100 years of wedded bliss for everyone!!

8/25/2012 11:50:18 PM

Divorce now while you still have the energy and your wife hasn't killed you. It'll add 20 years to your life.
Women feel an overwhelming need to be sad and witness suffering. Thats why they watch those shitty movies about cancer and torture and depression and never miss an episode of one of the murder autopsy shows now permeating the airwaves.
Find a girl who is professionally sad like a nurse or a social worker. Their need to destroy her happiness and yours may be temporarily assuaged. And when she retires. Get the fuck out of there because SOMEBODY's got to fill that suffering hole in her life

[Edited on August 26, 2012 at 3:55 AM. Reason : adf]

8/26/2012 3:54:28 AM

Quote :

"Thats why they watch those shitty movies about cancer and torture and depression and never miss an episode of one of the murder autopsy shows now permeating the airwaves."

YES! My fiance HATES those movies. I'm good to go.

8/26/2012 8:56:44 AM

^2 sweet, I'm professionally sad

8/26/2012 9:16:07 AM

I've got all my jewelry now!

Grandma's pearl necklace that my late grandfather gave her when they got married
Aunt Betty Lou's pearl earrings she was going to wear in her wedding, but she passed away 3 months before
Great Grandma's pearl bracelet that she got from my mother for Mother's day one year

8/26/2012 1:21:47 PM

So, I'm trying to get my groomsman's gifts together and I didn't want to do the standard flask, pint glass, etc. The biggest common theme I could fine between them is they all like to grill. I already got them Lodge cast-iron grill presses and am thinking about getting portable Weber charcoal grills, too. Anyone else give/get out-of-the-box gifts like this?

https://secure.lodgemfg.com/storefront/product1_new.asp?menu=prologic&idProduct=3962

http://www.acehardware.com/product/index.jsp?productId=1288561&cp=2568443.2568445.2598559.1260203

8/26/2012 9:46:08 PM

Boom - married. Time to peace out of this thread.

8/26/2012 10:19:46 PM

Shouldn't you be doing something other than posting on TWW

8/26/2012 10:27:51 PM

So our photographer took about 1600 pictures at our wedding. We've narrowed those down to about 200 that we would like to put in an album. The thing is, we really don't want to sit down and design every page of the thing. I'd kinda rather pay somebody to do that but also don't want to spend $texas on an album. What have you people done for your albums? Did your photographer do it for you? Did you get them online somewhere?

8/27/2012 9:39:46 PM

Quote :

"Women feel an overwhelming need to be sad and witness suffering. Thats why they watch those shitty movies about cancer and torture and depression and never miss an episode of one of the murder autopsy shows now permeating the airwaves. Find a girl who is professionally sad like a nurse or a social worker. Their need to destroy her happiness and yours may be temporarily assuaged. And when she retires. Get the fuck out of there because SOMEBODY's got to fill that suffering hole in her life"

My fiance also hates those movies and shows. Win.
However, she was a social worker and is now going to grad school to be an occupational therapist.

8/28/2012 12:50:15 PM

Quote :

"The biggest common theme I could fine between them is they all like to grill."

Are they all Wolfpack fans?

I like giving these as gifts.



They have other school options too if they are not all Wolfpack fans.

http://www.thegrilltopper.com/bbq-tailgating-products/team/nc-state-wolfpack/56/

[Edited on August 28, 2012 at 3:59 PM. Reason : f]

8/28/2012 3:59:03 PM

thank you!!! perfect idea!!

8/28/2012 4:01:00 PM

I haven't seen those toppers, not a bad idea. One's Ohio State, one is NC State, and one is Wake Forest so I'm kinda all over the place.

I thought about doing something like university-themed grill tools but most of the "theme" grill stuff I've seen seem cheap. I'd rather get something that has a better quality that will last.

8/28/2012 4:38:12 PM

just booked this place for our wedding/reception for June 8th, 2013...





We are going to have a quick wedding on the beach then party all day at the house. It's got huge covered wrap-around porches overlooking the beach. I plan on setting up all the tables on the porch.

8/28/2012 9:33:25 PM

Gorgeous! where is that?

8/29/2012 1:17:47 PM

Quote :

"So our photographer took about 1600 pictures at our wedding. We've narrowed those down to about 200 that we would like to put in an album. The thing is, we really don't want to sit down and design every page of the thing. I'd kinda rather pay somebody to do that but also don't want to spend $texas on an album. What have you people done for your albums? Did your photographer do it for you? Did you get them online somewhere?"

We made ours in Shutterfly. Didn't take me very long at all and just wait around for one of their 50% off deals they have all the time and it's cheap.

8/29/2012 1:24:48 PM

^^According to Google it is in Oak Island: http://www.rentalsatthebeach.com/OakIsland/VacationRentals/CaswellBeach/Details/StormHaven/

[Edited on August 29, 2012 at 1:29 PM. Reason : Looks awesome!]

8/29/2012 1:29:17 PM

Fuck it, I'll join in...

We're getting married (ceremony and cocktail hour) at the Confederate Home:













Reception at Hibernian Hall, about 75 yards away:

Outside


View from the Confederate Home:


Entry hallway, stairs to 2nd floor reception area:


Upstairs at the Hibernian facing the doorway (stage is on the other side):



Rehearsal Dinner at Leaf:

http://www.leafcharleston.com/

8/29/2012 1:53:08 PM

Wow, beautiful beach house!


^thats awesome too! Where are you honeymooning?


[Edited on August 29, 2012 at 2:12 PM. Reason : f]

8/29/2012 2:10:35 PM

Fuck if I know. I'm going to try and pull off something in the Fiji/Bora Bora area if I can find air travel deals...but probably going to be somewhere in the Virgin Islands. Wanted to do Greek Islands as I've got friends in Santorini that could put us up like royalty...but it will be a little too chilly and desolate at the end of October.

8/29/2012 2:14:33 PM

Quote :

"We made ours in Shutterfly. Didn't take me very long at all and just wait around for one of their 50% off deals they have all the time and it's cheap."

Thanks, I'll look into that

[Edited on August 29, 2012 at 2:22 PM. Reason : meh]

8/29/2012 2:22:38 PM

Holy balls, this weekend After months and months, we're four days away..

People already coming into town tomorrow!

8/29/2012 8:30:44 PM

here's a highlight reel from a wedding I shot with JBaz

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYsW2XelZCA

8/31/2012 5:37:04 PM

Couldn't get it to open (at least not on my phone)

9/1/2012 8:41:57 AM

Me neither

9/2/2012 1:54:40 AM

12 days. Eek. Still so much left to do!

9/4/2012 10:01:52 AM

18 days!!!!!

9/4/2012 10:41:12 AM

About how much have y'all been spending per person on food for the reception, not counting alcohol? We're hoping to keep catering costs below $60/head out the door (including servers, glassware, possibly place settings, tax/grat). Buffet-style with passed apps beforehand (we're not doing a formal cocktail hour but will have an approximation of such). I'm wondering if this is realistic...

Going to meet with at least one (hopefully several) caterers when I'm at the beach this weekend. A lot of the ones we're looking at seem to base around $40/person for a decent package but I'm wondering how much that's going to blow up once you add in all the extras and then plunk down 27 percent on top of that.

9/4/2012 4:30:45 PM

We're at $70 a head right now...but I think it will be over that when all is said and done. I've got a good friend that owns a big bartending catering business who will hopefully be able to cut us a deal. But we're real picky on food and aren't skimping in that department right now.

9/4/2012 4:35:57 PM

<20 bucks a head. buffet style dinner with veggie, fruit, and cheese tray between ceremony and dinner. this is NOT counting the open bar. we got it super cheap because we are in franklin county and because my mom knows everyone and they all either owe her a favor or want to be on her good side. we do not have to pay for dish and linen rental.

[Edited on September 4, 2012 at 8:28 PM. Reason : .]

9/4/2012 8:27:23 PM

Our food (3 passed apps, 2 buffet entrees, 2 buffet side items, plated salad, and bread basket) was $26.35 per person. If I add in the service and setup, I'm at $40 per person. We had a cocktail hour, and this is not including beverages (we provided our own alcohol, they provided all the mixers which we actually got to keep the leftovers). Our rentals for tabletop were done through our venue, and that bumps it to ~$48 per person. Add in linen rentals for the actual guest tables (also done through venue) and we're at $50 per person.

I didn't add tax, that's too complicated.

9/4/2012 10:22:28 PM

$60/person should be easy as long as you're not looking to do things like a carving station or lobster tails or something. Having the apps be passed is going to significantly bump costs as it means more servers will need to be staffed (and that means more tipping cost as well). An alternative to lower cost would be to have several cocktail tables strategically placed where your cocktail hour will be located and have platters of food placed on them and refilled when necessary. Same effect as having some guys walk around but a lot less labor costs involved.

9/5/2012 9:10:35 AM

^Definitely doable. We're going to have a pretty casual vibe anyway so that might even fit better.

9/5/2012 12:02:07 PM

Yeah if it's going to be casual I'd skip the servers during the cocktail hour. I've done plenty of events with the hors d'oeuvres placed around the space and it works out really well, from casual to higher end stuff. I always like when my boss tells me, "Plan a swanky event for this but I'm not giving you the budget to pull this task off easily."

9/5/2012 1:29:23 PM

9 Days til the big day and I'm still unhappy with my veil.

Anyone have one they want to sell or know anyone wanting to sell theirs? I think I've at least decided I want elbow-length

9/7/2012 9:36:22 PM

I do not have a veil


Tomorrow is my bridal shower, though!

9/7/2012 10:33:33 PM

I have an elbow length veil, with the edge all lace (has pearls and sequins). Here's the etsy listing that it's from: http://www.etsy.com/listing/88132913/22-inch-lovely-half-lace-wedding-veil

But, of course, it's elbow length.. I don't have any pictures of it, but message me if you're interested.

I'll let you borrow it!

9/8/2012 12:25:20 AM

^ Firstly, congrats on your marriage! Offering to let me borrow your veil is beyond kind.. it's stunning and more or less exactly what I'm looking for. I posted in classifieds as well as on craigslist, so if I don't get any bites on there, can I bring my dress and try it on with your veil?

9/8/2012 12:50:17 AM

Thank you! And yes, you can come over and try it on. I don't really have a full length mirror, only bathrooms.. That's the only downside.

9/8/2012 10:24:39 AM

My fiance's aunt threw me the most adorable shower. We had it at the Olde English Tea Room in Wake Forest. We had afternoon tea with tea, finger sandwiches, scones and devonshire cream, and desserts. She made everyone homemade candles in little thrift store teacups on saucers and made one for me in a teapot. The staff at the Tea Room were AMAZING! So nice and helpful! Even helped us load the car. She made all the invitations (and the wedding and rehearsal dinner invites) and made me a bunch of matching Thank You cards for the shower. I am very thankful and very lucky.

9/8/2012 6:04:53 PM

Alright everybody....I have a week and 5 days to go!!!! Everything is set and we're ready! Below is the final cost breakdown of everything for our wedding. Hope it can be helpful to any one of you out there.

Venue: The Oaks at Salem - $5,124.00
Tent Rental: The Oaks at Salem - $2,500.00
Lighting: Peelman Productions, Inc - $532.72
Catering: Catering By Design - $5,790.80
Photography: Margaux Novak Photography - $650.00
DJ + Karaoke: SouthEastern Entertainment, LLC - $600.00
Wedding Planning: Orangerie Events - $1,200.00
Florist: Fallons Flowers - $1,800.00
Rehearsal Dinner (with gratuity): Bella Monica - $1,200.00
Bartender + Alcohol (w/o Tips): Catering By Design - $1,153.00
Cutlery and Plate Rental: Catering By Design - $0.00
Transportation: N/A - $0.00
Groom Wedding Clothes, Shoes: Mens' Wearhouse - $140.00
Wedding Dress: David's Bridal - $160.13
Bride Shoes, Earrings: $70.00
Save the Dates: Wedding Paper Divas - $98.15
Invitations: Sealed with Appeal - $400.00
Pie: Upper Crust Bakery - $330.00
Ice Cream: Howling Cow Creamery - $64.80
Insurance (General & Liqour Liability): N/A - $0.00
Rings (Wedding Bands): Diamonds Direct Crabtree - $751.52
Programs: BestValueCopy - $33.00
Misc: Sandscripts, Inc. - $500.00
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Total: $23,098.12

9/10/2012 11:18:24 AM

^ How many guests is that budget for?

9/10/2012 11:24:27 AM

120 guests.

9/10/2012 11:30:03 AM

Here's some of the wedding swag we've put together...
http://i.imgur.com/mRm31h.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/gsiMxh.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/gu6nfh.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/7O2clh.jpg

[Edited on September 10, 2012 at 9:26 PM. Reason : huge pics]

9/10/2012 9:22:16 PM

I loved the Oaks at Salem when we went to see it - it's truly a gorgeous place.

But those rentals fees (site + mandatory tent) are what kept us away Too much!

But I'm sure it's going to be BEAUTIFUL!

9/11/2012 10:16:05 AM

Those two fees equal how much we are spending TOTAL for the wedding, and we are having 150 guests.

9/11/2012 11:18:42 AM

yeah, it was definitely beyond what we wanted to spend on a venue, but her sister (maid of honor) is in a wheelchair with a severe disability and accessibility isn't available at most venues around here since they are mostly listed as historic sites and are exempt from accessibility requirements. at the oaks at salem there is an elevator (with attendant) and available access to the tent as well as an accessible restroom.

if we had it our way we would have chosen the Mordecai House for $600 for the whole day!

9/11/2012 11:31:24 AM

I think that's cool you'll have Howling Cow ice cream there. Wish I had thought of that

9/11/2012 11:32:24 AM

yeah...it really worked out for us since it's cheap, local, and goes well with pie!

9/11/2012 11:47:14 AM

Spending 3x the budget on flowers as photography? Seems a bit silly considering the only thing left after the day is going to be the photographs. $650 for a wedding photographer is going to get you a $650 wedding photographer, which you don't want, especially after dropping a good amount of $ on everything else. Why skimp on the one thing that isn't going to be thrown away at the end of the day?

I haven't planned a wedding, and I'm a photographer, so I'm sure my bias is evident, but I don't understand it. From what I understand, photography should typically be at least 10-15% of the budget. All that money spent on preparing and making everything perfect is going to be remembered through to the photos from the day, and it's a shame that the market is flooded with amateurs with poor equipment and insufficient knowledge willing to do it for cheap. Cheap photos will make an otherwise great wedding look, well, cheap.

Congrats if you found an amazing deal, or have a super skilled friend willing to do it for dirt cheap ($650 is dirt cheap for GOOD wedding photography).

9/11/2012 1:08:17 PM