Need advice TDUB ...


I have a childhood friend that I've been cool with forever. I think we've outgrown each other. I like peace of mind and living drama free. and I like my life in Miami Beach. my friend calls me ... sometimes I ignore the calls. I consider the guy a friend, but I've loaned him money for investments and things in the past like (5 yrs ago), etc ... and never seen profits. or my full return. One time when I was like 19, I cosigned a loan for this guy and he never paid it back on time. so its a history of dumb shit like that ... and so with my new life and paradise I have on the beach ... I don't like interupting it with ppl that have had a bad history with me, you know.

so last night I pick up his call and he's all like "I'm coming down to Miami to hang with a girl. What's your schedule like?" ... I tell him I'm out of town and I come back June 2nd. He's like, "Well I'm coming June 4th" ... and he's like I'll call you back.


how do I tell this guy I don't really want to fuck with him like that ... ? I wouldn't mind getting dinner or saying hello, but I'm not really trying to hang out and do a lot of shit to entertain this guy.


i really only enjoy entertaining visitors that have VAG's.

5/10/2009 11:30:36 AM

Tell him you want your money back. He won't bother you anymore.

5/10/2009 11:38:15 AM

^Word.

5/10/2009 11:43:58 AM

^^ no doubt

5/10/2009 11:50:25 AM

start harassing him in a friendly way, call him all the things you really think of him in a friendly way and he'll get the hint

5/10/2009 12:28:05 PM

yeah definitely don't fuck with a guy that has something like loans and investments hanging over his head and doesn't even mention them

5/10/2009 12:57:22 PM

^^That burns the shit out of me when people do that.

Stupid brain games. Either come out and say it or drop it.

5/10/2009 1:37:46 PM

^, ^^^ whoa, the man giving womanly advice and the woman giving manly advice

[Edited on May 10, 2009 at 1:52 PM. Reason : .]

5/10/2009 1:52:06 PM

^^^^ i think it is good i dont understand wtf that is talking about.

5/10/2009 1:54:07 PM

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"yeah definitely don't fuck with a guy that has something like loans and investments hanging over his head and doesn't even mention them"

yeah. dumb move. invested in a nightclub with this guy a few yrs ago. i gave him $5K bucks. i never saw any profits and he paid me back like $3K only and I had to b!tch and keep calling him about it.

never made mention of the $2K and of course the nightclub dissolved less than a year.

i figured not taking the guys calls was a hint ... and then last night at 2am i pickup and i fuck up and tell him dates of an upcoming flight and he's like yeah, I fly in June 4th. i think he pulled it out of his ass. my guess is he wants to crash at my place on South Beach, chase chicks and disrupt my peace ... either knowingly or unknowingly.

5/10/2009 3:07:27 PM

obligatory "send him a link to this thread"

5/10/2009 3:10:56 PM

aha, if you really don't give a fuck, tell him you'll see him when he has your $2k in hand.

otherwise, just avoid his calls to do the passive-aggressive thing.

5/10/2009 3:17:28 PM

do you think the passive agressive thing will cause bad blood.


i don't hate or dislike the guy, but its like i'm doing my own thing and the reason i don't call or visit is because of who i am now and the sh!tty situations him and my previous group of close friends caused.


i cause i'm passive agressive because i hold grudges ...

5/10/2009 5:09:25 PM

DROP HIM IN THE MIDDLE OF OVERTOWN

...

PROFIT

5/10/2009 5:12:32 PM

just when i think you can't possibly get much dumber, you manage to surprise me

congrats.

5/10/2009 7:38:52 PM

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"^^That burns the shit out of me when people do that. Stupid brain games. Either come out and say it or drop it."

i didnt say mind games, just talk junk with a smile
like when he calls answer "hey you cheap skate piece of shit, how are ya"

or the better thing you can do is let him come over and abuse the crap out of him, talk shit, demean him, you might even have so much fun with it that you might want to keep him around

5/10/2009 9:51:31 PM

get dinner with him, ask him about the money


at least stick him with the bill. he wont be trying to hang around forever after that.

5/10/2009 9:54:47 PM

the thing thats crazy about it is it was back in like 2004. and the guy never made any more mention of it after paying back the $3K. from then on i've went my seperate ways and never thought about it much. but now since I live in Miami and life is going well ... he calls and wants to visit ... we're cordial and i haven't spazzed out or anything ... so i think he thinks its all cool.


but the whole "June 4th I'm flying down" thing is bullsh!t ... like I didn't offer.

5/10/2009 9:58:16 PM

Negotiate like Han, not like Jabba.

5/10/2009 10:14:22 PM

during a random phone conversation with him be like:
"I miss you"
Him: huh?
You: I miss you
Him: oh, ok. thanks, I miss hanging with you too
You: No. I was talking to the $2k dollar bucks that you owe me

He'll get the idea.
Saw something like this in another thread the other day, btw.

5/11/2009 12:52:45 AM

but how does this guy not get it .... or does he just not care. it baffles me when people aren't honest with you and then expect you to be cool.


but anyways i'm just going to pull the "I'M SUPER BUSY" card ....

5/11/2009 1:03:39 PM

meet for lunch, get a drink and then say you gotta go meet up with some chick.

5/11/2009 1:05:31 PM