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baonest
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i dont know. it seems a little soon for me.

of course ive seen it done after 3-6 months of dating.

maybe their madly in love off the bat and know each other THAT WELL.

hmmmmm

personally, i havnt seen it work out very well. and if they are together, then its def. a rocky relationship and people dont want to break up because others will say "told you so"

hmmmmm

post more stats plz

8/5/2008 4:11:09 PM

Str8BacardiL
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is she knocked up?

8/5/2008 4:12:23 PM

bmdurham
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nah, lets just speculate.

8/5/2008 4:12:45 PM

Ragged
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i thought yall been going out longer than that

8/5/2008 4:12:56 PM

Skwinkle
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Actually getting married after a year? Or getting engaged. Both are damn fast.

8/5/2008 4:13:22 PM

Vix
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not long enough to know someone well enough to marry them IMO

8/5/2008 4:13:41 PM

quagmire02
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i've been dating the same girl for 3 days shy of 7 years...still no ring

i don't know what's taking her so long

8/5/2008 4:14:17 PM

LivinProof78
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my mother is convinced i'll get married after 6 months or less and live happily ever after

8/5/2008 4:15:36 PM

DivaBaby19
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A little scary if you ask me!!!

You have lots of time to pop the question, wait it out a little

8/5/2008 4:16:17 PM

baonest
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negros, this isnt about me.

im just sayin

8/5/2008 4:17:10 PM

bethaleigh
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My parents were together for 3 months before they ran away and got married in SC (no waiting for a marriage license in SC). My grandpa didn't like my Dad, but Mom was determined to have him... so they ran away and got married before grandpa could get any more involved. Granted, neither one of them really had anything, and Mom dropped out of college to move to another city with my Dad, but they made it; and have been making it for 27 years now.

[Edited on August 5, 2008 at 4:18 PM. Reason : ]

8/5/2008 4:18:08 PM

LivinProof78
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i just think my mom meant

"if you find somebody that can tolerate your ass for 6 months you better go ahead and marry them"


8/5/2008 4:18:32 PM

seedless
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i could get married, but she has to have her own tv (in the bedroom and the living room w/headphones), and laptop.

8/5/2008 4:20:21 PM

G.O.D
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ex just got engaged to someone they knew for only 4 months. (I dated that ex for seven years )

it kinda makes me laugh, what an idiot!

8/5/2008 4:22:34 PM

tsavla
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Quote :
"ex just got engaged to someone they knew for only 4 months. (I dated that ex for seven years )"


maybe your ex realized she could not afford to spend another 7 to find out its not gona work out!
divorce is always an option

8/5/2008 4:45:07 PM

punchmonk
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Ken and I had dated a little over a year when we got married. He proposed at the 4 month mark. I think we are good.
Then again we were friends for a while so we knew what was up.

8/5/2008 4:49:03 PM

CeilingCat
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Me and Mr. Cat dated for 1 year before we got engaged and married a little after being together 2 years. We've been together almost 5 years total.

I think that's a reasonable amount of time to go through the dating-engaged-married business. Any longer than 3 years and it's kinda like "shit or get off the pot".

8/5/2008 4:50:28 PM

TheTabbyCat
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My hubby and I got married after dating for 5 months. I was knocked up, but we had moved in together before the knock upage and were getting along great. Five years later, we're still doing awesome.

Sadly, I have had several friends in very similar situations where it didn't work out quite so well. One friend got married after knowing the guy for a matter of weeks. They've been hitched for a year but she gets smacked around and there are now 2 children involved. My cousin got married after knowing the guy for a year and now they pretty much don't live together and are occasional fuck buddies. They just haven't went through with the divorce. Another of my cousins got knocked up but waited a while before getting married to the guy. They ended up breaking up within a matter of months of being married.

So I say it depends on how well you know the other person and even then, there's still a large chance things will end in divorce.

8/5/2008 4:51:49 PM

mcfluffle
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getting married after ten years of dating is a little soon

8/5/2008 4:54:50 PM

TreeTwista10
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baonest how long have the 2 lived together? i hope they've lived together for at least a few months

8/5/2008 4:56:49 PM

confusi0n
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"He proposed at the 4 month mark"


:crack

I usually dont even remember middle names or birthdays after 4 months

8/5/2008 4:59:25 PM

Vix
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I've been dating the same guy for 14 months now

This 18 year old girl I work with has been dating her fiance for 12 months, they're both going to different colleges and are Catholic.

Yeah, that does not have fail written all over it.

8/5/2008 5:00:39 PM

Joie
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it depends


age is a factor

dating someone a year and getting married at age 22
verses age 32

by this hypothetical 32 i think you may have dated around a lot and figured out what you want and dont want and although it is a little soon, a year isn't that bad.


imho of course

8/5/2008 5:02:24 PM

jackleg
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im almost a hypothetical 32, wanna do it

8/5/2008 5:03:34 PM

d357r0y3r
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Who cares, you can just get a divorce if things don't work out.

8/5/2008 5:05:34 PM

tsavla
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^
gg, sir!

8/5/2008 5:06:35 PM

Mr Scrumples
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All of my friends at school grew up and settled down
And they mortgaged up their lives
One things not said too much, but I think it's true
They just get married cause there's nothing else to do, so

I'm just sittin' on a fence
You can say i got no sense
Trying to make up my mind
Really is too horrifying
So I'm sittin on a fence

8/5/2008 5:07:32 PM

bethaleigh
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My bf and I have been together for 5 years. We're not engaged or married. We lived together for about 2 years, and it worked out just fine. So, IF one day he and I get married, I think we'll be ok.


Quote :
"Any longer than 3 years and it's kinda like "shit or get off the pot"."

LOL

[Edited on August 5, 2008 at 5:09 PM. Reason : ]

8/5/2008 5:08:38 PM

JBaz
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I'm lucky to make it to 3 months...

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""if you find somebody that can tolerate your ass for 6 months you better go ahead and marry them" "

It's in the mom's handbook guide... If you throw in crazy in the mix, the amount of time goes by half.

8/5/2008 5:10:56 PM

G.O.D
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Quote :
"Quote :
"ex just got engaged to someone they knew for only 4 months. (I dated that ex for seven years )"


maybe your ex realized she could not afford to spend another 7 to find out its not gona work out!
divorce is always an option

"

naw the ex always knew it would never work out -we figured that out in two years. I think we just loved/hated each other. couldn't live w/o the other kinda thing-drove each other crazy kinda thing. The biggest problem was the families were at odds.

8/5/2008 5:13:28 PM

blah
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Quote :
"Any longer than 3 years and it's kinda like "shit or get off the pot"."
bahaha

8/5/2008 5:33:10 PM

JBaz
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I'd say anything longer than 2 years is too long to just be still dating...

8/5/2008 5:35:01 PM

dagreenone
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maybe they hit it off really well and date every single night, so they know each real well.

8/5/2008 5:36:29 PM

LivinProof78
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my parents dated for 5 years...

they were "engaged" a month


they have been married 32 years


granted dad was 29 and mom was 33

8/5/2008 5:39:36 PM

Kitty B
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we were "engaged" in a month and officially engaged by 6 months. married after 2 years because my parents needed an extra year to save up for the wedding, otherwise it would have been within a year of dating.

8/5/2008 5:43:57 PM

tsavla
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my parents marriage was arranged so they got engaged first and then dated for couple months and got married. Celebrated 25yrs anniversary in June, 2005

8/5/2008 5:46:31 PM

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We got engaged after almost a year and a half of dating, but our wedding plans are at least a year away.

Previously, I dated a girl for about three years and knew from a month or two in that we'd never get hitched. It's just different circumstances.

8/5/2008 5:47:44 PM

NCSUWolfy
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SEVERAL people i work with meet, date, get engaged and are married within 1-2 years of meeting the person

unfortunately the circumstance of the training program sort of pressures people into that situation but whatever

i knew one couple that met in april, were engaged by july and married by december

i personally am friends with half a dozen couples who have done this

i think it straight up crazy and i would not do this but people fall in love and it makes sense to them

8/5/2008 6:00:57 PM

damosyangsta
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WHY HALLO THAR

8/5/2008 6:06:34 PM

RyaNCSU1
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I dated my current wife for a year... proposed. We were engaged and lived together almost two years before actually making it official. Have now been married 2 and a half years.

I dont believe you truely get to know someone until you live with them. I swear I thought we were to going to kill eachother the first 6 months we lived together.

8/5/2008 7:05:53 PM

LunaK
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my good friend has been dating her fiance since February.

they got engaged last month.

getting married in may.

he's 22, she's 25

they might not make it to the altar at this point.....

8/5/2008 7:10:07 PM

theDuke866
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yeah, getting married that soon in the game is stupid.

8/5/2008 7:17:33 PM

NCSUWolfy
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about the living together thing, i see that as a definite yes for me before tying the knot

and if i didnt think i needed to, im pretty sure my mom would force me

8/5/2008 7:39:28 PM

khcadwal
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i've been dating the same person for almost 3 years and marriage does not appear to be in the near future.

so i feel as though i'm on the opposite end of this spectrum ( )

but yea i think getting married after less than a year of dating is soon...but who am i to judge really. there are people that get married after knowing each other and dating forever and stay married for like 25 years and then get divorced.

8/5/2008 7:41:43 PM

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that would be mighty quick for me



[Edited on August 5, 2008 at 7:45 PM. Reason :

8/5/2008 7:45:33 PM

LivinProof78
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i think i'm just going to get married next month sometime

8/5/2008 7:46:32 PM

Big4Country
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My parents dated for about a little over a year and they have been married 30 years.

8/5/2008 7:48:01 PM

Scuba Steve
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Quote :
"RUSSIAN

MAIL

ORDER"

8/5/2008 7:48:03 PM

khcadwal
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well i think age probably matters.

if you are like 22 date someone for a year and get married, that might be soon

but if you're like 28 and date someone for a year...you probably know yourself a little better and have things more figured out in life, so maybe that is fine.

8/5/2008 7:48:58 PM

lewoods
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If a guy wants to get married right away, means once you really find out what's going on you'd run like hell. At least that's my opinion on the matter.

8/5/2008 7:49:22 PM

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