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10/6/2011 8:02:53 PM

applebees?

10/6/2011 9:01:18 PM

I can't believe the insane mindgames or whatever the hell you want to call it some of you guys are proposing with the whole check thing. If the check comes, offer to pay it, and whatever the dad says in response to that just do. Don't "insist," don't try to sneak something with the waiter beforehand... what the hell kind of immature one-upsmanship is that for a first meeting?

10/6/2011 11:50:27 PM

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"whatever the dad says in response to that just do. Don't "insist,""

This comes from nothing more than different interpretations of "insist".

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for real though, if i was out with a gf's parents, i offered to pay, and they let me, I'd be so surprised I wouldn't even care.

10/7/2011 12:39:45 AM

^^ They're only insane if you lack the intelligence to pull them off successfully.

10/7/2011 6:40:11 AM

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"Are you kidding me? Two couples, two bills. That should be the default. If the parents offer to pick up the whole bill, then accept. I would not offer to pay for the whole dinner. That just doesn't jive with the social dynamic that should exist between parents and daughter/boyfriend."

Who is this idiot?? Have fun knowing your future father-in-law thinks you're a douchebag.


Will just echo that you should be prepared to pay, offer to pay, possibly do a half-hearted 2nd attempt to pay if he declines your first attempt (depending on how insistent he is)....then just let him pay.

I don't think I've ever been able to pay for a dinner when going out with a significant other's parents...and I've tried hard.

10/7/2011 7:08:07 AM

Quote :

"I can't believe the insane mindgames or whatever the hell you want to call it some of you guys are proposing with the whole check thing. If the check comes, offer to pay it, and whatever the dad says in response to that just do. Don't "insist," don't try to sneak something with the waiter beforehand... what the hell kind of immature one-upsmanship is that for a first meeting?"

10/7/2011 7:13:10 AM

Quote :

"Are you kidding me? Two couples, two bills. That should be the default. If the parents offer to pick up the whole bill, then accept. I would not offer to pay for the whole dinner. That just doesn't jive with the social dynamic that should exist between parents and daughter/boyfriend."

I'm guessing you haven't done the whole first time meeting the parents eating dinner with them thing too often. I can't imagine your tactic would go over well with the average father. Hell, my father is as socially liberal as it gets and even he would be a bit wtf if my boyfriend did that.

[Edited on October 7, 2011 at 8:50 AM. Reason : a]

10/7/2011 8:50:08 AM

This is as easy as a pop-up in baseball.



The person who calls it first should get it.


If someone says "I got it", you're not going to trip him and snatch the ball out of his hand. You're a douchebag. Even if you're the senior.


If nobody claims it, and you let the ball hit the ground, you're all shitty players.

If you both call it at the same time, you always bow to the senior player.

[Edited on October 7, 2011 at 12:07 PM. Reason : .]

10/7/2011 12:06:12 PM

CFer has claim over RFer and LFer if he calls it no mater what the LFer or RFer calls.

10/7/2011 1:17:11 PM

You're not in the pro league yet, son.

10/7/2011 1:19:11 PM

Quote :

"Who is this idiot?? Have fun knowing your future father-in-law thinks you're a douchebag. Will just echo that you should be prepared to pay, offer to pay, possibly do a half-hearted 2nd attempt to pay if he declines your first attempt (depending on how insistent he is)....then just let him pay. I don't think I've ever been able to pay for a dinner when going out with a significant other's parents...and I've tried hard."

Quote :

"I'm guessing you haven't done the whole first time meeting the parents eating dinner with them thing too often. I can't imagine your tactic would go over well with the average father. Hell, my father is as socially liberal as it gets and even he would be a bit wtf if my boyfriend did that."

I'm not sure if I was unclear, misunderstood the OP, or you guys just suck, but I'm not getting why my statement was so controversial. Other people in the thread have said similar things and didn't get nearly the same response.

The parents are coming to visit. If the OP had invited the parents to dinner, then I would say he should absolutely offer to pay. That doesn't seem to be the case here. It wasn't Pikey's idea to meet the parents, because he's (at least according to his online persona) a spineless wimp and would have shit his pants before extending that invitation.

Offering to pay for the whole family sends a distinctly different message than offering to pay for yourself and your girlfriend. The goal in this meeting is not to demonstrate your ability or willingness to provide for the entire family, but rather for their daughter specifically. I fail to see how this is a douchebag move, though I'd love to be enlightened.

A much better way to offend the parents is to insist on paying and all this other bullshit being suggested. "Mind games," as someone else described it. Depending on the parents, offering to pay could be insulting.

10/7/2011 1:22:33 PM

Quote :

"You're not in the pro league yet, son."

I learned that in tee ball, son.

Quote :

"or you guys just suck"

This is normally the case.

But I feel it is an all or nothing circumstance here. The halfsies idea sounds like bullshit.




[Edited on October 7, 2011 at 1:29 PM. Reason : edit]

10/7/2011 1:26:37 PM

Why do you think it's bullshit? Because someone else in the thread said it was? Do you have any actual reason at all for believing that?

10/7/2011 1:30:46 PM

Pikey, you are still playing tee ball if you have to ask questions like these.
It will be painfully obvious to her parents that you lack social skills and any skills with women at all, so it really wont matter what you do.

If they have already met you as "a friend of their daughter," they are going to know you are a chump without the balls to ask her out in the first place. Her dad already thinks you are a pussy, i can guarantee that.

You need to go to a place where you know the menu somewhat so you can recommend something good for them. Be prepared to buy a bottle of wine and some apps too. I also hope that you can interact with a waiter/waitress like you have been out to eat before, because this will also show that you have/do not have social skills. Be prepared to pay for everything, let him pay if he offers. That is the easiest part of the whole thing.


and yes, you are indeed fucked.

10/7/2011 1:31:05 PM

Quote :

"I learned that in tee ball, son. "

Because you were a crappy LF, the coach said "always let the CF get it"

10/7/2011 1:33:02 PM

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"Other people in the thread have said similar things and didn't get nearly the same response."

I don't think anyone else has said that the checks should be completely separate.

10/7/2011 1:33:07 PM

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"Why do you think it's bullshit? Because someone else in the thread said it was? Do you have any actual reason at all for believing that?"

It just sounds... niggerish. Sorry for the un-pc verbage, but I can't think of a better way to put it in a single word.

10/7/2011 1:37:37 PM

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"It just sounds... niggerish. Sorry for the un-pc verbage, but I can't think of a better way to put it in a single word."

Hahaha. It is a troll thread! I knew it.

10/7/2011 1:39:16 PM

Wow.

10/7/2011 1:40:47 PM

It's not a troll thread. Stop overusing the word. The context was proper.

[Edited on October 7, 2011 at 1:47 PM. Reason : .]

10/7/2011 1:47:05 PM

You couldn't think of:

stingy
miserly
tight wad
cheap
cheapskate
niggardly

10/7/2011 1:47:28 PM

THIS
IS
SO
SILLY

10/7/2011 1:50:04 PM

^^ seriously. Pro-Tip for trolls, using niggardly allows for maximum trolling effectiveness while maintaining mildly plausible deniability.

Quote :

"It's not a troll thread. Stop overusing the word. The context was proper."

Niggardly, as you must have noted by now, is spelled with an "a".

[Edited on October 7, 2011 at 1:53 PM. Reason : .]

10/7/2011 1:51:57 PM

I would have said:



Insulting,
putting up an invisible fence,
isolationist
setting up unwarranted fences on family property

10/7/2011 1:52:30 PM

So everyone knew exactly what I meant...?

10/7/2011 1:55:11 PM

yeah

10/7/2011 1:57:29 PM

niggardly would have been if you ordered nothing and begged for food off the father's plate "because it looks just so damn good" and when he says "No", you grab some fries or chicken wings off his plate anyway.

10/7/2011 2:00:18 PM

This is the Internet. Everyone knows that word, and knows that it's only used to help a drowning troll.

10/7/2011 2:10:06 PM

Quote :

"This is the Internet. Everyone knows that word, and knows that it's only used to help a drowning troll. "

Troll is a word everyone knows. It's only used to help a troll troll a user who is not a troll.

10/7/2011 2:31:53 PM

Only a troll accuses another user of trying to troll a non-troll who is really a troll.

[Edited on October 7, 2011 at 2:32 PM. Reason : /]

10/7/2011 2:32:26 PM

Except he didn't use the word niggardly

10/7/2011 2:32:43 PM

only because he couldn't think of the word niggardly off the top of his head, so he had to choose the next best word.

10/7/2011 2:33:25 PM

you're aware that they are entirely different words with entirely different meanings correct?

oh, of course you aren't.

10/7/2011 3:05:00 PM

Can we get back to the point of how big of a sandy gaping pussy Pikey is? Her dad is going to hate you and this thread proves why

10/7/2011 3:06:04 PM

^,^^ this is the lounge, stop trolling.

10/7/2011 3:07:27 PM

^quit being a dumbass

Pikey, do you plan on telling him that you plan on cheating at a womens sport (softball)? That will probably get you tons of respect.

[Edited on October 7, 2011 at 3:16 PM. Reason : \/ and?]

10/7/2011 3:10:48 PM

specialkay, this is your second warning.

10/7/2011 3:12:13 PM

This is either a very sad thread, or (more likely) all part of Pikey's elaborate scheme to dupe us into believing this relationship.

A very in-depth pranking, indeed.

10/7/2011 6:43:26 PM

take those bitches on a cruise, man. just try to beat them to the punch before they say "you're such a good friend to our daughter"

10/7/2011 7:24:23 PM

^^^ lol

probably shouldn't take yourself so seriously, Dr. Pizza

nobody else does

[Edited on October 10, 2011 at 11:36 AM. Reason : +1 vote for in depth pranking]

[Edited on October 10, 2011 at 11:41 AM. Reason : bitches love cruises]

10/10/2011 11:36:28 AM

You are all over thinking this. The fact that this thread even made it to two pages is an embarrassment.

10/10/2011 12:16:26 PM

[Edited on October 10, 2011 at 3:01 PM. Reason : oh he dint die....praise the lord!]

10/10/2011 2:33:02 PM

Quote :

"Her parents are coming to visit in two weeks"

10/10/2011 2:52:04 PM

good luck

10/10/2011 3:57:32 PM

How did it go?

10/23/2011 5:58:45 PM

Quote :

"NIGGERISH"

[Edited on October 23, 2011 at 6:19 PM. Reason : .]

10/23/2011 6:18:13 PM

Wait, let me go get my popcorn...

10/23/2011 6:39:07 PM

Is she your everything? Did you fuck up said dinner yet? Does the father not respect you?

10/23/2011 10:42:11 PM

Quote :

"This is as easy as a pop-up in baseball. The person who calls it first should get it. If someone says "I got it", you're not going to trip him and snatch the ball out of his hand. You're a douchebag. Even if you're the senior. If nobody claims it, and you let the ball hit the ground, you're all shitty players. If you both call it at the same time, you always bow to the senior player."

Quality analogy.

10/23/2011 10:47:33 PM