knock 'em down

5/7/2009 11:44:11 AM

You can serve alcohol at a baby shower, depending on the crowd attending. Champaigne, mimosas, wine spritzers. . .lightly alcoholic girlie drinks are perfectly acceptable.

Believe it or not, pregnant women can enjoy an occasional drink. It's just recommended that pregnant women avoid the regular consumption of alcohol because it is not clear cut at what point alcohol starts to damage the fetus. But most doctors will tell you that a glass here or there is probably nothing to worry about.

5/7/2009 11:46:26 AM

IMO, serving alcohol at a small intimate girls-only baby shower is extremely rude!
(maybe i'm stuck in the 60s w/ you, thumper )

I can understand having some alcoholic beverages at something like the 'diaper party' described.

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 12:12 PM. Reason : ]

5/7/2009 12:09:58 PM

i can see both sides. but if alcohol was served i would think it should be more on the lines of what ^^ described; maybe just one type of drink...a mimosa or something girlie that doesn't have too much alcohol.

but not like a fully stocked bar. and not gin and tonics, etc. i think there could be a classy way to do it if you just had mimosas or like wine coolers.

but probably best to leave the keg and the jack daniels out of it!

5/7/2009 12:53:57 PM

It is up to the mom-to-be. I've been to a couple where they served champagne and had sparkling grape juice for the new mom. I think that is the best way to go. She can still have some alcohol-free mimosa's.

5/7/2009 1:26:39 PM

the last baby shower I went to was at a bar

the way I see it, if there's a reason to celebrate, there's a reason to drink.

5/7/2009 1:31:23 PM

^
Agreed.

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"She can still have some alcohol-free mimosa's."

I still don't see why this is such a big deal. It just seems that you'd have to be quite immature (or perhaps alcoholic,) to be "jealous" of party guests drinking something you've chosen not to. Of course, I was never one for cultural homogeneity. That is, I suppose my social circles are unashamedly a bit motley...

5/7/2009 1:51:46 PM

all i'm saying is a baby shower doesn't seem like the place to be knocking back a couple cold ones

5/7/2009 1:52:24 PM

depends, sometimes you cater to the majority.

5/7/2009 1:54:57 PM

^^^ Just trying to stay classy.

Like I said, its up the mom-to-be. I've also been to a baby shower with a keg and tons of liquor. Guest there were women and men.

5/7/2009 1:57:50 PM

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"all i'm saying is a baby shower doesn't seem like the place to be knocking back a couple cold ones"

The thing is... While I actually have a lot of respect for tradition, I also recognize that many traditions can afford a little growth -- seeing as how they were likely shaped in a more judgmental time....

I mean, really though... Why shouldn't baby shower guests enjoy a cold brew? I could understand if it was some devout religious thing, or a very small, intimate and somewhat formal gathering... but it's a basically a party! Right?
(But yeah, I agree that it's up the mom-to-be...)

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 2:04 PM. Reason : ]

5/7/2009 2:03:19 PM

thank god i don't want kids
i don't have to worry about this

5/7/2009 2:07:38 PM

in battlestar galactica, the president threw a baby shower with booze for her pregnant sister in a flashback episode.

5/7/2009 2:09:09 PM

I like the idea of "girlie drinks" with light hor d'oeuvres, like cheese & crackers, fruit & choc./caramel dips, veggies, quiches, whatever.
The guys can come and have outdoor / videogame fun with beers. But this won't be the big "Hellz yea you're gonna be a dad" party.
You can have that be the early afternoon, and if ppl are up for it, have a cookout in the evening, with music & more beers.

Liquor - specifically shots or mixed drinks that are mostly alcohol (LITs, for example) - should not be at a baby shower, b/c it hits you too hard. But I think 1 case of beer or so, and some mixed girlie drinks (daiquiris, spritzers/coolers) would be totally fine -- and crazy-drunk-idiot-free.

Anyway...I'd rather have spiced cider / hot chocolate in the winter, or freshly squeezed lemonade / non-alcoholic daiquiris in the summer. But, that's me. I'd serve everything so everyone is happy (but no liquor).

/blog.

5/7/2009 3:19:22 PM

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"I'd rather have spiced cider / hot chocolate in the winter, or freshly squeezed lemonade / non-alcoholic daiquiris in the summer."

I like that idea

5/7/2009 3:23:59 PM

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"If you're not a complete douche, you can still have a good time with no alcohol"

5/7/2009 3:27:57 PM

^
I don't think anyone's questioning that -- certainly everyone knows that true fun can be had without drugs...
The point is simply that celebrations are more hospitable when guests have more choices.

5/7/2009 3:41:35 PM

^ Hospitable?? You can be hospitable without having alcohol...

5/7/2009 3:42:58 PM

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"more hospitable"

5/7/2009 3:43:30 PM

Even so, I feel you can be just as hospitable when having a baby shower without alcohol as one without..

5/7/2009 3:44:27 PM

Then don't have beer at yours. Who cares what other people are doing.

5/7/2009 3:45:54 PM

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"I feel you can be just as hospitable when having a baby shower without alcohol as one [with]"

I respectfully disagree. To me, more choices = more hospitality.

5/7/2009 3:50:28 PM

^^ I already made it clear I wouldn't, so I don't see the point in that... The point is to discuss your opinions about it, and I did, so sue me.

^ I just feel like you can give people lots of choices that doesn't include alcohol and be just as hospitable.. To me it's all about generosity - you can do lots of things for your guests without including alcohol.

I guess we're just going to have to agree to disagree .

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 3:54 PM. Reason : .]

5/7/2009 3:51:53 PM

Are you gonna have a baby shower after your immaculate conception, ya fuckin prude

5/7/2009 3:52:48 PM

^ How does me not having alcohol at a baby shower make me a fuckin prude???

5/7/2009 3:55:10 PM

to me having people over to your place is hospitality. anything more is just a bonus for them.

5/7/2009 3:58:04 PM

if I am carrying the damn baby you know for damn sure you are not ever drinking at the baby shower. Co-ed sounds really fun but until you are carrying the effing baby, don't call me an 8 year old because I would get upset at others drinking and I can't.

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 4:10 PM. Reason : eat your damn cake and peanuts with punch and be satisfied.]

5/7/2009 4:09:25 PM

hahahah now that's the kinda answer i've been looking for

5/7/2009 4:11:55 PM

5/7/2009 4:14:10 PM

^hahahahahahah

I have a picture of LK in my head making that exact face right now.

5/7/2009 4:16:23 PM

lots of alcoholics in denial in this thread.

5/7/2009 4:16:37 PM

Anyone who needs to drink to have a good time is basically admitting they are so uninteresting that only alcohol brings out the fun version of them

While actually the people who aren't drinking are usally the most interesting people at the party

5/7/2009 4:19:54 PM

^^^

and for punchmonk too

5/7/2009 4:31:51 PM