i forgot to go pick up my girlfriend's Rx last night because of call of duty.

WAS

NOT

PLEASED

11/16/2011 11:27:18 AM

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"my peroid is late and my husband doesn't want kids. i skipped my bc pills cause i desperately want a babby"

11/16/2011 11:30:33 AM

pulling the goalie? so not cool

11/16/2011 11:38:40 AM

Crazy town.

11/16/2011 11:39:32 AM

That marriage is going places.

11/16/2011 11:41:20 AM

Why do people who don't want kids marry people who want kids? I know they probably think they will convince their partner to agree, or convince themselves that they are OK not getting what they want. But it just leads to heartache or situations like that, which are completely despicable.

[Edited on November 16, 2011 at 11:43 AM. Reason : need a don't in there somewhere]

11/16/2011 11:42:25 AM

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"i forgot to go pick up my girlfriend's Rx last night because of call of duty. WAS NOT PLEASED"

if it was the bc rx, then you should be mad at yourself too

11/16/2011 11:43:17 AM

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"Why do people who want kids marry people who want kids? "

this reminds me of my sister-in-law and her husband. She desperately wanted kids when they first got married and he was hellbent on never having kids (had a pretty fucked up childhood). She's calmed down a lot on wanting kids (I think working at a gym that caters to toddlers and babies has helped) and now he is even coming around to the idea of one day having a kid.

[Edited on November 16, 2011 at 11:45 AM. Reason : f]

11/16/2011 11:43:50 AM

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"Why do people who want kids marry people who want kids?"

Because they both want kids

Seriously though, I know a girl who wants kids but her husband doesn't. She just assumed that he would change his mind after awhile but he hasn't and now they fight about it all the time.

11/16/2011 11:44:02 AM

/troll

[Edited on November 16, 2011 at 11:47 AM. Reason : \/ with a poast like eggy's, I can't help but delete mine. She is dat awesome.]

11/16/2011 11:44:57 AM

I really hope it was a fake confession. I would hope this woman can communicate better with her husband and confess it to him instead of to us. If she really is pregnant, I hope he can forgive her for her scheming ways and be able to trust her in the future.

Whoever you are, please talk to him ASAP and try to work things out with honesty and love.

11/16/2011 11:46:07 AM

My cousin doesn't want kids and is marrying a guy who does. Makes me really sad to think about how that will turn out.

I hope it was fake too, but I don't doubt that happens all the time. That, or a relationship starts to turn south, or the girl is afraid the guy will leave her, or she just wants to put pressure on him to get married sooner, and has an "oops." I couldn't imagine doing that and living with yourself.

11/16/2011 11:47:41 AM

the real question is

how is babby formed?

11/16/2011 11:47:58 AM

I don't understand that at all either.

Hell, it floors me how little people talk about married life logistics before getting married. # of kids, if someone will stay at home, or both be working, religious issues, financial issues, etc.

Most people seem to put that shit off till they have to deal with it and act surprised when there's friction.

These (and others) were all things I brought up way before I even proposed.


I knew that before we got married, that since my wife was going to be in med school and then residency, that she wasn't going to be able to contribute much to family income. This also meant that I might have to quit a job that I love, and possibly switch careers due to having to move for said career. It's looking like we'll have to move out of the Triangle in the next year, and while it sucks to possibly leave an employer i've been with for more than 13 years, I'm totally fine with the uncertainty because I knew it might come to this 7 years ago.

[Edited on November 16, 2011 at 11:55 AM. Reason : .]

11/16/2011 11:50:37 AM

who'd have thought the dames of tww got more uppity over a girl pulling the goalie than a guy about to step out on his wife

11/16/2011 11:50:55 AM

I know a dude whose bitch got him drunk, had unprotected sex with him, and impregnated herself just to get him to marry her.



It is a sad world we live in. Thankfully, the dude is sticking to his guns and not marrying her.

[Edited on November 16, 2011 at 11:51 AM. Reason : yep]

11/16/2011 11:51:00 AM

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"I don't understand that at all either. Hell, it floors me how little people talk about married life logistics before getting married. # of kids, if someone will stay at home, or both be working, religious issues, financial issues, etc. Most people seem to put that shit off till they have to deal with it and act surprised when there's friction. These (and others) were all things I brought up way before I even proposed."

+1

11/16/2011 11:52:30 AM

sadly, he'll still be on the hook for child support.

Had the reverse occurred, and he got her drunk, by law that would be rape, since in NC an intoxicated woman cannot legally consent to sex.

11/16/2011 11:53:11 AM

^Yep. It's a sad world we live in, bro. Double standards.

11/16/2011 11:53:43 AM

I don't think it's considered rape though if you say you're going to pull out but don't.

11/16/2011 11:54:32 AM

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"who'd have thought the dames of tww got more uppity over a girl pulling the goalie than a guy about to step out on his wife"

If a guy cheats on his wife, it's fucked up, but it's just him potentially ruining his own marriage, or the trust therein. When a woman gets pregnant on purpose, she's doing that and getting a child involved in the middle of it all, which is far worse.

11/16/2011 11:55:25 AM

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"my peroid is late and my husband doesn't want kids. i skipped my bc pills cause i desperately want a babby"

OMG!!!

11/16/2011 11:55:57 AM

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"Hell, it floors me how little people talk about married life logistics before getting married. # of kids, if someone will stay at home, or both be working, religious issues, financial issues, etc."

agreed. my fiancee and i talked about all of this when we decided to move in together (we were just dating at the time). since we knew eventually our plan was to get married, figuring it all out in the beginning saved a lot of hassle. we still keep all our finances separate (including insurance) and i wonder if we'll try to combine stuff once we are married. we live with the philosophy of "what is mine is yours and my money is your money." it's worked out for us so far so we'll see.

but definitely the kids thing - we talked about how many we would like to have, what the plan is in terms of if i would stay home or keep working, etc etc.

11/16/2011 11:56:19 AM

looks like you all took care of it for me but I just wanted to add:

No kid wants a father who never ever wanted to be a dad in the first place.

11/16/2011 12:05:32 PM

^^Unless one of you has phenomenally better insurance over the other, I'd keep them separate. Family plans are $texas for health insurance.



[Edited on November 16, 2011 at 12:06 PM. Reason : s]

11/16/2011 12:05:56 PM

This thread is full of cray cray today. Yeah, there are certain things that you have to be on the same page about way in advance if you want your marriage to last.

Kids are a non-negotiable. Children should not be a compromise.

It also helps to be on the same page about where you want to live, your approach to work/career/retirement, how you want to take care of your aging parents, spending habits, etc.

Basically, family and money/career/spending are the biggest things that you should be on the same page about in a marriage, IMO. Obviously, life throws curveballs. You may find out that you're infertile. You may lose your job. Your spouse could be sterile. But at least if you have the same viewpoint/approach, then it's easier to understand one another and work together AS PARTNERS toward a future that you both want.

If you don't want to grow in the same direction with your partner, you're probably with the wrong person.

11/16/2011 12:08:48 PM

^ wise words

11/16/2011 12:20:08 PM

^^ and that's why i'n not with my ex... too many things we didn't agree on and it was best not to be in the relationship.

i'm not the most mature person in the world, but at least i could figure that out.

11/16/2011 12:23:17 PM

Snaps to BobbyD, egy, Skwinkle, and i<3k


Wise words, indeed.


And this:

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"I don't understand that at all either. Hell, it floors me how little people talk about married life logistics before getting married. # of kids, if someone will stay at home, or both be working, religious issues, financial issues, etc. Most people seem to put that shit off till they have to deal with it and act surprised when there's friction. These (and others) were all things I brought up way before I even proposed."

Is so true. Especially the "who will stay at home or will both be working" - I can see that causing major problems if it was never discussed. Eric knows I will never be a SAHM so we have had that issue down pat since the first year of dating

11/16/2011 12:25:55 PM

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"^^Unless one of you has phenomenally better insurance over the other, I'd keep them separate. Family plans are $texas for health insurance."

yeah that's the thing - he gets his insurance for free through his company and my insurance is a great price if i'm the only one on it. even though both our companies will allow domestic partnerships in terms of insurance, it's actually better for us to keep it separate. i don't mind paying for mine because i know i am getting great health care and his, well his is free when we have kids, we'll probably put them on my insurance but that's something we don't need to worry about right now.



[Edited on November 16, 2011 at 1:49 PM. Reason : plus with my insurance i get discount cards for my drugs. yay drug company clients!]

11/16/2011 1:48:32 PM

Wow TWW, how morally bankrupt are some of you?!


Seriously...I wanna know...

11/16/2011 2:36:38 PM

No one confesses to me anymore. So sad

11/16/2011 2:37:19 PM

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"i'm terrified that i'm going to be like everyone else and get married way too soon. "

11/16/2011 3:47:53 PM

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"We just put my son on a medication used to treat Tourette's. "

11/16/2011 4:36:02 PM

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"I finally got to the point where I realized blowing my brains out isnt the answer. but my life being a living hell isnt that great either. somehow I have to figure out what path to take, one that is good and just, without the old life, my old ways and getting pulled back into it. sometimes i just dont know what to do, got nowhere to turn with these things. cant let them out though. sometimes, in broad daylight, I see things in my head that make me wish i wasnt alive. but thats the nature of this and living with it has got to be better than the alternative. lord I hope so. if there is a god, there must be, otherwise I would not still be here, please, take this pain from my head and my heart, let it be released like a bird in flight. allow me to find a small measure of peace in a world full of hurt. let me be the man I once was, not this lost soul, aimlessly drifting about. I dont want money, power, a girl, a new car, big house- I've had all of this from the pursuit of evil things. those things, they are always there, fresh in my mind, burnt in place. "

I hope you find what you are looking for!

11/16/2011 6:34:39 PM

Whoever you are you'll be in my prayers. Hope everything works out. If you need to vent you can always pm

11/16/2011 6:39:12 PM

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"the whole goldengirl vs divababy thing is such bullshit IMO divababy is one of the nicest people on tww and goldengirl is little more than a two faced e-bully who will personally attack you then turn around and act like one of the nicest people on tww "TWW hospitality crew" ??? yeah right... when new users read the hateful things that she posts, they form a negative opinion of her before she even has the chance to welcome them to the site "

11/16/2011 7:05:36 PM

^^ I dont know, GoldenGirl seems really nice to me

11/16/2011 7:34:02 PM

haha really?

jeez dude divababy is fucking mean as shit on here.

11/17/2011 1:02:11 AM

haha no comment. and I was only mean to one person and one person only and only on two occasions. but over it lol.

11/17/2011 1:04:54 AM

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"my peroid is late and my husband doesn't want kids. i skipped my bc pills cause i desperately want a babby""

Fuck you.

[Edited on November 17, 2011 at 1:31 AM. Reason : Wretched fucking human trainwreck.]

11/17/2011 1:31:16 AM

sneaking around is definitely the way to keep a marriage solid

why would someone get married to a person that has different views in such a huge way

11/17/2011 9:53:32 AM

Because they think the person will change.

11/17/2011 9:58:52 AM

hey guys let's have this conversation all over again!


boy, that girl must be crazy! why on earth would she do such a thing?

11/17/2011 10:00:56 AM

4^ damn dude looks like that hit home

[Edited on November 17, 2011 at 10:02 AM. Reason : ^]

11/17/2011 10:01:51 AM

The person I feel most bad for in those situations is the kid.

11/17/2011 10:04:31 AM

follow up

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"all the people up in arms will be happy to know that there is no baby coming. at least not yet"

11/17/2011 10:10:22 AM

Coat hangers for all!

11/17/2011 10:11:24 AM

i like to take the stairs instead!

11/17/2011 10:17:36 AM

^^^"at least not yet"
So, she hasn't learned her lesson.

11/17/2011 10:27:11 AM