Just got a call from my mom telling me that my older brother, who doesnt have a license because of multiple dui's just gave my name at a checkpoint in charlotte...... from what my step dad tells me they just gave him a warning and let him go, but knowing my brother I bet that bitch is lying.

What can I do in this situation?

I called the faggot and he doesnt pick up the phone, he works for my mom and my mom should deal with him tomorrow, but knowing my brother he probably lied about not getting a ticket and thats what he's going to tell my mom.



If i get another ticket, i get my licence suspended for 6months... due to previous speeding violations.

2/8/2007 1:16:20 AM

didn't the cop check for driver's license?

2/8/2007 1:19:05 AM

he said he didnt have it.. so he gave them my name and birthday

2/8/2007 1:19:35 AM

Did you really have to post this both here and Chit Chat?

2/8/2007 1:21:47 AM

I meant to post it here

2/8/2007 1:22:23 AM

If you're a student, I'd hit up student legal services first thing in the morning.

2/8/2007 1:28:19 AM

Damn skippy...they had a case like this on Judge Joe Brown the other day! It was a pair of sisters and he got her all straightened out No, I am not a fan of these judge tv shows but when it is the only thing on your TV besides soap operas you have to pick between the two evils!

2/8/2007 1:42:57 AM

be a decent brother and take one for the team if you have to.

2/8/2007 2:09:09 AM

Fuck that he said his shit will get suspended too because of his previous speeding tix!

2/8/2007 2:17:58 AM

you're a girl, you wouldn't understand.

i'd take a 6 month suspension for my brother, if it saved him from alot of trouble. i know he'd do the same for me.

that's how it should go down with brothers, i don't understand all these siblings these days that hate eachother.

i think my bro/sis are assholes sometimes and i don't agree with alot of stuff they've done, but that doesn't change having their back 100%.

[Edited on February 8, 2007 at 2:23 AM. Reason : .]

2/8/2007 2:21:31 AM

It's pretty clear his brother wouldn't do the same for him, and in this case, he'd be being a doormat for his brother.

2/8/2007 2:28:21 AM

where is that clear?

2/8/2007 2:36:32 AM

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"you're a girl, you wouldn't understand. i'd take a 6 month suspension for my brother, if it saved him from alot of trouble. i know he'd do the same for me. that's how it should go down with brothers, i don't understand all these siblings these days that hate eachother. i think my bro/sis are assholes sometimes and i don't agree with alot of stuff they've done, but that doesn't change having their back 100%."

+111111111

i agree with that...i'd do the same for my brother and sister.

2/8/2007 3:05:34 AM

What sort of shitty brother would sell his brother out like that in the first place, though? That's the question.

2/8/2007 3:09:06 AM

He's been a fucking doucebag to me for as long as I can remember. There is love between us and I would take a bullet for him, but god damnit, shit like this just pisses me off. He knows im fucked if I get another ticket and why couldnt he have used another name

[Edited on February 8, 2007 at 3:14 AM. Reason : theres a big difference in physical harm and having your records fucked... ]

2/8/2007 3:13:19 AM

your brother has nothing on one of my brothers' douchebaggery. i most likely wouldn't take a bullet for him.

[Edited on February 8, 2007 at 6:27 AM. Reason : ]

2/8/2007 6:26:46 AM

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"i'd take a 6 month suspension for my brother, if it saved him from alot of trouble. i know he'd do the same for me."

Right, and I'd take the blame for my brother committing rape, murder, and child molestation all at once . You get into some hard areas, you help each other out, but you don't knowingly and willingly shift your irresponsibility to them without their consent.

Student Legal Services. DUIs can be an absolute pain in the ass to clear from record if they are incorrectly/falsely entered.

2/8/2007 6:48:24 AM

And how in the hell are the police stupid enough to believe that he was me without any form of id or picture identification.

Fuck the Police.

2/8/2007 7:05:15 AM

damn.. i don't even remember my brother's bday... consider yourself fortunate

2/8/2007 8:08:52 AM

fuck taking the fall for him, he needs to learn his own damn lesson. it's that kind of shit that encourages people like this guy's brother to keep on doing what they're doing. i can't believe someone would actually suggest that.

i love my brother and we've always had a good relationship, but hell if i'm going to take hte fall for some dumbass shit he triee to pull. he needs to learn his god damn lesson.

2/8/2007 8:13:45 AM

^^ The funny thing is he called my step dad to see when my birthday was. I mean, jesus tity fucking christ. How did the police officer not realize he made a phone call, although it was in spanish, to my step dad to ask him when my birthday was.

2/8/2007 8:17:16 AM

A DUI is not something to cover for someone. That kid should probably be in jail or rehab. If you really care about your brother prevent him from getting drunk and possibly killing someone with his car.

2/8/2007 8:40:08 AM

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" "you're a girl, you wouldn't understand. i'd take a 6 month suspension for my brother, if it saved him from alot of trouble. i know he'd do the same for me. that's how it should go down with brothers, i don't understand all these siblings these days that hate eachother. i think my bro/sis are assholes sometimes and i don't agree with alot of stuff they've done, but that doesn't change having their back 100%." +-111111111 i agree with that...i'd do the same be a doormat for my brother and sister."

There, fixed that for you...

I love my brothers, and fortunately for me, they're not irresponsible dickbags. If they were, however, it is not my responsibility to fuck up my life just so they can avoid a little discomfort. I don't care if you're family, if you screw up over and over, you have to earn my respect all over again, and the first step is manning up and taking responsibility for your own mistakes. That guy needs to grow the fuck up!

My advice: Student Legal Services is free.

[Edited on February 8, 2007 at 8:41 AM. Reason : quotes...]

2/8/2007 8:40:22 AM

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"where is that clear? "

When he didn't bother to ask his brother before pulling this stunt. It shows complete lack of consideration.

2/8/2007 8:42:17 AM

if they let him go with a warning then your name isn't in the system at all. they don't just give 'warnings' for dwi. i've had multiple friends who have gotten pulled and blew right under the limit by chatham and the worst they made them do is sit. your brother would have gone to jail and had to call someone to pick him up if he had gotten anything more than a warning. i'd say youre worrying about nothin'

2/8/2007 9:39:03 AM

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[Edited on February 8, 2007 at 9:49 AM. Reason : d]

2/8/2007 9:49:01 AM

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2/8/2007 9:51:40 AM

and it sounds more like he is an alcoholic than a douchebag. sounds like a substance controls his life, and you are unwilling to consider that in your perception of him and your decisions about him. therefore id be more inclined to call you the douchebag. the guy needs help, and a decent brother would encourage the parents to help him as opposed to "dealing with him"

you have no idea how many brothers and sisters there are out there who used to be on drugs or alcohol and got abandoned by closed minded siblings. and from the way they talk, that really hurts them because they always cared about their brothers and sisters. luckily my little bro is a good person and stuck by me even when i was a shithead brother.

AAAAAAAAAAAAND one day you and your brother are gonna have to bury your folks. i'd imagine it would suck to be in a feud while dealing with that shit

[Edited on February 8, 2007 at 9:56 AM. Reason : space it out some]

2/8/2007 9:55:20 AM

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"you're a girl, you wouldn't understand. i'd take a 6 month suspension for my brother, if it saved him from alot of trouble. i know he'd do the same for me. that's how it should go down with brothers, i don't understand all these siblings these days that hate eachother. i think my bro/sis are assholes sometimes and i don't agree with alot of stuff they've done, but that doesn't change having their back 100%. "

another +1

2/8/2007 9:57:29 AM

^^ a lot of assumptions are being made on your part, which I know that you've dealth with death and regret but you still have no reason to assume how my brother is leading his life or if even ive tried to help him and not even considering the fact how much my parents have tried to help him. So I would appreciated it if you would shut the fuck up and keep your comments to yourself.

On that note; no, my brother is not an alchoholic... he just makes stupid mistakes and doesnt learn from them. He's better off now than he was in the past due to a large part in his best friend being murdered in a gang related situation... my brother is an ex gang member. Ive tried countless times to tell him that what he does affects not only himself but my parents who have spent countless dollars on lawyers for him which he promises to pay back but we all know he wont. He's been through rehab for drugs and has been clean since. He drinks from time to time but the decisions he makes while he drinks fuck him over. He just makes careless mistakes, and at times brings other people down with him for no reason... such as in this case.

2/8/2007 10:34:43 AM

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"if they let him go with a warning then your name isn't in the system at all. they don't just give 'warnings' for dwi. i've had multiple friends who have gotten pulled and blew right under the limit by chatham and the worst they made them do is sit. your brother would have gone to jail and had to call someone to pick him up if he had gotten anything more than a warning. i'd say youre worrying about nothin'"

thank you. someone else using a little common sense.

it sounds like we're just getting a really one sided story here imo, but i digress...

siblings are different than friends. you might show a friend some tough love in something like this and let them sink/swim, but you don't ever turn your back on family and give up on them.

bust his ass to make things right in his life, but don't just drop him because he pisses you or does something you don't like. no matter how many times or what it is.

you also need to consider the definition of an alcoholic. from what you've already said, he is one. recovering or not.

this is a whole other topic, but attitudes like what i'm seeing from some of you in this thread is exactly why our society is so self centered and familys are in crumbles.

[Edited on February 8, 2007 at 3:47 PM. Reason : .]

2/8/2007 3:46:13 PM

I'd sit down with the guy and let him know it's not OK to do this, and if anything bad happens because of this time or if it happens again regardless of consequences, you're not going to just take his shit for him.

2/8/2007 3:58:39 PM

fuck that dude...my brother and I are as tight as they come...if he wasn't taller and I wasn't so damn good looking I'd say we were twins

I would never ask him to take the fall for me and he would never ask me to take the fall for him on something of this magnitude. if it's a situation like when my parents busted me smoking and then asked me if my bro did as well, you're fucking right I don't dime his ass out and take the blame upon myself. but taking a fall on a DUI is exascerbating a situation that appears is in a downward spiral anyway

it's attitudes like yours that allow people to get by for too long without answering for their actions. it's no wonder there is no accountability in today's society

[Edited on February 8, 2007 at 3:59 PM. Reason : .]

2/8/2007 3:58:45 PM

even if it wasnt a dui any infraction on my record leads to suspension of my license. As I said before, I would take a bullet for my brother but physical harm vs financial and potentially fucking up my future are on two different spectrums of responsibility and love. He's already fucked up his life for the most part, and although my mom has tried to help him financially by giving him a job where he wont get fired he still is irresponsible from time to time on which countless occasions my mom trys to tell him is wrong.
You talk about taking one for the team, but I'll be damned if you ever give up your future just to save your brother/sister from paying a fine and losing his license forever.

[Edited on February 8, 2007 at 4:08 PM. Reason : .]

2/8/2007 4:07:19 PM

simple way to prove you weren't in Charlotte...if you bought something with a credit card within +/- 2 hours of that time, show them the recipet

2/8/2007 4:20:26 PM

If something shows up on your record for that, then just prove to them it wasn't you (^Credit card receipts or something similar is a good idea). You wouldn't have to say it was your brother. Technically, anyone who knew your name and birthday could have said it.

2/8/2007 4:32:08 PM

DONT BE CAUGHT WITHOUT AN ALIBI

2/8/2007 4:51:10 PM

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"siblings are different than friends. you might show a friend some tough love in something like this and let them sink/swim, but you don't ever turn your back on family and give up on them. "

You most definitely give your family tough love. You help them through the serious times, not by letting them walk all over you and stab you in the back, but by making them take responsibility for their own actions. The only way this guy is going to improve himself is to learn from his mistakes, not drag his family down with him. Tough love is separate and distinct from "turning your back on family". Don't confuse the two.

2/8/2007 5:14:08 PM

I'm a girl and I understand one thing...I have 2 older brothers and one of them does stupid shit to me ALL the time. Only one thing can solve this...

A punch in the face and a drink afterwards.

That's how family does it.

2/8/2007 6:23:20 PM

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"you have no idea how many brothers and sisters there are out there who used to be on drugs or alcohol and got abandoned by closed minded siblings. and from the way they talk, that really hurts them because they always cared about their brothers and sisters. luckily my little bro is a good person and stuck by me even when i was a shithead brother. "

Sometimes you have to use tough love. It's not the same as abandoning someone because you can always reconcile. Based on what this guy said it sounds like his bro might need to go to jail.

And as far as taking one for your brother goes...If that were the case then he should have heard it from his brother, not from his mom. It's a spineless bitch move that he didn't get the story from his bro.

2/8/2007 6:30:42 PM

ive thought about doing that before...

2/8/2007 6:38:35 PM

i cant really stand my brother, we are totally opposite

2/8/2007 6:41:43 PM

your brother sounds pretty smart. he got away with it and you arent going to get in trouble for it either.

2/8/2007 6:51:27 PM

this will be chit chat soon

2/8/2007 6:59:32 PM

^^

2/8/2007 7:06:00 PM

So, submit some sort of proof you were in another city when this happend if you get mailed a ticket and that you have no idea who would give out your information. I mean, what's done is done on your brother's part, and plenty of people could know your birthday, and your step dad gave out your birthday without asking what it was for?? And I'm all down with taking one for your brother, but this "brother" doesn't know your birthday after knowing you for 20 years? Sounds like a real pal.

2/9/2007 12:01:22 AM

Your brother's a bitch. I'd go get a DUI and pin it on him.

2/9/2007 12:23:54 AM

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"be a decent brother and take one for the team if you have to."

fuck that shit...especially when it wasn't decent of his brother to do that to him.

2/9/2007 12:26:46 AM

1) Family is not worth this shit. At least not to me. If I had a brother and he pulled this shit when he didn't have a license I'd make him pay. People do NOT LEARN if you don't call them on their shit and let them get caught. This isn't about him dying or shit, this is about him serving time and getting help whether he wants it or not.

There is a fucking reason his license was taken away. Don't defend him for endangering the rest of us. Seriously fuck that shit.

2) If your brother gave a flying fuck about what he did he would have called you himself to apologize. I hear about this family crap and I'm sorry, if my sister shit on me like this I'd force it right back down her throat. This isn't a small thing, this affects your life, your reputation, your ability to work. The mother fucker didn't even know your birthday. That's fucked up.

3) Regardless your brother should have to pay some form of restitution to you but I doubt that will happen. Nothing personal but it sure doesn't sound like your family is in any hurry to remedy the situation.

2/9/2007 8:05:48 AM

I would do a lot for my brother. But there is a couple of missed points here.

Yes I might take something for him. BUT if he does this shit and doesn't even ask me beforehand or anything, fuck that. If I am there and say "dude, tell them your me", then I am putting my neck out for him and am cool with that.

Second, losing his license could fuck OneNighter up pretty bad. I got a job that is 30 miles from home. I can't take a DUI for my brother if he was being a drunk faggot behind the wheel. I'd personally beat his ass for doing that anyways, but if he got my license suspended and my kids couldn't eat because of him, there would be hell to pay. OneNighter obviously ain't got all that going on, but he may have a job or internship he has to get to, and this could seriously screw his shit up too.

I'd do a lot for my little brother, but my own wife and family comes first.

2/9/2007 9:13:39 AM