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6/26/2008 5:11:17 PM

my mom isn't the only one. I'm fairly certain that crazy is a genetic defect in our family.

6/26/2008 5:17:23 PM

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"C - A lot of kids are just ungrateful little shits who don't appreciate the 18+ years of financial and emotional support they got from parents who had to put up with all their bullshit. You'd probably be a little bit bitchy too if you thought you'd finally gotten the house to yourself only to suddenly have an adult child show up again. "

yea this is normally true but i'm definitely not ungrateful and i didn't just "show up" unannounced. i discussed it with them prior to living here this summer. its not like i just showed up and was like "what up. i'm back" its a) only for 2 months and b) it was planned out with them so i could c) work in raleigh this summer and save more money for d) school that i'm putting myself through.

i never had a rebellious teenage stage either. i mean my mother has always been the way she is. when i was like 5 and disagreed with her in the grocery store she'd dig her nails into my arm until they left marks and then leave me there. she'd always come back, but it'd be like 15 minutes later or so. that seriously happened. so maybe i acted out when i was 5, but i'm pretty sure a lot of little children throw a temper tantrum at SOME point. i went to therapy in high school because of her...and my therapist thought SHE was the one that needed therapy but she wouldn't go. i agree that some people take their lives/parents for granted and do things that warrant being treated like shit sometimes, but i've never done anything huge i can think of. never even a speeding ticket. and i AM still grateful that i have contact with my parents i guess. its just at times i question whether or not being around them or striving to impress them isn't harming me more than just giving up and taking things as they are.

6/26/2008 10:10:20 PM

SUCKS

FOR

YOU

6/26/2008 10:26:16 PM

I never got left at the grocery store, but begged to stay in the car while my mom went to 4 different ones every week to get what was on sale. Can't imagine what I would have done if she was that big of a bitch in the store too.

Funny how I grew up on the coast and my mom never had the energy to take us to the beach, but she'd go to 4 grocery stores a week and spend all day Sat. preparing to teach children's church, then the rest of Sunday napping.

6/27/2008 12:49:31 PM

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"I try to talk to my mom everyday, keep her updated with school and life. She nags and nags all the time and is super jealous if I have any girl company around. She threatens to disown me if I have a girlfriend she doesn't approve of."

Wow, I thought I was a "mama's boy" because I talk with my mom like once a week. This thread makes me feel lucky as heck

7/14/2008 10:53:47 AM

memories,memories,nothing but memories.....

7/29/2008 5:06:40 PM

My mother and sister and I had planned to ride at umstead this evening.

The plans, which were for me to get off work, get the dog from the vet, go to my parent's place and get my sister and the bikes, assumed that my mother would get off work at 5. She didn't get off til 516 - which means that the 15 minutes that I was late were pretty much negated

I had quite wrongly assumed that the two bikes would fit in my bf's car, and my sister and I spent a good amount of time (20? minutes, maybe?) trying to get them to fit. By the end of this, my mother is at umstead, and wanting to know how far out we are. Gave her an update, and she said if we didn't have them in the car in 5 minutes, don't bother. So, couldn't make them fit, so my sister and I took a quick spin around the neighborhood.

My mother turned into a goddamn fury when she got home. She even said "You ruined EVERYTHING!"

My sister lives at home now, so when she said 'don't talk', I didn't. I waited for those two to talk (decide whether or not to ride around here), and then for her to start in on me, and she did. Oh, did she.

"You fucked up BIG time! You ruined everything, AND my workout! I hauled ass to get out of work, and all it would have taken from you was an email to avoid all this trouble."

She paused for a breath here, so I tried to point out that I was only as late as she was, but all I managed to get out was "Mom, you left -"

She cut me off, so I headed to the car. I had her bike bag, so when I went to give it to her, she started AGAIN, telling me how inconsiderate I am and how I need to asses my priorities in life. She even asked, very nastily, whether or not I had any more of their stuff I gave up talking to her and had to ask my sister where to put my mom's bag.

She also kept going on about gas money (Apparently, there's $10 in gas money here that neither my sister nor I know about that's an issue now?), as well has how they gave me an old, spare bike rack to transport bikes on, and why didn't I use it, and dammit, what the fuck was I thinking.

I had forgotten how terrible and irrational this woman can get.

I'm dreading checking my email.

[Edited on September 30, 2008 at 6:46 PM. Reason : lkjd]

9/30/2008 6:44:54 PM

^Did she ever have "good" days when she was like "Fuck work. Fuck school. We're going to the mall!"

9/30/2008 7:10:30 PM

Fuck no

9/30/2008 7:27:27 PM

Yeah, my mom is too.

She's told me "I've never been drunk, smoked anything, or had sex with anyone other than your dad."

I'm convinced her uptight ass just needs to smoke weed every day and chill out.

9/30/2008 7:56:49 PM

9/30/2008 7:57:58 PM

YESSSSSS. i found you!!!

tonight we were at the grocery store and my mom got to the checkout and realized her wallet wasn't in her purse. made a scene about someone stealing it even though i SAID we should check the car and home first. a lot of bitching and me getting yelled at later, we find it in the car. no apology.

i'm not allowed to converse with my parents even though we don't talk regularly. i just tried to talk to my dad while my mom was watching a dvred show about my uncle who is critically ill in the hospital and got yelled at to be quiet.

what. the. fuck.

this isn't really insane, just annoying. she watches tv with the remote in her hand and her thumb on the fast forward button like she cannot relax. i think it is impossible for her.

11/6/2008 9:48:45 PM

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"she watches tv with the remote in her hand and her thumb on the fast forward button like she cannot relax. i think it is impossible for her. "

Okay, you win. I think the psych was right, your mom needs to go see someone.

11/6/2008 9:53:09 PM

she would never do that. and if i even suggested it OR got someone else to suggest it (i mean most of my family is on my side so they TRY to make her calm down) she'd flip a shit.

2 seconds ago she was just super nice to me and told me she made up my bed for me with flannel sheets and she was petting my cat.

but if my cat is in a playful mood and won't let my mom hold her, she takes it personally and is like "whatever its fine i know you'll never like me" and i'm like...its a freaking CAT.

i also got yelled at tonight because i said that there were three movies i wanted to see. but then she'll offer to fix me soup. honestly i can't handle it. either be mean to me all the time or nice to me all the time. or at least keep the mood swings to like every few hours. the every few seconds thing is killing me.

11/6/2008 10:33:02 PM

you see, the problem is that your mother is a woman



also, you're being a woman doesn't help things i'm sure

11/6/2008 10:51:32 PM

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"you see, the problem is that your mother is a woman also, you're being a woman doesn't help things i'm sure "

crazy is as crazy does

11/6/2008 10:52:40 PM

my mom impresses me


4yrs ago but she looks more or less the same although i disagree with her growing her hair out currently

11/6/2008 10:54:38 PM

^^^, ^^ no, not the problem

not all moms are like the crazy moms discussed here. some moms are nice. some moms like to talk to their children. some moms like to do nice things for their children. some moms enjoy when their children come home. not all moms freak out when i ask if i can help with dinner and sigh and slam things around and say "i'll do it myself"

[Edited on November 6, 2008 at 10:56 PM. Reason : .]

11/6/2008 10:55:46 PM

Man, the only annoying things my mom really does is talk about politics ALL THE TIME and never responds to my emails

11/6/2008 10:56:15 PM

women lol

[Edited on November 6, 2008 at 10:57 PM. Reason : your mother needs to go fishing with me once. i could teach her some shit about some shit]

11/6/2008 10:56:53 PM

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"or at least keep the mood swings to like every few hours. the every few seconds thing is killing me."

Bipolar much?

Seriously, it sounds like this woman needs help.

11/6/2008 11:00:57 PM

she needs some good dicking



give her my number, i'll fix everything

11/6/2008 11:04:22 PM

doubtful. i can hear her snoring THROUGH the floor right now.

hot.

ugh marriage disgusts me.

11/6/2008 11:07:56 PM

sounds like you're following right in her tracks to me

11/6/2008 11:08:32 PM

yea totally

11/6/2008 11:09:15 PM

apparently chicks like complaining about their mothers

11/6/2008 11:15:14 PM

apparently chicks like complaining about their mothers

11/6/2008 11:15:44 PM

SIGNED!!!!

11/6/2008 11:17:17 PM

My mother took 19 Valium on the morning of my 21st birthday. It was her 7th unsuccessful try at suicide.

Anybody snatch the fun out of what is supposed to be one of the best days of your life like that?

Do you blame me for asking her how she can fail at something so easy after having so much practice?

11/6/2008 11:35:33 PM

What I wanna know...

IS WHO IS THIS GUY NAMED INSANE AND WHY IN THE HELL IS YER MOM FUCKIN' HIM?

11/7/2008 2:01:16 AM

i can relate

11/7/2008 2:07:16 AM

bumped

5/13/2009 9:49:02 PM

5/13/2009 9:50:21 PM

In the course of an otherwise normal conversation with my mother tonight, she started laying into me about wedding pictures and when I'd have them.

We got married on 4/25; she is of the opinion that within a few days, there should have been photos online for us to look at and give out a link to. If I point out that the photographer works full-time at a job other than photography, she replies 'plenty of other people do too, and have fast turnaround time. Quit being selfish.'

Yes...she thinks I'm being selfish for not being a bitch to the photographer, who has already done a LOT for us. I pointed this out, and she started crying, telling me how horrible it was to exclude her from my wedding, telling everyone else but her*, and yes, it really is a big deal that we don't have pictures yet. That no, she really can't wait and it's almost a matter of life and death, especially for all those people who weren't there but would have liked to be.

And then she started in on the actual act of eloping...again.

*: people told beforehand: one boss at work, the officiant, the photographer, the two witnesses (the fact that they are friends and not strangers makes this SOOOOOOO much worse ), and my de facto adopted grandparents I see twice a year. If I point out I only told seven people, she hones in on only two of them - those two alone are what she hinges half of her outrage on. The same two people I get to see twice a year, if that, and I never know when I'll see them, and the mind of one is beginning to go, and they're quite old. i.e., telling them in person was totally justified, no matter what.

15 minutes later, my sister texts me wanting to know if I know what's going on and why mom has lost her shit and is blaming my sister for shit she has nothing to do with.

I called to tell mom to knock it off, and she really needs to be a bitch that badly, to yell at me...she answers the phone three times, and immediately hangs up, so I can't even leave a message. Which is her way of saying "I know I'm acting like a child...fuck you"

To clarify, about the turnaround on the photos: JSnail has quality work, worked with us on insanely short notice, done us a few favors, and at a great rate. She's a friend now. Whenever she gets the pictures to us is good enough, and there is no discussion to be had about that.

[Edited on May 13, 2009 at 10:25 PM. Reason : fg]

5/13/2009 10:21:51 PM

women are hilarious

women and weddings are hysterical

5/13/2009 10:24:20 PM

My mother's just a crazy religious conservative who measures how well your life is going by how much church you're attending.

I would've cut off contact with my mom if I were some of you people.

[Edited on May 13, 2009 at 10:28 PM. Reason : ,]

5/13/2009 10:24:56 PM

My mother is the best.

5/13/2009 10:26:04 PM

i can't post here anymore

5/13/2009 10:31:07 PM

When did she pass?

5/13/2009 10:32:29 PM

april

5/13/2009 10:33:35 PM

I'm sorry, that must be a difficult thing to go through.

5/13/2009 10:39:06 PM

5/13/2009 10:40:52 PM

I keep trying to make a post here but it seems I can't muster up the words to explain why my mom is a little psycho. I think that, all in all, she's gotten a lot better than she used to be.

When I was in high school she decided to go back to college and get her teaching degree, because she was tired of being just an assistant. We lived with my grandmother, who mostly did most of the financial support during this period. Because mom was usually in class from about 7:30 to 5:00, I got to school at 7:00 and stayed until 6:00 while mom was in class. One of my teachers took pity on me and got me an official job so that I worked during those hours (minus the time that I was actually in class, of course) and I ended up pulling in about $200 per month. For a long time, mom let me keep that money and I used it to occasionally buy a magazine, take us out to dinner, and put the rest into savings.

Then at some point she decided to rent out our old house to this married couple. She seems to have forgotten that the guy was 6 years older than me and had bullied me relentlessly when I was in kindergarten and he was in 6th grade. He actually got me and my cousin suspended from the bus when I was in first grade, because he slapped me and we had decided that we had enough and jumped on him. But whatever, he was an adult now. He ended up still being a piece of shit and not paying her the "rent" which was actually just the price of the electric bill. So she ended up taking my paycheck and using it to pay for them to continue living there. She kept doing this through the time when I was in college - she actually only just kicked them out in 2008.

When I turned 16 she said there was no way that she could afford insurance for me and definitely not a car. I never got my license or started driving.

I got a full scholarship to go to NYU but she went into hysterics over it and made me feel like a horrible human being for wanting to go to school so far away. She said she'd never see me again because we couldn't afford the plane tickets. She ended up guilting me out of going. I guess it was a good thing though, because I couldn't have afforded eating in NYC.

My dad left when I was young and when he found out I was going to college, he sent me a $5,000 check to help me get a car / new clothes / etc. Mom didn't tell me about it and kept the money. She also asked to borrow money all throughout college. Once she started teaching, she went out and bought herself a new car, and instead of letting me have the old one she decided that driving in Raleigh was too dangerous and parked it in the back yard. It's still sitting there and is probably unusable now. When I had to get my wisdom teeth taken out, I had to use my money from student loans. She said she'd pay me back but she never did. Same thing happened when I had to put $2,000 down on a new set of hearing aids. I guess after 18 none of that was her responsibility, but it sucked because she was still claiming me as a dependent and at least told me that she'd reimburse me.

These days she's directed her crazy towards my dad, who moved back home and whom she never divorced during the 9 years he peaced the fuck out. She lives with my grandmother (who is crazier and regularly makes me cry when I go home) but she doesn't want her to know about my dad, so she sneaks out and tells her she's going to meetings and working at school on the weekends while she hangs out with dad instead.

Strangely, I miss her and can't wait to see her again.

6/5/2009 2:30:45 PM

omg. it is good that you miss her though even after all of that.

and i think that post qualifies you for admission to the club. welcome.

6/5/2009 2:33:56 PM

^^WTF you must have some sort of stockholm syndrome or something.

^I don't know if it's good to miss someone who mistreats you. Just seems like another level of dysfunctionality to me.

6/5/2009 2:45:18 PM

Just can't bring myself to hate my mom.

6/5/2009 3:06:17 PM

I could bring myself to hate anyone. No one is above getting a line drawn in the sand.

6/5/2009 3:14:20 PM

I don't even hate my dad for abandoning us for nine years. Apparently they drilled parental love in my head pretty well.

I do hate my brother though, and would gladly punch him if I ever saw him.

6/5/2009 3:15:31 PM

that is one of the most depressing stories i have ever heard.

6/5/2009 3:15:34 PM