11:19:49 PM

my friends and i dont buy each other presents

12/15/2005 11:35:28 PM

^ Yeah, but you're not fucking your friends

12/16/2005 2:49:45 AM

don't get him anything, but have a santa hat ready

then if he gets you something just say "i got you something too" put on the santa hat and proceed to render services like the dirty who-are you are!

12/16/2005 8:58:16 AM

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"i was engaged to the only other two people that i have slept with...."

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"I'm not a ho, i'm not a slut, and I'm not a whore."

You're just a ho, slut, whore who requires a ring 2 out of 3 times.

12/16/2005 9:07:01 AM

fuck off... i didn't get a ring 2 times... and unlike most dames I don't like diamonds, or most "bling bling" for that fact so don't judge me and say that I am some
I was engaged to the guy i was in love with after dating almost 4 years, but we were too poor for a ring, i got a ring the last time... and I put in almost two years of marriage with it and I think that paid it off. and don't comment on the marriage... already had a thread on it.
the only reason i post half the shit on here is to see how stupid of a response I get (except when i post about my animals, i look for the intelligent responses)
If you don't know anything about a person, why judge them? Just because you saw it happen that way on television doesn't mean that it happens that way in real life.
people make mistakes... that's the way it goes.
oh, and i'm not gonna get him a present. i don't feel like it.

[Edited on December 16, 2005 at 10:02 AM. Reason : ..]

12/16/2005 9:59:16 AM

Get him a movie...its cheap and doesn't require much thinking. If you want more than a fuck. I don't think you do though.

Get a porn if you just want to fuck some more.

12/16/2005 10:11:42 AM

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"He doesn't read, he doesn't know what's happening in the world, and doesn't have an education."

Does your fuck buddy have an education? I bet so cause he's taking you to school.

Is the divorce even final yet? This crap cracks me up - sorry, but it does. Especially the fact that you're sharing it all online.

12/16/2005 10:13:49 AM

^ agreed.

12/16/2005 10:45:35 AM

ah, but am i sharing it all on line, or am i just having fun?

12/16/2005 10:47:21 AM

im in the same boat

i think ill get her a dvd or something

12/16/2005 10:50:36 AM