Kiwi, do you know anything about what the fuck you're talking about? Do you have any experience to back it up?

didn't fucking think so

7/11/2009 3:07:03 PM

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"But their paranoid, lazy, life issues didn't come to light until they were neck deep in pot smoke."

AND THAT DOESN'T FUCKING MEAN ANYTHING. (I take it you're not a scientist...)
What do you not understand? Are you trolling me?...or do you seriously not get it? If you see condition A lead to condition B very many times, THAT DOESN'T MEAN that condition A causes condition B. No matter how many times you see that correlation -- it is just a correlation.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Correlation_does_not_imply_causation

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"Rarely do you start smoking pot because your life sucks."

I couldn't disagree more. Wow. That would be a HUGE reason for some to start smoking pot.

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"I consider 'addiction' to be when your body will actually die because it is without something. Since technically your body needs water then I guess you could say everyone has a water addiction, but that's just silly. Bodies need food, but many times an obese person will say they have a food addiction so how to you discern?"

Exactly. Our society has begun to overuse the concept of addiction. Some (although I'm on the fence,) contend that addiction doesn't even really exist. That's hard to understand, though...

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"he thinks/needs/feels that his body needs to have weed, so much so that it prevents him from living, well isn't that an addiction of sorts?"

I'm not sure it's that his body needs it, but rather that's how he interprets his actions. Certainly the idea that addiction to weed can actually exist would assist him in that interpretation. (as referred to in http://www.southparkstudios.com/episodes/103677/)

Something is preventing him from living, and he has maladaptively chosen to use weed, perhaps to attempt to self-medicate for the underlying issue. It's not that the continued use of weed necessarily "hurts" his condition, but rather that the underlying cause of the condition isn't being addressed by the weed use -- it could just be something to do. It does help pass the time....

[Edited on July 11, 2009 at 3:13 PM. Reason : ]

7/11/2009 3:08:22 PM

I'm addicted to sex but I don't get any. Ever.

7/11/2009 3:09:52 PM

Willy, don't even try, she'll just respond with her typical vapid bullshit.

she really is that stupid. You know how stupid people don't know they're retarded, and all that.

you do have to admire her persistence, though.

[Edited on July 11, 2009 at 3:11 PM. Reason : A++ post, btw]

7/11/2009 3:10:06 PM

7/11/2009 3:12:44 PM

Willy

Quote :

"Something is preventing him from living, and he has maladaptively chosen to use weed, perhaps to attempt to self-medicate for the underlying issue. It's not that the continued use of weed necessarily "hurts" his condition, but rather that the underlying cause of the condition isn't being addressed by the weed use -- it could just be something to do. It does help pass the time...."

agreed but the problem is that as long as he's using weed to self-medicate, the underlying issue will never be solved. As far as my sister knows, SHE could be the problem in the relationship. I mean maybe she's a fucking total loon, but there's no way to figure out what the real issue is because in his mind, there is no issue, because he's just fine...when he's smoking his weed.

Normally I'd say fuck it and who gives a shit, but they have a child and it becomes an issue of safety. The stb-xbil (soon to be ex bro-in-law) has driven many times after he's smoked or drank and there's no way my sister would put her child in that situation. I would hope that nobody in their right mind would, so that means if he ever wants to see his son he's going to have to be supervised because even according to himself, he can't say for sure that he wouldn't smoke/drink. And the fact that my stbxbil is OK with that, and has decided that he's so dependent (emotional or otherwise) on his drug of choice, that he can't even commit to not doing it for a few hours so that he can see his son...well. And mind you, they didn't just 'get preggers' they (well, let's be fair here, my PARENTS) spent tons of money on 3 different invitro procedures so at any point, in that span of 2 years that they were trying, one who think that whatever issues needed to be resolved, got resolved.

Now I have my own theory in that he's just never wanted to be responsible for anything which I suppose is fine if he was alone but he lived in a house with a wife and a child and it's not like they didn't have a long fucking engagement and it's not like they weren't married for 4 years before having a child so CLEARLY they both have some blame. My sister obviously ignored the signals (and I know that because I fucking saw them and when I pointed them out I was told to STFU) but like Kiwi said, 'love is blind' and stupid and I knew this was going to happen 7 years ago and that's not because I'm a fortune teller.

7/11/2009 3:46:31 PM

It's pretty fucked up that you/your sister snooped around on his laptop

7/11/2009 4:11:02 PM

i had a gf when i got my first laptop

i learned very, very quickly

password protect EVERYTHING

7/11/2009 5:06:19 PM

I didn't snoop around anything sir.

Also....my dad got him the laptop and while I know it wouldn't hold up in court it remains a fact.

And, since he moved out of last weekend, my sister was allowing him to use her car so he could play 'daddy' for a couple of hours and he's a fucking moron for keeping his computer in his backpack just to go for out for a few.

And, since there's always the threat that he could try (though I'm not sure anyone in their right mind or even their wrong mind would ever EVER give him custody) to get custody, the more proof she has that he's a fucking retard, the better.

If they were still together then my sister wouldn't look at his shit as she didn't do for 7 years but as soon as he decided that he wanted to smoke pot more than he wanted to be a father or a husband, well then I guess my sister didn't give a shit about his privacy considering that he didn't give a shit about the fact that he was getting let off scott free.

I mean I'm not a snooper, if for no reason other than I'm too scared I'd get caught but....

7/11/2009 6:25:00 PM

this thread is kick ass and I want more!

7/13/2009 1:22:52 PM

The fact that your dad bought him the laptop means nothing. It was a gift, that doesn't give you or anyone else in your family the right to snoop through his shit.

Now when it comes to ensuring the safety of the child, that's a different story.

7/13/2009 1:27:36 PM

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"Furthermore, when confronted about it, you should probably NOT assume that everything is known and admit to there being pictures on it to."

Ha. Like that was the straw that broke the camel's back.

[√] Marijuana addiction
[√] Video proof of adultery
[ ] Photo evidence of adultery

Just missing that one last bit, then he's gone! I can imagine the conversation...

Wife: I found a video on your desktop of you having sex with someone else.
Husband: Look, about the video and the pictures...
Wife: THERE ARE PICTURES TOO! 1!!1!1!!one!1!1!1

[Edited on July 13, 2009 at 1:36 PM. Reason : -]

7/13/2009 1:32:12 PM

i really stopped reading this thread at weed addiction, but from what I can tell mytwocents got mad that lilalavender and the three amigas were getting a lot of attention and decided to make a thread to bring the focus back on her?


i highly doubt that any of the stuff mentioned in the OP is accurate or even remotely close to being true.

7/13/2009 1:36:23 PM

UPDATE:
Apparently my dumb ass sister is ACTUALLY ENTERTAINING THE IDEA OF WORKING ON THINGS WITH HER SOON TO BE EX-HUSBAND. Despite the fact that a mere 5 hours after that conversation which took place I believe on Tuesday, when soon to be ex was going to be going over to the house to do 'bath time' with my nephew, my sister called him and when he answered he said that he couldn't really talk...when my sister said, 'Why? Do you have company?' He said yes.


Even after this, I believe it would have been yesterday, my sister was still entertaining the idea. Of course she didn't tell me this. I heard it from my mom. My father has not heard this. When he does he's going to flip his shit.

7/30/2009 5:59:24 PM

I think now is the time to post that sex tape

now is the time

7/30/2009 6:23:06 PM

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7/30/2009 6:24:27 PM

sounds like your sister really knows how to pick 'em

7/30/2009 6:31:23 PM

when you bring the sister/mom/dad into an intervention situation its kind of game over for a normal relationship thereafter

7/30/2009 6:38:19 PM

He must have a huge cock or something.

7/30/2009 7:27:43 PM

^^^^^well I don't have the sex tape EMCE else I'd seriously debate it. However, next time I go to AZ I will get it off her computer (she can be nosy so I can too).

^^^oh ya.....his frat bros came to town a couple weeks ago and somehow my sister managed to go out with them (not her husband) and they all said the same thing, 'yeah.....he was always immature....we all thought you guys were way too young to get married.....' niiiiiiiiiiice

^^well that's the thing....like there's NO WAY anything will every be normal ever again. EVER. I informed my mother last night that I reluctantly allowed him to become part of MY family once before but I won't be making that mistake again. GOD HELP MY SISTER. For real

^ I think I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. I love talking about sex, unless said discussion is taking place with or about my family

[Edited on July 30, 2009 at 7:30 PM. Reason : blechhhhhhh]

7/30/2009 7:28:34 PM

good luck m2c

and Godspeed

7/30/2009 7:29:24 PM

aha.... I mean really.....if my sister really fucks up here then maybe my parents will cut off her trust which means more for me.....so that could be a positive.....

7/30/2009 7:31:07 PM

on a related note, I've always found you very attractive and I think that you have a sparkling personality. Let's get married

7/30/2009 7:32:24 PM

aha.... I don't know EMCE....a black man in MY FAMILY?!

7/30/2009 7:34:25 PM

Are we allowed to serve fried chicken and watermelon at our family reunions anymore? I mean, what if Jeff gets offended?

7/30/2009 7:35:20 PM

omg, it just occurred to me that you guys have the same name.....cause for a minute I was like, 'why would my hopefully soon to be ex bro-in-law ask such a question?'

but my dad loves watermelon so that won't even be up for debate.

7/30/2009 7:38:18 PM

7/30/2009 7:39:56 PM

7/30/2009 7:40:40 PM

awwwwww drama is never good



[Edited on July 30, 2009 at 7:57 PM. Reason : sd]

7/30/2009 7:57:08 PM

I love you for threads like this m2c. There's nothing more fun than swimming in someone else's drama, it's like our own TWW soap opera

7/30/2009 8:29:18 PM

Oh wait....I forgot another update from last week: Apparently, this bitch he's been with.....IS MARRIED. WITH TWO KIDS.

7/30/2009 9:01:00 PM

meh this shit happens all the time..
your sister is an adult that makes her choices,unfort you have to sit back and watch

7/30/2009 9:13:34 PM

I'm not suggesting that I'm in a unique position relative to the rest of the world..... I am though in the sense that not one aunt, uncle or cousin in my family is/has ever been divorced.

My sister is a fucking moron if she takes him back. I told her that a few minutes ago when I got off the phone with her. Why was I on the phone you ask?

Because she wanted to know if I was still handling his website/email. Why? Because apparently this chick emailed him at his "work" email. I say "work" in quotes because it was more or less a website that he made for a business he was trying to run. Of course this website has been down for 3 weeks along with the email so CLEARLY he was working very hard.

How did my sister know she had emailed him? Because my sister went into his gmail account and saw this email from her, asking if he'd gotten the other one.

Why was my sister pissed? Because "he's not supposed to be talking to her". That sounds to me a lot like a condition that one would set for someone trying to weasel their way back into someone's life.

7/31/2009 12:42:35 AM