Oh, well in that casE:

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"^2 Jesus Christ. Stop acting like I'm being overly cautious by not accepting a drink from a fucking stranger."

I wasn't just talking about your post or opinion. I'm talking about everything in general.

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"Excuse me if I don't know the laws of Starbucks."

That's totally fine. Quit trying to argue about it if you don't know how it works. That's pretty much it. It was explained, and now you know.

6/19/2009 10:34:20 AM

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"The real question is who the fuck is dropping roofies in coffee at 8am?"

that's why it's the perfect crime

6/19/2009 10:34:41 AM

If some dude is throwing roofies around Starbucks before noon then just give up, he's far too determined, you're gonna get raped.

[Edited on June 19, 2009 at 10:37 AM. Reason : UPPPP]

6/19/2009 10:35:43 AM

This is also true

6/19/2009 10:36:08 AM

Wow, a conversation about a married woman accepting a coffee from a stranger has turned into a roofie-filled sex fest in said stranger's backseat.

I need some popcorn.

6/19/2009 10:36:22 AM

There is no reaching. It's you two teaming up trying to make a ridiculous argument out of a statement that originally had nothing to do with your drink that you got from the barista at the Starbucks. It was made to show what I felt about accepting drinks -- and yall ran with it. Besides, I don't think it's ridiculous at all to think he could have handed you your drink.

6/19/2009 10:37:34 AM

6/19/2009 10:38:38 AM

^ Please. That can describe this whole damn thread seeing as you're spending way too much thought on a drink offer and whether or not it was wrong to turn it down. Go with your gut feeling and move on.

6/19/2009 10:40:14 AM

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"It's you two teaming up trying to make a ridiculous argument out of a statement that originally had nothing to do with your drink that you got from the barista at the Starbucks. It was made to show what I felt about accepting drinks -- and yall ran with it. Besides, I don't think it's ridiculous at all to think he could have handed you your drink."

[riker/picard carl face pic]

6/19/2009 10:41:06 AM

You've spent way too much time trying to convince us that a guy has a chance to drop roofies into a latte at Starbucks at 8am on a Friday morning. I wish you'd just admit that your theory has no place in this particular situation and just move on.

6/19/2009 10:41:47 AM

The funny part is there wasn't a problem until you guys tried applying it your situation, which I never did in the first place. And there's no "theory."

Why don't you get back on the original topic and give it up -- I'm not changing my mind.

6/19/2009 10:43:27 AM

Well, we've got one thing settled: it's not a hooksaw impersonation.

6/19/2009 10:44:28 AM

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"I would like to say I"m sure he was just being nice, but I also am super paranoid about accepting drinks and would be worried as to whether or not it had Ketamine, etc, in it."

Your first post implied it! You obviously didn't know the Starbucks protocol in the first place, or else you'd never have alluded to the stranger ever getting his hands on my latte.

6/19/2009 10:45:04 AM

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"I only became this way after I had to counsel girls who had this happen to them when they literally only looked away once. : \ So sue me, I'm just super safe about it"

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"tell your friends not to get so fucked up on booze and then they don't have to make up stories about what might have been slipped in their drink."

my suspicions were also this. i have known girls to get really drunk on their own accord and then hear something they did and rather than accept the accountability of their own behavior they say they must have been drugged. are you sure this couldn't have been the possibility sam? i'm not being a dick, i'm really just curious.

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"i don't think i would be too comfortable if my wife..."

i'm with BobbyDigital on this one. i couldn't care at all because i'm not insecure. if she gets a drink, go her. that reflects well on my taste in women and is one less thing i have to buy. shes not going to leave and go home with them so why does it matter.

6/19/2009 10:46:19 AM

[what you want to hear]
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6/19/2009 10:47:05 AM

FroshKiller

6/19/2009 10:48:14 AM

^4 No, I didn't imply it. I said *I* don't accept drinks -- because I don't want to take any chance. Then the ridiculous argument ensued over a statement that was taken out of context.

^5 Yes, and it's also been confirmed that you're being your usual bitchy self.

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"are you sure this couldn't have been the possibility sam? i'm not being a dick, i'm really just curious."

They weren't my friends, they were clients.

[Edited on June 19, 2009 at 10:50 AM. Reason : .]

6/19/2009 10:49:23 AM

^OK, you didn't imply it. So you would agree with both of us that in this particular context, one wouldn't have to worry about said stranger slipping something into their drink because of the logistics of the Starbucks store and the fact that the stranger never comes close to your drink?

6/19/2009 10:51:39 AM

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" i'm with BobbyDigital on this one. i couldn't care at all because i'm not insecure. if she gets a drink, go her. that reflects well on my taste in women and is one less thing i have to buy. shes not going to leave and go home with them so why does it matter."

having a guy buy your wife and her friends drinks at a bar, especially if you are there, is one thing. Letting a guy buy her drink at a Starbucks in the morning is another, imho.

6/19/2009 10:54:05 AM

My husband was out of town on business and having dinner at the bar of some restaurant in Maryland. A gay man struck up a conversation next to him while he was eating dinner, alluded to my husband coming back to his room with him, and then I'm pretty sure he offered to buy my husband's meal and/or beers. Hubby declined and went back to his hotel, shocked and disturbed and embarrassed...and called me and told me all about it.

I wasn't the least bit pissed off. I actually thought it was hilarious.

No reason for me to think he's gonna run off and blow the gay guy! Same situation as that applies here. He knows I was there for coffee, and if I'd accepted the guy's offer it's just $4 less coming out of our bank account.

6/19/2009 10:56:59 AM

Sort of skipped over page 2, but I think you did right by turning him down. I would be disappointed if my gf accepted a free drink from a random guy because guys don't generally do that without motivation.

6/19/2009 10:57:23 AM

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"It was made to show what I felt about accepting drinks -- and yall ran with it"

They didn't run with anything. They were trying to tell you that:

Accepting drinks IS NOT THE SAME AS accepting payment for drinks.

But they didn't convey that thought so you could understand, nor did you think hard enough about what they were saying.

6/19/2009 10:59:20 AM

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"They weren't my friends, they were clients."

i'm sorry, i really don't know what that means. does that mean you don't know because you only were told certain things?

6/19/2009 10:59:47 AM

Who wants to meet up at Starbucks for some coffee this afternoon? My treat.

And yes, I'm totally expecting sex in return.

6/19/2009 11:00:38 AM

I will bring roofies!

6/19/2009 11:01:10 AM

Good, cuz that's the only way you're gettin' any.

6/19/2009 11:01:26 AM

so you're standing in line at a grocery store and the man behind you in line starts flirting with you. he offers to buy all your groceries and it is a lot, for the whole week. would that be ok? i mean, is it all about saving money, or should there be a line?

6/19/2009 11:01:32 AM

^8 What if it had been the exact same situation, but an attractive woman that made the advance?

[Edited on June 19, 2009 at 11:02 AM. Reason : *]

6/19/2009 11:01:42 AM

Is thumper cheating already?

6/19/2009 11:02:24 AM

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"so you're standing in line at a grocery store and the man behind you in line starts flirting with you. he offers to buy all your groceries and it is a lot, for the whole week. would that be ok? i mean, is it all about saving money, or should there be a line?"

aww hell no, that's a totally different situation. $4 is not $40. offering to buy a woman's cart full of groceries is bordering on psycho.

6/19/2009 11:02:26 AM

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"so you're standing in line at a grocery store and the man behind you in line starts flirting with you. he offers to buy all your groceries and it is a lot, for the whole week. would that be ok? i mean, is it all about saving money, or should there be a line?"

He will drug all of your groceries though even though the cashier and bagger are the only people touching them.

6/19/2009 11:02:59 AM

^BINGO!

6/19/2009 11:03:18 AM

agreed. there are clear lines. for example going out to the beach with single guys is a a bit off, but talking in the grocery store line is not.

6/19/2009 11:03:48 AM

While we're being paranoid about silly things, where does tww stand on a guy with 1 item letting a girl with 3 items go in front of him in line at a store?

I went ahead, got my stuff and headed to a girl friend's house without talking to the guy again.

SCANDALOUS

6/19/2009 11:04:36 AM

^LMAO

i talk to everyone. i'm a friendly and outgoing person. grocery store, gas station, coffee shop...i will strike up a conversation with anyone because that's just the kinda person i am.

6/19/2009 11:04:44 AM

i've talked to guys at bars while we're both waiting to get drinks and have been bought a shot on multiple occasions.

6/19/2009 11:05:49 AM

it's not about the talking part. it is about the acceptance of an offer to buy something. That, to me, is over the line.

[Edited on June 19, 2009 at 11:08 AM. Reason : .]

6/19/2009 11:06:30 AM

^^you must put off a gay vibe

[Edited on June 19, 2009 at 11:06 AM. Reason : io;]

6/19/2009 11:06:41 AM

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ i think that is fine is certain instances

6/19/2009 11:07:06 AM

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"I would be disappointed if my gf accepted a free drink from a random guy because guys don't generally do that without motivation."

Why would you be disappointed?

Neither you nor your girl can control another man's intentions. All either of you can do is maintain control of your respective selves.

Dude can expect something in return all he wants. I don't see how an action on his part translates to disappointment in your girl: she did nothing. Such a motivation lies 100% on the other guy.

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"it is about the acceptance of an offer to buy something that, to me, is over the line."

Can you elucidate why this is?

[Edited on June 19, 2009 at 11:08 AM. Reason : fdg]

6/19/2009 11:07:45 AM

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"My husband was out of town on business and having dinner at the bar of some restaurant in Maryland. A gay man super hot blonde chick struck up a conversation next to him while he was eating dinner, alluded to my husband coming back to his her room with him her, and then I'm pretty sure he she offered to buy my husband's meal and/or beers. Hubby declined and went back to his hotel, shocked and disturbed and embarrassed...and called me and told me all about it it was a gay guy. I wasn't the least bit pissed off. I actually thought it was hilarious. No reason for me to think he's gonna run off and blow the gay guy fuck the hot blonde! Same situation as that applies here. He knows I was there for coffee, and if I'd accepted the guy's offer it's just $4 less coming out of our bank account."

fixed



[Edited on June 19, 2009 at 11:10 AM. Reason : /]

6/19/2009 11:08:47 AM

that took way too much energy on your part

and my husband is married to a hot blonde chick, so seriously - if he were to stray he'd probably go for a brunette.

6/19/2009 11:09:51 AM

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"mainly because i'm a fatty and what self-respecting man wants to fuck a fat chick?"

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"and my husband is married to a hot blonde chick,"

girls lie...

6/19/2009 11:11:56 AM

i was being sarcastic the first time around. i'm not a real fatty anymore, i've lost (and continue to lose) mad weight yo. sarcasm, do you speak it?

6/19/2009 11:12:49 AM

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"That, to me, is over the line."

OVER THE LINE

6/19/2009 11:14:09 AM

I'm gonna stalk out the guy from Starbucks and ask him what his intentions were. I think that's the only real solution to this nonsense.

Perhaps I could post a Missed Connections on Craigslist?

6/19/2009 11:22:01 AM

definitely put the missed connections thing

6/19/2009 11:33:25 AM

that would be a 10/10

6/19/2009 11:38:29 AM

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"Yall are making a mountain out of a mole hill."

You're trying to make a mountain out of a mole hill situation.

But, as for thumper, I don't necessarily think it would have been wrong to let him buy you the drink, but I understand your feelings completely.

6/19/2009 11:58:14 AM

set 'em up------>

6/19/2009 12:12:36 PM