dude what rock are you living under

the sooner you deal with a realistic picture of the situation the better

because god knows you aren't doing that -- you thought you were in love with a girl you knew 2 months and now she won't even talk to your ass. switch shit up for your own sake

11/4/2009 1:43:24 AM

jeffrey bro, let it go

11/4/2009 1:45:25 AM

jeffrey: "oh my god, women are actual people that are interested in sex!?!? a bloo bloo bloo bloo but i thought she'd be hung up on me weeks later"

get a grip, listen to yourself

11/4/2009 1:46:16 AM

I just hadn't thought about it...I don't like to think of her fucking other guys, because I still have feelings for her...nothing strange in that, I think

anyway, most of what you say is true, but I did love her, despite it having been only two months. anyway, I'm going to bed now. thank you, sir, for your many words of wisdom.

v Thank you, too, sir.

11/4/2009 1:47:01 AM

you've probably heard this several times before


but the best way to forget about one pussy is to find another pussy...


think about it brah.. think about it

11/4/2009 1:48:05 AM

i hate to come across as harsh or mean but i can't stand to see a dude do that to himself

take care of yourself, man

Quote :

"but the best way to forget about one pussy is to find another pussy..."

the best way to forget about a pussy is to stop being one

[Edited on November 4, 2009 at 1:50 AM. Reason : .]

11/4/2009 1:50:08 AM

Quote :

"to be honest what livinproof said is likely bullshit"

well...in general it's not bullshit but after i read his story i definitely changed my position on this one...

i think she just doesn't like him and it being as big of a bitch as possible to get that point across

[Edited on November 4, 2009 at 8:40 AM. Reason : alksdfj]

11/4/2009 8:38:38 AM

that is probably the case
I have a tendency to overlook the obvious

11/4/2009 11:51:59 AM

Quote :

"really, I'm a romantic and an idealist...I don't like to make love confusing with head games...if I love someone I'll tell her so"

Quote :

"but I did love her, despite it having been only two months. "

dude, no you didnt. would you have died for her? this was mere lust disguised as love...the quicker you realize this and move on the better you will be. breakups suck period but if you feel this way about a girl after only 2 months then man i can kinda see why you got dumped.

11/4/2009 12:01:46 PM

For starters I can't believe you're 28 and still handling things this way.

I would share my own advice but it would never do better than the infamous advice of rallydurham

McDanger had some really good advice in that thread as well.

Quote :

" But before I go, let's review a few things you should be repeating to yourself daily: 1) You did not have a "special connection" 2) Your situation is not "unique" 3) Some other guy is balls deep in that bitch, probably on a daily basis now Stop degrading yourself "

as for the other



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11/4/2009 12:27:23 PM

agreed. if you had shut the fuck up and left her alone to begin with you might have had a chance..move on.

11/4/2009 12:32:46 PM

maybe someone already asked this but did you guys say "i love you" to each other during the 2 months? or did maybe you just say it?

i think if someone said that to me after a month or two (and that has happened before) i'd be kinda freaked out (and i was)

11/4/2009 1:16:18 PM

^ok good point. when would you say is the time within the beginning of a relationship that it would be appropriate to say ilu? i've had friends say diff. things.

11/4/2009 1:18:04 PM

I don't see why it even matters. There is no set deadline to say three words to me. If they both felt that way don't just not say it because it's "too soon." I mean I don't think I'd ever feel that way after that long. Shit, I didn't say it to my longest term g/f until like a year in... but I'm also a pretty emotionless person.

[Edited on November 4, 2009 at 1:20 PM. Reason : maybe less than a year in... i don't know... it wasnt a big deal to me.]

11/4/2009 1:19:09 PM

when I've had a boring day at work I like to blast Disney music on the way home and do all the voices and such

Poor Unfortunate Souls is a personal fave

11/4/2009 1:20:14 PM

i don't know - i usually say "whenever you feel like it is right" but i mean, i guess to me that is more than 2 months into a relationship. i don't think i could know someone well enough to say that during 2 months unless we spent like every waking moment of the day together. but i guess some people get caught up in the like beginning of the relationship butterfly type feelings. i dunno. i agree with ^^, too. but i think it also matters if he was the only one saying it

^ hahahahahahaha. i also like that "savages savages barely even human" song

[Edited on November 4, 2009 at 1:21 PM. Reason : .]

11/4/2009 1:20:35 PM

I said it first, right after the 2 month mark

^ haha yeah.. I think another good one is YAAAAAAA ZAMBAY WAAAAA wubadeecheeWHOA WHOA kenyaaaaaaaaaAAAAAAAAAA ....... pink pajamas, penguins on the bottom...

(aka the intro to the Lion King.. I'm too lazy to look up the real words)

[Edited on November 4, 2009 at 1:23 PM. Reason : .]

11/4/2009 1:22:23 PM

Quote :

"but if you feel this way about a girl after only 2 months then man i can kinda see why you got dumped."

i knew i wanted to marry my husband within 3 or 4 dates. and that's including the first date when he forced me to watch Jackie Brown. ugh. i mean, it was several months before i said the L word, but i still knew it in my heart after about a month of dating.

perhaps you all just haven't found that kinda true love yet. i don't think you should give the guy a hard time for having those kinds of feelings that quickly. it does happen. maybe in this case it really is one of those "lust" things, but maybe, just maybe, he did fall in love and get his heart broken.

/♥/

11/4/2009 1:22:34 PM

^ what she said.

11/4/2009 1:24:09 PM

i knew within a few months of dating my ex-boyfriend what exactly i wanted - i agree with thumper there are times when you just know

[Edited on November 4, 2009 at 1:24 PM. Reason : unfortunately i was wrong in terms of it working - but i knew how i felt]

11/4/2009 1:24:10 PM

Someone should make a "When did you say I love you to your SO" and how...

It'd be an interesting read!

11/4/2009 1:25:17 PM

Quote :

"maybe someone already asked this but did you guys say "i love you" to each other during the 2 months? or did maybe you just say it?"

yes...we were both saying it within the first month

11/4/2009 1:25:41 PM

no it wouldn't

11/4/2009 1:25:47 PM

lots of love ITT

11/4/2009 1:25:49 PM

^^ oh i was just wondering. cause if it is just one person saying it for awhile with no reciprocation that is kind of a bad sign i feel like

11/4/2009 1:26:35 PM

yeah, no doubt about that

11/4/2009 1:27:41 PM

i told deemarie i loved her after we dated for like a month and i was pretty sure i'd marry her after just a few months

it's different for everybody

11/4/2009 1:28:41 PM

hah! he told me via text message when I was angry. I was all OMG THIS SIN'T HOW IT'S SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN.

We will marry one day (maybe)

11/4/2009 1:29:37 PM

we said it after like 3 months i guess

11/4/2009 1:30:52 PM

he told you via TEXT MESSAGE????


WHAT.

11/4/2009 1:31:06 PM

for the first time, haha yeah...

I guess he couldn't wait til he saw me. He made up for it later LOL

It was about three months in as well...

11/4/2009 1:31:54 PM

yup

miley cyrus just came up on my itunes mix

11/4/2009 2:08:58 PM

Quote :

"i knew i wanted to marry my husband within 3 or 4 dates. and that's including the first date when he forced me to watch Jackie Brown. ugh. i mean, it was several months before i said the L word, but i still knew it in my heart after about a month of dating."

1) Jackie Brown is an awesome movie.
2) When you know, you know. I like to think that you know by the third or fourth date whether you could love them. Maybe not be in love, but at least have love for them. I couldn't spend more than 2 months with someone who I didn't feel was "love and marriage" potential. Why waste the best days of being single with someone who's just filler?

11/4/2009 2:18:25 PM

Quote :

"i knew i wanted to marry my husband within 3 or 4 dates. and that's including the first date when he forced me to watch Jackie Brown. ugh. i mean, it was several months before i said the L word, but i still knew it in my heart after about a month of dating."

I just AWWWED out loud in my office.

I said 'I love you' to my bf during a fight because I was afraid I wouldn't get the chance to say it, I think that was 6-7 months in.

11/4/2009 3:10:28 PM

uggg stupid love

11/4/2009 3:11:43 PM

Quote :

"after she broke up w/ me she threw a bbq and invited a bunch of my friends and not me, and then I stupidly texted her asking if I could come, and that text-conversation didn't go well"

while this was a huge bitch move on her part, i can't help but laugh a little at you asking if you could come. i mean fuck, all you had to do was get one of your 'friends' to invite you as their guest, ensuing shenanigans would, have in the very least, shut the door much more solidly for you.

pining about it won't do anything for you, you've got to get over it, get a rebound and know that's all it is if you have to.

Quote :

"But before I go, let's review a few things you should be repeating to yourself daily: 1) You did not have a "special connection" 2) Your situation is not "unique" 3) Some other guy is balls deep in that bitch, probably on a daily basis now Stop degrading yourself"

+1

11/4/2009 3:22:48 PM

i got the lowest grade on my corp finance exam (in the class, i mean)

and now i have to have a meeting with my prof tomorrow (requested by him)

is it bad that the lowest grade is a low B (not even a B-) so i don't really get the big deal or why we have to meet? sigh. even if it was a B- who careeeeees. or a C! whatev!

11/4/2009 6:09:34 PM

Quote :

"Thats almost like holding a bottle in your hand with your watch, and twisting your wrist to read your watch, only to have your drink spill out..."

i have done this, but i am very glad to hear i am not the only one

11/4/2009 7:24:22 PM

I, too, have done this

11/4/2009 7:34:21 PM

i once shook a bottle of A1 with the top off. that was a fail.

i actually do pretty fail things a lot of the time. i'm just forgetful

11/4/2009 8:25:48 PM

The sound of baseball announcers brings back good memories from my childhood, and makes me realize how few of those there are.

11/4/2009 8:34:34 PM

My best family memories are baseball ones...

11/4/2009 8:37:10 PM

me too! or sporting event ones in general but mostly baseball ones

and we didn't even go to prof baseball games

nopeeeee. just the good ole mudcats and durham bulls.

11/4/2009 8:37:51 PM

Quote :

"i once shook a bottle of A1 with the top off. that was a fail. i actually do pretty fail things a lot of the time. i'm just forgetful "

i do things like that quite often. i'm a clumsy mess

11/4/2009 8:41:27 PM

To this day that is true... My Dad and I talk pretty much every night during the Mets season... During the offseason we talk MAYBE twice a month... That is a sad but true confession.

11/4/2009 8:41:35 PM

i just talked to my dad ton for the first time in awhile. we need to communicate better i guess. but he said since we haven't spent much time together he would take me to see a christmas carol OR the radio city rockettes show in winston. yayyyy christmas!

11/4/2009 8:42:38 PM

I plan on buying my child's love too

11/4/2009 8:44:48 PM

i think that is just parenthood in general

buy your kid a new pair of jeans for 6th grade, they love you forever

make them wear their 5th grade jeans with the hem let out - no bueno.

11/4/2009 8:46:24 PM

beat them mercilessly while they're young, and they'll fear and respect you as they get older

ಠ_ಠ

11/4/2009 8:47:23 PM

I'm in love with Elisha Cuthbert. She has not reciprocated.

11/4/2009 8:48:02 PM