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send you confessions to me!

7/18/2012 9:46:16 AM

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"Have gone out on a couple of dates with a very cool person. REALLY like this person. Tons of pros, but one big con. Pros: HOT (perfect body/face), funny, smart, successful, hard-working, we agree on big issues (religion & politics), athletic, same taste in movies, similar interests, we're at the same place in life Cons: Not a good kisser Is this fixable? Or maybe physically our chemistry is off? If they're a bad kisser, will everything else in that arena be bad as well?"

7/18/2012 11:09:35 AM

Where are my regulars? Confess to me.

7/18/2012 1:02:13 PM

^^ How are they a bad kisser? Lips too stiff? Tongue exploring every nook and cranny in your mouth? Just general face sucking?

I would say try to bring it up and try to have them adjust their style. You may have to adjust some too. But if it's something that can't be overcome, I don't think the relationship will last. Unless you just want them to be your sugardaddy/momma

7/18/2012 1:21:31 PM

that's a definite deal breaker...

bad kissing is worse than bad sex

7/18/2012 1:48:27 PM

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"If they're a bad kisser, will everything else in that arena be bad as well?""

Not necessarily.

7/18/2012 1:49:20 PM

But isn't kissing typically indicative of how someone will be in bed?

7/18/2012 1:51:28 PM

No.

7/18/2012 1:51:49 PM

not even a little bit

7/18/2012 1:52:34 PM

I would think sex trumps kissing.

7/18/2012 1:53:12 PM

Nope.

I think dancing is a better indicator. I've found kissing to have a very small correlation to bedroom activities.

7/18/2012 1:53:23 PM

hmmm ... maybe it's just that the exes I've had who were bad in bed were also bad kissers

^ Yes, dancing is very indicative.

[Edited on July 18, 2012 at 1:54 PM. Reason : s]

7/18/2012 1:54:21 PM

Poor leg amputees.

7/18/2012 2:00:53 PM

^ Never discount.....THE SPRAIN



[Edited on July 18, 2012 at 4:08 PM. Reason : .]

7/18/2012 4:07:56 PM

I'm a terrible kisser but I fuck like TT Boy, so its definitely not a direct correlation.

7/18/2012 4:38:00 PM

i hear SF is big with Pubic Play

7/18/2012 4:40:19 PM

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"I really just want to be happy. I know exactly what will make me happy. It is within my grasp. It should be really easy. Yet, making that decision to be happy and go for what I want is the hardest fucking decision I've ever tried to make Mainly because it doesn't only affect me. "

7/18/2012 6:04:46 PM

Bad kisser thoughts. Never too late to teach them. Tell them what you like. I was a bad kisser. Then again, I asked what the person liked. Hmmmm...Good luck.

7/19/2012 8:46:33 AM

Ah man I've only dated two girls who I immediately recognized as a bad kisser. It sucked because like the confessor, they were great in just about all other departments but the problem was that I tried to avoid kissing them because they were so bad about it and to this day the one thing that I always remember about them is how bad they were at kissing.

7/19/2012 11:40:44 AM

^^^ the path to happiness isn't as obvious as you would think.



Nonetheless, it seems you know what you want, and you have to consider that the other people in your life won't like living with you while you're not happy with what you're doing. You need to follow the pursuit you're drawn to, but that's not the same as honoring an obligation to yourself to be happy. The latter can, counter-intuitively, make you unhappy. Happiness is only a byproduct of other crap.

7/19/2012 1:08:23 PM

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"I stumbled upon my ex's new SO's photo stream on instagram tonight and instantly wanted to kill myself. I don't even like my ex in a romantic way anymore but we were friends for so long and have weathered many other SO's between the two of us. Somehow I knew this one was different and that our friendship was coming to an end. We have both moved on from our relationship and I am happier now than I've ever been with anyone else. But it still bugs me. I did the whole 'who's better looking' and 'who's life seems cooler' etc. but I know none of that really matters. Holla if anyone else knows that feeling."

7/20/2012 12:04:27 AM

^ Nope...every single one of my exes has downgraded after me. It sounds horrible, but its a satisfying feeling.

You should feel good that she's happier with him than she was with you....since he's so awesome and good looking.

7/20/2012 8:33:12 AM

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"In response to your bad kisser, it took me and my significant other about 4-5 years before we got our sex life where we wanted. We had to get used to one another, what we liked, what we didn't like, etc. But now, we have the best sex ever. So even if the kissing or sex or whatever is bad, if the important foundation of the relationship is there, the rest will come in time. "

7/20/2012 9:21:14 AM

4-5 years???? that isnt normal

7/20/2012 9:24:37 AM

dear jbrick

7/20/2012 9:25:32 AM

^^ yeah ... 4 to 5 years would be tough

7/20/2012 9:48:53 AM

I mean...I guess it depends on how bad it was during that 4-5 years.

You can still get your nut off and the sex isn't "awesome." So as long as they aren't hurting each other or the guy doesn't keep trying to stick it in her belly button...4-5 years of steady improvement doesn't necessarily mean "4-5 years of bad sex."

^^ and definitely. Although it could also mean that I was underachieving with my past girlfriends...but I like to think I'm just awesome.

[Edited on July 20, 2012 at 10:30 AM. Reason : .]

7/20/2012 10:29:57 AM

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"every single one of my exes has downgraded after me"

i wouldn't say my exes downgraded, but they date/have dated people who seem SO different than me. i wouldn't even know how to compare, so i haven't really even tried.

to the person who sent the confession - if you're happy then why is it eating you up so much? something's wrong, maybe.

[Edited on July 20, 2012 at 10:34 AM. Reason : ]

7/20/2012 10:34:02 AM

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"I have a friend whose boyfriend is a complete lowlife loser. They have a 1 year old little girl to whom the boyfriend does not pay one ounce of attention to. My friend is going to school and raising this little girl all by herself. They all live together but the boyfriend can't be bothered to look after this little girl when the mother is at school or sick. The girl gets sent off to his parent's house while he sits at home, chronically unemployed, and plays video games all day. I want to wringe his stupid fucking neck until his head pops off. My friend had to go to the ER last week (drove herself there b/c he couldnt be bothered with taking her) and she found out later that as soon as she left the house, the douchebag called his parents to come get the baby b/c he couldn't watch her. All he did that day was play video games. I guess changing diapers, feeding and playing with your kid can really hinder your quest to get the high score in Zelda. Nobody likes her boyfriend. Even before they had their kid, he was just a complete douchebag all the time. And my friend knows that everybody hates her boyfriend. Deep down, I think she hates him too. She was going to break up with him a couple months ago but she got let go from her job and didnt have any money to move out. They live on a trailer on his parent's property and she was afraid that if they broke up, she wouldn't be able to find another place to live. I think she feels stuck. I feel bad for her baby because she really only has one loving parent. "

7/20/2012 11:09:22 AM

Probably wasn't Zelda.

7/20/2012 11:12:08 AM

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"to the person who sent the confession - if you're happy then why is it eating you up so much? something's wrong, maybe."

because no one likes to be the dumpee. you want to feel like you're in control of that relationship. it's an ego thing.

7/20/2012 11:18:35 AM

A follow up to an earlier confession

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"Haha. Let me clarify. For about 4 years, sex ranged from good to great, with a few WTF moments here and there. We were each other's first so there was a huge learning curve for the both of us. It also didn't help that my girl friend decided to go on birth control after our first year, making years 2-4 pretty rough. BC killed her sex drive and ambitions. She got off of it a while ago and her sex drive picked right back up where it used to be when we first met. Add that on top of the fact that we've gone through a lot of trial runs of what we really like and don't care for, I can say we now have some pretty amazing coitis. I was pretty terrible at first and she was utterly clueless. Not everyone is a born a porn star, but that doesn't mean you can't become one."

7/20/2012 7:59:22 PM

Anybody got a mid-weekend confession?

7/21/2012 9:48:55 PM

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" Sometimes I wonder if anyone out there envies my life. I thought about that while browsing facebook and seeing peoples pictures and thinking that they are doing cool things with their life. I wonder if people see my pictures and think the same thing and envy the things I do with my life."

7/21/2012 10:19:36 PM

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"ok I've never done this, but would like some advice and I know people who know both my gf and me on tww, hence the anonymity request. My girlfriend and I have been dating two months but are extremely into each other and things are moving very quickly. we both agree that this is something very special and has the potential to be very long term. I've met her parents and she's met mine and our parents love us, respectively. we spend a lot of time around each other and never fight. Both of us are mature, have had past relationships and agree that this is totally different. This is kind of complicated so I'll try to be as clear as possibe. When I met her, she was at a local bar with her roommate and another guy. We ended up talking and I pretty much stole her from this guy that she hadn't hooked up with, but was very into her. When we started dating officially she told him that she was no longer interested when we encountered him at the same bar. On another note, her and her roommate had a fight a couple of weeks ago about an unrelated issue and are now starting to talk to each other and repair their relationship. The problem is that her roommate, this guy, and her had bought tickets to a concert in Charlotte next weekend a few months ago. I had assumed she was going with her roommate and best friend and wanted to ride down with them so I could visit my friends in Charlotte. She just told me that she was afraid to tell me that before we met, this guy, her roomate and her had bought tickets to this show and a hotel room in downtown Charlotte. The plan was to see the show, go out at Epicenter or wherever, and then go back to the room and come back to Raleigh the next day. On one hand, this is a show she really wants to see. Additionally, if she cancels on her roommate it could cause problems since they are kind of on the rocks right now. However, I can't bear the thought of her driving down with this dude I practicaly stole her from and giving him the opportunity to have that kind of exclusive time with her in the car, at the show, and drinking downtown. My biggest fear is that she gets drunk and does something with him and it ruins what could be a very long-term, marriage potential relationship. I was jealous in my previous relationship and for that reason didn't have an official gf for five years just so I could avoid those feelings. I'm trying to be more open minded. I don't know whether it would be fucked up of me to intervene in this plan that was made months ago or if that's just over the line for a serious relationship and something that somebody in a relationship would never do to their s/o. help me out tww."

7/21/2012 10:35:44 PM

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"this is something very special and has the potential to be very long term"

if that's true, then just let her go to the concert. if she doesn't prove herself trustworthy enough to handle her business like a responsible adult, then perhaps your thoughts on your compatibility aren't all that accurate afterall

[Edited on July 21, 2012 at 10:55 PM. Reason : .]

7/21/2012 10:55:05 PM

If you are looking to one day marry this girl, you'll have to trust her. If you can't trust her to be monogomous, then you may want to re-examine the "marriage worthy" relationship. She picked you, not this other guy. It sounds like you have a jealousy issue, but you've got to learn to trust her if you want a rock solid relationship. Otherwise she'll feel you don't trust her or are restrictive on how she conducts her business.

Also, arguing sometimes isn't a bad thing. Best advice I've even been told is that you've got to be comfortable hating a person as much as you do loving them. You can't be scared that because you dislike/hate a person over something (reasonable) the relationship might die.

^+1

[Edited on July 21, 2012 at 11:03 PM. Reason : .]

7/21/2012 11:01:23 PM

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you still are.

maybe you should deal with this before marrying this girl in your mind.

7/21/2012 11:10:57 PM

the roommate will be there to chaperone, so unless they have a threesome she's probably safe from getting shit drunk and straying. Spending that much time with him could make her rethink deciding so quickly, though... or cement her decision if he's annoying.



i bet the whole thing blows up and she calls you crying for a ride

[Edited on July 21, 2012 at 11:20 PM. Reason : haha]

7/21/2012 11:20:22 PM

Let her go.

7/21/2012 11:38:17 PM

Or, a better option would be for the two of you to ride the train down together, and to get an separate room. If the tickets are seated, you can hawk her old one, and buy 2 new tickets, or to just go with it. Ride the train back together.


Seriously, FUCK driving. Trains are better, you have internet, reading, time to play cards/talk/nap, etc. You get off the train relaxed.

[Edited on July 22, 2012 at 12:01 AM. Reason : ]

7/22/2012 12:00:05 AM

Although, if she's going to this: http://www.ticketmaster.com/Nickelback-tickets/artist/710632

Dump her ass.

7/22/2012 12:03:22 AM

It's probably the phish concert.

7/22/2012 1:57:03 AM

Does this change anything?

7/22/2012 4:13:32 AM

If you can't trust her to go down there with him and/or she goes to Charlotte and screws around then obviously this isn't the type of relationship that you think it is.

If she really does care about you she isn't going to go there and ruin something good that is between the two of your.

7/22/2012 8:26:47 AM

on first reading i thought i knew for sure who the guy and girl in that confession were, but on further reflection i'm not so sure.

also, stop being jealous, it is not very becoming on anyone and it can lead to even more ridiculous behavior.

7/22/2012 8:39:40 AM

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"stop being jealous, it is not very becoming on anyone and it can lead to even more ridiculous behavior"

+1

7/22/2012 8:43:33 AM

When I had been dating Eric for about two or three months I went to a concert with a guy I had kind of had a fling with (if you want to call it that) right before we started dating. Why? Because we bought the tickets months ago, and I wanted to see the show really badly. There was another friend with us (guy friend, literally no past history except being frans). It was awkward between me and the guy I used to have the biggest crush on (and he knew it, because I told him soon before Eric and I met). He had stopped talking to me as much once we had started dating so it was mostly my other friend and I talking/hanging out. Anyway, I had been afraid to tell Eric but he didn't care in the end since he trusted me. I brought him home a cookout milkshake, he was happy, and we're married now.

So my whole point is, the real issue isn't the concert, it's the trust you have in your SO (which doesn't sound like much, IMO). Jealousy isn't called the ugly green eyed monster for nothing, and like meg said it can cause a ton of problems. I think you just need to reflect on how much trust you have in this relationship.

7/22/2012 9:39:12 AM

the moral of the story is, you can do anything as long as your bring home a cookout milkshake!

unfortunately, i live in florida so i have to apologize for stuff instead

7/22/2012 9:51:53 AM

Watermelon milkshake

Im krallum and i approved this message

7/22/2012 9:55:43 AM