^she only gets alimony if she shows that she's financially dependent (which I would assume she is).

3/7/2006 12:41:14 AM

my parents have been divorced for 5-6 years or so, and my mom is a real estate agent, so i don't see how she could be considered "financially dependent". my dad didn't cheat on her or anything, either, and he still pays a LOT of alimony.

3/7/2006 1:29:04 AM

It's not tough to show that you are "financially dependent". I think its usually hinges on whether or not you can keep your same type of lifestyle without the significant other's help. If you can't, then you are financially dependent on that person to maintain that lifestyle. So normally, whoever makes the most ends up having to pay some type of alimony.

However, "financially dependent" are the words used in the law.

3/7/2006 8:40:56 AM

i think yer dad got fuct duke

3/7/2006 8:59:50 AM

i stil say the mom is going to ask him to find a hit man next

3/7/2006 9:09:54 AM

TWW != lawyer

3/7/2006 9:12:26 AM

She gets alimony FOREVER if she proves he cheated or abandoned her.

Tell her to go after the financial records.


[Edited on March 7, 2006 at 5:05 PM. Reason : f]

3/7/2006 5:03:02 PM

Instead of collecting alimony, wouldn't it be better for my mom to collect half the assets?

3/7/2006 10:42:19 PM

^ she gets those anyway

3/7/2006 11:10:46 PM

So you're saying in addition to half the assets, she gets alimony too?

3/8/2006 2:32:09 AM

If this is the law...

Quote :

"It's not tough to show that you are "financially dependent". I think its usually hinges on whether or not you can keep your same type of lifestyle without the significant other's help. If you can't, then you are financially dependent on that person to maintain that lifestyle. "

...then your dad could claim he's financially dependent on your mom if she gets half the stores.

3/8/2006 7:11:37 AM

we al know the law doesnt work that way it is geared towards helping the women, they are the weaker species, always have been

they want all this equal rights crap but then all these friggon laws are one sided helping them whether they deserve it or not

not this this may be a case of it, but just in general

3/8/2006 8:19:30 AM

give me a kiss, bodi

3/8/2006 8:20:55 AM

jesus christ

i would love to know just how many steroids/testosterone she pumped into her body to become that big

damn it man

3/8/2006 8:23:48 AM

Quote :

" ...then your dad could claim he's financially dependent on your mom if she gets half the stores."

Goodness, some of you people are dumb. It is about who is "financially dependent" before the divorce.

And how does it work out that if someone gets half of the stores, they become the person who is better off financially??? If anything, it gets them closer to being equal, but in no way does it make them better off.

Genki....you need to contact a laywer ASAP and quit listening to people on TWW.

3/8/2006 9:23:09 AM

Quote :

"nice to be judgemental who said he cheated, outside of the wife.... you dont even know them and you automatically took sides he could have had enough of her shit and said p's i am out of this gg"

Not hardly,
If he did nothing wrong then why warn him? If there is nothing to find out then the PI will not find anything...

gg on trying to TROLL me for something that makes no sense at all

3/8/2006 4:42:01 PM

FAR FROM A TROLL

MAYBE THE MOTHER IS A BITCH AND IS USING THAT AS AN EXCUSE TO HAVE THE SON GET A PI AND FEEL BAD FOR HER

YOU ACT LIKE YOU KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS FAMILY, YOU DONT STFU AND STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS

THE FATHER MIGHT NOT HAVE DONE A DAMN THING, MOTHER MAYBE TRYING TO USE ANYTHING SHE CAN TO GET ALL THAT SHE WANTS

FUCKING IDIOT

[Edited on March 8, 2006 at 4:47 PM. Reason : USE YOUR DAMN BRAIN, PEOPLE WHO KNOW HOW TO USE THE SYSTEM WILL DO SO]

3/8/2006 4:47:14 PM

^From the tone of the post, it can be taken that most of the blame is on the father's side. Whether or not that is correct, if everyone is going by the initial post, then it looks like the father is the one fucking up.

But you're the "manly-man" and you always have to defend the male in situations like this. Bottom line is that if you're looking at this from an unbiased point of view, it's probably the husbands fault...add to the fact that a majority of the time it usually is the husband fucking around on the wife...that makes your post look more like a troll. Either way, you're doing your duty as a big bad male to take up for this man....so gg.

3/8/2006 5:55:51 PM

Quote :

"My parents are going to divorce and my mom wants me to hire a private investigator to gather evidence against my dads infidelity. Anybody have any experience with this?"

i read all posts by the thread maker and there is nothing that suggest the father did anything wrong other than the mother saying so.... it is all hersay


i am not defending anyone in that family, i just want fuck nut^^^ to just say she doesnt know shit about the family and that all she is doing is taking the womans side, as any dumb ass triflin girl would do

if anything this post right here

Quote :

"And second, she feels screwed over because my dads been handling all the finances for as long as I can remember and nothing really is in her name (bank accounts, auto, possibly no credit) except 1 out of the 2 stores they own."

shows the mother has motive to do jsut about anything she can to get what she thinks is rightfully hers, cause she got screwed, which is bullshit



[Edited on March 8, 2006 at 8:51 PM. Reason : ]

3/8/2006 8:46:32 PM

Here is what you need to do:

Go ahead and hire the PI but keep the evidence yourself.

Present the evidence to your father.

Inform him that the evidence will disappear if he pays you off.

Profit

This way they will both hate you, you wont be taking sides and youll get lots of money.

3/8/2006 10:31:33 PM

Quote :

"tell her to do it herself - you don't want to get involved seriously"

3/8/2006 11:05:28 PM

I really don't wanna get involved but to reiterate the fact that my mom knows no english and doesn't know how to get anything done and i'm obligated to do whatever I can since i'm her son.

So fucking stressing.

[Edited on March 9, 2006 at 12:50 AM. Reason : .]

3/9/2006 12:49:34 AM

youre not obligated in this case

she's married, not you

take her to where she needs to go for the help she wants, but stay out of it

its not your problem

3/9/2006 9:28:30 AM

Quote :

"So fucking stressing."

Dude...get a fucking lawyer. They will more than likely have all the answers to your questions. It will relieve a lot of stress you have right now.

3/9/2006 9:32:17 AM

take her to a lawyer seconded

[Edited on March 9, 2006 at 9:39 AM. Reason : take her]

3/9/2006 9:39:24 AM

What language does she speak-

You can always find a lawyer that speaks the same language. I believe you can search on Martindale.com.

3/9/2006 9:40:43 AM

Quote :

"Not hardly, If he did nothing wrong then why warn him? If there is nothing to find out then the PI will not find anything..."

I figure even barnyard animals learn through repetition.

3/9/2006 11:29:32 AM

Warn your dad.

3/9/2006 3:36:35 PM

parents shouldnt get the kids involved in thier divorce

1st hand experence as a child and as a father.

is your mom hot?

3/9/2006 4:42:33 PM

Warn your dad.

3/9/2006 4:51:16 PM

ok, if he just decided that he wants a divorce, you've got some time. NC law states that a married couple must be seperated for ONE YEAR before a divorce will be granted. that means no sex, no living together, etc. So, even if he says that it's been a year (and it hasn't) your mother can show that it has not. She has some time. Further, instruct her to sign NOTHING without having someone read it that will understand it (seperation agreements and divorce documents are all legalese) and can explain it to her. She does NOT have equal right to assets if he gets her to sign a seperation agreement stating that she does not. It is extremely difficult to fight a seperation agreement. So, she needs to put a lawyer on retainer, document their living arrangment to show actual seperation date, and understand not to do a damn thing without talking to her lawyer first. If she wants to hire a PI then she needs to talk to the lawyer about that as most will have someone that they normally work with that they can recommend. That way it's someone that has previously proven themselves and she may even get a better deal since it's the lawyer's preferred p.i.

And yes, I'm going through a divorce right now. I signed a seperation agreement when I was on medication and not of sound mind. I ended up giving my damn house away and losing $40k profit on it as well as a LOT of other money. My situation is the easiest to fight since it can be proven but I finally said fuck it and started my life over. The money it would cost and the headache it would be to go though it just isn't worth it.

3/9/2006 9:40:58 PM

tell her to hire the PI herself.

then warn your dad.


then get the hell out of it.

3/10/2006 3:12:06 PM

Actually, if she does not speak English and signs any document, she has a very strong defense to get it thrown out.

Unless someone is around that speaks her native language and English or she has time to consult someone.

3/10/2006 5:16:46 PM

didn't read the whole thread, but the mom shouldn't have asked her son to do this for her, even if she didn't know english well. this is something you ask a friend to do, not your son.

3/10/2006 5:21:00 PM

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3/10/2006 8:55:27 PM

Warn your dad.

12/28/2015 12:09:13 AM

wonder how this played out

1/3/2016 10:33:35 AM

was wondering that myself.

1/4/2016 5:45:40 PM

I want to get divorced more than anything

1/5/2016 3:34:39 PM

At that age where my cohort is all getting divorced

1/7/2016 4:52:35 AM

So lawyer peeps, she will get half if there is no prenup, whether or not the dad cheated, so hence PI not needed?

I agree, shitty of your mom to ask you to hire a PI on your dad. Since I don't know the circumstances behind your dad's infidelity or their marriage, I'm going to reserve judgment.

1/7/2016 4:35:43 PM

^

Quote :

"TEN YEARS AGO"

1/12/2016 10:24:16 AM

I'm surprised everyone took this thread seriously...I guess the standards were different then

but for me, it seems like the kind of ridiculous thread shoot would make

1/15/2016 9:12:17 PM

You aren't obligated to do shit for your family. Seriously. I tried being the "good daughter" and I'm out 2 cars, my savings, and a CC that was taken out under my name.

Sometimes parents need to just adult up too. The best you can do is be supportive, but still don't get in the middle of shit. It ain't your life.

1/25/2016 5:35:22 PM