Single and miserable is much better than married/in a relationship and miserable.

I enjoyed being single, and it took a lot to convince me to change that.

8/19/2009 11:59:50 PM

dunno but i'd think married and miserable would be worse... at least if you are single you aren't tied down and can escape

8/20/2009 12:00:52 AM

i've never been miserable single OR in a relationship. but i def think that being miserable in a relationship would be way way worse

8/20/2009 12:02:26 AM

Goddamn, theduke866 is my hero.

8/20/2009 12:06:02 AM

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"i've never been miserable single OR in a relationship. but i def think that being miserable in a relationship would be way way worse"

DINGDINGDING

It's pretty fucking intolerable.

8/20/2009 12:08:48 AM

I was only truly miserable once my whole life.

for a week, in high school.

Then she gave me a BJ.

8/20/2009 12:13:04 AM

you do know that everyone has a certain quotient of suffering they're going to have to deal with in their life

don't fucking test fate by being smug at it

8/20/2009 12:15:10 AM

well yeah, i used to enjoy the shit out of being single.

Try everything once except for heroin and homosexuality, ya know? I try to do that in every facet of my life (I've been to all but about 10 states and to probably a half-dozen other countries, taken off and landed on an aircraft carrier during day and night, driven both a car and a motorcycle at 170 mph, swam a mile, skiied all sort of great mountains, owned a whole shit ton of awesome cars/trucks/motorcycles/jet skis, flown small airplanes, flown jet airplanes, broken the sound barrier several times, shot all kinds of machine guns, rigged explosives, etc...stayed at the Waldorf-Astoria on Park Avenue, and slept in my truck and $25 motels in the middle of Wyoming...I got a degree in mechanical engineering. I've watched my daughter be born, rocked her to sleep, fed her from a bottle, and fought my ass off for nearly 3 years to be an active father to her. I've flown upside down over a mountain ridgeline at 500 knots at a couple hundred feet. I've been flat broke, and I've had more money than I could spend without being totally ridiculous. I've gone for a week without eating, sleeping in the freezing cold with nothing but a jacket, and then captured and subjected to "enhanced interrogation techniques". I've lived in college dorms, I've lived in a fraternity house, I've lived in an apartment, I've lived at the beach, I've lived on an island, and I've lived in a house that I bought. I've been read-in to top secret programs. I've bench-pressed 350 lbs. I've driven across the United States twice. I could go on, but you get the idea...I've done a ton of really, really cool shit.

At this point, I'm pretty much satisfied from a strictly physical, sexual perspective. I've never had sex with a black girl, and I blew my golden opportunity to have a full-blown, porno-style threesome, so I guess those boxes still aren't checked (so to speak), but really, the BIG thing I've never experienced is the whole girlfriend thing (like, never even a moderately serious one that wasn't a totally miserable situation). I'm certainly not going to force the situation, but if I only sleep with one more woman, that will be totally fine by me. Shit, that will be preferable, as that'll mean that I'm actually happy and satisfied with someone.

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8/20/2009 12:20:48 AM

i guess i meant i've been miserable while single and while being in a relationship but none of that has ever been related to the status of my relationship. like i've never been miserable BECAUSE i was single or BECAUSE of my relationship.

i'm sure a lot (everyone?) of people have been miserable due to other things though!

8/20/2009 12:39:12 AM

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"Dude, booty texts ftw. Send to 15 people at once. You're bound to hit something. I just sent H8R a pic of me bewbs. "

hahaaha, Yes!

I was like

8/20/2009 12:54:58 AM

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"weird wife voice"

8/20/2009 1:21:49 AM

To theDuke866:

Josh, your last post made me want to cry. The grass is greener, bro. You know where I'm going with this.

8/20/2009 9:41:03 AM

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"Amen. Well, it's that or maybe all men are just shitty."

As a general rule, people who assert that the whole other sex is shitty, are usually shitty people themselves.

8/20/2009 1:01:23 PM

the more i think about it, the more i think i'd rather be single and miserable.

once you're married, you're stuck with that person. and if it's things about that other person that are contributing to your misery, it's just going to make it worse.

if you're single and miserable, you can make changes in your life that only affect you to make you less miserable.

guess it's pretty straightforward when you think about it....

8/20/2009 1:12:10 PM

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"oh i forgot about the money. its so awesome to have no real obligations."

It is pretty sweet to be able to buy stupid shit online and not have to justify it to anyone when it arrives in the mail.

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"but let the record show that I'm more than ready to retire from womanizing."

I've thought the same thing, but I'm fairly certain that I'll catch my second wind as soon as I try to settle down.

8/20/2009 1:15:36 PM

Single -> I was ok with it
Single and dating -> Not so ok, for some reason I met a lot of psychos which followed with lots of drama
Relationship -> depends on who I was with
Married -> It's been great

8/20/2009 1:17:36 PM

Being married & miserable would be the absolute worst in my opinion. Marriage is not for everyone. I totally enjoy being single! I am not miserable at all. It's actually the best I've ever been because I am getting to know what I like/need in another person, but mostly what I need for myself. I'm being selfish...what can I say?

8/20/2009 1:24:14 PM

If you're going to be miserable, far better to be single and miserable. If you're married and miserable, then either a)your spouse is the cause of your misery, which entails a messy divorce or a life of living hell or b)your spouse's companionship and love doesn't make up for what else is shitty in your life, in which case the marriage probably isn't very fulfilling and they will come to harbor deep resentments for your sorry ass. If you're single, you're not bringing anyone else down, and you have a lot more outlets for ending that misery as you see fit and just doing whatever you want to do.

By no means am I anti-marriage or anti-relationship, I'm in a great long-term one right now. But I do tend to believe people who rush into things and get married young are, more often than not, missing out on things if not making a big mistake. I'll be 29 in a few weeks and spent the majority of my time until a couple of years ago single, and while I certainly wasn't always happy, better than being in an unhappy relationship.

8/20/2009 1:46:23 PM

i know I am in the minority because everyone has this idea that you are "supposed" to get married. Fuck that. I get tired of having sex with the same person after a month or two, no matter how hot or cool they are...why would I want to do it for years and years?

8/20/2009 3:58:41 PM

^I don't necessarily think you are in the minority. Honestly, I don't agree with the idea of feeling obligated to find a soul mate and get married. I think I would get bored too! But at the same time, if the person is your best friend, and you're in love, then sure, go ahead and get married. It's a personal choice.

8/20/2009 4:16:30 PM

It would be especially nice to find someone to love and trust and live with (and kill big bugs and lift heavy things and watch scary movies with), but who might also be open minded enough so sex wouldn't get boring.

Cause who said you can't have sex with different people after marriage and not have to lie about it?

8/20/2009 4:55:34 PM

^hehe. That IS an intriguing idea.

8/20/2009 4:57:13 PM

It's called swinging, and it has worked for many people for many, many years.

8/20/2009 7:33:13 PM

What I thought of when I saw this thread

8/20/2009 8:52:47 PM

annd the thread dies

8/21/2009 10:50:24 AM

It's only a matter of time before the Dolphins start having polygamous relationships and key parties.

8/21/2009 10:59:18 AM

the thread died b/c there is no one online hardly!

8/21/2009 11:03:33 AM

single and miserable is worse, no one to blame but yourself! (j/k)

8/21/2009 11:06:11 AM

^haha

8/21/2009 11:07:30 AM

Married and miserable is worse. If you're single then the miserable stuff is shit you can change, however you see fit.

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"i firmly believe that most people who "settle down" and completely change when they get married are boring people to begin with, or decided to marry someone boring and controlling"

I agree with that quite a bit, and will add "tried to do the 'right thing' after a major fuckup."

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My friends run the gamut between those 3 groups, I just have a different list of acceptable activities with each. For example, one married friend cannot come home from a concert at daybreak, reeking of alcohol after having his cell off for the last 8 hours. Single younger friend can. Married Friend 2 with awesome wife could do this, but with the cell phone on.
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After losing a very long relationship b/c I don't want kids, I would say I found a new me that could enjoy life more. After I stopped wanting to kill myself.

8/21/2009 12:48:39 PM

You guys have some serious argumentative flaws in this thread.

First off, being single and miserable is worse. And here's why. If you're married and miserable then you can get divorced and either be single and happy or single and miserable. But at least you had a chance to be happy b y making that decision.

If you're single and miserable what are you going to do to fix the situation? If you're not happy b/c all your friends are in couples and you feel like you're a 5th wheel chances are you'd be in a happy relationship (if you could) to fix the solution and be happy. But that's not really a decision you can make.

In essence, if you're single and miserable b/c you don't have someone there's not much you can really do, except to keep looking and hope one day you find that lucky person.

ergo, single and miserable is worse.

8/21/2009 2:35:37 PM

I knew Chris Rock was funny.

I didn't know he was a fucking PROPHET.

8/22/2009 2:38:08 PM

i think its worse to be married and miserable
when you're single, you can find the one who will make you happy
but when you're married and hating it, you have to get a divorce, then be single and miserable before you can be happy in a relationship

single and unhappy is an easier fix than married and unhappy imo

8/22/2009 2:43:12 PM

clearly you didn't read what i posted above, sigh...

8/23/2009 11:43:41 PM

^Or maybe someone disagrees with you...



Married and Miserable would be much worse.

8/24/2009 12:30:18 AM

single and miserable. because if you're really miserable you can always get out.

8/24/2009 12:43:14 AM

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"single and unhappy is an easier fix than married and unhappy imo"

it would be easier for a married woman to divorce a man and get half the stuff vs a single guy to find a woman that won't do that.

in general I have to agree with Teg and his reasoning on this one.

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8/24/2009 1:32:02 AM