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7/21/2009 10:23:40 AM

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"And come to think of it, every bachelor party I've been to (where the bride had a brother) the brother of the bride didn't go (whether he was invited or not is beyond me)."

you forgot my brother was at justin's

and was a groomsman
and threw a party for us
and went to all other pre-wedding functions that he was invited to

but, my brother and i are also very close. we see him and my SIL all the time, and since justin and i have been together he's become friends with some of you guys...so that also plays a huge part.

if you aren't close with him, and don't really know him then i think you're okay to bail...where in my situation i would've been disappointed if he wasn't invited "b/c he's my brother" or he didn't go

[Edited on July 21, 2009 at 10:41 AM. Reason : ]

7/21/2009 10:32:30 AM

i also go to all the home games, and anyone who knows me knows that i would not miss a football game, so they just don't schedule anything when they know there's a home football game that week

7/21/2009 10:37:57 AM

Do you really want to see the guy that is going to spend the rest of his life with your sister, fucking a coked out stripper anyway? Pass on the bachelor party and go to the game.

7/21/2009 12:04:04 PM

So, Thread Update:

Finally found out the beginning of last week that the planned bachelor party is a 3 day weekend in Myrtle Beach (5 weeks from now). My brother and I both decided we're not going. He's unemployed and I've already made plans for the month and don't have a pile of money sitting around for a wknd in Myrtle Beach (plus I'd rather go to the Pitt game).

I got a call from my dad this morning, telling me that my sister is really upset that my brother and I are not going to the bachelor party. This is ridiculous, why the hell should she care?! Let him have fun with his friends, me going should be inconsequential.

Anyway, we're basically forced to go b/c if we don't my entire family is going to be pissed off at me. I mean my dad even gave me shit for not coming home last week when my grandmother was visiting (even though I'll see her in 2 months). My dad's probably paying for my brother to go, and possibly helping me pay as well (which I am against).

This is bullshit

[Edited on August 21, 2009 at 12:29 PM. Reason : fucking a]

8/21/2009 12:28:43 PM

Aww, poor fucking me, I can't decide if I want to go to a party or a ballgame, poor me, my dad is going to pay for my weekend in myrtle beach

poor me

8/21/2009 1:37:35 PM

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8/21/2009 1:41:36 PM

^^fuck off prick. I don't want to go. Don't gimme that shit.

8/21/2009 1:56:34 PM

Bachelor Party Etiquette

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8/21/2009 1:57:09 PM

never been to a bachelor party and hope i never do in the future

8/21/2009 1:58:19 PM

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"MAN WEDDING SHOWER"

wtf?? well, i'm damn glad you skipped that.

no one, and i mean no self-respecting man, wants that shit to catch on.

8/21/2009 2:13:46 PM

TKE dude,

seriously, as much as I want to be a tough guy, and say for you to "man up" and for you tell everyone to fuck off that you've got plans...



... the real deal is, if you ditch your sister and your family, you'll wind up regretting it, possibly for a long long time.



this is obviously REALLY important to your sister, her new husband, and your entire family.

so as much as i tend to agree with you, your sister just doesnt see it this way. this is her once-in-a-lifetime thing, and she wants you to connect with her new husband.

so you've got to be the bigger man.... remember, there will be other football games. explain to your friend what's happened. he'll understand.




i'm telling you this, because i've become kind of estranged from my brother and his wife (for different reason) and it sucks. once something big comes between you, it's hard to completely restore a relationship. this is one of those things that could be "big".

8/21/2009 2:25:53 PM

a bachelor party is not "something big" coming between anybody. the wedding is the most important part.

8/21/2009 2:32:29 PM

^unfortunately some people have a fucked up view of what's important. In this case its my parents and sister

^^thanks man. I know we disagree a lot so I appreciate the advice. I already told my dad I'd go, and explained to him that while I was going reluctantly it wasn't like I thought I would have a bad time. I'm sure I'll have fun but its not what I want to do.

My sister's already had like 6 fucking wedding showers and has 2 more next weekend. Thank God all that mess is in Charlotte and I'm in Raleigh. I wonder if she's gone all Bride-zilla. I'm afraid to call her and be like "yeah I'm going to the bachelor party" now.

8/21/2009 2:40:43 PM

If my wife did have a brother (or multiple brothers) I sure as hell would not have wanted them to come to the bachelor party. If for whatever reason the brother would be there I have a feeling a real bachelor party would have taken place at another time, either before or after the "for show" bachelor party involving the brother. I mean even if I was bff with her hypothetical brother I would think it would still be uncomfortable/stressful/awkard for me. That's all a groom needs during his last hurrah, more stress, but maybe that dude sees it differently... just my take.

If I were you, I probably would have suggested to sis that I'd hang out with the groom a different weekend than the bachelor party, dependant on his schedule, and frame it as "I want to participate in the festivities, but I don't want to impose on the groom." It sounds like you already accepted the invite though...

8/21/2009 2:49:58 PM