7/1/2012 12:09:37 AM

Get her on the phone and ask her if there's someone else. Tell her that you're a man and you can take the truth. When she spills the beans, then you'll have saved yourself a plane ticket.

You can get your closure face to face, or you can grow a pair and ask the hard questions over the phone. If you can seem mature and grown-up about it, maybe she won't be so worried about hurting your feelings or letting you down easy.

If she still denies that there's another, then take the trip out there.

7/1/2012 12:14:20 AM

or you can go anyway and screw her best friend.

7/1/2012 12:16:15 AM

Just go to Texas for the hell of it. You have free time, and it cloud be fun.

Or just go to Vegas, if you've never been. Vegas is awesome.

Or, as grumpygop says, Vegas is the happiest place on earth.

7/1/2012 12:16:29 AM

Quote :

"Move on. Chicks love it when you move on."

If you never talk to her again, and act like it meant nothing to you, she will never forget you.

7/1/2012 12:16:45 AM

Quote :

"Just go to Texas for the hell of it. You have free time, and it cloud be fun."

Who the fuck goes to Texas for fun

^ so fucking true

[Edited on July 1, 2012 at 12:18 AM. Reason : ]

7/1/2012 12:17:57 AM

In my experience, the moment you buy the plane ticket to visit said women .... you are doomed.

7/1/2012 12:23:46 AM

1. She found another guy.
2. She doesn't want you to know about the other guy.
3. She doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
4. She doesn't want you to go see her because it could cause a lot of drama that she would rather not deal with.
5. She doesn't want you to see her because she doesn't want you to spend all this money and waste all this time for you to travel all the way the fuck over there.... just so she can break up with you to your face.


6. Get a clue.

[Edited on July 1, 2012 at 12:24 AM. Reason : .]

7/1/2012 12:23:56 AM

Quote :

"Who the fuck goes to Texas for fun"

I've always heard Austin is badass.

7/1/2012 12:24:17 AM

Ok, I'll give you Austin

7/1/2012 12:24:54 AM

You're the world's biggest pussy if you go to see her, mane. And she'll sense it. It's unattractive. You need to move on.

7/1/2012 12:25:16 AM

But if he goes to Texas and doesnt see her while he is there, then it is a move

7/1/2012 12:31:19 AM

It's kind of hard to enjoy traveling when these kinds of things are currently on the mind.

/emo

7/1/2012 12:36:34 AM

The only way this is acceptable is if you hitchhike the entire way and meet varied and interesting characters from our great nation. Then, right as you were going to ring her doorbell, you have a revelation that you learned something all deep and shit about yourself on this long journey, and turn the fuck around and hitchhike back. But this time, you do so with sloots.

7/1/2012 4:55:48 AM

I would say yes, but at the same time no. Chances are it'll end badly and you'll hate that you wasted the time and money on the girl. At the same time the whole what if question will eat at you and there's a good chance it'll screw up your next couple of relationships without you realizing it. Either way good luck and hope you get one good fuck out of it if it doesn't work out for you.

7/1/2012 5:36:09 AM

Since the majority of posters siad no, homeskillet will do it and there will be epic heartbreak for him.

7/1/2012 6:47:15 AM

Quote :

"so you're interested in meeting your replacement?"

Quote :

"Move on. Good chance you just get hurt worse. "

Quote :

"Your friends have suggested you waste money over this chick who is obviously fucking someone else?"

Quote :

"you're better off returning the ticket and spending that money towards something that makes you feel better. whatever that may be. she's totally fucking someone else"

Quote :

"Save your money."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mbaztPIIfuw

7/1/2012 7:03:08 AM

Quote :

"The only way this is acceptable is if you hitchhike the entire way and meet varied and interesting characters from our great nation. Then, right as you were going to ring her doorbell, you have a revelation that you learned something all deep and shit about yourself on this long journey, and turn the fuck around and hitchhike back. But this time, you do so with sloots. "

This is pretty good too... How have a missed out on GenghisJohn

7/1/2012 7:05:53 AM

Good post. Will read again...

7/1/2012 7:06:32 AM

you never answered why your unemployed ass didn't move to Texas

7/1/2012 7:13:13 AM

Try to refund the plane ticket.

Take the saved money and:

1. Buy new clothes that fit and are in style.
2. Sign up for a gym and learn to lift correctly. Strength train 2-4x a week.
3. Get your diet in order. High protein, high fat, low carb.
4. Buy and read an assortment of books that will force you to question your current world view.
5. 2 nights a week make a commitment to go out and meet people. Chat with at least 5 strangers male or female. This isn't pick up chicks time, it's meeting new people to be social and cavalier.
6. Get at least ~45hours of sleep a week.

Do that for 3-6months and you will have met 3 new girls to replace her.

7/1/2012 7:25:46 AM

^This is excellent advice.

7/1/2012 7:27:49 AM

I'm just shocked that anyone could tolerate you for 3.5 years.

7/1/2012 7:34:40 AM

I can understand wanting to settle it face to face when you've been together for 3.5 years. It's a shitty way to end things. She really owes you and the relationship a face to face discussion even if it is just to break up. However, if she thought that it was ok to end such a long relationship over the phone, do you really want to be with her? It's just not. . .honorable, if such a word can ever apply to a female. So yeah, go see her face to face if you really require closure, but I wouldn't want or expect to save the relationship.

7/1/2012 9:01:54 AM

Quote :

"It's just not. . .honorable, if such a word can ever apply to a female."

It can't.

She's fucking someone else, probably has been for at least 3 or 4 months now. Just move on.

7/1/2012 9:19:52 AM

Or she's a drama llama, but you should know this if you've been together for so long.

7/1/2012 9:23:06 AM

A relationship that has never been anything other than a LDR was never a relationship. You had a fuckbuddy for 3.5 years. Now she has found someone else to fulfill that role. If this girl meant that much to you, you would have moved there when you got laid off even if you had little money (after all you could have lived with her and found a job there). I don't care what comes up, a couple that loves each other finds the time to see each other without waiting 5 months to do so. She had things to do and you having no job are bullshit. She had at least 3 days she could get together in that time and so did you. You have the money for a plane ticket NOW but didn't use it during the last 5 months? Hell, if she wanted to see you but was truly too busy to leave she would have bought you the ticket.

Seriously man, sit down and think about this. Nothing that you have described so far adds up to a true relationship between two people that love each other. Get drunk, get laid, and move on.

7/1/2012 9:43:13 AM

Quote :

"She had a couple other things that prevented her from coming over my way, too."

like some local d!ck

Reminds me of.


[Edited on July 1, 2012 at 10:03 AM. Reason : .]

7/1/2012 9:59:38 AM

http://longdistanceplaylist.tumblr.com/

7/1/2012 10:03:50 AM

I would think you were obsessed, crazy, and coming to kidnap and/or murder me. Plus it makes you seem clingy and emotionally unstable.

Flying down there to surprise her is a very bad idea.

7/1/2012 11:59:48 AM

She wants to fuck other people.
You should go do the same. Get all the pussy you can.... then again, maybe you already did.

7/1/2012 12:03:38 PM

I also think it's a bad idea, and I have been on both sides too.

7/1/2012 12:20:22 PM

DAMN, YOU STUPID!

7/1/2012 12:40:09 PM

Quote :

"You have the money for a plane ticket NOW but didn't use it during the last 5 months? Hell, if she wanted to see you but was truly too busy to leave she would have bought you the ticket. "

This makes sense

7/1/2012 12:40:13 PM

Thank you JaZon
the lols were appreciated

7/1/2012 1:26:39 PM

7/1/2012 1:36:22 PM

Quote :

"that kind of stuff works in the movies but ....... it seems a bit extreme"

Quote :

"she's totally fucking somebody else"

this has clinger written all over it. even if you do save it for a bit, it won't last. long distance relationships are tough in the first place but how are you going to convince a girl with doubts now to just stick it out for another 3 years. Sounds like you should just move to where she is if you care that much.

7/1/2012 2:31:53 PM

^ HELL FUCK NO. Dude just got dumped. He needs to get local pussy just like she's gettin local dick.

7/1/2012 4:19:27 PM

they way I see it you have 3 possible outcomes:

1. If she loves you and has really been faithful, there is no way you showing up at her door isn't going to change her mind/ you will at least stay good friends and have nice goodbye sex (and potential for getting back together when your situations change)

or If she seems cold and distant, one of the following:

2. She is in hardcore bitch mode on you bc she has listened to 'single ladies' too many times and wants a big ring on her finger or gtfo and thinks she can find a sugar daddy that looks like Brad Pitt, is faithful, and likes to knit or some shit

3. she found a new person.

if it ends up being 2 or 3 I think you should have a back up plan to sort of get some revenge.

7/2/2012 9:31:36 AM

Quote :

"2. She is in hardcore bitch mode on you bc she has listened to 'single ladies' too many times and wants a big ring on her finger or gtfo"

Hahahahaha

7/2/2012 9:58:54 AM

Some other dudes dick, in her ____________.

Sorry brah.

7/2/2012 10:01:52 AM

Quote :

"I would think you were obsessed, crazy, and coming to kidnap and/or murder me. Plus it makes you seem clingy and emotionally unstable. Flying down there to surprise her is a very bad idea."

That view is complete bullshit. They've been together for years and there is no closure for pulling that kind of crap over the phone. And some girls wonder why chivalry is dead...fucking email and FB has changed people's perception so that now if you do the slightest REAL ACTION to try to save/strengthen a relationship you're being a psycho

7/2/2012 10:12:05 AM

i am going to ditto these two as well.

Quote :

"Why would you think this is a stupid thing to do? If you've been with someone for several years, damn right your relationship is worth a plane ticket and a couple days off. Even if you just stay dumped, at least you'll have some closure."

Quote :

"Either way, be prepared to be hurt."

good luck.

7/2/2012 10:18:35 AM

I agree that it was a bitch thing to do breaking up with you over the phone. But unless you're willing to move out there to be with her, I don't see what good going down there is going to do. What are you hoping to do? Talk her into being in a LTR for another 3 years? Don't think so.

But on the other hand, go ahead and go down there and confront her if only because we all want to know what happened

[Edited on July 2, 2012 at 11:16 AM. Reason : .]

7/2/2012 11:15:45 AM

Well, you're plenty fucking stupid, I'll give you that.

7/2/2012 11:18:35 AM

Why didnt you move to Texas when you didn't have a job? Ya fucked up. Also your plan is dumb and a waste of €£¥

7/2/2012 11:27:53 AM

She's probably tired of you dragging your feet and wants to move on and doesn't want to be tied down to a LDR that has no hope.

If you do want to work it out I suggest going out for a visit and figuring out if this is what you both want. Suggest that you make a plan for moving out there within the next four months. Since you're jobless and you love her and want a life with her in it then it seems like a no brainer. I wouldn't offer to move there right away, I think 4 months is a good time frame if it's something you both want/ But talk it over and figure it out together.

7/2/2012 11:36:37 AM

A lot of people here missing the point: long-term long distance relationships are pretty fucking dumb. You can hardly call it "being together". It's more like a glorified pen pal that you have sex with every few months.

I've heard the justifications, believe me. "Oh, we're perfect for each other. She/he is the one." There is no such thing as the one. There are probably fifty thousand people out there, for any one of us, that would be suitable or even excellent partners.

Remaining in a long distance relationship for years and years at a time is easier than breaking up when you've established a bond with the person. You don't want to say good bye, so you don't. However, by having a LDR and continuing it, both parties are cheating themselves. You prevent yourself from growing as a person because you're attached to the idea of this other person who's a thousand miles away. You pass up normal, healthy, rewarding relationships and waste years of your life pining for this person, and most of the time, the relationship doesn't work out anyway.

7/2/2012 11:38:27 AM

Quote :

"Yea I've been in this situation and a reverse situation. Move on. Good chance you just get hurt worse. "

7/2/2012 11:39:51 AM

Post some pics of long distance girlfriend. Then we'll decide for sure.

7/2/2012 11:42:59 AM