all caps to indicate sarcastic laughing is differen than all caps to yell at some kid on the net because he's acting in a way that reminds you of the love you lost

4/8/2008 10:47:15 PM

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"what's not normal is getting all mad and flipping out at some kid on the internet over some story he's telling"

no that pretty much seems to be the norm around here

4/8/2008 10:47:23 PM

^^ similarly, all caps for emphasis =/= screaming

[Edited on April 8, 2008 at 10:49 PM. Reason : I'm in love right now: I don't have any kind of hidden pathos in telling him he's being stupid.]

4/8/2008 10:48:25 PM

i know its the norm, thats why i suggested therapy. and of course everyone is gonna get mad at me for saying that. even though i said that their feelings are perfectly normal. just that they aren't going about expressing the feelings in a healthy manner

4/8/2008 10:48:46 PM

didn't read any posts.

topic does not compute.

4/8/2008 10:49:18 PM

i agree with jackleg

y'all need to find someone that cares about you and hug it out.

4/8/2008 10:49:23 PM

stillfuckbox, why don't you just use bold? you're the grammar nazi, you know what bold is for. and even the girl next door knows that all caps means SCREAMING.

ha ha she told me that someone was yelling at her on text message, and i was like HWHAT!1?

and she said "they used all caps. thats yelling"

everyone knows it. even people who arent on the internet 2% as much as you

[Edited on April 8, 2008 at 10:53 PM. Reason : wahhhh girl next door]

4/8/2008 10:51:10 PM

what i dont get is how people think you need therapy for relationship issues

like in this case, as long as ur upfront and you make decisions on your feelings while not screwing people over or cheating or whatever, you may have rough patches but you will realize if you want to be with that person or not


like dont fuck the ex, if you talk to her and eventually she comes back, you better have been talking to her because u have the intentions of breaking up with new girl because u love your ex more and want that and not her

if u want this great girl, stop messing with the ex and talking to her

4/8/2008 10:52:38 PM

i dont think they necessarily need therapy for the relationship stuff. just the unresolved anger

4/8/2008 10:53:41 PM

^^^Why not? You yourself used caps in a different way, there's no reason for me to abstain from caps.

SORRY TO INFRINGE ON YOUR PRECIOUS CAPS LOCK!! I DIDN'T KNOW THAT ONLY JACKLEG COULD USE IT!!!!

[Edited on April 8, 2008 at 10:54 PM. Reason : .]

4/8/2008 10:53:58 PM

mooookie

4/8/2008 10:54:17 PM

you don't need therapy for every little thing that makes you angry. i'm sure half the people typing on here are just sitting at their computers calm as can be. they're just expressing an opinion. i think most people agree cheating is bad. and just because someone says that doesn't mean you have to infer they've been cheated on. or that they're super angry or fail at relationships or whatever other stuff has been mentioned in here.

4/8/2008 10:56:49 PM

this entire thing shouldnt have happened but it did

now its up to him to be a man and make some good decisions and make up for it

no therapy is needed, maybe the girl needs some help and talking to by a professional but surely not a mental case, just hurt and unclear and whatnot

4/8/2008 10:58:58 PM

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"you don't need therapy for every little thing that makes you angry. i'm sure half the people typing on here are just sitting at their computers calm as can be. they're just expressing an opinion. i think most people agree cheating is bad. and just because someone says that doesn't mean you have to infer they've been cheated on. or that they're super angry or fail at relationships or whatever other stuff has been mentioned in here."

i dont think they're banging their head against the wall or anything. even if they're calm, it's pretty crazy to be bitching at some guy for doing something just because someone else did something similar to them.

and i don't think you need therapy for every "little thing" that makes you angry -- but i do think you need therapy for the stuff that you obviously can't get over.

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"Why not? You yourself used caps in a different way, there's no reason for me to abstain from caps. SORRY TO INFRINGE ON YOUR PRECIOUS CAPS LOCK!! I DIDN'T KNOW THAT ONLY JACKLEG COULD USE IT!!!!"

one of the quoted posts is thought out and intelligent.

4/8/2008 11:00:46 PM

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"it's pretty crazy to be bitching at some guy for doing something just because someone else did something similar to them."

you don't seem to understand that nobody's necessarily done anything similar to them

his behavior is still abhorrent

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"and just because someone says that doesn't mean you have to infer they've been cheated on. or that they're super angry or fail at relationships or whatever other stuff has been mentioned in here"

(ooo, bold, I bet that makes you happy!)

[Edited on April 8, 2008 at 11:10 PM. Reason : .]

4/8/2008 11:06:06 PM

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"I wish you people did know her. She has to be 100 percent the sweetest most caring person you would ever meet, she's just a ball of sunshine. Thats why I stay with her. She was in a relationship where she was physically abused, and she went through severe depression for years and didnt want to be close to a man until she met me. Being with me makes her so happy, she said she can't remember the last time she would smile so much and she says I make her feel special."

So she was physically abused by her ex, and now emotionally destroyed by your malicious and weak nature... the poor girl. I wouldn't be surprised if she turns to women after this. It's people like you who fuck people up. She's going to have a general distrust of anyone now. And you continue to lie to her.

I'm not claiming to be TWW's moral police, but what you're doing to this girl is nothing short of atrocious.

2 points:
1) She doesn't know that you may have knocked up another chick. As soon as you're able to validate this (ie, she does turn up pregnant) you MUST disclose this.
2) You continue to lie to her about having sex with your ex. You did the weakest thing imaginable and your completely sugarcoated your offense so as to make yourself look like the "not such a bad guy" that you're not.

You put your life on TWW, you give us the right to judge. I'll tell you what, if I ever figure out who you are and if am ever able to find out who this ball of sunshine is that you continuously abuse, then she will get a transcript of this thread.

[Edited on April 9, 2008 at 8:52 AM. Reason : .]

4/9/2008 8:50:15 AM

Wow, I don't know why you people think I'm some kind of monster, that's a bit ridiculous

4/9/2008 9:28:38 AM

like i said, break if off with the girl you are currently dating and have the ex break it off with the guy she is currently dating. That is the only RIGHT way to continue fucking the ex.

4/9/2008 9:32:15 AM

^^ Really, you can't understand this? You can't understand our empathy for the girl you are completely screwing up?

You are a self-righteous prick. You say that "she feels safe and doesn't feel that way with other people" continuously AS IF SHE NEEDS YOU AND YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN MAKE HER FEEL THAT WAY. If that's the case, a cheater and a liar, the poor girl will never be happy.

Get over yourself and fess up, the WHOLE truth to her. Then you will redeem your humanity.

And then you have the gall to accuse her of being annoying when she was quiet COOKING YOU DINNER.

I would contest that it would be slightly annoying if my significant other goes sleeping around and potentially has a child on the way. Slightly annoying.

[Edited on April 9, 2008 at 9:40 AM. Reason : .]

[Edited on April 9, 2008 at 9:40 AM. Reason : .]

4/9/2008 9:35:40 AM

real men keep the giult inside

4/9/2008 9:39:00 AM

Real men actually treat their women with respect and learn to keep it in the pants.


I must be old fashioned.

4/9/2008 9:39:36 AM

Like I've said, to the extent of her knowledge, it was only a one time slip of discretion on my part. Last night when she came over she apologized because her acting like that over dinner was being a bit dramatic. She has started to make the choice to forgive me for my mistake and instead focus on the love she feels for me. She told me last night that her expressing this love is the best feeling on earth, and can overcome anything at all.

Last night we had what I would call a breakthrough, and I would say that while she isn't a hundred percent there, she is very committed to getting over this. I mean, I can tell there are a lot of things that really bother her still by the things she'd ask me and wants to do, but I'm guessing its only natural to a certain extent.

4/9/2008 9:40:49 AM

if your gf really cares for you and you trust her, you should easily be able to tell her what you did and you'll get past it. imagine how much better you'll feel in the long run about it too.

otherwise, yeh, ppl are right in this thread, the douchebaggery will catch up to you eventually.

4/9/2008 9:45:50 AM

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"Last night we had what I would call a breakthrough"

i call it bwning

4/9/2008 9:49:57 AM

Um it was way beyond just sex, she while hesitant, made herself more available I think

4/9/2008 10:00:04 AM

Keeping this all in one thread...

After last night it seems like my girlfriend (yes, I'll let her call call me bf) is really accepting and deciding to focus on her love rather than a mistake I made. While I could tell some strange things still bothered her, she was at least putting forth the effort to be constructive and want to patch things up instead of being vindictive. I think the fact that she is focusing on love, rather than bitterness, and focusing on how I make her feel, rather than what I've done, is what makes her happy and glad I'm still with her.

Thanks for the advice so far guys, I think i'm making the right choices, I turned my phone off last night to avoid getting a call or text from my ex (which I was right about haha), and she left me a voicemail telling me a couple things that I now have to ponder over this morning...

well the thing is, my ex pretty much came out for the first time and told me where she stands. She told me straight up she thinks it was a mistake to move in with that guy. She thinks he's way too sentimental and idealistic and she isn't ready to be stifled like that. Since he came back, she told him she has a yeast infection to keep him away because she doesnt want to have sex with him anymore. She also said their lease expires in June, and for me to take that how I will...

[Edited on April 9, 2008 at 10:09 AM. Reason : .]

4/9/2008 10:09:13 AM

sounds like a personal problem...

4/9/2008 10:20:08 AM

Judge...

you need to lose that cum dumpster of an ex...seriously. you fucked up with an emotional girl...who already has a ton of issues already. Tread lightly with the new gf...either commit to her or not dude.

4/9/2008 10:29:59 AM

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"I mean, I can tell there are a lot of things that really bother her still by the things she'd ask me and wants to do, but I'm guessing its only natural to a certain extent."

Wonder how she'll feel when you have a baby with another woman? I'm saying, I doubt this girl will stick around for that and you need to let her know.

As for the ex, dude... she's a monkey lover. She never lets go of one branch till she has hold of another. By the sounds of it, her lease expires in June and she wants you to move in with her? Or is she just saying it's over in June...

Pretty nasty girl, btw... cheats on her bf while he's at a funeral. Quality. Maybe you two belong to each other.

4/9/2008 10:46:30 AM

[pot-kettle-black]You shouldn't be airing your dirty laundry on TWW.[/pot-kettle-black]

4/9/2008 11:00:39 AM

i think hes created enough shit and its pretty fucked up that you have to ponder what your ex left on your voicemail


what are you going to do? wait until june and then dump this girl or start cheating on her again when your farther along with her

dude wtf is wrong with you
seriously. i know you may not know what u want between the two

but whats the problem in saying for the sake of them, im not going to talk to my ex anymore. you should only give her chances when your not with another woman

4/9/2008 11:46:51 AM

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"rather than a mistake I made"

Too bad she's focused on getting over a lie instead of the actual truth.

Real adults man up and deal with the full consequences of their actions.

You have only dealt with the consequences of a half-truth.

Grow a pair and tell her the truth.

4/9/2008 12:27:59 PM

^ agreed. i will refer y ou to my earlier post on page 2:

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"no balls. no balls at all. well maybe one ball because you DID tell her you cheated. you just didn't tell her the whole truth. but one ball does not a man make."

4/9/2008 12:29:04 PM

i went to highschool with a kid with only one ball

4/9/2008 12:33:15 PM

Hey guys,

I did some thinking at work today and I think I understand part of why I'm torn between the two.

To be frank, my ex and I had really great sex. We were really compatible in that department, more than usual in a relationship, and I think that became more apparent this past weekend. Part of the problem with my now GF (yes, she's my GF now) is that she comes form a more conservative upbringing, and she spent a lot of time not interested in sex because of her abusive boyfriend. So the sex with us wasn't all I would like.

I called last night a breakthrough, because after some wine we got into bed. Oddly enough though, I was thinking about my ex who I had fucked the day before, and I started being way more aggressive than usual with my current gf. She noticed this and straight up asked me "Is that how you fucked that whore?" I was kind of shocked and asked her what she meant and she said "Is that how you fucked that whore? Is that how you like to fuck" I was really surprised she would bring it out like this, and her face looked like she was going to start crying again, but then she said I could do whatever I want to her. She didn't cry and I think this was a major step in our relationship because now she isn't so uptight I guess is the word I want to use. Afterwards when she curled up to me she started crying into my chest a little but I think its just the process of getting through this rough patch.

Like I said, she is a real sweetheart, and this morning was great, she made breakfast really early before she went back to her place and she seems to be getting past the past.

As for my ex, she keeps texting me that she just wants to explain what she meant by telling me her lease is over and stuff. When I press her she just says she wants to see me and that I owe her a talk after what happened this weekend...

4/9/2008 12:48:05 PM

GET YO POPCORN READY!

4/9/2008 12:49:00 PM

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"but then she said I could do whatever I want to her."

cause this seems like an incredibly healthy statement, coming from a girl who has been physically abused in the past

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"Afterwards when she curled up to me she started crying into my chest a little but I think its just the process of getting through this rough patch."

no, thats her thinking about how much she hates you for putting her through this bullshit.
poor girl, if only she knew that you gave her a totally sugar-coated version of the "truth."

[Edited on April 9, 2008 at 12:59 PM. Reason : .]

4/9/2008 12:57:36 PM

Maybe she cries every time you talk to her because she reads TWW.

Also,

Quote :

"Do you know what’s better than throwing a sandwich in the street? That’s right, throwing two sandwiches in the street."

4/9/2008 1:00:42 PM

So, if a girl says "do whatever you want" she does not mean it. If you don't know that, you are not going to do well in future relationships.

Also watch out for:
Am I bigger than that girl?
sure you can hang out with the guys tonight.
I'm just going to run into the mall real quick.
I'll drive.

4/9/2008 1:01:54 PM

Quote :

"I called last night a breakthrough, because after some wine we got into bed. Oddly enough though, I was thinking about my ex who I had fucked the day before, and I started being way more aggressive than usual with my current gf. She noticed this and straight up asked me "Is that how you fucked that whore?" I was kind of shocked and asked her what she meant and she said "Is that how you fucked that whore? Is that how you like to fuck" I was really surprised she would bring it out like this, and her face looked like she was going to start crying again, but then she said I could do whatever I want to her. She didn't cry and I think this was a major step in our relationship because now she isn't so uptight I guess is the word I want to use. Afterwards when she curled up to me she started crying into my chest a little but I think its just the process of getting through this rough patch."

lol

4/9/2008 1:02:20 PM

Its not funny, people kept asking me what the draw to my ex was and when I got down to it, it has a lot to do with that sexual chemistry, so for this relationship to work now, we need to work on getting on the same page

4/9/2008 1:04:44 PM

Oh. Well, I guess the question is, did you fuck her like you did "that whore"? You should avoid sex that ends in crying.

4/9/2008 1:06:52 PM

4/9/2008 1:12:20 PM

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"You should avoid sex that ends in crying."

Funny part is, for his girl to just come out and say "is this how you fucked that whore" in the middle of sex, she has more balls than the judge.


Only if she knew that "whore" was his "ex gf" and that a "singular occurrence while drunk" was actually "multiple times this weekend while sobre" she'd kick him to the curb.

4/9/2008 1:15:44 PM

preach it my brotha

4/9/2008 1:19:59 PM

I can't stand balless men... I can't stand cheaters either. I especially can't stand cheaters who can't or won't fess up.

4/9/2008 1:21:38 PM

I don't get this

I'm basically picking her over my ex, and I'm an asshole? Also, I did tell her I had a lapse of judgement and slept with someone else, that is the truth. There's no need to exacerbate the situation. If she is happy with me, then thats all that matters.

4/9/2008 1:22:05 PM

^^ + and brag about it on the internet

[Edited on April 9, 2008 at 1:22 PM. Reason : ]

4/9/2008 1:22:33 PM

^^ she wouldn't be happy with you if you told her the truth

THAT'S what matters

[Edited on April 9, 2008 at 1:24 PM. Reason : and if you cared about her at all, you'd tell her... but I guess you don't, so that's that]

4/9/2008 1:23:17 PM

hahahahha, this kid is clueless

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"I don't get this I'm basically picking her over my ex, and I'm an asshole?"

YOU THINK YOU'RE DOING HER A FAVOR BY PICKING HER? ARE YOU THAT FUCKING SELF INVOLVED? ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS?

4/9/2008 1:27:30 PM