I feel like I haven't met any new people in the area since graduation last May, mostly because I don't know where to go to do so. I'm at the point in my life where I'm not looking for the drunken sorostitute at the random house party, although I'm not really looking to settle down either. What's a good way to meet people in the area, especially singles or young professional women? Somebody has suggested the Raleigh Jaycees, I don't know if anyone has any experience with that or not, if so let me know. I also don't particularly feel like doing the online dating thing, I'm a much more "in-person" kind of person. I guess if I had to try meeting someone online, what are the best sites for the money (e.g. match.com, cupid.com, etc)?

1/11/2007 2:42:44 PM

It's Just Lunch?!?

1/11/2007 2:44:16 PM

Work?

1/11/2007 2:45:14 PM

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"I'm at the point in my life where I'm not looking for the drunken sorostitute at the random house party, although I'm not really looking to settle down either."

How many sorority girls have you hooked up with?

Honestly.

1/11/2007 2:48:46 PM

jesus christ.

go to a fucking bar.

1/11/2007 2:54:44 PM

^^ >.<

1/11/2007 2:56:45 PM

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"I'm at the point in my life where I'm not looking for the drunken sorostitute at the random house party"

such a point does not exist.

1/11/2007 3:00:33 PM

it's because your obsessed with snakes and as a general rule girls find that creepy

1/11/2007 3:04:25 PM

haha nice pic

1/11/2007 3:05:49 PM

bars aren't the best place to meet the kind of girls RattlerRyan is talking about. Sure you can go home with one but she isn't exactly any different then drunken sorostitute.

1/11/2007 3:06:06 PM

supermarkets
starbucks
the gym
church

have some balls to go up to a girl and talk to her. if you don't see a ring, then go for it. if she's got a bf, oh well, on to the next one.

not hard man, just talk to anyone.

except waitresses, bartenders, and anyone else who is paid to talk. don't fuck with that.

1/11/2007 3:06:33 PM

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"except waitresses, bartenders, and anyone else who is paid to talk. don't fuck with that."

hahaha...good bit of advice there.

1/11/2007 3:08:48 PM

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"bars aren't the best place to meet the kind of girls RattlerRyan is talking about."

this may come as a shock, but different kinds of people hang out in bars. i've met many young professional women out in raleigh. just stay away from college bars and start going to places that are more upscale than east village.

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"Sure you can go home with one but she isn't exactly any different then drunken sorostitute."

Those obviously aren't the bar patrons that he should pursue.

1/11/2007 3:09:14 PM

^lol EV sucks. The place i go to the most is Sullivans. I'm there at least once a week. Now either you think thats a college bar or you just put your foot in your mouth by assuming things, troll.

And yes i know different kinds of people go to bars...but the majority are all the same. Raleigh is dull/lame like that.

1/11/2007 3:12:23 PM

I thought PBs was your spot

1/11/2007 3:12:59 PM

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"bars aren't the best place to meet the kind of girls RattlerRyan is talking about. Sure you can go home with one but she isn't exactly any different then drunken sorostitute."

thank you...I've got no issue with bars and right now that's my only source of even coming close to meeting people, but surely there has to be something else

name some of these classier, non-college bars for examples. Sullivan's? Blue Martini? or is that too posh?

and It's Just Lunch costs mad $texas does it not?

1/11/2007 3:15:16 PM

this thread will surely get you laid.

1/11/2007 3:15:23 PM

^^^PB's? I'm not black, dude.

^^Sullivans is great so is Blue Martini...they are a bit posh and at sullivans i usually have a $40-50 tab with just one or two drinks and a cigar. But its a much nicer atmosphere than most places around Raleigh.

Esss is supposed to be pretty nice too but expensive. Totally different crowd then your normal college bars. Alot of young professionals go there.

White collar Crime is meh...ok...music is way to loud there on good nights to be able to carry on a conversation with anyone but your own thoughts...even that has proven difficult

[Edited on January 11, 2007 at 3:18 PM. Reason : fda]

1/11/2007 3:15:49 PM

I met 2 sorority type broads today- both are in my classes...dnl will call one of them back in a few days

1/11/2007 3:21:30 PM

wow!

1/11/2007 3:22:28 PM

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"Now either you think thats a college bar or you just put your foot in your mouth by assuming things, troll."

Did I say that it was a college bar? Now you're just trolling.

Are you saying that the majority of women at Sullivans are on par with drunken sorority girls?

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"And yes i know different kinds of people go to bars...but the majority are all the same. Raleigh is dull/lame like that."

Ah, the classic "Raleigh is lame" - maybe you just suck at meeting people on that one night a week that you go to a nice bar. I've never had any problem meeting a diversity of people at any bar on Glenwood.

But thanks for trying to get on my nuts today.

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"Sullivan's? Blue Martini? or is that too posh?"

Try to get off the beaten path a little bit more. Places like that in Raleigh are popular enough to draw attention from the college crowd, which drives off the older crowd that doesn't want to be surrounded by drunk 22 year olds.

1/11/2007 3:26:20 PM

yeah, my advice is to ride the bus rather than drive to campus- i randomly took my car for an oil change today so i had to take the bus- waiting for the bus and i hear these broads in my classes talking about shit we did in class today- well dnl kicks in his charm and they decide to get on the bus dnl had to get on(instead of getting on avent ferry)- long story short they talked to him the entire way back, got off where i did, and walked with me til i went to triple a and they went to hardees- they wanted to eat lunch with me but i told them i was busy

1/11/2007 3:26:38 PM

wow!

1/11/2007 3:27:23 PM

ahhhhh man i was hoping for a better response than that

1/11/2007 3:32:36 PM

so what constitutes "a little more off the beaten path" more examples plz

and still looking for something other than bar suggestions

1/11/2007 3:34:17 PM

1/11/2007 3:34:18 PM

Word. Something tells me the next Ms. Gamecat will come from a bookstore or coffee shop.

1/11/2007 3:36:40 PM

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"It's Just Lunch?!?"

i heard from a guy i work with that it costs like $2-3 g's for women to join and around $5 g's for guys

1/11/2007 3:37:41 PM

just have your parents do and arranged marriage for you and get it over with

1/11/2007 3:42:38 PM

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"It's Just Lunch"

I've heard the name. Someone explain this one to me.

1/11/2007 3:46:37 PM

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"White collar Crime is meh"

All the good bartenders quit b/c its too "ethnic" now / like the new high five w/out a cover charge

thats what i was told as to why everyone moved to different bars. i went there saturday night and left after 45 minutes b/c i forgot my vest

1/11/2007 3:52:21 PM

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"I'm at the point in my life where I'm not looking for the drunken sorostitute at the random house party"

At this point in your life, you would be so lucky.

1/11/2007 3:53:32 PM

^^ I thought the exact same thing when I went in there Saturday night. Too bad none of my friends gave me the heads up since I don't live in Raleigh anymore...

^ eh I dont know about all that.

[Edited on January 11, 2007 at 3:55 PM. Reason : 0]

1/11/2007 3:54:43 PM

The problem with Sullivan's is that the mean age of the patrons is 35+ and Bud Light is $4.05.

1/11/2007 3:56:50 PM

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"^ eh I dont know about all that. "

If you got $$$ or looks, then your okay...or your just SOOL.

1/11/2007 4:08:51 PM

jesus christ.

go to a fucking bar.

1/11/2007 4:10:37 PM

And if you don't really drink, you're fucked.

1/11/2007 4:19:06 PM

I kinda felt the same way.

I ended up doing more volunteer work. I started at the hospital (hoping to meet a cute nurse) and then started doing habitat for humanity (met one cool chick). I also take my dog to the dog park, there are always several nice looking girls there.

A lot of bars I usually go to aren't really the best environment to find something other than a flirt filled potential one night stand.

1/11/2007 4:21:56 PM

I recommend...




And I wish I had lived in Raleigh more when I was "of age" and able to experience the bar scene. I've lived in Wilmington and Charleston since graduating and have found going out and meeting people to be pretty easy. Just go to a bunch of bars and find one that you feel comfortable in and go from there. And don't shy away from bars because of young clientele. I've hung out with some really cool 21 and 22-year olds and some really immature mid to late twenties girls.

And I've found its best to go out with just one friend if you're looking to meet people. It's always tough to talk to a girl if you've got a bunch of dudes making a ruckus, taking shots, etc. Go out with one friend and you always have the option of having a wing-man depending on how things go.

1/11/2007 4:29:00 PM

^ He speaks the truth.

1/11/2007 4:31:58 PM

volunteering is a good idea - bars to me are full of people looking for hook ups and not much past that. most guys in bars are inebriated and feel that's the state they must be in to have the nerve to approach women. and I said MOST not ALL...

and for those who think 'work' - what if you work in an office where everybody is 10+ years older and are all in different stages of their lives? work can be a great place - but also a weird place if things don't work out - or even with 'friends of friends' at work...don't mix business with pleasure if you like your job

all of that to say that i've tried match.com - just for 1 month for $30 though and i've had some luck with it. if you get 6 months you get a cheaper price - but you have to pay it upfront (but you get 6 more months if you don't meet someone). i was very skeptical of the 'online thing' - but i've found the guys on it to be in the same situation as me - tired of the bar scene and just trying to meet new people.

moral of the story - enjoy your college years, it gets a little harder to meet people being out of school

[Edited on January 11, 2007 at 4:47 PM. Reason : .]

1/11/2007 4:46:51 PM

try message boards

1/11/2007 4:52:03 PM

OK meeting somone in a bar isn't always a bad idea. Alot of it depends on what bar you go to. Respectable women still go to bars. If they say they wanta go home with you its a safe bet to that she isn't date worthy.


If that doesn't work, you can always do It's just lunch

1/11/2007 4:56:26 PM

^.

1/11/2007 4:58:43 PM

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" moral of the story - enjoy your college years, it gets a little harder to meet people being out of school"

I've found its just as easy to meet people since i've been out of school than when I was in school. It's just a completely different way of meeting people.

In college everyone is usually completely wasted and looking to hook up. Even if it's not under those circumstances, meeting someone out while you are in college usually consisted of..."Hey, what's your name? What year are you? What's your major? What dorm/apt complex do you stay in? Cool? Um..." Then you decide whether or not you're drunk enough to hook up.

Going out after college is a completely different world. You're usually meeting young professionals, some from all over the country, different colleges, different jobs. To me it's a lot easier to strike up good conversation. And by this time, a lot of people are a lot more mature and just not out to get wasted. Yeah...a lot of guys are still going out to hook up (and girls seem to be more willing the older they get)...but it's a lot more common to get a number and set up a date the older you get.

Its all what you make of it.

1/11/2007 5:09:31 PM

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"Its all what you make of it."

AND where you live! lol

I've found it very difficult to meet people that I would actually consider a "friend" here. I met tons of people through work, but most are married and have lives of their own.

1/11/2007 5:22:39 PM

I second supermarkets and restaurants ... go on a day that would otherwise be slow anyway and go as the lunch rush is ending if you go to a restaurant. Supermarkets women tend to spend more time in the produce area so you might be able to break the ice with something semi-cheesy like "how do you pick a good [name of fruit]" ... works best if it's something like pineapple, kiwi, papaya

1/11/2007 5:27:29 PM

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"AND where you live!"

Good point. I couldn't imagine being single and living in a small town after college. A town like Wilmington is probably the smallest I could do.

^And have you ever tried that?? If you have...then good for you...but I laugh at shit like that. Unless you're Rico Suave, I can't see that working. Its easy to meet people when you go out because that's what people are trying to do when they go out...MEET PEOPLE. No one goes to the grocery store or goes to lunch by themselves hoping that someone comes up and strikes a conversation with them and asks them out on a date. Same thing with guys who try to hit on girls in a gym. I see ridiculously hot girls in the gym every day, but never even think about bothering them when they work out (although seeing a girl out that goes to your gym is always a good conversation starter..."Don't you go to soandso gym??").

1/11/2007 5:35:41 PM

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"Sex : F"

no, but I had someone try it one me once. I thought it was cute, but I was already engaged so no go

1/11/2007 5:39:27 PM

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"No one goes to the grocery store or goes to lunch by themselves hoping that someone comes up and strikes a conversation with them and asks them out on a date."

it happens plenty

1/11/2007 5:50:22 PM