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"Most of them are even in control in their lives, as implausible as that sounds. "

Most crazy people have interesting definitions of what "in control" actually means.

8/1/2011 2:37:48 PM

Arguing about how relationships *should* be practiced is like arguing how *religion* should be practiced, imo.

[Edited on August 1, 2011 at 2:42 PM. Reason : .]

8/1/2011 2:40:26 PM

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"The closer you think you know how the world works, the farther you get."

You know she'll suck your dick without you white knighting for her, right?

Pretty sure that's been made clear in this thread.

8/1/2011 2:41:48 PM

You honestly think that?

8/1/2011 2:42:56 PM

Probably not. Most white knighters aren't "dom"

[Edited on August 1, 2011 at 2:47 PM. Reason : ]

8/1/2011 2:47:20 PM

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"So, I hang out with people that are poly and/or spin fire, are into art, costuming, fetishes, and music and sex and alcohol and omg *gasp* even drugs. Most of them are even in control in their lives, as implausible as that sounds. They're also all very supportive of each other and accepting. I love this and I love all of them and all their various quirks and interests. Noone is perfect. One girl has a self image problem and is always wearing heels and corsets when the rest of us are running around naked."

Ah, so you guys are one of those neighbors.

8/1/2011 2:55:50 PM

how dom do you want the guy to be? if you want sub 24/7, you have to know those guys are not interested in letting you love anyone else, but some of them are down for loaning you out to friends after they feel like you're under control or you could get in a multi-sub situation. I doubt many serious masters are advertising themselves that way though. but if you want really want discipline on a regular basis, it always spills over to real life, including your friends. A truly dominant man will not allow you access to his feelings until he is certain he has real control over you. on the other hand, maybe there's something in all those limp-wristed guys that attracted you to them, and submission isn't what you're truly into. Do you want to be controlled or explore the limits of freedom? I think you should choose which scene really interests you. If the people you're with are trying to do something in between it may be that they are not genuinely interested in either.

In any case, the fact that you have been deceived by people posing as dominant suggests that you need to focus more on initial selection and that whole butt-sniffing phase. If their socializing well with your friends is really important, don't keep them away, even at the very beginning. Same if having a dominant partner is truly a requirement. If it's something you insist on, you need to find out that their interest is genuine from the get-go, not slowly introduce it later and hope for the best. It's tempting to be a bit plastic and hyper-interested in their passions, and play down yours that you find embarrassing during that time period to facilitate bonding, but it's deceptive. Unfortunately it's a common element in courting, but only going to leave you frustrated if you employ this tactic or don't notice when others do it.

8/1/2011 3:08:36 PM

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"Allright, I'm just going to ignore quagmire because he is simply way off base about me, keeps repeating himself (how many times/ways can you call someone you don't know crazy?), hasn't read anything I've posted, and is only interested in projecting his pent up hatred of women onto me. "

hah, if you think you're right: pot, meet kettle

go on with your bad self, you nut...and 3, 4, 5, 10 years from now when you STILL can't find some guy to tolerate your crazy ass and you can't manage to hold onto a poly partner because they're sick of your unrealistic shit (you will, of course, tell everyone YOU got bored with THEM), we'll see

sorry, kid...you're either emotionally stunted for your 27 years or outright stupid...you are most certainly not the postergirl for working poly relationships and until you come to reality, you never will be

8/1/2011 4:00:43 PM

quagmire, can you please detail for us the length of your relationships just like sylver was kind enough to do?

8/1/2011 4:37:23 PM

I like how the posts stop here ^gg

8/11/2011 12:18:42 AM

I don't understand this thread. If you wanna fuck around, then fuck around. You don't have to put a cute name to it or defend yourself. It is your vagina, do what you want, when you want. If you decide you want to get married, then get married. And if you want to divorce in a few months, then get a divorce. Welcome to the 21st century. We're so glad you could join us.

8/11/2011 12:37:44 AM

pm sent

8/11/2011 12:39:13 AM

it's a shame this isn't in chit-chat

[Edited on August 11, 2011 at 1:36 PM. Reason : hot dog + hallway]

8/11/2011 1:36:30 PM

+1 for move to chit chat

8/11/2011 1:50:49 PM

+1 for move to chit chat

8/11/2011 1:53:00 PM

-1 move to chit chat

8/11/2011 2:00:36 PM

+1 for move to chit chat

8/11/2011 3:24:11 PM

i love it how people keep feeding the attention whores on here.

8/11/2011 4:33:59 PM

it's tww what did you expect?

8/11/2011 4:38:32 PM

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"i love it how people keep feeding the attention whores on here."

Oh you love it? I bet you do love it Lover McLoverpants

8/11/2011 5:07:56 PM

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" I don't understand this thread. If you wanna fuck around, then fuck around. You don't have to put a cute name to it or defend yourself. It is your vagina, do what you want, when you want. If you decide you want to get married, then get married. And if you want to divorce in a few months, then get a divorce. Welcome to the 21st century. We're so glad you could join us."

8/11/2011 8:02:53 PM

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"+1 for move to chit chat"

MUST FEED.

8/11/2011 11:04:53 PM

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"One girl has a self image problem and is always wearing heels and corsets when the rest of us are running around naked."

8/12/2011 12:16:00 PM

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"physical requirements. "

I don't think she's talking about height here.

[Edited on August 12, 2011 at 12:40 PM. Reason : x]

8/12/2011 12:38:45 PM

I highly doubt open and honest polyamory is sustainable.

In my experience, at least one party gets emotionally attached after repeated fucking. Usually the female, or submissive one, but not always.

I'd wager we are genetically wired for that response.

8/12/2011 2:07:16 PM

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