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8/9/2009 9:48:38 PM

every job is a dead end job for somebody.

8/9/2009 9:49:12 PM

What about rim jobs?

8/9/2009 9:50:24 PM

yeah, that didn't come out exactly right. by marriage i meant it would be our money, not my money.

and the real world part i just meant i would like for her to have spent some time supporting herself.

i could have worded that post a lot differently now that i read it.

[Edited on August 9, 2009 at 9:51 PM. Reason : .]

8/9/2009 9:50:33 PM

^^

*rim shot*

^ word

8/9/2009 9:51:33 PM

this should go on every page on the internet.


super new virus coming soon

8/9/2009 9:55:26 PM

Why does the woman have to stay home to take care of the newborn? I'm ok with having a Mr. Mom

But for real, I wouldn't be able to stay in that situation mainly because I can't be with someone with no ambition. I don't care if they make $20K a year, as long as they're working hard and doing something they love... but a "dead-end job" is just a bad sign, I think.

8/9/2009 10:03:35 PM

Yeah, the words "dead-end" and "no hope" pretty much seal the deal for most people I think.

8/9/2009 10:11:28 PM

^ Ditto on the "no ambition" bit. Guy like that wouldn't get past the first date with me. I've also noticed that the guy described in the OP isn't usually interested in pulling his weight inside the home, either.

However, I made more than my husband the first 5 years we were together. We are both workaholics; it just took longer for his master plan to start producing results. It never bothered me that I made more, but it bothered the hell out of him. And I like the idea that if something happened and one of us became unemployed, that the other can pick up the slack.

8/9/2009 10:12:11 PM

But what if he's a rapper and just wants to fuck bitches and steal money? That can be a dead-end job (see Tupac and Biggie).

Ambition is relative.

[Edited on August 9, 2009 at 10:15 PM. Reason : .]

8/9/2009 10:14:55 PM

My ambition is to fuck bitches. As long as that's happening, I don't care about money.

8/9/2009 10:16:22 PM

Quote :

"But what if he's a rapper and just wants to fuck bitches and steal money?"

IS THAT SO WRONG SON?!

8/9/2009 10:18:04 PM

Biggie tried to teach me "mo money, mo problems". I've learned later in life that I can deal with mo problems, but I can't deal without mo money.

8/9/2009 10:18:16 PM

i'd like a sugar momma

or a woman who makes enough to make my sweet salary seem like a pittance

8/9/2009 10:19:31 PM

Biggie taught me not to get high on my own supply.

8/9/2009 10:20:03 PM

he taught me the joys of living a life of party and bullshit

8/9/2009 10:21:13 PM

he also said our mom would hide in the bushes with a ski mask and a gun waiting to shoot us and rob us if we trusted her with information on our drug or money quantities. he might not have been right about everything.

8/9/2009 10:24:31 PM

you broke my pumpkins streak

[Edited on August 9, 2009 at 10:29 PM. Reason : get your game on track, not your wig pushed back. sucka]

8/9/2009 10:28:57 PM

why can't I sell crack where I rest at? I'm trying to turn this crack house into a crack home.

[Edited on August 9, 2009 at 10:34 PM. Reason : and if I can't get high on my own supply, am I supposed to leech off of others?]

8/9/2009 10:33:52 PM

i played some mobb deep at work the other day, and my intern said "i knew you flip that way"

8/9/2009 10:35:23 PM

as it stands, my girlfriend is the one with the steady nine-to-five breadwinning job (she's a teacher) and i'm the one with the maybe-i'll-hit-it-big-but-for-now-i-get-the-occasional-commission stuff going on. i have ambitions, though. so maybe that's why she still deals with me.

8/9/2009 10:36:25 PM

all you need is my cock and my sense of humor. money is just a bonus to bitches after that

8/9/2009 10:37:11 PM

I quit listening to NAS at work because it made me want to kill my white coworkers for holding me down.

8/9/2009 10:37:41 PM

i work non profit, im totally minority

8/9/2009 10:38:18 PM

also theme song for this thread

8/9/2009 10:39:19 PM

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"but turn the tables. give me his salary and him mine, and i think i'd have a serious problem with it. i don't know why, i just would."

I don't feel that way at all. I never want to have kids, so I have no conflicts about taking that much time off work. I don't see why a woman wanting to work for a living should somehow be "wrong."

It doesn't bother me that the guy I love wants to do what he wants with his life: he'll be happier for it, despite making less money than I might. The amount of money we make together isn't the most important thing anyway.

[Edited on August 9, 2009 at 10:45 PM. Reason : .]

8/9/2009 10:41:26 PM

I listen to crunk music at work because I like to watch the reactions to "The Whisper Song."

"Wait'll you see my dick, hey bitch

I'ma beat the pussy up."

It makes writing ads quite enjoyable.

8/9/2009 10:42:03 PM

just as a note:

I am the breadwinner in my relationship...
and I honestly think that if the situation were reversed, where she made my salary and I made hers, that she would leave me in a heartbeat; labeling me as the bum


hmmm, maybe it's time for me to reexamine my relationship

8/9/2009 10:44:12 PM

I too, like to marry a sugar mama.

8/9/2009 10:47:56 PM

what relationship?

8/9/2009 10:48:24 PM

lucy youd love my ringtones

AY YI YI

8/9/2009 10:50:26 PM

Nice!

My ringtone is California (Tupac)

8/9/2009 10:55:42 PM

honestly i think most men are bothered by women who make more than them

not all, but most

i was once in a situation where i was meant to feel ashamed of how much i made because he wasn't making anything. furthermore, i was accused of only caring about money, because i had it, despite the fact that i paid for nearly everything. so ladies, watch out. i once dated someone who i thought had passion and instead i was punished for being successful. jealousy doesn't look good on anyone.

8/9/2009 11:10:16 PM

^ Haha not me honey. I hate my job.

8/9/2009 11:11:21 PM

^^ That sucks.

I know I'm sure as fuck not going to yell at you for paying my bills. DAMN SON.

8/9/2009 11:13:36 PM

im more concerned with making my name right now. the money is pretty good but im getting interviews on tv and shit and thats where my head is right now.

plus by the time i get home im too tired to spend money

8/9/2009 11:15:30 PM

I know what you're sayin son.

I'm a janitor right now and I'm swimming in fucking money and bitches. It's hard when so many people are tryin to get at my fucking janitor bank son.

8/9/2009 11:17:29 PM

probably not.

everyone, regardless of gender, should work to take care of himself--even if only at a poverty level. if i have money, i have no problem with contributing to a boyfriend's or husband's lifestyle, but i should not be his sole support. he should be able to take care of himself if the relationship didn't work out. if my boyfriend or husband makes more money, i have no qualms about accepting his contributions to my lifestyle, but i should be able to make it on my own at a basic level as well.


i'm not a fan of alimony/palimony.

8/9/2009 11:24:04 PM

i kinda want to do what anna nicole smith did but the opposite

8/9/2009 11:28:28 PM

to the original post:

personally, i don't think so. i've found that at least in a marriage, "love" as you know it when you are first dating/married ebs and flows. a marriage requires a lot more than just "love" to be successful long term. you really need to be partners, in every sense of the word. most marriages that end in divorce end that way at least in part due to financial strain.

could i be happy? it depends. if he were in a "low end" job because we, together, made that choice (for example due to child rearing needs, health, etc), then maybe. if it were just because didn't feel like dealing with stress, hours, etc, then heck no. if i'm going to work hard, he has to as well. plus, i've found that a lot of men have ego issues with not making as much $ as their spouse. i dealt with that myself with guys i dated before marrying my husband. was a royal pain.

8/9/2009 11:40:55 PM

^ amen sister

8/10/2009 12:14:04 AM

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"plus, i've found that a lot of men have ego issues with not making as much $ as their spouse"

i agree. i've seen this come up in sitcoms before.

8/10/2009 12:15:36 AM

ive seen it come up in life. trust me, its not funny

8/10/2009 12:16:30 AM

It's perfectly acceptable in our society for a woman to sit and home and be completely worthless while the man works his life away providing. But when a guy does the same? That's just pathetic.

8/10/2009 12:18:27 AM

yeah its a double standard

kind of like how a guy can whore around and hes a stud, and when a girl does it, she's trash

there are lots of them and they suck, but they still exist

8/10/2009 12:22:11 AM

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" kind of like how a guy can whore around and hes a stud, and when a girl does it, she's trash"

kinda like how a guy can whore around, and hes a whore. and a woman does it, and she doesnt want to be called one.

8/10/2009 12:24:50 AM

my wife and i make close to the same amount right now but i think there will be a time when she wants to be at home with the kids and do something part-time and i'm okay with that assuming we're at a place where i can support that lifestyle

the way i grew up was that my mom always made the money in my family - my step-dad has worked a good job most of his life but as of the past ~10 years has done contract work from time to time - it works out great for them

8/10/2009 8:23:30 AM

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"Ladies, could you live and be happy in the kind of relationship where you alone make the money that pays all the bills?"

It works that way for men in 96% of the relationships. Why should it be different the other way around? Equal opportunities misery for women too, right?

8/10/2009 8:26:19 AM

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"i was once in a situation where i was meant to feel ashamed of how much i made because he wasn't making anything. furthermore, i was accused of only caring about money, because i had it, despite the fact that i paid for nearly everything. so ladies, watch out. i once dated someone who i thought had passion and instead i was punished for being successful. jealousy doesn't look good on anyone."

haha, I bet I can guess who this was in one try.

Something that I've noticed about independent women in modern american society is they want it all. They want to make money, don't want to have any kids, want a husband who doesn't want kids, who makes even more money than they do. These are very slim pickin's madaams. Sooner or later you'll want a penis as well.

Something modern women need to understand is that they cannot always get what they want, but if they try sometimes, they'll find, that they'll get what they need. (Shameless Reference)

For me personally, I ran into this issue in one of my past relationships. My former sweet girlfriend turned into a souless corporate robot who wanted to drive the nicest sports car, wanted to have the highest paid job, never wanted to have kids, and basically became a complete parasite on my good will with no sense of selflessness. She was the embodiment of the Vice of Vanity. Needless to say, she was ugly to me, and I kicked her to the curb. Her ugliness was on the inside though, she was still rather hot on the outside, which made my decision ever so difficult. However, my virtues pulled me through the confusion, while her vices pulled her into the depths of selfishness. The End.

Moral of the Story: If you do not decide early on to grow together, you will grow apart. Therefore, make sure you are both eyeing the same prize or it will never work.

PS: I'm an Engineer and make good money, in case you were wondering.

[Edited on August 10, 2009 at 9:34 AM. Reason : -]

8/10/2009 9:14:44 AM

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"my problem is in bold. it doesn't matter to me who makes more but with no ambition, count me out."

Just curious, but why does his ambition at work matter in your relationship?

8/10/2009 9:30:08 AM