241 pages of ERRBODY GETTIN MAD

11/25/2011 10:55:16 PM

Christina Aguilera made me do it

11/25/2011 10:57:21 PM

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"Went to a low-key Thanksgiving dinner at my aunt's house, probably 8 people there. The entire time I was there, her ex (they have been together again for some time, not married again yet) spent more time chatting/hanging out with me than his own son.... and I'm pretty sure the reason is because my cousin is gay and he's not to fond of the situation. It made me feel weird, to say the least, because I'm fine with the situation and just wanted to chill...not to mention I'm not that excited about ex-uncle in general. "

11/25/2011 11:25:42 PM

i don't understand why that had to be a secret unless your aunt, cousin, and/or uncle frequent tww

11/25/2011 11:36:32 PM

its been a while since i was visited by the random confession fairy

11/27/2011 10:12:24 AM

[CONFESS ALL THE THINGS!]

11/27/2011 10:18:16 AM

This thread is kinda boring lately. Somebody should confess something juicy. I wish I had something cool to confess.

11/27/2011 6:24:33 PM

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"For thanksgiving, my family got a unexpected and unpleasant surprise. We found out that someone in our extended family is cheating on his spouse. For our purposes, we'll call him Uncle Bob. I promise, really, we're not a trashy family. This was the last thing we ever expected. This is a high school to 60s relationship. But it seems that the evidence is accumulating, and we're all pretty sure, not certain, but pretty sure we have it right. I was surprised by just how terrible he is at hiding it, and obviously, given the fact several of us are talking about this in private, it can't be long before the shit hits the fan. The problem is, his wife (our aunt) seems to have already suspected it. She seems to be strangely passive about it. How terrible would it be if she knew, we knew, everyone knew and no one would bring it up? Psychologically, there is a difference. Maybe she's content with not addressing it as long as there is plausible deniability left. I want to ask them to get counseling but I'm conflicted. Is that even my place? I'm worried about letting it sit. We've seen other families in my extended family divorce, but I know this one would be different. It could tear us all apart and totally ruin lives. And none of us know what to do worth shit. "

Tough situation is tough. My aunt cheated on my uncle and there were some hard feelings for a long time and then he ended up marrying a complete bitch. Cheating is not cool.

11/27/2011 8:09:11 PM

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"i am billytalent"

11/28/2011 1:47:47 AM

^^ Speaking from personal experience and without knowing specific details or people, I would not get involved. If you think your aunt suspects it then she should be able to handle it herself or ask for help if she needs it. By trying to intervene you will just be alienating yourself from both the aunt and uncle. By bringing something like this up (assuming she is aware) then you are forcing her to deal with it before she is ready.

If you or someone in your family really want to get involved, then my advice would be to start with the uncle. If he has gotten out of touch with his marriage, then a few words from someone really close might help him realize his mistakes. If he gets really mad and tells that someone to mind their own business then to put it bluntly, there might not be much of a marriage left to save.

This probably goes without saying, but if and when there is a conversation with the aunt, dont mention the broader effects this will have on the family. The family should be supporting her, not the other way around.

Just my opinion though, i.e., im not any kind of counselor or anything.

[Edited on November 28, 2011 at 2:58 AM. Reason : edit]

11/28/2011 2:57:19 AM

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"this kmyoungs girl reminds me of Wild Bill from The Green Mile "

11/28/2011 4:03:14 PM

^hahahaha

11/28/2011 4:07:01 PM

Anybody got an evening confession for Father Fletch? I promise not to molester you

11/28/2011 7:54:33 PM

I swear this is a real confeshawn.

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"BB is a greater poster than any of his detractors could ever hope to be. THATS IT, IVE EFFIN HAD IT WITH THESE BB HATERS"

Moar plz

11/28/2011 9:37:52 PM

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"I heard that a certain TWWer with a husband by the name of "Josh" was flickin the bean a few minutes ago. just sayin "

11/29/2011 7:55:55 PM

Anybody got a late night confession for Father Fletcher?

11/29/2011 10:01:58 PM

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"I'm considering committing insurance fraud so I can get some things fixed around my house without paying out of pocket. "

Anybody else wanna confess to Father Fletch?

11/29/2011 10:47:36 PM

I am ready to receive your confessions! (aka im bored)

11/29/2011 10:52:23 PM

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"I was watching this guy on youtube go through his philosophies and other random tidbits. I am fascinated by him and just now it hit me like an epiphany. I didn't have a father figure in my life and this youtuber (he's old enough to be my father) fits the bill perfectly. I wish we could hang out IRL because I think he's a real cool dude and even though I'm "grown," I sometimes wish I had a father I could hang out with, go camping with, or have father-son discussions. Fuck my life for not having a father figure. My father's not dead or anything. Work and money are more important to him than my mother or I ever will be. "

11/30/2011 7:23:54 AM

^ that makes me sad

11/30/2011 8:35:56 AM

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"I'm pregnant!!!! "

11/30/2011 8:20:59 PM

BigFletch is in the confessional

11/30/2011 10:06:04 PM

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"Hearing that other people are pregnant makes me incredibly jealous and angry through no fault of their own. "

Aww. *hug*

11/30/2011 10:19:03 PM

Who has confessions?

12/1/2011 12:41:50 AM

^^ so go get a guy and make one yourself!

12/1/2011 1:17:55 AM

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"I EMAILED MYSELF A PHOTOGRAPH OF MY COCK "

Send me moreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

12/1/2011 1:22:09 AM

BigFletch looking for cock pics

12/1/2011 1:30:27 AM

12/1/2011 1:35:36 AM

bttt! I want confessions!

12/1/2011 10:38:48 AM

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"So there's a girl in my complex that I like. She's pretty, likes animals, and is a snappy dresser, three prerequisites for any one I pursuit. I've lived here about 10 months and have seen her maybe a dozen times or so, walking her dog, checking the mail, etc., but never was in a position to approach her until last night. I'm coming back from the gym and I see a loose dog running around. I'm trying to catch it when she comes out of her apartment to help me. We introduced ourselves and spend a good 10-15 minutes chatting and trying to catch the dog, which we eventually do. The dog's owner lives closer to my building, so we walk over there and return him. As we're leaving, I kind of get the sense that we're clicking, and I'd love nothing more that to continue the conversation, but I'd been out there for a while and I drink a lot of water at the gym, and I have to pee so bad. Plus, I stank like shit and didn't want that the be her first impression. So I kind of abruptly say "Have a good night!" and hightail back to my place to relieve myself. I felt like an asshole shortly thereafter and am flummoxed as to what my next move should be. Do I apologize for my hasty retreat? Do I ignore it and continue being friendly with her like nothing happened? Do I cut my losses and move on to the next girl? I find myself in the odd position of having no clue how to proceed, and it scares me to the death. "

You know you'll see her again, so just make sure to say hi, be friendly, etc. the next time you see her. Just cut to the chase and ask her to grab dinner sometime. The worst she can say is no. And if she says no, then yeah, move on to the next one.

But at least you won't be wondering "what if?"

You seem like a really smart, funny guy. She'd be very lucky to go out with you.

[Edited on December 1, 2011 at 11:29 AM. Reason : r]

12/1/2011 11:28:25 AM

to death? really?

this thread is so stupid lately

12/1/2011 11:29:50 AM

surprise confeshawnz

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"One time a group of apparently trans-gender Hispanic women sat down next to me in a bar. The bar tender took me to the side and asked me if they were dudes so I went to the jukebox and played "Lola" by the kinks and they all left before I could ask one if they wanted to dance."

12/1/2011 11:47:55 AM

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"The bar tender took me to the side and asked me if they were dudes"

lol if you have to ask just avoid using gender pronouns when talking to them.

12/1/2011 12:01:32 PM

or just card them

12/1/2011 12:09:58 PM

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"So there's a girl in my complex that I like. She's pretty, likes animals, and is a snappy dresser, three prerequisites for any one I pursuit. I've lived here about 10 months and have seen her maybe a dozen times or so, walking her dog, checking the mail, etc., but never was in a position to approach her until last night. I'm coming back from the gym and I see a loose dog running around. I'm trying to catch it when she comes out of her apartment to help me. We introduced ourselves and spend a good 10-15 minutes chatting and trying to catch the dog, which we eventually do. The dog's owner lives closer to my building, so we walk over there and return him. As we're leaving, I kind of get the sense that we're clicking, and I'd love nothing more that to continue the conversation, but I'd been out there for a while and I drink a lot of water at the gym, and I have to pee so bad. Plus, I stank like shit and didn't want that the be her first impression. So I kind of abruptly say "Have a good night!" and hightail back to my place to relieve myself. I felt like an asshole shortly thereafter and am flummoxed as to what my next move should be. Do I apologize for my hasty retreat? Do I ignore it and continue being friendly with her like nothing happened? Do I cut my losses and move on to the next girl? I find myself in the odd position of having no clue how to proceed, and it scares me to the death. "

Stop bitching and get some fuckin' confidence. Jesus Christ.

12/1/2011 12:32:48 PM

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"I really hope I don't lose interest in the girl I'm currently seeing if/when I sleep with her. we're going on our third date tonight and I think there is definitely long term relationship potential there. I've thought that in the past as well and have lost interest in some women as soon as I've slept with them. I didn't see myself losing interest in them before we slept together and it makes me feel shallow."

Do you know why you've lost interest in other girls in the past? Just, that the thrill of the chase was finally over? And does this girl have something that other girls don't have? Or was the sex disappointing? If so, note that it usually gets better as people become more comfortable with one another.

Do you think you're ready for a relationship? Is there something in your life that's holding you back from getting more serious? Insecurities? Or fear of getting older?

I was similar to you for a while. I would like a guy, and then once we got physical, I'd lose interest. I'd just find that while we were mentally compatible, the compatibility just wasn't there. I finally found someone who was a perfect match. Smart, funny guy ... and we hooked up on the first date. Great passion and energy. Where it left me wanting more. It's very special when those things come together. Initially, you definitely need physical passion and intellectual stimulation. And it's better not to waste your time if you can't find both of those things.

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"eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee I'm in lurve! I just want to stare at this picture I took of him all day long and just show it to everyone "

yay!

12/1/2011 12:40:26 PM

aw!

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"Because my original financial plan fell through I am spending much more on my SO's Christmas gift than we agreed to. But I don't really care because I know they want it and will looooove it "

yaaay

12/1/2011 12:41:19 PM

^ I want to know what the present is!

12/1/2011 12:43:27 PM

A Lexus obviously

12/1/2011 12:46:04 PM

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"I had a sexual experience when I was 4 years old. My interest in talking about this, and even talking about it publicly, has been growing steadily. I went from hiding it, to talking about it with people close to me, to now, actually wanting to put it out there for the world to see, to help other people who are still in that stage of hiding it. I must admit that I'm still not there yet. I still have some loose ends to wrap up with the other people involved. There is a little bit of internal conflict within me, because this isn't just about my privacy, but their privacy as well. There's also the fact that I just don't know what format this is appropriate for. Maybe there are groups for former victims of child molestation? (even though I don't consider myself in this group of people... well maybe to some degree... it's complicated) As I get older, maybe I'm thinking that I have less and less to lose. I used to think that I'd either take the story to my grave, or tell about it when I'm old. That sounds so amazingly stupid to me now. Why should anybody have to live with anything under the covers at all? It's stupid, and it perpetuates the cycle that causes us as a society to turn a blind eye to these things. Out of the people I've known close enough such that IMO they would share their own stories with me if they had them, basically every one has been raped, molested, or something else. By my estimation, probably over half of us are carrying some baggage of this type with us. It's not conscionable for me to remain silent, because I, for one, have little left holding me back. I'm starting to look at this as almost a civic duty/responsibility. "

I'm sorry to hear about this, but glad that you're in a place where you can speak out about this and help other victims of abuse.

If you're religious, I know a lot of larger churches have abuse groups that organize gatherings and events to bring more attention to these injustices.

Or, look into abuse outreach organizations in your area. Depending on where you live, these may or may not exist. I used to participate in Take Back the Night, which is a pretty amazing movement designed to "shatter the silence" of abuse. Tons of great resources on their site, too: http://www.takebackthenight.org/

12/1/2011 2:47:47 PM

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"because this isn't just about my privacy, but their privacy as well. "

Sorry, but if you molest a 4-year old, I don't give a shit about your privacy. You should be outed as the scum you are.

12/1/2011 3:25:04 PM

I took the privacy comment to mean that there were other victims

12/1/2011 4:07:44 PM

Or that the perpetrator was also a minor. Not all inappropriate sexual contact is by adults. Sometimes it is older children or siblings who don't exactly get what they are doing.

12/1/2011 4:46:53 PM

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"I had lunch which was soup. 30 mins later I was still hungry so I went and got a big ass burrito...I overate and regret it "

12/1/2011 5:04:35 PM

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"My uncle was gay, and died from AIDS in 1992. My other uncle (same side) had Thanksgiving with my family, and all he talked about the entire time was cocks. In the right context, it can be funny. But when you're talking about huge black cocks, and you're a 66 year old PhD department head at a renowned private university, I start to wonder if he's gay too, and never accepted it. He divorced his wife in the mid-90s, and for about 10 years after that kind of fell off the radar and always had a "girlfriend". He was always just a little "weird" too. He's kind of in the mold of a lecherous old man. He re-married his wife a year ago after a severe heart attack, but they don't even live together. I have no fucking clue what to make any of this, but as they say, your first instinct is usually right. If he is gay I have no problem with it, I just wish he wasn't so damn creepy. "

I know a lot of men who are married, but who are gay. I know a man who counsels married gay men ... he's counseled hundreds of married men over the years. Only about 10% officially come out.

It's tough. People fear rejection from their families. They fear being ostracized by their peers. And he's of a different generation. It's more accepted amongst our peers today than it is amongst his age group. Different challenges.

That's a tough one.

12/1/2011 5:46:04 PM

My uncle died of AIDS in the late 80s. They told us kids he had cancer, and I was the only one to know

12/1/2011 5:48:08 PM

It's Word AIDS day. These posts are very appropriate.

12/1/2011 5:48:47 PM

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"It's Word AIDS day."

Yeah I'd say a lot of the words on TWW are pretty aidsy.

12/1/2011 5:56:43 PM

confess

12/1/2011 11:24:52 PM

Your secrets are safe with me

Come on, send a cripple something

12/2/2011 12:30:37 AM