Ragged All American 23473 Posts user info edit post |
5aggots 6/21/2011 3:05:23 PM |
sumfoo1 soup du hier 41043 Posts user info edit post |
roffle!!!
yeah i never did that e dating thing... sometimes i wish i had just for stories though... i know i'm with the one i'm supposed to be with but damned if i wasn't bored for 2 years...
course its probably hard to get a date on match without a drivers license too.. lol 6/21/2011 3:06:41 PM |
AstralAdvent All American 9999 Posts user info edit post |
Now that i think about it, online dating would be pretty rad if you went in with no attention of actually dating people
I'm AstralAdvent and i approved this message. 6/21/2011 3:08:31 PM |
Jeepin4x4 #Pack9 35774 Posts user info edit post |
since no one reads 49
Quote : | "funny story..i tried match for a few months in 2010 right before i started seeing my current girlfriend. I never really did anything with it and mostly ignored all of the messages I got. I sent only one message to a girl that was supposed to be "matched" for me and she never responded, though based on her profile she seemed to be very active on the site.
yesterday I ran into this girl at the community mailbox of neighborhood. i recognized her face but couldn't figure out where I knew her from and I could tell she was thinking the same thing. It was about halfway back to my place that it popped in my head that she was the match.com girl i hope she figured it out on her walk back too." |
^yeah match was mostly out of boredom and vanity for me too. made a profile, a legit one, just to see if it got a reaction or if there was actually anyone decent out there. a lot of it was, i want chicks to message me and then i'm not gonna do shit back. match was much more tame and full of fatties than what I hear about plentyofish and the others.]6/21/2011 3:08:43 PM |
DivaBaby19 Davidbaby19 45208 Posts user info edit post |
I have a profile on okcupid and match
I'm tempted to actually pay for match
I'd like to date
that is all 6/21/2011 3:41:36 PM |
dyne All American 7323 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "^yeah match was mostly out of boredom and vanity for me too. made a profile, a legit one, just to see if it got a reaction or if there was actually anyone decent out there. a lot of it was, i want chicks to message me and then i'm not gonna do shit back. match was much more tame and full of fatties than what I hear about plentyofish and the others." |
pretty much sums up my view on it as well. actually got some decently looking girls wink or message me but the whole thing just feels forced and unnatural.6/21/2011 3:43:48 PM |
Wordsworth All American 2888 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "I'd like to date
that is all" |
I'm trying to get Raleigh people on the howaboutwe.com bandwagon but you have to pay to see messages. Some good dates have been posted though.
i'm on pof and okc
[Edited on June 21, 2011 at 3:51 PM. Reason : i aint scared]6/21/2011 3:48:06 PM |
grimx #maketwwgreatagain 32337 Posts user info edit post |
howaboutwe? wtf is this? 6/21/2011 3:49:03 PM |
Doc Rambo IV All American 7202 Posts user info edit post |
So far online dating has led to one good friend, one ex heroin addict, and one ex coke whore. And I'm done. 6/21/2011 3:51:33 PM |
Jeepin4x4 #Pack9 35774 Posts user info edit post |
it's the less creepy version of letsdolunchk.com 6/21/2011 3:51:44 PM |
sylvershadow All American 7049 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | " SEE. This is the shit I'm talking about.
PEOPLE ARE HAPPY to switch partners.
WHY the fuck do they get into relationships in the first place.
STAY single, fuck bitches, winning. " |
I wanted to stay single. He wasn't looking to get serious either, it just happened.6/21/2011 3:53:09 PM |
rbrthwrd Suspended 3125 Posts user info edit post |
the only attractive girls on plentyoffish are way too redneck for me. i'm talking about the kind of girl who ventures into raleigh from garner for a night out at city limits. no thanks. 6/21/2011 3:54:17 PM |
pttyndal WINGS!!!!! 35217 Posts user info edit post |
ibtbwn? 6/21/2011 3:54:32 PM |
grimx #maketwwgreatagain 32337 Posts user info edit post |
it doesnt just happen, someone has to be jealous enough to make it monogamous 6/21/2011 3:54:49 PM |
pttyndal WINGS!!!!! 35217 Posts user info edit post |
speaking of plentyoffish, I was switching out computer a couple weeks ago and went to back up internet explorer bookmarks. He had it bookmarked. 6/21/2011 3:56:48 PM |
Agent 0 All American 5677 Posts user info edit post |
so i was going through some quickmatches out of boredom last night and no shit this girl pops up haha
who the fuck would put that up? going for the chub fetishists i guess?
her name should be NOMNOMNOM (sidebar i skipped her so i dont know that it isnt) 8/10/2011 2:52:12 PM |
wolfpackgrrr All American 39759 Posts user info edit post |
So are there actually hot people on OKCupid? Because my friend uses it and every day she's dated from that site has been frumpy as hell. 8/10/2011 2:58:36 PM |
elise mainly potato 13090 Posts user info edit post |
When I had an account I saw some pretty cute guys on there. Not a large percentage, but they are definitely out there. LOTS of nerdy boys, which was good for me. 8/10/2011 3:07:27 PM |
Exiled Eyes up here ^^ 5918 Posts user info edit post |
Who needs OKCupid when there's this bastion of humanity 8/10/2011 3:07:58 PM |
Agent 0 All American 5677 Posts user info edit post |
i dunno about where you guys are, but in a large metropolitan area like DC there are TONS of attractive people online. 8/10/2011 3:12:43 PM |
Wraith All American 27257 Posts user info edit post |
I'm in an area that is the exact opposite of a large metropolitan area and back when I was doing the online dating thing I had no trouble finding cute girls. Sometimes I had to drive an hour to a neighboring city or something but in most cases it was definitely worth it. 8/10/2011 3:15:47 PM |
Agent 0 All American 5677 Posts user info edit post |
oh i wasnt implying that the inverse was true as well, just that it's a cornucopia of decent, looking educated women here. 8/10/2011 3:37:13 PM |
JohnNoir Suspenisioned 127 Posts user info edit post |
Ahhh, so tdubb guys are in the horny thread.
tdubb girls are in the OKCupid profile exchange thread.
Thanks for clearing that up. 8/10/2011 4:52:34 PM |
NyM410 J-E-T-S 50085 Posts user info edit post |
^^ I don't know about OKCupid because I don't really use it, but there are loads of attractive girls on Match in Raleigh. No shortage at all... 8/10/2011 5:11:18 PM |
crazy_carl All American 4073 Posts user info edit post |
^^^ that comma threw me off, i didnt know if you were trying to say they were decent looking and educated, decent (beharvior), edcated and looking for men (which i gathered), or there were just decent women who stare around like an owl at a text book (which i hoped is what you meant)
[Edited on August 10, 2011 at 5:35 PM. Reason : duh] 8/10/2011 5:33:51 PM |
jaZon All American 27048 Posts user info edit post |
You fuckers know I have an account up there 8/10/2011 5:34:51 PM |
th3oretecht All American 15539 Posts user info edit post |
I fucked around with OKCupid one night, and within a few minutes had 3 matches that were friends of mine
[Edited on August 10, 2011 at 5:38 PM. Reason : they are attractive but were either taken at the time, or too crazy for me] 8/10/2011 5:37:29 PM |
jaZon All American 27048 Posts user info edit post |
That shit matched me 99% with someone I know
Someone I would never have the slightest desire to date 8/10/2011 6:35:00 PM |
Agent 0 All American 5677 Posts user info edit post |
my bad ^^^^ didn't proof read
decent looking, educated women. 8/10/2011 6:36:32 PM |
GeniuSxBoY Suspended 16786 Posts user info edit post |
I have a deleted account there. They dunn fucked up by getting rid of the forums. 8/10/2011 6:38:43 PM |
CassTheSass cupid 35382 Posts user info edit post |
^^^^ you have friends using a dating site when they're already in a relationship? 8/10/2011 6:50:36 PM |
jaZon All American 27048 Posts user info edit post |
I'd ask Cass to hook me up with someone, but I doubt she wants to make another woman hate her more than anything in the world. 8/10/2011 6:52:52 PM |
sylvershadow All American 7049 Posts user info edit post |
Match owns OKC now Fuckers. 8/10/2011 6:57:27 PM |
th3oretecht All American 15539 Posts user info edit post |
^^^the relationship is new and I'm sure she just didn't think about deactivating the account 8/10/2011 7:31:57 PM |
AlaskanGrown I'm Randy 4694 Posts user info edit post |
I prefer to use AshleyMadison.com 8/10/2011 8:07:43 PM |
jaZon All American 27048 Posts user info edit post |
So I just sent a random horrid a message talking shit about her ridiculous nail polish.
Sure to be a match made in heaven. 8/13/2011 6:07:11 PM |
mrfrog ☯ 15145 Posts user info edit post |
Discussions about online dating online have to be the very pinnacle of cynicism about life and the world, but reading this thread is fantastic. People who use TWW are a little more emotionally robust that the general population or internet, probably because so many users have already dealt with the cold realities of getting a technical degree from NC State.
OKTrends is really cool and I wish they had kept it up (they got bought out). I've discovered so many really bizarre and eye opening things. Internet dating today is completely different from a few years ago. Probably something about the social media revolution changed how people think about this. It's only weird if only weird people use it... so 99.9% of all arguments against it are pretty much mute.
The thing about OKCupid, however, is that it finds people closest to yourself. Unlike sites like Match.com it's not trying to convince people to use it based on a proprietary algorithm that matches up people most likely to get along. No, it matches up people most similar and admits it's not as complicated as the other sites.... but it's transparent. 8/13/2011 8:49:55 PM |
ScubaSteve All American 5523 Posts user info edit post |
Plenty of fish has worked best for me but I am not in the Raleigh area and it almost seems that in different areas different sites are more or less popular. 8/13/2011 9:01:33 PM |
DoeoJ has 7062 Posts user info edit post |
i signed up to see what all the fuss is about.
and now we play the waiting game...
(ha, i knew one of the people shown to me on my home page. go figure.) 8/13/2011 9:01:48 PM |
beatsunc All American 10749 Posts user info edit post |
^u dont play the waiting game if you are a dude. have to send the PM's 8/14/2011 8:57:18 AM |
MisterGreen All American 4328 Posts user info edit post |
that donut pic brought the fucking lol's 8/14/2011 9:08:29 AM |
LivinProof78 All American 49373 Posts user info edit post |
okcupid has been pretty representative of my real life judging by the people who have contacted me...
it's only fat, ugly and/or old dudes who message me...
or if it's a good looking guy he's messaging me to ask me to hook him up with "one of the hot girls" in my pictures since at one time all my pictures are were of me with various friends...
this is pretty much how real life goes for me as well...it's also why i'm single...and why i never reply to messages on okcupid
[Edited on August 14, 2011 at 9:37 AM. Reason : asd] 8/14/2011 9:36:58 AM |
dharney All American 4445 Posts user info edit post |
poast
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Casa_role 8/14/2011 9:45:22 AM |
DoeoJ has 7062 Posts user info edit post |
ha, for some reason i feel weird just sending random people PMs. i guess that's kinda the point though
and apparently, looking at complaints on people's profiles, the average level of grammar used in a message must be pretty damn terrible 8/14/2011 9:46:17 AM |
skokiaan All American 26447 Posts user info edit post |
From what I've seen, okcupid has far fewer attractive chicks, which is simply a function of being a much larger site. You can also filter out based on body size on match for free. Okcupid has a better interface, fwiw 8/14/2011 11:25:56 AM |
Wraith All American 27257 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "u dont play the waiting game if you are a dude. have to send the PM's" |
QFT
You have to send out at least 5 messages a day if you're a guy and of those, maybe 1 in 15 will reply. Although it probably isn't a problem for users of TWW but correct grammar and spelling are absolutely imperative... most guys on these dating sites send messages like "hey how u doin u lok fine gurl want 2 hang out?"8/14/2011 2:32:32 PM |
CassTheSass cupid 35382 Posts user info edit post |
^ lolz. That's too funny.
I agree with Wraith. Just because you are a male using a dating site does not excuse you from making the first move. You will have girls who might initiate contact first but you're not going to get very far if you wait for everyone to come to you. Man up and start searching. 8/14/2011 2:35:49 PM |
arghx Deucefest '04 7584 Posts user info edit post |
I haven't used OKCupid but I was on POF for a while before I ditched it. I've been on Match for a while.
Quote : | "You have to send out at least 5 messages a day if you're a guy and of those, maybe 1 in 15 will reply. " |
This is so true. Expect a response rate of 5-10%.
Quote : | "most guys on these dating sites send messages like "hey how u doin u lok fine gurl want 2 hang out?"" |
Yeah I think that's the case, especially on free site which of course let the riff-raff in. One thing I have found is that typing a message necessarily means that you can't use tone of voice or body language like normal in-person interaction. That makes it harder to convey humor and easy for what you say to be misinterpreted. Very straightforward approaches seem to work best. I tend to ask about some detail in their profile, such as places they have visited or some hobby. That's a safe way to come across as a non-creeper.8/14/2011 2:47:06 PM |
NyM410 J-E-T-S 50085 Posts user info edit post |
I don't really email first on Match. I have gotten plenty of dates that way, but nothing that has worked out past 2-3 dates. I guess I could make time to search and email a shit ton of girls a day, but I really don't want to use my free time that way truth be told, especially while I'm having relative success just responding. 8/14/2011 2:51:36 PM |
ncsuallday Sink the Flagship 9818 Posts user info edit post |
nobody I'd date has messaged me on match (all fatties and gingers) and out of the 10 or so girls I found attractive, none of them replied. Just joined okcupid after reading this thread but I really haven't seen a single attractive person except this girl I know from HS who has a boyfriend (I was amazed she would even be on a dating site, she's gorgeous)
I'd bet that the hot girls on match.com get TONS of messages/winks/interested-in's a day. 8/14/2011 3:15:29 PM |