settledown Suspended 11583 Posts user info edit post |
he will always need more - it's biology
many of us deny our biology
i'm not judging those who do or those who don't 7/25/2011 9:54:18 PM |
LeonIsPro All American 5021 Posts user info edit post |
This is now a Candlejack thre
7/25/2011 10:02:28 PM |
ShinAntonio Zinc Saucier 18946 Posts user info edit post |
I find it funny when a celebrity cheats on his uber-hot gf and people are like "why would he cheat on HER?" If you can pull a 10, you can probably pull a lot of 8s and 9s too. 7/25/2011 10:03:23 PM |
settledown Suspended 11583 Posts user info edit post |
this is one of those truths that women cannot accept 7/25/2011 10:04:49 PM |
Skwinkle burritotomyface 19447 Posts user info edit post |
So you think open relationships are the sweet spot? 7/25/2011 10:05:30 PM |
ComputerGuy (IN)Sensitive 5052 Posts user info edit post |
sometimes. 7/25/2011 10:07:54 PM |
LRlilDaddy All American 6511 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "So you think open relationships are the sweet spot?" |
not for chicks.7/25/2011 10:08:51 PM |
settledown Suspended 11583 Posts user info edit post |
i think those come with their own problems
no man is going to raise a child planted in her by some other dude on the side
ignoring what's fair, i think the sweet spot is probably for a woman in a committed relationship to practice monogamy while the male is allowed to openly have meaningless sex with other women
[Edited on July 25, 2011 at 10:10 PM. Reason : s] 7/25/2011 10:08:52 PM |
Skwinkle burritotomyface 19447 Posts user info edit post |
Then do you think there's a logical solution? I am not trolling or trying to harass you, just genuinely curious. It's an issue I've been thinking about lately.
[Edited on July 25, 2011 at 10:11 PM. Reason : ^ I somehow guessed that was what you'd say. ] 7/25/2011 10:11:10 PM |
settledown Suspended 11583 Posts user info edit post |
how did you guess that's what i would say 7/25/2011 10:13:22 PM |
Skwinkle burritotomyface 19447 Posts user info edit post |
Because men seem to say they are men and can just have meaningless sex without attachments or anything that would cause problems, and their women should accept biology and understand that's just the way men are and let them do it. But then if their woman happened to want to do the same thing, no way. 7/25/2011 10:14:47 PM |
settledown Suspended 11583 Posts user info edit post |
that's because men and women are different 7/25/2011 10:18:42 PM |
LeonIsPro All American 5021 Posts user info edit post |
7/25/2011 10:20:40 PM |
Skwinkle burritotomyface 19447 Posts user info edit post |
But think about the likelihood of having a partner who would actually agree to it. If your girl agrees, she's probably closer to the guy mentality by a long shot, and probably understands the notion of meaningless sex. If she refuses to let you consider it, she is more on the typical woman side of things and doesn't see that sex and emotion can be kept separate. So basically if you ever want your dream scenario of boinking other chicks to come true (without cheating on her) you probably would have to let her get hers too. 7/25/2011 10:21:54 PM |
GrayFox33 TX R. Snake 10566 Posts user info edit post |
Relationships are interesting places. You come across some really cool people that are interested in helping other people. But you will also find some really crazy people that think what they are doing is fun and anonymous. These anonymous people think that they are, but they're really not. Isn't that right "settledown?" 7/25/2011 10:23:42 PM |
LeonIsPro All American 5021 Posts user info edit post |
7/25/2011 10:24:44 PM |
catalyst All American 8704 Posts user info edit post |
7/25/2011 10:29:44 PM |
settledown Suspended 11583 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "if you ever want your dream scenario of boinking other chicks to come true (without cheating on her) you probably would have to let her get hers too" |
i don't accept that at all, but i don't judge those who do
the fact that you consider the natural order of things to be some unattainable "dream scenario" is a symptom of a larger problem where people frequently suppress their own nature to conform to societal norms that may or may not contribute any true value to society
[Edited on July 25, 2011 at 10:36 PM. Reason : s]7/25/2011 10:32:38 PM |
AndyMac All American 31922 Posts user info edit post |
GrayFox33 wins 7/25/2011 10:35:32 PM |
settledown Suspended 11583 Posts user info edit post |
AGREED
7/25/2011 10:54:30 PM |
punchmonk Double Entendre 22300 Posts user info edit post |
I am typical. Sex is emotional to me and sometimes can be wrapped up in insecurity. I wish I weren't lame. 7/25/2011 11:45:56 PM |
stategrad100 All American 6606 Posts user info edit post |
I have met way too many women who just want to FUCK.
I swear they are worse than men sometimes.
The emotional attachment stuff is a bunch of lies to hide their true ways!
Common knowledge about women is farcical. 7/25/2011 11:47:47 PM |
Skwinkle burritotomyface 19447 Posts user info edit post |
I think it's theoretically possible to have it both ways. Emotional sex with your mate and NSA meaningless with someone else. However I also think the vast majority of people can't have both simultaneously, and the emotional wins. 7/25/2011 11:49:11 PM |
stategrad100 All American 6606 Posts user info edit post |
I am actually starting to think women's brains are more hardwired into their bodies than men's.
i.e., I think the vag lube is more of a function of firmware
or maybe emotional detachment is the most profitable trait one can have
1) fuck 2) retain power 3) profit 7/25/2011 11:51:48 PM |
settledown Suspended 11583 Posts user info edit post |
this thread led to very interesting conversations and experiences 7/31/2011 10:07:24 PM |
DivaBaby19 Davidbaby19 45208 Posts user info edit post |
I've had the emotion sex and the meaningless sex....I kinda like both 7/31/2011 10:33:41 PM |
mrfrog ☯ 15145 Posts user info edit post |
Look everyone, let's face this fact:
Sex feels better when the rules are being broken.
Now it doesn't even really matter what rules it is that are being broken. If you are not more aroused by having sex in public or in some place you're not supposed to, you probably haven't tried it. This is also why breakup sex is good, why people cheat, and basically everything BDSM that has ever existed. The person cheating is getting off like a mofo because they were not supposed to do that. they're being bad. So y'all, let's just fess up to that basic reality. Putting people in monogamous relationships where society sanctions sex is probably one of the best ways on Earth to make 2 people not want to have that much sex. But hey, nature knows what it's doing and even if it decreases the drive to fuck like rabbits, the drive is still there. At least people who can fess up to this sort of stuff will be willing to try new things in bed to make it feel bad like tying each other up, and I'm almost sure that couples who tie each other up have more long lasting sex lives than others. Maybe one of the 2 will still have the desire to sleep around, I dunno, but at least before that maybe they should work together to figure out some way to make sex with each other get the heart racing. The idea that going missionary on each other for every remaining year of their life will be enough is keep things exciting might just need some simple revision. 7/31/2011 10:45:07 PM |