That is not a problem for me my fran

[Edited on March 27, 2012 at 10:14 AM. Reason : 261]

3/27/2012 10:14:26 AM

Diva's universal solution

3/27/2012 10:17:16 AM

apparently sexual problems aren't unique to the previous confessor...

Quote :

"I've slept with 7 [seven!] different men multiple times in the past four years and had several orgasms. Oh wait. ZERO of those orgasms were delivered by the men that I slept with."

yikes.

3/27/2012 10:33:27 AM

^^Yeah girl...I got a solution for your universe

[Edited on March 27, 2012 at 10:33 AM. Reason : e]

3/27/2012 10:33:34 AM

^^ that's sad

3/27/2012 10:36:33 AM

Quote :

"Oh wait. ZERO of those orgasms were delivered by the men that I slept with."

Did you deliver their orgasms?

3/27/2012 10:37:36 AM

lol, i assume that the confessor meant that she was responsible for her orgasms.

i have mad respect for that but DAYUM. men kinda suck.

3/27/2012 10:41:29 AM

I wonder if she ever told any of them that she wasn't satisfied? Or if she smiled and pretended everything was great?

3/27/2012 10:42:32 AM

what's the problem if she's getting off anyways?

Are you not feeling intimacy with your partner?

Have you even tried communicating with them, tell them where to touch, tell them to lick your asshole, etc?

3/27/2012 10:46:58 AM

3/27/2012 10:47:45 AM

Let's just say it, is this entire thing about clitoral stimulation? If you start doing that yourself, that gives no indication at all what you want from your partner. Honestly, the most logical conclusion at that point would be she likes doing it herself. Some of them are like that.

3/27/2012 10:48:39 AM

Yeah that's starting to sound like that woman who hates men because she's been divorced 5 times. At some point you gotta realize what the common denominator is -- either you have a hang-up/insecurity of some sort preventing you from getting off or you need to re-examine your taste in sexual partners.

[Edited on March 27, 2012 at 10:52 AM. Reason : or that ^]

3/27/2012 10:50:54 AM

yeah, some guys just need a little coaching and then they're all too eager to please

but some dudes are just self-serving idiots

but seven??!!?!?! in a row??!!?!

3/27/2012 10:59:34 AM

3/27/2012 11:08:30 AM

^^ Meh...I don't really see that as a big deal. I think this is mostly on the girl. It's probably mental, or she is a very unique girl to please physically. Some girls have trouble getting orgasms. If it's that big of a problem, she needs to be more vocal and "instructing" to the dudes she is banging.

[Edited on March 27, 2012 at 11:09 AM. Reason : .]

3/27/2012 11:09:23 AM

some girls get off very easily

as do some guys

if she wanted to get off with them, after having sex multiple times with 7 different guys over the past 4 yrs, she'd have done something about that by now

3/27/2012 11:12:29 AM

SOME SOME SOME

3/27/2012 11:18:56 AM

ok, i asked her to elaborate

confession update:

Quote :

"Two of them were boyfriends that I did try to instruct several times but the instruction caused a lack of confidence for them and eventually the relationship ended. The other five were hook-ups and not very exciting flings. Of those, two of them were one-timers, two were completely clueless and one just didn't give a fuck. So I have discussed with each of them (excluding the one-timers) where the hot button is and what it needed."

hmmmmmmm.

be more persistent. don't hook up with idiots.

3/27/2012 11:25:45 AM

sounds like the confessor is hooking up with the wrong guys, sometimes good sex requires good chemistry.

This girl will probably find it hard to orgasm with flings. The boyfriends were not confident enough to handle it. It will be frustrating to find a guy that both turns you on and has confidence and the ability to help you get there, but boy when you do it will be mindblowing. good luck.

3/27/2012 11:30:10 AM

I've dated girls who can't get off by sex but did get off by oral and I have dated girls that get off everytime we had sex. I think it's just all on the girl.

3/27/2012 11:31:55 AM

It is definitely on the girl, but realizing that also puts a lot of pressure on her, so she will need to overcome that.

Has the confessor ever had a guy go downtown on her? do own lingerie?

these things are little, but when you put them together, for some it makes a world of difference.

3/27/2012 11:34:49 AM

how was the foreplay?

3/27/2012 1:28:06 PM

Guys that can't make a girl nut thru vaginal intercourse are always so quick to blame the girl. Its not her fault. Any male of average physical fitness and at least five inches should have a modicum of success bringing any reasonable female to orgasm. The problem lies in the technique, for both parties. I could hold seminars on this subject, but for brevity's sake, I'll just say that speed, angle and pressure are the three key factors. What a big surprise, you say. Everyone knows that. Perhaps, but knowledge and execution are mutually exclusive. I've yet to disappoint.

3/27/2012 1:35:17 PM

^truth speaker

not that I would know or anything

3/27/2012 1:36:37 PM

Quote :

"how was the foreplay?"

thats a good question, because in my experience, men aren't too excited about foreplay...

the confessor has logged off, of course i'll update you if she reads/elaborates. unfortunately i don't think her situation is too unique... maybe the time frame and the number of strikeouts. but i think i can say that a lot of girls have been there at some point.

3/27/2012 1:43:23 PM

Quote :

"how was the foreplay?"

thats a good question, because in my experience, men aren't too excited about foreplay...

the confessor has logged off, of course i'll update you if she reads/elaborates. unfortunately i don't think her situation is too unique... maybe the time frame and the number of strikeouts. but i think i can say that a lot of girls have been there at some point.

3/27/2012 1:44:09 PM

Quote :

"thats a good question, because in my experience, men aren't too excited about foreplay..."

My greatest challenge in foreplay is getting her worked up while getting myself worked up as little as possible. Isn't this always men's challenge, lol. You know the jizz in my pants video? Yeah, that's me.

Quote :

"I could hold seminars on this subject, but for brevity's sake, I'll just say that speed, angle and pressure are the three key factors."

+ touching

I guess + everything else too. If your focus is so myopic on penis/vag physics then you're just not going to get it right.

3/27/2012 2:01:11 PM

UPDATE!!!

Quote :

"Nosex marriage guy here again. This is not a matter of "losing the romance" between us. We had a great sex life initially. She had a physical injury that has made it extremely painful to have sex for the past year and a half, and has been in physical therapy for it. Now that she's slowly getting better physically, she's scared to death of sex because she doesn't want to undo all the progress she's made, and doesn't want to go through the pain again. Even with that, we had been doing well with other things (oral, massages, making out), but over the past year she has slowly but surely lost the desire to do anything. She knows how I feel, which makes her even more anxious and depressed that she doesn't have the sex drive anymore. TLDR; Physical injury + anxiety + depression is a really bad mix."

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3/27/2012 3:18:43 PM

Quote :

"My thoughts make complete sense, maybe I could have said it differently or better.... How about this? "for better or worse" or "in sickness and in health""

3/27/2012 3:20:01 PM

Aww i feel bad for the wife :-(

3/27/2012 3:21:52 PM

I suggest talking about it to her and reinforcing how much you care about her will make her feel more comfortable. It may not seem like it helps, especially the first try. The worst thing is to ignore and pretend it doesn't exist, it will allow her to exaggerate the situation in her head.

Something that worked in the past is having a conversation about sex with no pressure. Sitting her down and asking her for honesty and to tell her it is ok to cry, but not to take any of this as an attack or judgement. You explaining what is a turn on for you, what you find attractive about her etc. Ask her to give you even a few small hints at what may work for her now, ask her to talk about how she feels sexually compared to before, anything really. Hopefully with enough time these conversations are notorious for leading to the act itself. Sometimes girls take a really long time to warm up.

3/27/2012 3:26:13 PM

my first thought

Has this injury affected her mouth?

Seriously though, I think all you can do is stick to you wedding vows, communicate with her, and go to therapy together and also wait it out until she trusts you aren't going to hurt her and her libido returns. You married her, so really, you're in it for the long haul.

3/27/2012 3:26:14 PM

I'm only in it as long as the dick is good.

Just sayin'

3/27/2012 3:28:09 PM

I LOVE MY WIFE

AS LONG AS SHE PUTS OUT

3/27/2012 3:37:19 PM

3/27/2012 3:48:11 PM

Anyone worried about the sanctity of marriage will realize gay people aren't the problem after they meet Diva.

3/27/2012 4:05:26 PM

Which is why I fight so hard for them

3/27/2012 4:16:52 PM

3/27/2012 4:58:23 PM

I'm sure she's worried he'll pull a John Edwards on her.

3/27/2012 5:29:12 PM

I'LL FIX SOME CABINETS.

And then we'll probably end up in bed, but you know, I like to get my job done first.

3/27/2012 6:53:52 PM

I don't get off with guys, but I place very little, if any, blame for that on them.

3/27/2012 8:32:15 PM

i'm not sure the confessor ever actually 'blamed' these dudes, just stated a sad sad fact

3/27/2012 8:37:41 PM

Quote :

"I don't get off with guys, but I place very little, if any, blame for that on them."

Call Slave Famous.

3/28/2012 9:07:59 AM

Feels good to have a pimp

3/28/2012 9:16:11 AM

Quote :

"I don't get off with guys, but I place very little, if any, blame for that on them."

Call Slave Famous Fareako.

fify

3/28/2012 9:37:34 AM

what's up? send me your confessions!

3/28/2012 4:20:01 PM

Confessions for me?

3/29/2012 5:40:13 PM

Quote :

"I'm washing my sheets because I peed the bed. "

More please

3/29/2012 5:45:14 PM

Quote :

"a guy could be perfect in every way, but if he can't get me off, hit the road jack "

3/29/2012 7:36:27 PM

I'd love some confessions.... confess to me

3/29/2012 7:52:07 PM