so then there are girls that you are friends with that are off limits? so why can't girls feel the same way about their guy friends?

7/10/2008 11:55:25 PM

guys are starting to sound more and more like girls to me

7/10/2008 11:56:01 PM

girls are all the time trying to get out of the kitchen now a days

7/10/2008 11:57:08 PM

lol!!

7/10/2008 11:58:57 PM

no its just that most of us get sick and fucking tired of the drama that female friends bring to 90% of all situations.

7/10/2008 11:59:17 PM

^and most of us includes females, and the cycle starts anew.

7/11/2008 12:04:39 AM

this is why it's better just to have no friends...or imaginary ones

7/11/2008 12:05:45 AM

not saying that. its just been my experience that when a girl has a disproportionate amount of guy friends to girl friends something always gets fucked up.

7/11/2008 12:08:31 AM

^^exactly. i have two friends: a suitcase and a guitar. they're good to me, and for the life of me, i can't remember the last time they've pissed me off or let me down.

7/11/2008 12:10:53 AM

Pretty sure i want to sleep with at least half of my female friends, if not more.

But wanting to sleep with them and willingness to actually do it are two different things.

though a a few of them would get it without a second thought

7/11/2008 12:20:46 AM

"how many of them have you fucked?"

7/11/2008 12:28:01 AM

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"geez you people hang out with some shitty girls"

No, girls as "just friends" bring way too much retarded bullshit to the table to be worth it. I don't want to hear some chick complain about her boyfriend, which is pretty much all a "girlfriend" will do. And if it's not complaining about that, it'll be about something else. Sorry, the only time anyone is going to want to endure that level of torture is if they're getting sex out of it, or there's the potential for sex.

7/11/2008 12:29:17 AM

In my experience, most girls who tend to have more guy friends tend to act more like guys. They leave that catty, whiny, girly shit at home.

7/11/2008 12:35:02 AM

^ in all the good and bad ways

but i completely agree

7/11/2008 12:36:05 AM

also, they're quicker to play the "friends" card after you started goin out for a bit. so you gotta watch out for that.

7/11/2008 12:37:32 AM

guys are douchebags that just want to wet their dicks

girls are bitchy whores that just want to wet some dicks

i think you just have to pick the lesser of two evils here

7/11/2008 12:38:44 AM

i have a lot of guy friends due to the nature of my career in a male dominated industry

i have made female friends in this career as well but now we all live in different cities and all the friends i have in my new city are guys from work

so

what if all the girls girlfriends are in other cities and shes new to town and her only friends at the moment are guys from work because the only other female in the office got fired?

7/11/2008 12:43:05 AM

[Edited on July 11, 2008 at 12:46 AM. Reason : ?]

7/11/2008 12:45:56 AM

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"also, they're quicker to play the "friends" card after you started goin out for a bit. so you gotta watch out for that."

If im just trying to be friends, then what do i care? If i want something more, ill make it known up front.

7/11/2008 12:46:14 AM

I'm distrustful of girls without close female friends. I'm not saying it isn't okay to have lots of guy friends or hang with the boys, but on some level I think it's a warning sign.

I mean, it depends on the girl, but in general...

7/11/2008 12:59:46 AM

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"RIDDLE ME THIS GUYS: Think of ALL of your GIRL friends and tell me...do you secretly wish to sleep with them all???? "

Yep.

[Edited on July 11, 2008 at 1:03 AM. Reason : well, not always secretly.]

7/11/2008 1:03:41 AM

that's not totally true, actually. it's more like this:

The female friends of most men pretty much fall into one of four categories:

1. Currently having sex with each other.

2. Had sex with each other in the past.

3. The guy wants to have sex with her.

4. The guy used to want to have sex with her, but now she's not as attractive...but they built a friendship before she let herself go and/or aged poorly.

7/11/2008 1:06:54 AM

I hate to break it to you ladies but every one of your guy friends has contemplated what its like to fuck you at some point, possibly while beating.

This does not mean they would fuck you, or even attempt to. It just means they have thought about it.

7/11/2008 1:12:16 AM

^ any girl over the age of 18 knows this already

or should

7/11/2008 1:13:54 AM

lol i've thought about what it would be like to sleep with my guy friends


and thats why we stay friends

7/11/2008 1:13:58 AM

sick burn to all of them.

7/11/2008 1:15:34 AM

lol, pwnt

7/11/2008 1:16:40 AM

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"I hate to break it to you ladies but every one of your guy friends has contemplated what its like to fuck you at some point, possibly while beating. This does not mean they would fuck you, or even attempt to. It just means they have thought about it. "

Nope, I'm pretty sure I'd do it in every case other than if they fall into category #4.

7/11/2008 1:19:10 AM

By definition, if they fall into #4, then youv'e thought about it at one point. So his statement stands

7/11/2008 1:20:08 AM

oh no, of course i've thought about it, as is the case with every male they know, and most of the ones that they passed on the street that day.

i'm saying that his statement that we might not actually do it is not correct, at least in my opinion and that of most guys I know (other than the category #4 types, and they would've gotten it in their day).

7/11/2008 1:22:40 AM

ok, durr..

i misread your post

7/11/2008 1:25:11 AM

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"Most of my friends are guys because they're not drama ridden bitches."

that's the number one reason...

remember....girls aren't just crazy when it comes to men...they're crazy all the time...

granted...most of my guy friends are drama ridden asses....but i can laugh at them



i'm also basically the only girl in my family so i learned how to deal with boys better than i learned how to deal with girls

[Edited on July 11, 2008 at 9:34 AM. Reason : asdfd]

7/11/2008 9:33:53 AM

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"Most of my friends are guys because they're not drama ridden bitches."

Yep.

I have a few close female friends, one of whom I largely became friends with because we shared a mutual lack of affection for most other women. But lately I've learned to embrace a little bit of drama. It can be entertaining.

7/11/2008 9:37:21 AM

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"I hate to break it to you ladies but every one of your guy friends has contemplated what its like to fuck you at some point, possibly while beating. This does not mean they would fuck you, or even attempt to. It just means they have thought about it."

Ladies----do you do this to your guy friends?

Fellas---this information blows my mind---by Duke's assement, you wouldn't be friends with girls who aren't attractive

7/11/2008 9:38:42 AM

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"lol i've thought about what it would be like to sleep with SOME OF my guy friends and thats why we stay friends "

exactly

7/11/2008 9:45:06 AM

Wow---normally I'm a dirty whore...but this makes me seem innocent

7/11/2008 9:46:40 AM

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"Ladies----do you do this to your guy friends? Fellas---this information blows my mind---by Duke's assement, you wouldn't be friends with girls who aren't attractive"

Seriously, you have not thought about male friends in that way?

What's worse is when you are interested, but the guy is not. Damn religious nuts.

7/11/2008 9:51:39 AM

i used to let it bother me, now i hang out with someone who hangs out with 20 times as many guys as any girl i've ever known.

get some confidence!!1

7/11/2008 9:53:16 AM

girls have always bothered me.
most of them can be sooooo backstabbing and just...cruel.

i was talking to someone somewhat recently how it makes me that girls can be so catty to one another and not back eachother up.

and it killllls me that girls will fight over a guy in a heartbeat

wtf?

7/11/2008 9:55:09 AM

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"and it killllls me that girls will fight over a guy in a heartbeat wtf?"

Yeah, that's the worst thing.

And then after one girl "wins" they break up 2 weeks later, since she only wanted the guy because her friend did.

7/11/2008 9:57:20 AM

i guess my point in all this is the same as my point with sex and any other relationship...


if you are physically attracted to someone then you should be mature enough to handle being physical with them without it interfering with anything else...be it friendship, dating, whatever...


no relationship of value should ever be based on sex...

you can think about it, try it, do it...whatever....and it shouldn't change the dynamic of the relationship...if it does then there isn't anything very solid there to begin with...

i've messed around with very close friends before and it did nothing to mess up the friendship....i have some very close guy friends that i know have deeper feelings, and vice versa, but we don't let they affect the friendship...i've messed around with guys and then become very good friends with them later....

it just is what it is...

sex is very important in a serious relationship....but it should never define the relationship

by that same token...if you are keeping it casual, sex shouldn't redefine a friendship if it happens...

it's all about maturity and how both parties handle it

i also agree with whoever said "why would you want to sleep with someone that isn't your friend"....i mean...i've done it...but it was sex for the sake of sex...and it wasn't very fulfilling and it's not something i care to do again...if i'm going to have casual sex with someone i'd rather it be with somebody i know, have a connection with, and care about than some dude i meet at a bar...

7/11/2008 9:58:05 AM

the only thing that bothers me about it is the double standard.

If a girl has a lot of guy friends, she expects her boyfriend to accept it and not be jealous

If a guy has a lot of girl friends, he can pretty much kiss them goodbye when he gets into a relationship

7/11/2008 9:59:02 AM

i had a few close girl friends in high school, but i mainly hung out with guys. main reason is guys were less drama.

it wasn't until college that i started to make lasting relationships with females--either strengthening the high school one, or building a solid foundation with new friends. now i definitely have more girl friends than guys.

7/11/2008 9:59:37 AM

^^thats where my beef comes in

(MOST, not all) girls are backstabbing.
seriously.

ill tell you right now.
i would much. MUCH MUCH rather tell a huge secret to a group of guys than a group of girls. (well i would tell my girlfriends but i mean just a random group)

girls are socially competitive i think

so a girl who likes a guy (who already has a girlfriend) is more likely to hit on him and do what it takes because "they were meant to be blah blah"
rather than a guy who likes a taken girl. he probably just thinks shes pretty hott



[Edited on July 11, 2008 at 10:04 AM. Reason : sfgdsfdsfd]

7/11/2008 10:02:09 AM

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"If a guy has a lot of girl friends, he can pretty much kiss them goodbye when he gets into a relationship"

Only if he's getting together with one of the previously mentioned drama-inspiring women.

7/11/2008 10:02:39 AM

GF: "why does she call you all the time, does she like you or something?"
BF: "no sweetie, we have been like best friends for 10 years"
GF: "so did you ever sleep with her?"
BF: "no sweetie, we have been like best friends for 10 years"
GF: "well I can tell she obviously likes you more than friends"
BF: "no sweetie, we have been like best friends for 10 years"
GF: "well, i don't want her calling you anymore"

7/11/2008 10:05:51 AM

You're right. Every woman would say that

7/11/2008 10:06:36 AM

i never said that, but I am POSITIVE I am not the only guy that has had this experience

7/11/2008 10:07:25 AM

No, I know that. I was saying that's the kind of chick I don't really want to be friends with, and there are plenty who aren't like that.

7/11/2008 10:08:21 AM

hook me up, because I can't seem to find one on my own

7/11/2008 10:09:01 AM