and having no motivation and not ever knowing what to do about it

and knowing that I will never do anything about it

I blame you, TWW jk

11/19/2023 7:12:35 PM

Find you one hobby and embrace it.

TWW is not a hobby.

11/19/2023 7:14:41 PM

how do I get myself to not be fed up and quit on that hobby though

I'll have like maybe 1 day a week where I'm like ayyy I'll play piano or try to make some music on the computer or guitar or idk and then I just get frustrated bc I suck, and I'm too lazy to do more about it

so music isn't rly a hobby that I can go forward with without some motivation

some kind of solitary hobby I guess

TWW *should* be a hobby

11/19/2023 7:18:06 PM

and then I get two days off a week from work, non-consecutive, so I don't have like 2 days in a row (not that that's enough..) to focus on something for a day and not have to be damn worrying about always working the following day

then if I quit my job I have to wonder what I'm gonna do and blah blah

I'm not cut out for this life business, clearly

11/19/2023 7:19:13 PM

I assume it's easier if you have friends or are married or whatever, but yeeeah

I think we all know how that's going for me

11/19/2023 7:20:01 PM

Ban yourself from doing whatever you do in the stead of something productive/motivated.
Don't make it a task, make it a process.

A simple place to start can be some sort of crafts
take your pick, wood, scraps, cloth, etc.

I remember as a young kid, we'd have these things in school where'd they sort and leave all sorts of left over materials from the school and we'd have these sessions where'd we try making something cool using all the leftover materials. And we'd sit down, no instruction manual, just fun. Elementary school.

Other than that, you could just go volunteer somewhere. Not at any ditzy "adult CSR" type BS, just look for something real and just go sit over there and do something whenever you're free

[Edited on November 19, 2023 at 7:30 PM. Reason : I was lurking a bit out of habit and didn't intend to post, but wanted to reply here. so long guys]

11/19/2023 7:28:25 PM

Quote :

"they always come back."

[Edited on November 19, 2023 at 7:32 PM. Reason : ilu you're not going anywhere]

11/19/2023 7:31:59 PM

Oh don't get me wrong, I always intended to come back, just after being gone for a few months or something.

It's just that I need to like evolve from Julius Caesar to Augustus before I get stabbed in real life

11/19/2023 7:51:33 PM

11/20/2023 2:27:37 AM

I took a group violin class a few years ago, we were mostly n00bs but it was fun even though most people sucked.

See if you can find a group piano/music class. It'll give you structure, you probably will be able to teach other people stuff, and will be fun and fulfilling.

11/20/2023 10:56:53 AM

ya wanna know the secret?

cut pornography out of your life and jack off way less

you'll have much more energy and motivation

11/20/2023 10:59:10 AM

I was gonna say volunteer also. I volunteered about a month ago building a park, and met a ton of people.

Also, even if you don't meet anyone cool, at least you're helping someone out. Win-win-win

11/20/2023 12:38:16 PM

I hate this for you mang. I'm sure you've tried all the pills the docs said to do but Im sure there are more options maybe consider inpatient

11/20/2023 1:12:25 PM

emnsk said:

Quote :

"It's just that I need to like evolve from Julius Caesar to Augustus before I get stabbed in real life"

Augustus was Octavian, Julius Caesar's great-nephew and adopted son. No amount of evolution gets you from Julius Caesar to Augustus.

11/20/2023 3:35:54 PM

How about the evolution of Roman leadership rather than a strictly biological evolution?

11/20/2023 4:31:54 PM

My sensibilities are too Catonian to regard the transition from republic to empire as an evolution.

11/20/2023 4:45:15 PM

since No Fap November is almost over I'm gonna reiterate my advice

feel like you've got no motivation and there's nothing to strive for?

quit porn and do a reset

11/27/2023 2:09:03 PM

For how long? Your methods seem drastic

11/27/2023 7:56:20 PM

in my case I don't think giving up pr0n would be a motivator in any way lolz :3333

it's cool

or is it?

11/27/2023 8:46:11 PM

since actual reality seems to suck, have you tried virtual reality?

11/28/2023 9:30:37 AM

Sounds like you might have depression. As in like the medical condition. If you are anything like me, its due to a chemical imbalance in the brain. Stuff sucks and most times it is out of your control, but ideally you can at least change how you react to it. Normal people react normally and see the positive side of things. Not that straightforward for everyone though. I've been trying a few different medications myself for a few months now and have felt literally zero difference from any of them. All I can really do is keep trying until hopefully something works.

Until then it's just everything is meh and I have no motivation to do anything except pursue escapism. The worst part is that I feel guilty about it. There are people in wartorn countries who had their house destroyed, or people less fortunate than me that have to make a decision between paying the power bill or putting food on the table. And I'm over here sad because my washing machine broke like a first world entitled idiot.

11/28/2023 10:58:20 AM

^yesss I do :3333

we might have talked about it before lolz tho it sounds like you're just now trying antidepressants ;3

I never was much for those; they only seem to give unwanted side effects

I'm bipolar (was that obvious? :3) andddd so it's always kind of hard to tell

I still think my job brings me down more than it should; I'm always happy to see people at work though, on the contrary, so. maybe I need a healthy mix of not-so-long hours work and ummm interacting with people. by people in this case though, I'm referring to co-workers (since I get to avoid the general public in the morning)

I don't envision much changing unless I make some sort of big change, which unfortunately won't happen unless it's forced, bc I tend to stay inert whenever possible ;3

11/28/2023 12:14:54 PM

I second volunteering. Go sit with the cats at the animal shelter or walk the dogs. Focusing on something outside of yourself will get you out of your head.
And stop jacking off to Miley

[Edited on November 28, 2023 at 2:59 PM. Reason : League, lol]

11/28/2023 2:42:04 PM

Quote :

"LEAGUE OF YOURSELF"

11/28/2023 2:51:13 PM

make yourself so busy you don't have time to think

11/28/2023 3:36:16 PM

StTexan until life is good

11/28/2023 4:07:47 PM

^^I drive around for a lot of the day - unfortunately (but not usually too bad) that gives me time to get in my own head

maybe I just don't love being alone anymore

I used to, sort of

now it's just like ayyy let's go have a TWW IRL hangout

11/28/2023 6:27:55 PM

I think weed has made me ok with having a fantasy/loner life :3

and I'm mostly cool with that

11/28/2023 6:28:36 PM

Or are you?!

11/28/2023 7:35:41 PM

^true and fair point sir

11/28/2023 7:40:23 PM

halp

12/24/2023 5:56:49 PM

I know you guys have seen the brunt of my negativity but it gets worse like every Christmas

I understand what needs to happen to make things better but I just

I can barely even talk myself to waking up in the morning

I get today and tomorrow off.. a damn regular 2-day weekend for Christmas :-\ it's stupid

life is stupid and pointless when nobody loves you

12/24/2023 6:05:20 PM

I also recommend volunteering. animal shelter is a great suggestion. go for long walks outside. plenty of greenways and parks out there. every time I get in a funk, the outdoors saves me.

12/24/2023 8:10:38 PM

^+1 like

12/24/2023 8:22:23 PM

BB do you have no family, or alternatively do you hate your family?

12/24/2023 9:45:24 PM

well my family lubs me

I shouldn't really complain about this, I guess

but I'm doing it anyway

12/24/2023 10:15:57 PM

Hope you feel good today BB!!! Merry Christmas

12/25/2023 5:20:52 PM

I'd feel better if I didn't have to work tomorrow but, that's life apparently :3

merry crumbus

12/25/2023 5:24:48 PM