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" never thought I would consider Asian cookies and missing sex toys legitimate reasons to believe that something sneaky is going on behind my back..."

8/30/2012 4:40:01 PM

asians are going to kidnap you and put your own dildos in your ass?

8/30/2012 4:41:40 PM

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"Never form any kind of relationship with someone who is crazy...it ends badly with you just shaking your head wondering what the fuck you were thinking."

Define crazy. Is there a difference between crazy and psycho? When I call someone crazy I am thinking more along the lines of mild to moderate neurosis. I think crazy people can be OK to date....until you find out they are actually psychotic.

8/31/2012 2:56:58 PM

Its just safer to say no to either.

8/31/2012 9:51:21 PM

Crazy was fun for the first year or two..... After that, the true PSYCHO started showing through, but it as such a slow transition that it was hard to discern....

Not sure how I feel about this, I'm sure there are a few out there that could stay in that fun part of the crazy continuum for the duration, but i'm pretty skeptical.

[Edited on August 31, 2012 at 11:33 PM. Reason : qa]

8/31/2012 11:33:23 PM

gimme those confessions

9/1/2012 11:23:43 AM

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"A girl at work gave me an awesome back/neck/shoulder rub while I was finishing my paperwork. It made me realize how much I miss just being touched by a woman, and ever since then I've been seriously contemplating going to a massage parlor just for the touch of a woman. "

damn- yeah, when you all the sudden don't have any physical contact with the opposite sex, it becomes hard to not think about it. Are you going for a Rub n' Tug?

9/2/2012 8:18:11 AM

i want an awesome back/neck/shoulder rub

9/2/2012 9:43:14 AM

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" This past weekend, I had sex with a co-worker at work. It was awesome since we had most of the building to ourselves. I'm sure this was a one time thing, unfortunately."

9/5/2012 7:47:37 AM

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"I met this girl over the weekend, we were sat next to each other at the same event. we made small talk and by the end of the event we were having a really good time. After the event it was pouring down rain so we sought shelter in a bar and had a couple drinks just to let the storm pass. It was a lot of fun and there was a definite spark between us. the rain never let off so we ended up walking home together in the rain. it was one of the most fun nights i've had in awhile. we finally got to a halfway point and she went her way and I went mine; no exchange of numbers, nothing more than a name. and just like that it was over. I found her on facebook and I really want to send her a message, but I'm also in a healthy long term relationship. Am I asking for trouble if I search this girl out? Should I just enjoy it for what it was, a fun random encounter, and move on?"

do not add/message her on facebook. you are asking for trouble. Enjoy it for what it was and forget about it if you want your current relationship to keep working.

9/5/2012 9:23:17 AM

I'm surprised by how few people have fake Facebook profiles...

9/5/2012 9:39:49 AM

^^100% agree with ddk. Definitely asking for trouble. If there were sparks then nothing good can come out of talking with this girl anymore. Also, if your significant other were in a similar situation, how would you feel knowing she did all that stuff? Although it is entirely innocent and you didn't cheat, just the mere thought of knowing my SO was considering further contact with such a person would be very hurtful.

9/5/2012 11:41:44 AM

^ bingo. The thought of my SO and some other guy is painful. If something actually happened it'd destroy me

9/5/2012 11:44:17 AM

fuck her, and have amazing sex in positions and places your SO would not want to.

Create a second facebook account that is completely private and add her when the time is right.

I also recommend getting a second car(or rent), and possibly a second apartment(rent a room from someone on CL) something cheap.

Live a second life and have children with both chicks.

when the find out, see if they want to have a threesome because both of their vaginas have to be worn out by then.



Oh,I'm accepting lunchtime and afternoon confessions btw.

i'm computerguy and I still don't know how to ghost edit ಠ_ಠ

9/5/2012 11:57:38 AM

you are reaching big4country levels of creeper, and blowing right by it

9/5/2012 12:11:33 PM

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"I found her on facebook and I really want to send her a message, but I'm also in a healthy long term relationship. Am I asking for trouble if I search this girl out? "

i think you're beyond the point of asking for trouble and are pretty much in trouble by now.

9/5/2012 2:55:19 PM

i agree

9/5/2012 2:58:16 PM

Y'all need to cut this guy a break. I meet interesting, attractive girls all the time that make me "wonder." In the past, if I was in a relationship, I would break-up and pursue other options. I'm finally at a point in a relationship that after "wondering" for a little while, I realize how awesome I have it and that there's very little possibility that I could ever find someone better.

But he's essentially just "window shopping"...which everyone does. He's just thinking of taking it a little bit further...like going inside and checking the tags and seeing if they have it in his size. He may not ever come close to trying it on...but until he does that, I don't think he's done anything wrong (and still won't have done anything wrong if he just friends the girl on facebook).

9/5/2012 3:14:05 PM

it doesn't matter what you think. It matters what his gf will think, and his girlfriend will not think of it like that.

So far, harmless. Going out of his way to find her on facebook and talk to her again? danger zone

9/5/2012 4:25:09 PM

^bingo.

9/5/2012 4:42:00 PM

^^ Doesn't matter what your gf will think if you don't tell her. Your SO doesn't have to know EVERYTHING. Every married/engaged/committed man looks at other attractive women and thinks about fucking them. Should they tell their wives/fiances/gfs? Nope.

Facebooking an attractive girl that you have a good conversation with for curiosity's sake is harmless.

[Edited on September 5, 2012 at 4:44 PM. Reason : .]

9/5/2012 4:43:31 PM

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" I found her on facebook and I really want to send her a message"

and say what really?

Hi, this is the guy you met the other day, would you like to grab some coffee?

I'm hedging that if you were in a healthy long term relationship, that you wouldn't be thinking about contacting someone to get to flirt with them some more.

It's one thing to have a harmless encounter, a flirty moment, or a fantasy. It's another to follow that up with something more.

9/5/2012 4:49:29 PM

BTW...I don't think it's a good idea to message this chick unless its a mundane as fuck message, like "holy crap, that lecture was boring as shit!"

But you cannot come off forward at all.

9/5/2012 4:52:17 PM

A lot of women are level-headed and trusting enough that they won't care that you added a new female friend. But it's hard to know, and it's suspicious if she's like the only one you've added in a long time.

Go to a meetup event, tell your gf you went, and after the event send friend requests to like 5 people you met there. Send one to this woman too.

Bam. done.

This has been mrfrog's advice corner.

9/5/2012 4:53:16 PM

If his girlfriend were sane she wouldn't give a shit if his fb friends are male, female, whatever. However, if she knew the circumstances...

And to whoever made the window shopping analogy, seeking her out on fb is right about the point where I'd say he's looking for it in his size.

9/5/2012 6:07:45 PM

There was additional info to the window shopping analogy.

9/5/2012 6:37:59 PM

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"I'm hedging that if you were in a healthy long term relationship, that you wouldn't be thinking about contacting someone to get to flirt with them some more"

QFT

Doesn't sound like much of a random encounter to me if there were sparks. Sounds like you're already in trouble, bro

9/5/2012 6:52:34 PM

You can still have "sparks" with someone if you're in a committed relationship. They key is not acting on it. What kind of bubble do you guys live in? Don't talk to the opposite sex once you're "in a relationship" on Facebook??

9/5/2012 6:57:17 PM

SHUT

DOWN

EVERYTHING

9/5/2012 7:01:26 PM

whoever this is, please send me the confession when you fuck her...just so I know there is someone in this world going after what they want in that exact moment, and not thinking about the consequences.

I mean look how great the Joie thread is now.

9/5/2012 7:01:58 PM

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" There was additional info to the window shopping analogy."

Ooops. Ok I skimmed that. But if you're considering buying the dress, so much to the point you're looking for it in your size, that's trouble. This guy isn't casually browsing the racks, he's going out of his way. Trouble trouble trouble. I like analogies, btw.

9/5/2012 9:57:31 PM

I'm taking all confessions for late night.

Don't worry, I'm not window shopping, I just buy the shit I see online.

9/5/2012 10:13:50 PM

Someone find and embed "Window Shopping" by Sharon Jones & the Dap Kings. She tells it like it is.

9/5/2012 10:30:00 PM

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"I like analogies, btw."

[horrible analogy]I love jackets/coats. Light weight jackets, cold weather jackets, casual jackets, formal jackets, etc. I've hit my jacket limit though. I've got one jacket that does it all and it's the best. I can wear it to the dog park and to New Year's ball. It's great in the middle of the summer and keeps me warm when I head up to Connecticut for Christmas. It was made by a company that doesn't exist anymore, so there's no way to duplicate this jacket...there are none left.

As much as I love this jacket, I still see nice jackets in the store front when I'm wandering around downtown. Some are so nice that I'll go in to get a better look at the jacket. I'll check out the lining, the pockets, see if they have it in my size, etc. Sometimes I'll even envision myself in the jacket and go, "damn I look good in that jacket."

But alas...I've hit my jacket limit. If I get a new jacket, I'll have to get rid of my favorite jacket. And I know I'll never find a jacket like that again. And if give that jacket away, I'll never get it back again, because someone else will find it as awesome as I found it and will never give it up. As good as that new jacket would look on me, its not worth it.

So I put it back on the rack and go back home.[/horrible analogy]

9/6/2012 6:44:25 AM

^ Ok, but you have the sense to recognize you should put the new jacket back because you're old jacket is the cat's meow and one of a kind.

But homeboy doesn't seem to get this in the real life scenario. What is he going to do after he looks at her FB page? If he likes what he sees, will he ask her for coffee like someone mentioned above? Will he delete her? I just don't see where any good can come out of it.

9/6/2012 7:04:31 AM

double post

[Edited on September 6, 2012 at 7:07 AM. Reason : Bahh]

9/6/2012 7:05:23 AM

If he truly loves his current jacket, he won't do anything past browsing her profile and maybe a few messages back and forth.

If he thinks/finds out that this new jacket is better suited for him, then maybe he'll ditch the old jacket for the new one and will have avoided a life where he was wearing a jacket that wasn't perfectly suited for him....or maybe he'll just put it back on the rack.

You guys are making stuff up like, "HE'S GOING TO TAKE HER OUT FOR COFFEE!! OMG!!" He just said he was thinking about looking her up on facebook. Nothing wrong with that. He doesn't even mention ulterior motives. This girl has just roused his curiosity. He just wants to look at her picture a few more times, maybe see if there are some bikini pics, and that's probably it. Anything more and he probably shouldn't be with his current girl. But he hasn't even gotten close to that yet.

9/6/2012 7:14:01 AM

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"im in an unhealthy relationship and i don't know how to get out. moving across the country seems like my only option right about now."

9/6/2012 9:07:26 AM

UNTIL SHE FOLLOWS YOU

9/6/2012 9:10:36 AM

Haha...trying on jackets is like test driving cars.

The key word is sparks. You want to be more than friends especially if you are asking for the ok from this message board.

9/6/2012 9:23:21 AM

does the jacket have a nice ass

9/6/2012 9:34:35 AM

send me a confession!

9/6/2012 9:37:36 AM

I would never take a 2nd look at a jacket if it didn't have a nice ass.

And there's nothing wrong with having "sparks" with another person. You aren't compatible with just one person in the entire world. The key is to not act on those sparks.

[Edited on September 6, 2012 at 9:44 AM. Reason : .]

9/6/2012 9:44:41 AM

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"The key is to not act on those sparks."

This^ there's a line you shouldn't cross and I believe that line is at messaging her and pushing forward with it. Leave it at what it was, a nice encounter and spend your time loving that girlfriend you're in a healthy, long term relationship with. You aren't single so there's no point in acting like you're single.

9/6/2012 10:05:27 AM

How many times do you get hit on when you are single vs when you have a SO.


the answer is 43 times more likely.

you don't get those odds in vegas.

9/6/2012 12:31:11 PM

I get hit on a lot more when I have a girlfriend because I'm confident as Fuck when I have one and things are going well. People like confidence. But I just say thanks and move on/forget about it because I already have a girlfriend whose feelings are important to me

9/6/2012 12:35:51 PM

i got more blow jobs when i was single, i know that much

9/6/2012 1:05:33 PM

lol

9/6/2012 1:13:25 PM