YOU'RE RIGHT!

8/8/2008 1:45:33 PM

Wow crackmonkey you aren't getting a whole lot of true advice here---I'll take a stab at it for you and it is building off what everyone else has said.



**The lovehandles and the pooches and the flab don't matter if you know how to work it.
Don't worry about whether or not you have a muffin top, concern yourself more with how well you get down.
It doesn't matter if you think you are perfect in the mirror, if you are CONFIDENT in your sexuality, overall dirtiness, and abilities.


I have a major body issues---even when I'm at my thinnest, I hate my body b/c I'm 5'10 with broad shoulders. I am just plain bigger than most girls, whether I am fat or slender. BUT I have every confidence in the world when it comes to my sexuality and bedroom manorisms. That confidence helps me hide any flaws I have as far as my body is concerned.

So work on that...

8/8/2008 1:45:50 PM

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http://brentroad.com/message_topic.aspx?topic=397882





[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 1:49 PM. Reason : ]

8/8/2008 1:48:51 PM

IMO the only thing more unattractive than a girl with some flab is an unconfident girl with flabs.

I'm tired of dating and hanging out with women who have low self esteem and no confidence. Jesus. Quit being bitches and grow some balls.

8/8/2008 1:52:55 PM

Hot girls with low self-esteem are god's gift to ugly guys

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 1:55 PM. Reason : nm]

8/8/2008 1:54:57 PM

i have some friends that didn't understand what i meant when i said "my thighs don't touch"....

they do at the very top but that's it...so i had to show them what i meant...


the point of me telling that is they are big girls and get laid by attractive men on the regular



and i just wanted to say my thighs don't touch

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 1:56 PM. Reason : ^i already said that in my "numbers" post ]

8/8/2008 1:55:17 PM

can you show me? i'm having trouble picturing this

8/8/2008 1:56:03 PM

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"i have some friends that didn't understand what i meant when i said "my thighs don't touch"...."

Were they "special"?

8/8/2008 1:56:05 PM

yeah whats the big deal about thighs not touching...means shes got a tight vag or something?

8/8/2008 1:56:44 PM

^^no...they're just bigger girls and didn't know it was possible to have legs small enough that your thighs don't touch...


^YES! that's exactly what it means

8/8/2008 1:58:23 PM

guess i'll pm since you just gave me a bs answer

8/8/2008 1:59:09 PM

you're just gonna be disappointed

8/8/2008 2:03:53 PM

He's having trouble today isn't he Livin'?

8/8/2008 2:04:29 PM

yeah...but he's getting there

8/8/2008 2:06:22 PM

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"Don't worry about whether or not you have a muffin top, concern yourself more with how well you get down. It doesn't matter if you think you are perfect in the mirror, if you are CONFIDENT in your sexuality, overall dirtiness, and abilities. "

Thank you. I'm going to pretend like my flaws don't matter and just let loose. I'm going to focus on pleasing him so that he doesn't give a fuck about a little extra jiggle.

I work-out at least 4 times a week... I've lost 20 lbs and I've kept it off for the past three months. I'm a work in progress and months from now when everything is completly toned.. maybe I'll feel better. "fake it till you make it."

8/8/2008 2:19:12 PM

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"I'm going to focus on pleasing him so that he doesn't give a fuck about a little extra jiggle."

that is a really fucked up way to look at it in my opinion...you do that and he will probably eventually start treating you like shit

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:23 PM. Reason : get what he wants and peace out ]

8/8/2008 2:23:28 PM

You know... bedroom activities are good ways to burn calories...

... but in all seriousness, I agree with "flaws don't matter". Everybody has them... but I would bet that you are the only person that actually notices because most people are tougher on themselves. I am sure I would look at you and think you look great... as does your work friend

8/8/2008 2:23:56 PM

pm sent

just kidding

8/8/2008 2:27:42 PM

^^^that's ridiculous. all she's saying is that she's going to be more confident in her ability to please him. i'm pretty sure that if she wasn't confident and didn't please him he'd be a lot quicker to "peace out"


also, crackmonkey, remember that everyone thinks they have flaws and is self conscious about something. this guy might seriously be a 10/10, but he might not see himself that way...or he might be self conscious about something else (that has nothing to do with his 6pack abs, etc). just don't let him know that you're worried about looking chubby when you're in bed with him, because that's not what it's about.


[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:30 PM. Reason : whether you are or aren't chubby]

8/8/2008 2:29:19 PM

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"I'm going to focus on pleasing him so that he doesn't give a fuck about a little extra jiggle"

so you are ok with this?

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"all she's saying is that she's going to be more confident in her ability to please him."

read what i quoted and tell me thats her being more confident

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:34 PM. Reason : .]

8/8/2008 2:31:42 PM

making a guy happy so he doesn't care if i have a little extra fat???

8/8/2008 2:33:06 PM

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"You know... bedroom activities are good ways to burn calories... "

christ..... and you wonder why i make jokes.


Confidence & Communication are the 2 most important things.

8/8/2008 2:33:17 PM

^^read my edit

8/8/2008 2:33:32 PM

I highly doubt she meant it like "I'll bwn him so he loves me."

8/8/2008 2:34:32 PM

^ummmm, ok?

8/8/2008 2:35:07 PM

umm, read what she said right before that

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"Thank you. I'm going to pretend like my flaws don't matter and just let loose. I'm going to focus on pleasing him so that he doesn't give a fuck about a little extra jiggle"

she's going to stop worrying about her flaws and focus on something that will put her mind at ease that he's not looking at what she conceives to be her flab/flaws either

8/8/2008 2:35:42 PM

Quit being a retard, dnl...

The guy is obviously already attracted to something about her (looks, personality, sex, whatever)... and part of pretty much every adult relationship is sexual so why wouldn't someone want to do their best to please their partner? It won't make a guy who is in to her treat her like shit, but it might let him know... "wow, she really is in to me too."

I know I wouldn't stay with my g/f if she wasn't intelligent, cute and sexually compatible... it's a whole bunch of things that come in to play in every relationship.

That is all she meant I'm guessing...

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:37 PM. Reason : x]

8/8/2008 2:36:18 PM

Sorta building confidence...

8/8/2008 2:36:41 PM

its the pleasing him part that really irks me


shouldnt have to fucking work harder at pleasing a guy just so he will like you

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:37 PM. Reason : but i guess i'm too idealistic? and women are attracted to guys NOT like that?]

8/8/2008 2:36:56 PM

DNL to be honest if its a good relationship BOTH people should focus on pleasing the other... that way everyone wins... now will you please let it go and get off a high horse i'm not even sure you know how to ride?

8/8/2008 2:38:06 PM

if she quits focusing on things that don't matter, then she can put more into what does matter - making someone she likes happy. as a bonus, she can put her mind at ease with thinking "i'm making him happy so he'll be less likely to waste time looking at my flaws"






[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:41 PM. Reason : ]

8/8/2008 2:38:15 PM

^^

shes not fat but she feels she must please her man to make sure he likes her...yeah thats not stupid at all

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:39 PM. Reason : .]

8/8/2008 2:38:29 PM

What is idealistic about that?

Not thinking sexual compatibility has anything to do with adult relationships is just naive (or stupid... or both).

8/8/2008 2:38:51 PM

i guess you'd have to know what crackmonkey looks like first

8/8/2008 2:39:39 PM

TWW orgy time

8/8/2008 2:40:01 PM

DUDE IN A RELATIONSHIP THE OTHER PERSON SHOULD MATTER AS MUCH AS YOU OR MORE...

8/8/2008 2:41:56 PM

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"f she quits focusing on things that don't matter, then she can put more into what does matter - making someone she likes happy. as a bonus, she can put her mind at ease with thinking "i'm making him happy so he'll be less likely to waste time looking at my flaws""

ok i agree with the first line...then you say "making someone happy" which shes only doing cause she thinks she is fat....so her whole mind at ease thing means her mind is at east cause she is sucking up to him, just cause she thinks shes fat...when in reality he doesnt have a prob with it anyways

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:42 PM. Reason : ^agreed...dont know why you had to state that though]

8/8/2008 2:42:20 PM

DNL

what you're saying makes no sense. you're supposed to do things to make your SO happier if you care about them, and should want to, as well - as should they. this stands inside and outside the bedroom. i'm not saying you should toss aside what is important to you, and it doesn't seem like she is. it actually seems like in the process of making him happier, she'll be becoming more confident in herself.


besides that, it doesn't matter AT ALL what she looks like to you. she sees herself in a different way. have you never met an unattractive guy who was cocky, overconfident, and though he was god's gift to women?? sometimes that works the opposite way too...

8/8/2008 2:42:30 PM

whatever

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:43 PM. Reason : this is seriously hopeless on an internet message board]

8/8/2008 2:43:03 PM

omg you're an idiot. i doubt she's only trying to make him happy b/c she thinks she's fat. if she didn't already like him, 1 i doubt she'd be hooking up with him considering she said she's generally a "good girl" and 2 i doubt she'd be concerned about it at all

8/8/2008 2:44:27 PM

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"have you never met an unattractive guy who was cocky, overconfident, and though he was god's gift to women??"

Nope

8/8/2008 2:44:55 PM

she likes him cause she thinks hes better than her^^

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:45 PM. Reason : .]

8/8/2008 2:45:16 PM

^^you, too, are an idiot, then

^where the hell did you get that?

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:45 PM. Reason : ]

8/8/2008 2:45:31 PM

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"this guy is out of my league...."

8/8/2008 2:46:41 PM

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"this is seriously hopeless on an internet message board"

People need to realize that more often.

8/8/2008 2:47:19 PM

^^that just illustrates why she feels so self conscious with him. she never said or insinuated (as far as i can tell) that that was why she liked him



besides, i'm pretty sure it's less about that guy and more about her and how she sees herself

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:49 PM. Reason : ]

8/8/2008 2:48:16 PM

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"you, too, are an idiot, then"

Have you ever heard of sarcasm?

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:50 PM. Reason : Oh, I see you're a driving poodle. Maybe you really haven't heard of sarcasm. ]

8/8/2008 2:48:44 PM

sounds like shes going to bend over backwards for this guy(to please him), and the guy is not going to reciprocate at all(and she will probably be ok with it, cause she feels shes not as attractive as him[her words] so its more of her job to try and "keep" him)


common theme among women that typically always end up with douchebags

8/8/2008 2:49:11 PM

^^have you ever heard of sarcasm?





seriously josh...


she never said she's going to go out of her way for him. she just said she's going to quit focusing on what she sees as her flaws and focus and what they're doing, basically.


if you were fucking a girl (hahahahahaha) would you enjoy it if she seemed distracted by what she saw as her "flaws" or would you enjoy it more if, yeah she has a few flaws, but she's having fun and trying to make sure you do too?

[Edited on August 8, 2008 at 2:51 PM. Reason : ]

8/8/2008 2:49:23 PM

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"common theme among women that typically always end up with douchebags"

Actually, that sounds like a guy who has it pretty together, not a douchebag.

8/8/2008 2:50:09 PM