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"Haha, it took less than two hours to go from "I really want to save this friendship" to "I'm putting on stilettos and kicking her in the cunt""

I talked to her on the phone between first post and cunt-kicking post. Now I just want to hit her with a hammer.

6/6/2008 5:23:57 PM

There's a book about how to be a bridesmaid at B&N that tells all the BM's to stop being selfish little bitches. Buy that for her.

6/6/2008 5:40:38 PM

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"She used to be very sweet before this guy (he's her first b/f, so i'm trying to be understanding). She was the type that if you were sick, she'd come over with soup and movies. Or if you had a bad day, she'd rush over and bring you flowers and hugs. So I want to save the friendship in hopes of that friend comes back."

s she fat?

is that the reason this is her first relationship? the petty insecurity, the jealousy, etc...

6/6/2008 5:51:50 PM

I was wondering the same thing

6/6/2008 5:56:58 PM

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"have the other bridesmaid do a "you are a bitch" intervention"

This may be the best route. In situations like this, a crazy bitch can sometimes rationalize their bitchiness by telling themselves it's all the other person's fault. But if a whole group turns against her, she will eventually have to come to the realization that she's the bitch, not you. Given the fact that it's YOUR wedding, it should be fairly easy to mobilize a small group intervention and explain that she's ostracized unless she apologizes and falls in line.

6/6/2008 6:04:16 PM

yeah, get rid of her. Thats not a good friend at all. Don't worry about being nice. It sounds like you've been nice this entire time.

6/6/2008 6:16:33 PM

i wouldn't worry about being too nice

you agree to a lot when you are asked to be a bridesmaid, and it sounds like she's been a bitch.

6/6/2008 6:21:57 PM

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" can't imagine why you'd want to keep this friend unless you hate yourself then it makes sense"

Sounds like she's just jealous / mad that you're getting married before she does. Hopefully she's not diving into a relationship with the new guy just because she's trying to keep up.

6/6/2008 6:35:11 PM

Kick In The Cunt: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LKCN3CSLZuI

6/6/2008 7:10:43 PM

cooter punch is also effective:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nxm6wPon5ic

6/6/2008 7:32:18 PM

I wonder if she's just pissed because she won't be able to afford a wedding as nice as yours. She's bitching about the $$$ because she wants to top your wedding and become queen of the amazons. As-is, she's concerned about the possibility of meeting this goal, and she has a real concern that you're about to become queen of the amazons.

It's a power-struggle, I tell you.

6/6/2008 8:33:39 PM

Fuck that shit. Sounds similar to what my ex-wife went through when we got married. Her best friend (grew up with her from age 5-ish) had never been in a serious relationship (dated just nothing serious). Once we started dating, she started getting jealous. Suddenly, she starts dating my roommate (this girl was attractive, my roommate was a 5'4" 300lb Baywatch loving loser). I was my ex-wife's first. This chick gave up her virginity to my roommate. She started getting pissed off randomly and would take it out on her. Since they had known each other so long, she was supposed to be the maid of honor. Somebody else planned the bridal showers. She never came to any. Never wanted to help do anything. After repeated attempts to get my ex to kick the bitch to the curb, the bitch finally said she didn't want to be the maid of honor anymore after we got word that the next girl in line wouldn't be able to make it back to the country. Guess who showed up at the wedding and apologized for being such a bitch. It was the last time we ever saw her after my ex-wife hugged her, said "Yep, you were a bitch", and walked away.

Fuck the bitch. There's enough shit to worry about for the "happiest day of your life" without having to worry about petty-ass bitch "friends". Congrats too.

6/6/2008 10:14:37 PM

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"Congrats too."

Hahaha, nice way to wrap up that post.

6/6/2008 11:08:22 PM

She is nuts. You are nuts for caring about all that extravagant shit in the first place.

6/6/2008 11:17:32 PM

You should have weeded out your cunt friends before hte point in life where you get married.

6/6/2008 11:51:15 PM

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" want to retain the friendship because we've been friends for so long, and it'd be a damn shame to lose it over her being a twat over dress costs."

Only read the first page but...

It sounds like you have been acquantinces for so long. No friend would treat you like this. Sounds like she is attention hungry and I bet you really arent that desperate for friends where you couldnt replace her or just dump her out of the group. This is YOUR wedding, do what you gut tells you. God knows what she might do on the actual wedding day to piss you off so let this be a sign and get rid of her now.

6/7/2008 9:00:57 AM

Sounds like she's a lesbian who's always wanted you, but now she's realized she can't have you and is doing crazy shit to try and make you jealous....

I think it'd make a great movie.

6/7/2008 10:04:34 AM

^

if that is tr00, just make out with her in front of your fiancee...double win!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=izgFDXH9Tu4&feature=related

plz 2 embed

6/7/2008 10:24:38 AM

Quote :

"just tell her that in order to preserve the little bit of friendship you ahve left, and your sanity, that you'll have to ask her to step down as a bridesmaid- that you want somenoe who's supportive of your relationship and this special time in your life and you don't get that from her, so she's no longer invited to be a part of the wedding. don't ask her to step down, tell her that's how its going to be."

this is your time - and nothing is more important than that. It is stressful, fun, engaging, and a lot of hardwork. She is going to ruin your wedding. That self-centered bitch cant be away from her boy for a luncheon? I mean a fucking 1.5 hours or 2? That is fucking rediculous. I tell you what, we are getting married next weekend and if my girl had a bridesmaid like that, it would have been over the first time she opened her mouth.

I think it is a little easier for those that have put a few years between college and marrainge...aka life...where we dont have people in our life like this. THis also goes for the week at teh beach - you are asking a lot of them to take time off work for a whole week, and then time off for the wedding as well. I know our wedding parties start on thursday night and most of our people have to travel - so they are missing two days right there just for us. I couldnt imagine asking anything more. (Then again, i am an upper level manager and most of my guys are too...so its hard enough for us to even give two days to ourselves - i prob need to take the old crackberry on the honeymoon cause three and half weeks worth of emails is not going to be fun to come back too)

6/7/2008 10:26:02 AM

weddings are drama magnets. everything went smooth when we got married, but our wedding was a pretty simple affair. I don't know what it is, but there is something about a wedding that makes them cause more controversy than the invasion of a small country.

6/7/2008 11:26:36 AM

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"is she fat? is that the reason this is her first relationship? the petty insecurity, the jealousy, etc... "

Umm...she was, kinda. We're the same height(5'2") and she's a size 14 and I'm a size 2, but that's never been an issue before. She never talked about boys, and always asked me about my dates etc. I always tried to set her up with my guy friends, but they were either "too short, don't dress nice enough, really boring, etc."

6/7/2008 11:36:31 AM

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"Sounds like she's just jealous / mad that you're getting married before she does."

[Edited on June 7, 2008 at 12:17 PM. Reason : yep]

6/7/2008 12:16:23 PM

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"Umm...she was, kinda. We're the same height(5'2") and she's a size 14 and I'm a size 2, but that's never been an issue before. She never talked about boys, and always asked me about my dates etc. I always tried to set her up with my guy friends, but they were either "too short, don't dress nice enough, really boring, etc.""

oh thats classic self-loathing transference

she has some issues that she needs to get worked out with a professional

6/7/2008 12:22:46 PM

heres what you do.... act like a man, not literally, but tell her she's uninvited. Dont go into a sob story and tell her how you feel just call her up and say she's uninvited and thats it. Give it some time..... so she can think it over and realize how much of a girl she's acted. She'll contact you in some way, you'll talk to her... she'll ask for forgiveness and then you can go on and manipulate her into doing whatever you want.



you have to play games with her. its the only way.

6/7/2008 3:31:38 PM

when is the wedding? does this thread have the potential for the drama to unfold over a period of several months?

6/7/2008 8:14:48 PM

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"Her b/f went to lunch with his married ex-g/f who was visiting from Kentucky"

Wow, and she's having a bad week because of that??? She sounds insane.

Quote :

"infront of my family and relatives and friends of the family...she literally gave him a lap dance and he put his face in her tits and motor boated them."

Honestly, this should have been your first hint that she would fuck up any formal function. I would de-bridesmaid her now before she has a chance to ruin your wedding.

6/7/2008 11:59:27 PM

I never knew MeatStick was a female until this thread.

6/8/2008 12:05:15 AM

I can't really say that I'm experienced in situations like this, but I can look at it as any other conflict that might take place in a friendship. Friends (read: people in general) tend to say and do stupid things, even for entire periods of time. There's a reason you've been friends with this person for so long. Is it really worth destroying that friendship? She's obviously being selfish, but there has to be a way to resolve the conflict without throwing that all away. I think the intervention thing or maybe just continuing to talk it out is the best course of action. Kicking her out of the wedding should probably be a last resort.

6/8/2008 3:09:09 AM

If she's treating you like that? She ain't your friend, sweetheart. Send her ass packin'.

[Edited on June 8, 2008 at 3:32 AM. Reason : Either that or elope. That's what I wound up doing.]

6/8/2008 3:25:08 AM

tell her to go fuck herself

6/8/2008 6:40:24 AM

annihilate her!

6/8/2008 6:46:01 AM

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"She called me a self-centered bitch, and that if I could look past my "fucking wedding" I'd realize she's been upset the last week, and that I should understand she just needed someone to vent at and a "real friend would suck it up and understand." (Her b/f went to lunch with his married ex-g/f who was visiting from Kentucky)"

I don't know much about weddings; hell I'll probably screw mine up and having lots of fun doing it!


But I can imagine that all that bullshit that girls have to do before them takes alot of time and is very stressful. I wouldn't sweat it. If she can't be supportive and happy for you, then she isn't worth it. It's YOUR wedding, do what the hell pleases you! When its her time (I dunno if that time will come from the way she acts) she will want to be the Princess too and everyone else will probably be supportive of that.

The exact opposite happened to me one time: A friend of mine was getting married and I was trying to be excited for her and give her lots of attention but she never responded. I thought she was just being busy and stressed out so I didn't think anything of it until she continued to be a bitch afterwards. I now realize that that was just her personality and I said "Fuck that shit!"

Ha ha all I can say is that most girls are petty and dumb if they aren't the center of attention!

6/9/2008 1:08:49 PM

You shouldn't have to pay a cent for your bachelorette party its the maid of honor's responsibility to plan and come up with the money for it. She sounds like a whiny horrible friend... id listen to your mom.

6/9/2008 1:13:15 PM

i wouldn't have been very nice if this happened to me.

question though: after knowing this chick for 6 years, is the lap dance thing then this bridesmaid bullshit the only times she's had/shown/exhibited this kind of behavior?

maybe my standards for friends are too high but i wouldn't put up with that crap.

6/9/2008 1:40:09 PM

^ I'd assume so, if this is her first boyfriend, and she's already thinking marriage? I'd tell both the bride that's posting and the poor boy stuck with this ex-friend to run for it!

6/9/2008 1:44:23 PM

even if it's the new bf that's caused this psycho bitch phase, there had to have been at least a hint of crazy before this...

6/9/2008 1:46:56 PM

I had problems with my bridesmaids, nobody could ever go dress shopping, and I drifted apart from others, it just turned out to be a huge ordeal. Soooo, I dropped all bridesmaids and made my brother my "Man of Honor!" It worked out well.

6/9/2008 2:39:48 PM

Well, I called her saturday to get some shit taken care of. She still blamed me for everything, and said I've been self-centered about my wedding (?). She then said she had to go get lunch, and would call me right back, because fixing our friendship was the most important thing on her list.

It's Monday and she hasn't called back. 2 of my other bridesmaids said she spent the entire weekend watching movies with her b/f and sleeping in til 3.

So I figure I'm just going to NOT return her calls, inform her of anything that's going on, make her pay the money for her dress, and not give her any details...like a pussy.

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"You shouldn't have to pay a cent for your bachelorette party"

I know that's tradition, but I love all my bridesmaids (cept the one) and we've all been friends for at least 10 years now. I wanted to do something special with them, and to show them how much I've appreciated their support and love over the years. So my fiancee and I agreed to use part of our honeymoon money for the beachhouse, and just downgrade our honeymoon to something less extravagent.

6/9/2008 4:27:46 PM

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"So I figure I'm just going to NOT return her calls, inform her of anything that's going on, make her pay the money for her dress, and not give her any details...like a pussy."

So she'll stay in the wedding party or no??

6/9/2008 4:49:23 PM

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""You shouldn't have to pay a cent for your bachelorette party""

Depends on the person, when I get married I really don't want any of my friends to be paying for anything including dresses. thats just how I am though. I don't like my friends to pay for anything.

and this thread reminds me of Bridezilla haha when they have probs. with their bridemaids.

6/9/2008 5:11:50 PM

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"So my fiancee and I agreed to use part of our honeymoon money for the beachhouse, and just downgrade our honeymoon to something less extravagent. "

you'd rather spend money celebrating your marriage on your friends instead of your groom? that just doesn't sound right.

6/9/2008 5:25:35 PM

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"you'd rather spend money celebrating your marriage on your friends instead of your groom? that just doesn't sound right. "

It's hard to find loyal friends and she's just showing her appreciation. Not that hard to understand.

[Edited on June 9, 2008 at 5:44 PM. Reason : .]

[Edited on June 9, 2008 at 5:46 PM. Reason : .]

6/9/2008 5:44:08 PM

Ok... this thread and OMGplzdome's thread have made me decide to get married at a courthouse.

6/9/2008 6:46:53 PM

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"you'd rather spend money celebrating your marriage on your friends instead of your groom? that just doesn't sound right."

Oh! LOL, I guess that looks bad. It's a 2 story beach house, he and his boys are going to take one floor, my girls and I are taking another. We're taking turns with our groups to go out at night to celebrate.

6/9/2008 7:36:33 PM

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"How do you kick a bridesmaid out of your wedding?"

With the 4" sexpot heels you're packing for your honeymoon.

6/9/2008 7:46:59 PM

After reading this, I immediately forwarded it to A. and her attorney. They said they plan on suing you--pursuant to civil violations of G.S. 14-32.4(b)--for emotional distress, the cost of the bridesmaid's dress, the cell phone minutes she's used on you over the last decade, and legal fees.

As your attorney, I advise you to countersue--pursuant to criminal violations of G.S. 20 -140(b)--for emotional distress, her share of the beach week fees, you and your fiancee's share of the beach week fees, as well as the cost of her bridesmaid's dress, the cell phone minutes you've used on her over the last decade, the semen stains you had to have dry cleaned out of the table linens soiled during the incident at your graduation pursuant to her lapdancing him and his motorboating her breasteses, and of course my legal fees or the sum of the entire beach week fees, whichever is greater.

6/9/2008 8:02:29 PM

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"G.S. 20 -140(b) Any person who drives any vehicle upon a highway or any public vehicular area without due caution and circumspection and at a speed or in a manner so as to endanger or be likely to endanger any person or property shall be guilty of reckless driving."

LOL

6/9/2008 8:28:11 PM

yeah i dont see how chapter 20 applies to anything

6/9/2008 8:43:50 PM

OMG, Bobby....I want to rent you out to parties. (You're still coming to the beach, right?)

6/9/2008 9:59:09 PM

It has everything to do with this! And--no disrespect--but perhaps my insight regarding the applicability of G.S. 20 to this matter is why I'm representing Ms. MeatStick in the pending lawsuit. I rest my case.

Because the maid of honor is driving their friendship apart!!!! And she is doing so in a cautionless and uncircumspectioned manner so as to be likely to endanger persons and properties. I rest my case.


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[Edited on June 9, 2008 at 10:05 PM. Reason : I (will) rest my case. At the beach. ]

6/9/2008 9:59:22 PM