ahhh I see


I'm super paranoid about getting pregnant... mainly because they warn you like crazy about this medicine I'm taking (supposedly messes up birth control and can cause birth defects). So I'm going to have to plan it out in detail when that time comes... I want to be off the meds for at least a month

6/9/2011 9:49:02 PM

neither deemarie nor myself want kids. ever.

all the guys at work tell me that she and/or myself will change our minds. is this true?

we both hate children. i mean we really hate those fuckers.

6/9/2011 9:51:15 PM

I, too, really fucking hate kids. But I think I would like my own little mini me, because I'm awesome.

6/9/2011 9:52:45 PM

Some people change their minds. Some people don't. I'd say don't do anything irreversible because you never know what will happen in the future. IE one of you may die in an accident and the survivor remarries someone who hardcore wants kids.

6/9/2011 9:54:22 PM

Definitely a good reason to plan it out, Sam!

I mean it's possible to change your mind...but I think you know whether you do or not. And I think not wanting kids is a.o.k

6/9/2011 9:56:16 PM

nah, i'm gonna get a vasectomy as soon as i find a doctor who'll do it

[Edited on June 9, 2011 at 9:58 PM. Reason : boats > offspring]

6/9/2011 9:57:35 PM

Yeah... I researched it and they don't think it actually does increase the risks but at the same time, I see people quite frequently now who fell into that low chance so I know it's possible :\



As for the changing of the minds... idk, I guess you could.



My aunt and uncle on my mom's side don't have any youngins. They're the only ones (on BOTH sides) that aren't divorced.

6/9/2011 9:58:39 PM

I only say it because my husband's cousin married a woman who had her tubes tied when she was younger. He really wanted one kid of his own and they spent a lot of money trying to reverse it/get preggers without success.

A Vasectomy is at least easier to reverse and you can always but your boys on ice just in case.

6/9/2011 10:00:13 PM

Quote :

"neither deemarie nor myself want kids. ever. all the guys at work tell me that she and/or myself will change our minds. is this true? we both hate children. i mean we really hate those fuckers."

I have quite a few married friends who don't want children. I don't think there is anything wrong with it - it your life.

And I think that once you reach a certain age (like adulthood) you kind of know what you want to do when it comes to having kids.

6/9/2011 10:00:14 PM

i always said if we did change our minds we'd just adopt

i mean, i'm already helping to feed a bunch of crotchfruit every time i pay my taxes. that's enough for me.

[Edited on June 9, 2011 at 10:03 PM. Reason : might as well have someone i can tell to cut my grass]

6/9/2011 10:02:55 PM

That's how my married friends are - either adoption or if they get pregnant then it was meant to be.

6/9/2011 10:05:51 PM

I've been thinking about two things recently

1. Being a surrogate for my friend who is having a lot of trouble getting pregnant
2. Adopting a special needs child

6/9/2011 10:10:24 PM

so that you can jam the kid into daycare for 45 hours a week?

jokes.

6/9/2011 10:12:20 PM

I used to want children of my own until I started working in a preschool.

6/9/2011 10:12:49 PM

No, so I can save the products of conception from your kind

6/9/2011 10:12:54 PM

we like to go out to eat with one of my coworkers and his wife and 2 kids every now and then

just to remind us

and those kids are actually pretty well-behaved

6/9/2011 10:14:52 PM

Maybe I exercised a little too hard. Heart rate is still kind of high... a fucking hour later. ~110.

6/9/2011 10:18:53 PM

Quote :

"Adopting a special needs child"

Talk to some special needs parents first. Or better yet, foster parent a special needs child with the option to adopt.

6/9/2011 10:19:06 PM

yeah I think before making that step I would definitely get way involved in some type of support group or maybe a Big Brothers Big Sisters type of deal


I also plan on adopting a black lab mix

6/9/2011 10:19:56 PM

no no - let her just adopt one - it will work out well.

6/9/2011 10:20:36 PM

^^ wasn't sure where you were going with the black lol

[Edited on June 9, 2011 at 10:21 PM. Reason : ]

6/9/2011 10:20:49 PM

why not just adopt a retarded dog?

[Edited on June 9, 2011 at 10:21 PM. Reason : 2 birds with one tard]

6/9/2011 10:20:49 PM

lol

i pictured a black lab human

as a disability.

treehree

6/9/2011 10:21:03 PM

I like how you talk about adopting special needs kids and black labs at the same time

6/9/2011 10:21:24 PM

GGMon, seeing as I plan on working in the pediatrics field as well, I assure you I'll be seeing plenty of special needs children and will learn what it takes to raise them right. And while I have a job, too! Imagine that.



I said the black lab mix thing because they're the least adopted type of dog in shelters because there's so many of them

As for the special needs child, they get put up for adoption as well, and I'm sure get adopted as a lesser rate... They need the lovin' too!

[Edited on June 9, 2011 at 10:24 PM. Reason : .]

6/9/2011 10:23:32 PM

I help volunteer with special needs adults from time to time to try and get out of hell. I can say that a special needs individual isn't an 18 years and done commitment, it's a for life one. Then a lot of them live in special care provider homes. Like other users said, do some research. Again for me, working with special needs individuals is like watching someone elses kids, it's not bad for a little while but you wouldn't want to do it full time. Also, the hardest part for me at first was stopping using the word retarded in everyday talk, man, I loved using that word. Now I actively think about it.

6/9/2011 10:25:48 PM

Quote :

"seeing as I plan on working in the pediatrics field as well"

Hit me up when ya make it. Also let me know when you find a man to marry ya. Or are ya just gonna get a sperm donor?

I'M EVERY WOMAN!!

[Edited on June 9, 2011 at 10:27 PM. Reason : d]

6/9/2011 10:26:13 PM

I'll be starting by October, so I'll be sure to send you a PM

^2 Oh, I realize that. Even for the "higher functioning" individuals you're less likely to see them off to live in their own apartment. Maybe an assisted living program, but rarely on their own... But don't worry, I definitely realize it would be a big decision. Hell, even being a surrogate would be a big decision. And it's not just my decision - gotta consider Eric's feelings as well.

[Edited on June 9, 2011 at 10:28 PM. Reason : .]

6/9/2011 10:27:01 PM

PM me when ya finish.

6/9/2011 10:28:11 PM

I'll be graduating on May 7, 2012, and will be starting my job probably by July (since I'll be getting married and moving).


Want me to send you a picture of me beaming from ear to ear with a ___ Pediatric Genetics letterhead? (I can keep you updated on where I get hired. Shooting for somewhere in NC or TN.)


No need to hate.

[Edited on June 9, 2011 at 10:30 PM. Reason : .]

6/9/2011 10:30:19 PM

haaaaaaaaay im in tn

6/9/2011 10:31:34 PM

^ You're in Knoxville, right?


I'm reallyyyyy considering Vanderbilt, and possibly Univ of TN

6/9/2011 10:32:30 PM

If Sam ends up being just a quarter as knowledgeable as our genetic counselor, she'll be better positioned and more "in the know" about what it takes to raise a special needs child and all of the long term implications/effects of the child's particular problems than most people.

6/9/2011 10:32:53 PM

meh, i used to be, now im an on the tn/va border. i do love uni of tn though

6/9/2011 10:33:14 PM

thanks, BB

6/9/2011 10:33:37 PM

Quote :

"even being a surrogate would be a big decision"

Do you base all your life decisions on plots from movies shown on lifetime?

I'll leave you alone now - all the best on your future projects. Hope your life of adopting a special needs while being a surrogate, working 45 hours a week and still keeping your husband happy works well for you.

[Edited on June 9, 2011 at 10:34 PM. Reason : ing]

6/9/2011 10:33:41 PM

Don't forget the pack of black labs too

6/9/2011 10:34:59 PM

lollercoaster at the last dig


don't be jealous that





I can't get over the "keeping your husband happy" bit... as if I have to feed him, water him, and play with him.. then rub his tummy and give him a treat

[Edited on June 9, 2011 at 10:36 PM. Reason : .]

6/9/2011 10:35:25 PM

I wanna be a surrogate so bad. I tell my gay friends to holler when t hey're ready. I'm totally serious. I'd do it for a friend in a heartbeat.

Also why does my dog know when I want to stand up to grab something? She always stretches out and lays her head on my leg so I can't move

6/9/2011 10:54:00 PM

signed up to help with the disaster relief

6/9/2011 10:55:59 PM

Ugh. I wish that I'd been allowed to go into labor with my first kid so that I'd know for sure the difference between real and false labor. None of this "you'll know" BS.

6/9/2011 10:58:40 PM

Our puppy is damn good at being cute and pathetic. Its storming hard outside and she's curled up on the couch next to me, burrowing into me to hide from the storm

6/9/2011 11:22:45 PM

When shit kind of sucks and makes you angry and you want some music: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ggaD0q4wso

6/9/2011 11:37:47 PM

Dear brain,


Please to stop running wild and stop being paranoid. It does no one any good.


Love,
Lindsey

6/9/2011 11:41:43 PM

^ http://content.ytmnd.com/content/9/6/f/96f1eab354e4fd6616ccd04af3d9dafa.jpg

It's the american way...

(speaking from experience)

6/9/2011 11:45:50 PM

Drugs are bad, mmmmmk?

6/9/2011 11:48:14 PM

if i had a kid, I'd read this

6/9/2011 11:49:11 PM

Not when they're prescription!

Surely, everything is just fine then!

Better than panic attacks and having fits of rage that end in you injuring something.

6/9/2011 11:49:37 PM

^^a friend was talking about that the other day, sounds funny

6/10/2011 1:26:18 AM

I have got to stop staying up until 2am and getting up for work at 6:45

One more day before the weekend!

6/10/2011 1:34:31 AM