I hear split bachelor/bachelorette parties are a pretty good idea, what do you guys think of that?

6/25/2010 11:55:47 AM

I hear joint bachelor/bachelorette parties are a pretty good idea, what do you guys think of that?

6/25/2010 11:56:27 AM

I hear clingy relationships where you lose your sense of self and can't do anything without each other are a bad idea. What do you guys think?

6/25/2010 12:10:41 PM

I think it'd be cool to take a few of my closest friends and my fiance and his friends to Vegas. We'd have different rooms and shit and would go out and do different things some nights. Mainly because I'd like to go to Vegas for a bachelorette party, but I'd be too scared to go without any guys.

6/25/2010 12:43:08 PM

dacates hasn't posted since the OP

I wonder if in the last 24 hours or so he's been trying to convince his fiance that they should have separate parties

6/25/2010 3:32:38 PM

"Come on, baby...everyone on the Wolfweb said so!

6/25/2010 3:35:19 PM

this is exactly WHY no one should admit IRL that they're on here...it'll keep you from getting laid

6/25/2010 4:17:42 PM

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"I think it'd be cool to take a few of my closest friends and my fiance and his friends to Vegas. We'd have different rooms and shit and would go out and do different things some nights. Mainly because I'd like to go to Vegas for a bachelorette party, but I'd be too scared to go without any guys."

My Fiance and I are both doing our bachelor(ette) parties in Vegas. We are going almost a month apart though. She is going first so I will get the info from her on where to go or not go. We are both excited about it but there was no way either of us wanted to be at the others party. Again it goes back to what some one back on page 1 said about it all going back to trust.

6/25/2010 5:37:57 PM

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"I will get the info from her on where to go or not go"

and the info on where to go and where to not tell her you're going to go

6/25/2010 6:29:23 PM

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"i hate this idea of once you get married.... you can't go out and have fun. "

That's not what I'm saying. But as people know, once you are married all social events tend to be joint events. I know that occamsrezr would have zero interest in a spa day/slumber party and once we get married and start having kids it's going to be really hard for me to be able to do something like that with my girlfriends. The bachelorette party gives me an excuse to do it without feeling any guilt about spending the cash

6/27/2010 9:34:34 AM

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"i hate this idea of once you get married.... you can't go out and have fun."

Realistically...you can't.

Let's face some facts here: there are very few girls who are OK with their guy going out and having fun without them, at least with any regularity. Sadly, these are also the very few girls who are any fun to have around when you go out.

Meanwhile, there are a lot of guys who want to go out with regularity. The math doesn't work out here. The overwhelming majority of us will end up with a girl (who may have many really great qualities) who will basically put an end to our going out and having fun.

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And I don't think dacates has gotten nearly enough shit for this idiotic idea.

6/27/2010 12:50:21 PM

The $$ spent on some of these bachelorette/bachelor "parties" (they're more like three-day vacations) blows my mind.

Even renting out a bar seems over the top.

Whatever happened to drinking beer and chillin. Then hitting up some seedy club to (do shots) and act a fool.

[Edited on June 27, 2010 at 2:46 PM. Reason : SHOTS!]


And I know that sometimes people are spread out and it makes sense to meet up in one city, but it's expensive to have to fly to Vegas or Miami just to get drunk for two days straight...especially if you've got a lot of friends and are in a lot weddings.

[Edited on June 27, 2010 at 2:56 PM. Reason : I'm just sayin.]

6/27/2010 2:43:00 PM

If I ever get married, I don't think I really want to have a debaucherous bachelor party. I don't really care for strip clubs to begin with, and I don't think that type of bachelor party is how I'd really want to go out and celebrate my upcoming marriage. I'm pretty far from a being a paragon of purity and strict morals, but I really don't think I'd care for that.

The flip side is that I wouldn't tolerate a wife who had a problem with me going out with the guys. For that matter, I'd have a problem with a fiancee who balked at the idea of me going out and tearing the town up, getting rip-roaring drunk and hitting up strip clubs with my friends.

6/27/2010 3:01:38 PM

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"Whatever happened to drinking beer and chillin."

How's that different from any other random night? I've been a groomsman twice and both bachelor parties were three-day vacations. One to Vegas and one to the beach. That's the way to do it.

6/27/2010 4:35:50 PM

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"Whatever happened to drinking beer and chillin. Then hitting up some seedy club to (do shots) and act a fool."

That's like a normal night. Bachelor parties are supposed to be a little special.

6/27/2010 6:30:55 PM

you are all fools. i just wanted the name of a place to go to. neither of us is into going out and getting smashed and doing stupid shit because we are adults. i've been to a strip club before, so has she, i dont really think we are missing anything. we are practically married already, so we have all the same friends. we want to be able to go out with all of them and have a fucking good time.

that being said, continue to flame, thanks for the little advice that was actually worth a shit.

and we're doing it on a sunday because my best man is in iraq and will be flying back that day.

7/23/2010 2:57:01 PM

Whatever floats your boat

All I know is that a bachelor party isn't really a bachelor party until someone's gotten their dick sucked or their pussy ate

7/23/2010 2:59:22 PM

the horse is high with this one

7/23/2010 3:22:01 PM

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"All I know is that a bachelor party isn't really a bachelor party until someone's gotten their dick sucked or their pussy ate"

This thread definitely deserves to be the The Lounge.

My fiancé's friend tried that combined bachelor/bachelorette party shit and I immediately shot it down. Some things in life are best enjoyed on your own. I like how all the womenz are like "oh, that doesn't sound like a bad idea" while all the men that have been to a true bachelor party sit back with their jaws shut thinking "There's no fucking way I would let my wife in on those shenanigans"

7/23/2010 4:55:10 PM

notice how the majority of women ITT are saying it's a good idea or don't have a problem with it.


Trust me, your friends would probably like it if they had a night with just you. I'm sure her friends feel the same also. They are also saying this behind your backs.

7/26/2010 10:30:21 PM

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"the horse is high with this one"

I LOL'd

7/27/2010 12:01:13 AM

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"I like how all the womenz are like "oh, that doesn't sound like a bad idea" "

Hey now, I said it was a stupid idea

7/27/2010 12:06:45 AM

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"we are practically married already, so we have all the same friends"

I thought the idea was stupid to begin with, but this bothers me. Why is it that people think once you're married you have all the same friends? Do you really not have any friends of your own? (I don't mean that in a bitchy way.. I am legitimately curious about this.)

7/27/2010 7:55:48 AM

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"thought the idea was stupid to begin with, but this bothers me. Why is it that people think once you're married you have all the same friends?"

perhaps if you tried reading what he wrote instead of making assumptions, it wouldn't bother you so much and you wouldn't have such a hard time understanding it?

no one said you HAVE to "have all the same friends"...my fiancée and i share a pretty large circle of friends, couples and singles both...i hang out with some by myself at times, and she does the same...we hang out as a group at times, too

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"Do you really not have any friends of your own?"

this is a stupid question, but i'm not surprised you jumped to this...unless you're dating or married to some psycho whose opinion you do not trust, he or she should at least LIKE all of your friends

does your fiancé have some friends you just cannot stand and, as such, you simply won't hang out around? is that what you mean by "friends of your own"?

see, i assume that what you're referring to is friends that he can spend time around without his fiancée/wife being there, too...but why can't those same people be mutual friends? i think it would seriously annoy me if my fiancée were all like "no, you cannot meet my friends, they're MY friends and you're not allowed to be around them!"

jeebus, there is so much stupid in this thread it's mind boggling

7/27/2010 8:31:33 AM

^ Way to jump to conclusions, per usual. I never said that non-mutual friends have to automatically not like your s.o. I just know that I have plenty of friends that my fiancé is not friends with, but doesn't mind being around them. Same for me with some of his friends. You don't have to be friends to occasionally spend time with someone (in this case, an s.o.'s friend).

And no, I wasn't referring to friends he can spend time with without his fiancée around or whatever. Maybe you should stop assuming?

Not to mention, I did read the thread, and I did read his response... doesn't mean I'm going to agree with him.

In short, stop jumping to conclusions. I'm sure you'll quote this sentence by sentence and have some idiotic response for everything, so I'm just going to see what this dude's opinion is on the friendship thing. I don't really care for yours, now or ever.

7/27/2010 8:42:57 AM

rar.

7/27/2010 8:43:47 AM

having a separate set of friends on purpose seems weird.
i mean i feel like its saying "These are MY friends, you can;t have them"

cody and i share the same group of friends.
he goes out with them separately as do i (girls and guys).



now there are a few friends of cody's that he works with that i dont know and some i go to school with that he doesnt know. but its not on purpose, and we both actually are trying to get the other to meet them!
if thats what your talking about then yeah-thatll happen.

im one of those people when i make a new friend i can't wait to introduce them to cody or for him to meet them

[Edited on July 27, 2010 at 8:46 AM. Reason : wow you guys are fast, but im reposting :p]

7/27/2010 8:45:41 AM

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"some idiotic response for everything"

like how how you have to question why someone doesn't agree with your asinine viewpoint that they have to have a separate pool of friends?

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"so I'm just going to see what this dude's opinion is on the friendship thing."

what friendship thing? you REALLY think he's going to come back here and say "i don't believe in having friends that aren't mutual"? whatever works for you is fine, but you really should just leave the retarded at home (or keep it confined to your special group of you-only friends that your fiancé isn't allowed to talk to or see)

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"I don't really care for yours, now or ever."

oh, you care...otherwise, you wouldn't respond...it takes zero effort to make you defensive...and, i suppose, if i had some of the retarded views you had, i'd be defensive, too

7/27/2010 8:47:50 AM

^2 The last part is what I'm referring to... For example, one of my best friends lives in Greenville so she has only met Eric once or twice (just because we aren't able to see each other often) but that doesn't mean I'm like "SHE'S MY FRIEND, YOU CAN'T HAVE HER"... He thinks she's awesome but he doesn't consider her a friend, just because they don't hang out much.

Now, for our group of friends, yes, of course we're all friends. I was only referring to friends that each person in a relationship has that the other person just doesn't know very well. To me, not all my friends are technically his friends as well because he barely knows them! How could they be friends??

But of course, this is tww and everything you say is taken completely out of context by a few people.


Another example: he has quite a few friends at work but I haven't spent enough time with them to consider them my friends as well, even though I do think they're all awesome.
[Edited on July 27, 2010 at 8:50 AM. Reason : .]

[Edited on July 27, 2010 at 8:53 AM. Reason : .]

7/27/2010 8:50:23 AM

^^YOUR IDEAS ARE DIFFERENT THAN MINE THEREFORE YOU ARE RETARDED

go troll somewhere useful

7/27/2010 8:51:55 AM

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"YOUR IDEAS ARE DIFFERENT THAN MINE THEREFORE YOU ARE RETARDED"

the idea that you MUST have a group of friends that are exclusive to you and not to be shared with your significant other is not just different, it IS retarded...perhaps i struck a nerve because you agree?

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"go troll somewhere useful"

is it really trolling when the thread has virtually nothing to do with the OP's first post? i'll stop calling out people are their dumb ideas when this thread gets back to the original topic, okay?

7/27/2010 8:55:15 AM

You are clearly desperate to get into an argument with any posting person on this board.

7/27/2010 8:56:50 AM

You are clearly contributing nothing of value to any thread on this board.

what's your point?

i can't imagine what kind of nutjob would want to be with someone who was so protective over her friendships that she had to manage different sets to make sure they're distinct and separate

"my" friends are only "mine" as long as it takes for me to introduce them to my fiancée...i do not have poor choice in friends, nor do i feel like i have to separate them (probably because i and my relationships are balanced without all the extra effort)

7/27/2010 9:01:12 AM

Now you're arguing with yourself...fascinating...quick, jump to some more conclusions and then add in more rebuttals. I'll be back later, I need to get to work and would very much like to see where you take this.

Thanks!

7/27/2010 9:02:44 AM

please...demonstrate where i'm arguing with myself...i'll wait for you to get to work

7/27/2010 9:03:43 AM