I can't remember the last time I had sex, so 0

3/12/2009 10:44:15 AM

3-8, i guess

i've been busy with my new job and working on the house, so i've been going to bed pretty early...she's an evening kind of girl, i'm a morning kind of guy...less sexin' as a result

3/12/2009 11:35:34 AM

Alright, so the average TWW sex/wk is 3.9. The reasonable minimum for the few that answered was 2.5. The reasonable maximum for the few that answered was 13.

Not too shabby!

I would say that my personal sex/wk is 1.75. I say this, because its more of 7 times a month. I would like a lot more, but she doesn't have the libido. I was thinking that a reasonable bare minimum would be twice a week. I was also thinking that a reasonable maximum would be 14.

3/12/2009 11:53:55 AM

I don't bwn nearly enough times/week. It's actually pretty depressing.
I've all but made up my mind to leave my girlfriend because of this...

Reason being: if it's this bad now, it's only going to get worse after marriage. then I'll just be even more miserable than I am now. It's a waste of time staying in this relationship now....I should be out finding my future Mrs. EMCE.

[Edited on March 12, 2009 at 12:24 PM. Reason : j]

3/12/2009 12:13:32 PM

1.5 TIMES PER WEEK, with the gf


with my hand....nah, better not say

3/12/2009 12:20:24 PM

30 TIMES A WEEK

3/12/2009 12:24:42 PM

Quote :

"if it's this bad now, it's only going to get worse after marriage."

oh, you better fucking believe it.

like i said, 3x per day early dating, went down to once (sometimes twice) per day prior to marriage.... then AS SOON AS THE MARRIAGE WAS OVER... it was immediately down to about 3x per week. and its gone steadily down over the years since then.

and blowjobs?? LOLOLOL. forget about that shit. i used to get blowjobs in waffle house, the park, the car, the bathroom at the bar.... now i get them once a quarter, and then only after intense negotiations.

so if you're only getting a couple times a week NOW, you better just bank on getting once or twice a month after being marriage.

no joke.

3/12/2009 5:21:19 PM

yikes you people are cray cray.

someone needs to do a study on this though. you know--about marriage and sex. i want to see how these people act in other aspects of life. like did people that stopped having sex immediately have kids? or what. why does this happen?

there are 2 kinds of married people. there are people (i feel like this is the majority of friends i have) that change after they get married. and i feel like it is so mental like they feel like they HAVE to act different, but they do and like fall off the face of the earth. i don't know what they do in their time, but it isn't hang out with friends, go out, do things, etc. it must be sit at home and stare at each other. in which case, i don't get why sex goes down, but it does.

the OTHER type of people (minority) get married and act the same as they did when they were just dating/not married. still go out. still have fun. like nothing changes except maybe that they live together (but some people lived together before marriage, anyway).

i don't get it. like why do you get all alienated from friends and life and sex when you get married?!

3/12/2009 5:30:24 PM

well, In My Exp.... having kids changes everything ... all of your priorities become changed.



still, i dont know why that's got to change the amount of sex a woman wants to have. it ain't due to a lack of interest on my part. i damn still have to beat it once a day.

3/12/2009 5:38:49 PM

well i mean yea the having kids thing i understand. but like my friends getting married--we are all still in our 20s. why do some turn out normal and still hang out and do fun things like nothing has changed, and why do some become all weird and alienated and unhappy.

3/12/2009 5:42:10 PM

yeah, ... ive seen that happen too.

i think its usually due to the woman. here's my theory:

they control the amount of pussy the man gets.

they want the man to settle down, become domestic, in preparation for having kids. it's all biological.

so the woman removes the pussy every time the guy does something she doesnt like, such as hanging out with the single guys partying. this behavior, in her mind, threatens future stability and support for a child.

the guy becomes bitter and resentful, as he comes to the realization that he's been tricked. those years of dating, with the daily sex and blowjobs in the park are over.

now he's got to stay home and mow the grass.

3/12/2009 5:50:09 PM

depends on how i'm doing relationship wise- right now i average 1-2 a day

3/12/2009 5:50:55 PM

^^ well i don't want that to happen to me!!!

i don't even think i want kids. so maybe it won't. i like having fun and would hate to think marriage would make me boooooooring.

3/12/2009 5:54:19 PM

OMG I"M GETTING SOME RIGHT NOW> YESSSS

3/12/2009 5:55:25 PM

Quote :

"so the woman removes the pussy every time the guy does something she doesnt like, such as hanging out with the single guys partying. this behavior, in her mind, threatens future stability and support for a child. "

This doesn't work when you want sex more than he does.

3/12/2009 5:58:44 PM

MIN: 0

MAX: 0

AVG: I don't know, I'm no good at maths

3/12/2009 6:03:22 PM

Quote :

"still, i dont know why that's got to change the amount of sex a woman wants to have."

Hormones control her sex drive, and they all go batshit crazy when she's pregnant/a few months after the kid is born.

It's sad, but it's the way it is.

3/12/2009 6:06:33 PM

^ word. pregnancy wreaks havoc on a woman's body. the corresponding weight gain often makes women have a negative self image and further reduces sex drive.

^^ Infinity

^^^ sexual incompatibility i think is #2 reason for divorce. #1 is money.

^^^^^ everything you think now, will likely change in a decade. think of what you thought a decade ago.



[Edited on March 12, 2009 at 6:08 PM. Reason : ]

3/12/2009 6:07:10 PM

Quote :

"everything you think now, will likely change in a decade. think of what you thought a decade ago. "

I still wanted sex 3 times a day a decade ago.

3/12/2009 6:09:21 PM

yea but a decade ago i was 14. i think i know myself more than i did a decade ago. and if i want to have kids in a decade then fine but i don't get why people who get married NOW and don't want kids for awhile, change so much.

^ hahahaha. that made me laugh!!! good point!

[Edited on March 12, 2009 at 6:10 PM. Reason : .]

3/12/2009 6:10:29 PM

there's a huge change for women between 24 and the mid-30's....

the whole concept of "biological clock" you don't hear it ticking now. but you will.





[Edited on March 12, 2009 at 6:16 PM. Reason : ]

3/12/2009 6:12:44 PM

what is the huge change?! what about people that are baby crazy now? their clock has already started ticking? what happens? you have an urge to have a kid that you cannot control? i'm intrigued.

i mean people can have kids later in life, i get it, that is why i said if i want to have a kid in a decade, i will. 34. easy peasy lemon squeezy. besides, who even knows if i'm fertile now. maybe my clock has tocked.

[Edited on March 12, 2009 at 6:15 PM. Reason : .]

3/12/2009 6:14:25 PM

every one is different. like you said, you can be baby crazy in early twenties or even younger. some women never have kids and never worry about it.

but physiologically, theres something that happens. and definitely emotionally and socially.

mid thirties you are approaching the latter days of your reproductive ability. once you hit 40, your chances of having a healthy baby greatly decreases.

you start to realize the magnitude of "now or never"

this has become a serious issue for a huge number of career women in their 30's

3/12/2009 6:19:32 PM

Quote :

"and blowjobs?? LOLOLOL. forget about that shit. i used to get blowjobs in waffle house, the park, the car, the bathroom at the bar.... now i get them once a quarter, and then only after intense negotiations. so if you're only getting a couple times a week NOW, you better just bank on getting once or twice a month after being marriage. no joke."

TRUTH

3/12/2009 6:31:06 PM

Sex? What the hell is sex?

3/12/2009 6:31:55 PM

change your screenname. i suggest

!zxappeal

3/12/2009 6:43:31 PM

Har. Har. Har.

3/12/2009 6:45:20 PM

ALWAYS USE THE BLUE ONES

3/12/2009 8:12:13 PM

zero point zero

3/12/2009 9:33:03 PM

I think when I first started having sex I wanted it twice a day for about a month, then.......there was other shit I wanted to do.

Don't get me wrong, sex is fan-fucking-tastic and the burner is still on high, but all the fucking time? There's so much more to life/relationships than getting the poonie bruised up.

A slow and steady couple times a week does it for me and him.

3/12/2009 9:39:44 PM

2-3 a week...?

I am sorry but i couldn't ever do 7 days in a row I get sore and need a day or two to recover otherwise its just painful to do that every day.

3/12/2009 9:42:22 PM

pussy

3/12/2009 9:44:21 PM

I had sex last night... With a girl! UNHHHH!

3/12/2009 10:54:20 PM

Quote :

"and blowjobs?? LOLOLOL. forget about that shit. i used to get blowjobs in waffle house, the park, the car, the bathroom at the bar.... now i get them once a quarter, and then only after intense negotiations."

I hear that, time was I'd just take it out and she would get to it. Now its as hard to get as it was for her to get me to make that scale model of the globe theater for her class. Except when I was making the model I didn't make it unbearably clear the whole time how much i didn't want to be doing it and then stop before It was done if she said anything about how disinterested or half assed of a job I was doing. (I'm not saying making a model is equivalent to a blowjob, I hope in vain that this note will slow those people who always try to be clever by acting like they don't know what you mean )

3/16/2009 8:23:41 PM

maybe a more accurate measure would be the amount of time spent at sex. I had a bf who could get it up, cum in 5-10min, and then get it up again and so he could cum 5x in an hour and a half.

On the other hand, many other guys take 30 min to an hour to cum, or possibly longer, and then, if they can get it up again, it takes about 30 min to do so.

3/16/2009 8:44:53 PM

What on earth is wrong with all of you married people? Ridiculous.

3/16/2009 11:46:50 PM

when i was in my last relationship it was once or twice a hour during the week and anywhere from one to fifteen times a hour on the weekend, but she was out of town a lot so those numbers would probably be lower if she was here all the time. but we never had any problems, we were both almost always up for it, probably the only thing i miss about her really"

3/17/2009 9:19:45 AM

Quote :

"I hear that, time was I'd just take it out and she would get to it. Now its as hard to get as it was for her to get me to make that scale model of the globe theater for her class. Except when I was making the model I didn't make it unbearably clear the whole time how much i didn't want to be doing it and then stop before It was done if she said anything about how disinterested or half assed of a job I was doing. (I'm not saying making a model is equivalent to a blowjob, I hope in vain that this note will slow those people who always try to be clever by acting like they don't know what you mean )"

i nearly spit up all over myself reading that.

3/17/2009 10:02:23 AM

Quote :

"2-3 a week...? I am sorry but i couldn't ever do 7 days in a row I get sore and need a day or two to recover otherwise its just painful to do that every day."

Ever hear of lube?

3/17/2009 10:14:04 AM

yeah, but do you cut the pockets out of your pants, so you can masturbate in public?

3/17/2009 1:15:53 PM

Quote :

"Alright, so the average TWW sex/wk is 3.9. The reasonable minimum for the few that answered was 2.5. The reasonable maximum for the few that answered was 13."

Yeah, so I drag this down like x1000000. Long-distance ftl... I guess we can put an *.



[Edited on March 17, 2009 at 1:19 PM. Reason : x]

3/17/2009 1:19:01 PM

Quote :

"Alright, so the average TWW sex/wk is 3.9"

4x per week average?

i call shenanigans.

the likelihood that so many of you are currently in the bunny-phase is pretty incredible.

3/17/2009 1:23:23 PM

here is what i find entertaining.

everyone knows that when you first get into a relationship that you are going at it like rabbits and then that trickles off. the woman is typically the party who is the cause of this, but can't see the correlation between this and him "not treating me with the same interest as when we first started dating".

Its pretty clear. If you stop showing interest in some manner it is not out of the ordinary for him, too, to act in a way that might represent a lack of interest.

wow, he doesn't take you out as much any more or bring home random presents as much? maybe its because hes no longer getting his nuts licked in the back of a car on the highway or has to hear you complain about how you've got too much on your mind to get busy right now.

its a two way street here people.

3/17/2009 2:16:24 PM

Quote :

"everyone knows that when you first get into a relationship that you are going at it like rabbits and then that trickles off."

i fully admit this is the reason for my high(ish) number...we've only been dating 5 months

we'll see what my number is like a year from now

3/17/2009 2:25:19 PM

^You have a new girl now??

3/17/2009 2:30:11 PM

my times i want sex and times i get sex are really at opposite ends here.....

all the time vs. none of the time

3/17/2009 3:10:41 PM

I don't really care what any of you fucks think, so I'll be perfectly honest.

I'm 27 but I lead a VERY VERY busy life (despite my posting history on TWW -- 97% of it is from work or when I'm studying on the laptop)... I'd say a good 4 out of every 5 weeknights I don't even think about sex when I hit the bed... And I don't think that'd change if my girlfriend was closer...

3/17/2009 3:25:09 PM

I , too, had sex today.

3/17/2009 3:26:57 PM

^^ you might want to get your 'nads checked out.... sounds like you got a clog, or something.

i mean, cause at 27 I wanted sex twice a day every day, and pressed for it as much as i could.... even now a decade later, its still once a day. admittedly, its with the hand most of the time ... but still.





[Edited on March 17, 2009 at 3:30 PM. Reason : ]

3/17/2009 3:27:31 PM

i don't even know what would happen if i lived in the same city as my boyfriend. it is weird to think about because now i'm used to not.

3/17/2009 3:27:39 PM