I'm walls1441 and i condone the use of page 3.

10/16/2008 10:24:05 AM

sex is one of the silliest things ever

porn is fucking silly as shit

to treat either of them as serious matters is beyond ridiculous

fidelity is a serious issue, but porn is purely sexual and/or hilarious

10/16/2008 10:25:26 AM

^cheers

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"Yep anytime 24-7 or you get to keep your porn. Lay some fucking demands on the table here."

HAHA

Buy her some of her own porn (softcore/pretty boy) so she knows what she's missing.

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"Porn is destructive to a relationship in most cases."

How so? I think it's a natural thing, and she's lying if she says that she doesn't find other people attractive and that you shouldn't either. My boyfriend and I also spent 6 months of our relationship on different continents, which helped make me more realistic in that line of thinking.

I'd much rather my boyfriend beats it to asian teens while sitting in front of a computer instead of having pent up frustration and lusting after the very real girls at bars or chick friends.

10/16/2008 10:26:50 AM

Morphine Boy:


[Edited on October 16, 2008 at 10:32 AM. Reason : I can't decide whether or not to address his 'points']

10/16/2008 10:31:45 AM

i'll delete the porn for my gf when she puts out 5 days a week. why would i downgrade?

I'm walls1441 and i approved this message.

10/16/2008 10:32:34 AM

LOL WALLS

10/16/2008 10:33:05 AM

So why are my points "points" instead of valid points?

Just because I toss out opposite viewpoints, I'm automatically naive and foolish?

10/16/2008 10:41:53 AM

I never look at porn

10/16/2008 10:45:34 AM

If porn is capable of being a destructive element in your relationship, your communication is probably terrible as it is, and that's much more of a problem than porn could ever be.

10/16/2008 10:46:39 AM

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"You guys are acting like watching it is exactly the same as sex, but it's not."

[Edited on October 16, 2008 at 10:55 AM. Reason : and ^]

10/16/2008 10:54:49 AM

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"So why are my points "points" instead of valid points? Just because I toss out opposite viewpoints, I'm automatically naive and foolish? "

no, I understand what you are saying, I just think it is unrealistic.

most relationships fail because of unrealistic expectations of one or both partners. I think any woman who expects their man to never look at porn or go to a titty bar, etc...is setting themselves up for a life of failed relationships.

10/16/2008 11:02:20 AM

mv Porn .Porn



yay

10/16/2008 11:17:26 AM

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"So why are my points "points" instead of valid points? Just because I toss out opposite viewpoints, I'm automatically naive and foolish? "

When you say things like this:

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"Looking at the state of things (and I realize porn is not the only cause of this), but people wonder why "50%" of marriages fail these days. Men have stopped being men and are instead just "males.""

It tells me that you are more interested in blaming things than people, when things go wrong.

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"Porn is destructive to a relationship in most cases."

And then you say things like this. You make no argument or case. This makes me wonder if you're a Southern Baptist fundie, and thus not even worth bothering with

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""Solution: Quit looking at porn. Much easier said than done, but if you quit looking at porn and instead focus all your sexual energy on your girlfriend, she will both A) feel sexier and more appreciated because of your attention, and B) probably want to fool around more often and try her hardest to please you"

You can't please some women, even if you do everything right. I suspect that's going on her, because a woman who is so insecure that porn is a problem is a woman who is insecure all the time. Which means she's going to want everything else in her life perfect. Often to unrealistic ideals.

I put apostrophes around points when talking about your comments because
- you're stating what you think is the solution, backing it up only with some vaguely idealistic positions
- You seem hellbent on putting the happiness of the OP's gf on him, not her

[Edited on October 16, 2008 at 11:22 AM. Reason : lf]

10/16/2008 11:21:52 AM

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"Relationships require hard work and sacrifice."

I hate this statement. Positively HATE IT! HATE IT! HATE IT! If the relationship is requiring large amounts of sacrifice and hard work, get out! You can make most anything work if you try hard enough, but I prefer my interactions to relieve stress, not add to it.

Honestly, if you both see porn as a moral vice, and decide to abandon it. Good for you. I've got no problem with people making personal choices individually or as a couple. In this case, the issue not porn, it could be her insecurity, controlling nature, or simply incompatible moral values. Either way, that is what needs to be addressed.


And most marriages fail because of financial problems, not porn. That and WacArnolds.

10/16/2008 11:34:13 AM

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"most women have no idea how often their man beats off. they would probably be appalled and unwilling/unable to meet that schedule without being made to feel like a whore."

You'd be surprised at how many women would be pleasantly surprised at meeting that sort of schedule. Just ask her to help you out more often. She may really want to.

10/16/2008 12:13:08 PM

^^ Listen to this guy.

Also, if you can catch JCASHFAN I hear that he grants wishes.

10/16/2008 12:13:56 PM

aha

10/16/2008 12:14:39 PM

I have never seen porn before

10/16/2008 12:15:09 PM

^^^^^ agreed.

Porn should never be a problem. In fact, porn has been a good contributing factor in my current relationship. We like to look at porn together. It's fun, and often leads to... other things.

[Edited on October 16, 2008 at 12:17 PM. Reason : ^]

10/16/2008 12:17:06 PM

puppy please do not involve tdub with our personal life matters

10/16/2008 12:18:50 PM

It's just a way of getting your rocks off when she's not around or not in the mood. You don't need to feel any guilt about it and she needs either to accept it or fuck you more often so you don't need to beat off so much. I'm married and I beat off more often than I have intercourse, and my wife knows it and accepts it. We both work full-time and we're too damned tired in the evening to fuck; sex has become a weekend-only thing. If your girlfriend can't get over her issues, dump her or you're in for a lot of sexual frustration and sticky sheets.

Hell, masturbation has some advantages over sex. No foreplay, no preoccupation with your partner's enjoyment or your own performance, minimal physical exertion, and you can get on with your day immediately afterward. Most days I rub one out when I go home for lunch or in the morning right before I leave for work.

10/16/2008 12:27:39 PM

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"Maybe for you. Some people genuinely enjoy it."

I find the only woman who "enjoy" anal are just liars. They don;t really dig it - but because they are ugly or have daddy issues - they use their zest for a bloddy O ring to get attention.

10/16/2008 1:38:27 PM

I see.

10/16/2008 2:09:15 PM

hey guys, what's this thread about?

10/16/2008 2:09:35 PM

Your mom.

10/16/2008 2:11:55 PM

OOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH SNAP

10/16/2008 2:12:12 PM

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"puppy please do not involve tdub with our personal life matters "

I don't even know you.

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"I find the only woman who "enjoy" anal are just liars. They don;t really dig it - but because they are ugly or have daddy issues - they use their zest for a bloddy O ring to get attention."

you are an idiot who clearly does not understand women.

10/16/2008 2:49:57 PM

puppy, how dare you do this to me in front of all of the guest

10/16/2008 2:52:21 PM

10/16/2008 3:14:32 PM

I guess we are having our first fight, I am so heartbroken and sad. I am half the man I used to be...

10/16/2008 4:01:24 PM

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"I hear that he grants wishes."

JCASHFAN: short on height, long on . . .

























well, not much really.

10/16/2008 4:07:40 PM

ok, so now she's mad at me cuz i watch it every day and not just once in a while. She's says I need help. Maybe I do what ya think? I do beat off almost every day, is that too much?

10/16/2008 6:14:34 PM

dude there are some days i beat off like 3 times in a day

10/16/2008 6:16:55 PM

drop that bitch

10/16/2008 6:20:15 PM

hahahah one can never beat off too much, dear

as for

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"ok, so now she's mad at me cuz i watch it every day and not just once in a while"

I mean unless you are rejecting her sexual advances and beating off to porn instead I don't know why she's mad . . . but then I generally don't understand women anyway so what do I know

10/16/2008 6:26:20 PM

She is insecure.


There is nothing you can do about it.


Drop her ass.

10/16/2008 7:44:00 PM

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"drop that bitch"

10/16/2008 8:09:27 PM

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"She is insecure. There is nothing you can do about it. Drop her ass."

10/16/2008 8:10:19 PM

^^^, ^^, ^

10/16/2008 8:10:55 PM

depends on how much you like her. i'd give up porn for a girl i liked a lot. but then again, i'm not that big of a porn guy anyways and don't even have any on my computer.

10/16/2008 10:17:58 PM

This is only a problem when she is not getting loving cause you're off watching porn. I have a friend who has this problem. She never gets laid but her bf is always whacking to internet porn it makes her feel awful and sexually frustrated.

10/16/2008 10:55:55 PM

YES! Teh Jeebis Daddy has a point. I only get uber pissed at my hubby about the pr0n and the long showers when I am not getting me a little something something.

10/16/2008 11:06:36 PM

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"She never gets laid but her bf is always whacking to internet porn"

What type of frequency counts as "never"?

10/16/2008 11:36:33 PM

I think that anything less than once every six weeks counts as never.

10/16/2008 11:37:19 PM

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"If porn is capable of being a destructive element in your relationship, your communication is probably terrible as it is, and that's much more of a problem than porn could ever be."

homegirl's insecurities are treading on your natural behavior

fuck that guilt

10/16/2008 11:41:17 PM

she said twice a MONTH!

shit ain't right!!!!
cause she want it every night!

10/17/2008 12:17:39 AM

next time you two have sex, pull out a pic of a porn star & tell her to hold that while your fucking.

10/17/2008 3:59:21 PM

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"Porn is destructive to a relationship in most cases."

You are an idiot.

10/17/2008 6:38:22 PM

^ yeah, the problem is deeper than porn.

ncsu_ot_usmc, you need to talk to her. Figure out what the real problem is because it seems like this is just a surface issue. There is something deeper here.

10/17/2008 8:11:48 PM

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"next time you two have sex, pull out a pic of a porn star & tell her to hold that while your fucking."

Fuck that. Just break out some really weird shit during sex and then say that it looked a lot cooler "in that video."

10/17/2008 8:23:54 PM