should i discriminate with my messaging? or just blanket message?

11/16/2011 2:59:46 PM

Messaging carpet bombing.

11/16/2011 3:00:30 PM

this is sure to work

11/16/2011 3:01:42 PM

i would venture to say that 98.3% of every okc conversation i've initiated could easily be replaced with "i'm drunk and think your profile picture is hot "


but that's because i only ever send messages on okc when i'm at bored at home and drinking

[Edited on November 16, 2011 at 3:04 PM. Reason : addsf]

11/16/2011 3:02:21 PM

From my experience, don't put that you hate Zooey Deschanel on your profile, because the emails will come to a screeching halt.

11/16/2011 3:04:50 PM

^^i recall seeing your profile when i used to have an okcupid profile, haha.

i eventually just gave up on the online stuff after a few awkward dates. my first was awesome, i dated the girl for two months and we're still friends, but after two in a row that went crappy i stopped caring. now i'm just focused on school/work and i'll worry about a woman later, haha. which works out, since i don't have a lot of money to spare. women are expensive.

[Edited on November 16, 2011 at 3:08 PM. Reason : .]

11/16/2011 3:08:13 PM

yeah...i remember your profile as well


i have a shit load of tdubbers pop up in my matches...

11/16/2011 3:11:20 PM

Quote :

"I talked to a girl on match who used "gud" for "good." needless to say, we never met up. Girl I'm going out with now isn't a retard so that is gud. "

OMG... This made me laff.

11/16/2011 4:38:31 PM

Ahhhh I got a random message from this guy...then I went to his profile and my brain exploded.

Message:

Quote :

"Hello, For some reason ,I usually dig smart ladies(irrespective of age) BUT i really dont know your degree of smartness as i do have a special scale for that"

WAT? I guess he thinks I"m dumb...

Profile: (This is just his self summary)

Quote :

"Thank you for stopping by.. you can click away, delete, block, or simply say hello. Its your choice! I'm awesome....Don't agree? Move on. PLEASE READ THESE BEFORE REPLYING TO ME:- 1) You must be willing to travel outside your country/state if the need comes 2) You must have a valid passport; those who don’t travel are like reading one page from a whole book; so go get a passport and discover the world around you. 3) Am currently working & residing outside the states Oh am very well manared and very honest,i dont go for big mammas(Dont get me wrong and be discouraged, this is not related to size/shape of your body). I'm thoughtful and gentle but injustice gets my back up and I'm the sort to stick up for the little man who's getting turned over. So if you're impressed by the big movers and shakers, then I'm unlikely to be for you. I like the simple and unostentatious pleasures in life, not Bentleys and penthouses. I have just about given up with the idea that there is an intelligent and cultured woman left who appreciates the simple life, so this is just a vain throw of the dice. Funnily enough, they all seem to be married or gay. Now where have I heard that before? Now why do some women state they are 'athletic' or 'average' when their pictures clearly demonstrate otherwise (I'm sure plenty of guys do it too)? I don't mind if you're athletic or overweight, it's the person within I want to get to know, and I want that person to be honest! I don't have a gold Seal, But I'm a Seriously Serious Member..LOL...I'm a Family man ,energetic..cool..natural..zea lous..adventurous..attractive. .funny..fantastic..ambitious, looking for an honest and caring woman.Someone Romantic,Sweet not afraid to move foward and be Happy I Would like to create new memories..I'm easy going ,I have a great sense of humor , like to have fun , I'm down to earth , I enjoy great times with Family & Friends.I Love the Holidays..I don't like being around negative people. I'm always ready to try something new , Smile and enjoy life. I have a passion for music...Music is the soundtrack of our lives..I'm not looking to play games or to play with your feelings and I'm definitely not looking for a quick fix ..No jealous, Possessive or controlling issues,Please. I Would like to meet someone who's honest has a good heart with great Family values . Maybe who knows, we can Dance the night away..LOL People are everything though--that's for sure! They can not be replaced. Material objects come and go and they won't miss you when you're gone either. Remember that!! * Do onto others what you want done onto yourself. * Don't change because someone else wants you to change; Change because YOU want to change. * Let fate work it's magic. If it was meant to be, it would be. The best things happen when you least expect it. The more you want something, the less chance you have of obtaining it. * Optimism is the key to live a fruitful life. If you are negative then negativity will befall you. Pessimism will only give you grey hair. * A great sense of humour is essential in life, someone that doesn't get offended by bluntness or sarcasm. Life is too short. You never know what tomorrow has in store for you. " IT'S NICE TO BE IMPORTANT, BUT IT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO BE NICE! "...So please be nice I would rather be hated for who I am, instead of loved for someone I am not...So please be yourself Most times we say what we think is right, but cant do it or prove it when the time is right.....So please value your words and be true to yourself Laugh when u can, apologize when u should, let go of what u cant change. kiss slowly, play hard forgive quickly, take chances give everything and have no regrets life is too short to be anything BE HAPPY YOU CANT QUIT UNTIL U TRY YOU CANT LIVE UNTIL U DIE YOU CANT LEARN TELL THE THRUTH UNTIL U LEARN TO LIE JUST OPEAN UR EYES AN SEE THAT LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL I've learned that with intelligence comes loneliness. Not necessarily 'being alone' - as there is a difference, but truly connecting with others proves difficult if your brain actually functions the way it should. Of course it probably doesn't help that most intelligent people are arrogant...who knows maybe Einstein was lonely because he was a jerk. I think meaningful relationships take time to develop and that people expect far too much too soon (amateur) and that's the main source for people's "buyer's remorse" with the dating game. Granted, personality differences can be challenging and that's what makes online dating super challenging. How do you put your personality into emails of words? How do I know you're going to give me the hairy eyeball if I'm myself in person and use the dark side of my sense of humor? The best relationships are well balanced. Not a delicate balance, not a static balance- but a dynamic ever-changing balance.' I'm an intelligent, funny, easy going guy professionally, emotionally and financially stable and I am already happy, looking for someone to share great conversation with & share the happiness that I have. I am here to find someone who knows what they want and isn't looking to mold a man into what they think he should be. There should be chemistry between us and if there isn't well let's just move on without any ill will. Sweet words are easy to say, Sweet things are easy to buy, But sweet people are difficult to find. Life ends when you stop dreaming, Hope ends when you stop believing, Love ends when you stop caring, Friendship ends when you stop sharing. To love without condition... To talk without intention... To give without reason... And to care without expectation, is the heart of a true friend... Chivalry is not dead....Stay Positive (Courtesy towards women) Invite Your Audience Carefully....... Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in your life. There are some people in your life who need to be loved from a DISTANCE. It is amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of - or minimize your time with - those draining, negative, incompatible, 'not-going- anywhere' relationships or friendships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay close attention... Which ones lift, and which ones lean? Which ones encourage, and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill, and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama, or don't really understand, know or appreciate you & the gifts that lie within you? Remember that the people you have around you will have an impact on your life, your values and your income. So, be careful when choosing the people you hang out with, as well as the information with which you will feed your mind. We should not share our dreams with negative people, nor feed our minds with negative thoughts. The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you... the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW, and who should be moved to the balcony of your life. Ask God for wisdom and discernment, and choose wisely the people who will sit in the front row of your life. You cannot change the people around you.... but you CAN change the people you choose to be around! Now if i like you our dates will be like these:- First Date: Somewhere that we can at least have a chat, get to know each other and hear ourselves speak. Nice country pub with a real fire would be ideal for me! After that?? Who knows.... You know when it clicks with someone!! 2nd date, maybe a cruise down the river, enjoying the everchanging scenery and wildlife with a glass of wine in our hands! lets jump in my private jet and have a lovely meal in paris or rome lol,am allowed to dream Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to Please, Only genuine people who can handle the above interests of mine message me. No disrespect but i couldnt date anyone who smokes. Sorry"

11/28/2011 1:30:01 PM

Quote :

"Thank you for stopping by.. you can click away, delete, block, or simply say hello. Its your choice! I'm awesome....Don't agree? Move on."

i'm stealing that

11/28/2011 1:33:32 PM

I take a lot of pride in my OKCupid profile, though I think I need to shake it up a bit since I get less visitors than used to.

11/28/2011 1:57:30 PM

mine def needs help, but I'm too lazy to write anything fantastic

11/28/2011 1:58:11 PM

^^^^i couldn't even read all that...

it's like he just skimmed random profiles and copied and pasted all the shit he liked from them...

then threw in some of those annoying quotes that people are always sharing on facebook for good measure...



^^i saw your profile...i saw "stein" in the name and thought "wait...that dude looks familiar....oh shit...he's from tww".....

the picture looked familiar because i think you had posted it or one similar on tww that same day

[Edited on November 28, 2011 at 2:02 PM. Reason : asdf]

11/28/2011 2:00:10 PM

I am now upset you didn't get drunk and hit on me

11/28/2011 4:08:26 PM

it's only because i've only drank once in the last 2 months...

there is still time

11/28/2011 4:10:18 PM

I emailed back saying "Yeah I don't think we would work out at all" lol

11/28/2011 4:13:29 PM

My first OkCupd email was from Casey... that's when I knew it was bound to end in abject failure..

11/28/2011 4:13:37 PM

LOL

11/28/2011 4:14:47 PM

yeah...he was in the 1.7% of conversations i initiated without being drunk....


but of those 1.7%, i would say about 99.3% of them are initiated because i actually know the person in real life and feel the need to give them shit for being on okcupid



the scary thing is that okc thinks we are a nearly perfect match

11/28/2011 4:17:39 PM

it thinks I'm a dead ringer for Patrick

we could not be more opposite

11/28/2011 4:19:07 PM

the only way you could be more opposite is to be me and NyM410

11/28/2011 4:21:26 PM

I forget what me and Nym are...lets see

oh...we're only a 65% match

11/28/2011 4:22:21 PM

Lol, I still have an account? I havent logged in in like four months..

11/28/2011 4:24:04 PM

Lol Patrick

I couldn't read all that mess above either and I was getting annoyed when he started contradicting himself.

11/28/2011 4:24:35 PM

I'm gonna sign up for this and tell all my friends its a goof to save all the jokes, but it'll really be for serious.

11/28/2011 4:25:00 PM

can't wait to see how low our match percentage is

11/28/2011 4:25:51 PM

Expect a bunch of fat and/or ugly girls messaging you and rating you. When you do find an attractive one, there's always something wrong with them. Why do you think they're on there?

Oh, divorced/seperated with kids is another good one.



[Edited on November 28, 2011 at 4:28 PM. Reason : k]

11/28/2011 4:26:57 PM

and they wear American Apparel dresses

11/28/2011 4:28:40 PM

I never used OkC really, but Match was full of normal people. I know three people who met on there and are now married. It's 2011, it's just another medium to meet people.

11/28/2011 4:30:57 PM

Fortunately I'm hideous myself, so I should blend right in

11/28/2011 4:31:27 PM

I've gone out with plenty of normal girls on OKCupid within the past month or so.

11/28/2011 4:49:28 PM

nice

11/28/2011 4:57:26 PM

Quote :

"it thinks I'm a dead ringer for Patrick we could not be more opposite"

I dunno gurl maybe we should give it a shot

11/28/2011 5:00:51 PM

OH HAY

I GOTS ME A DATE Y'ALL

11/28/2011 5:02:22 PM

Quote :

"I've gone out with plenty of normal girls on OKCupid within the past month or so."

I'm pretty skeptical of this, but I guess either my standards are unrealistic or I'm not ready to hop back into dating. Probably both.

What else kinda sucks is seeing somebody out you didn't message back or respond to them rating you or whatever. Happened to me a handful of times and still does, just from the month I was on that site.

11/28/2011 5:13:27 PM

I've been having much more luck lately with this site.

11/28/2011 5:51:25 PM

It only took me like two years but I finally found success with match. That may sound depressing but I'm pretty happy about it haha

11/28/2011 5:53:10 PM

YOU CANT LEARN TELL THE THRUTH UNTIL U LEARN TO LIE
JUST OPEAN UR EYES

11/28/2011 6:48:22 PM

hahah I didn't even get that far thru his profile

OPEAN

11/28/2011 7:20:31 PM

I'm not especially proud of this, but I told one young lady her math problems were wrong from the questions they want you to answer. Either she blocked me or deleted her account at the time.

11/28/2011 7:54:01 PM

I totes got one of the questions wrong and was almost depressed when I found out I clicked the wrong one...I'm sure that's why I'm still single lol

11/28/2011 8:04:19 PM

^^ do you call all potential dates "young lady"?

also, do you have them sit on your knee on the first date?

11/28/2011 8:08:00 PM

Quote :

"What else kinda sucks is seeing somebody out you didn't message back or respond to them rating you or whatever. Happened to me a handful of times and still does, just from the month I was on that site."

I won't even recognize some people from the pictures they put online. Maybe that's just me with faces. I mean, it's not you've actually met them. It is a valid concern to some extent though. Adding someone on Facebook is a little bit interesting when you realize that you recognize their pictures.

People, you should probably not use Facebook pictures for your profile. Just go into the bathroom and do some vanity shots mmkay?

11/28/2011 8:40:48 PM

Quote :

"^^ do you call all potential dates "young lady"? also, do you have them sit on your knee on the first date?"

Clearly you don't understand euphemisms, but whatever.

She wasn't a potential anyway. She was super religious, into politics, wanted like 18 kids and was 23 years old. nthx.

11/29/2011 9:30:21 AM

I still really like OKCupid for dating. I've met lots of nice people and gotten sex and multi-year relationships out of it.

11/29/2011 6:20:52 PM

^i'd give you sex and multiyear relationships

11/29/2011 6:29:19 PM

Quote :

"I won't even recognize some people from the pictures they put online. Maybe that's just me with faces. I mean, it's not you've actually met them. It is a valid concern to some extent though."

Uh, when they message you with clear interest and you're not feelin' it and never message them back, etc, it's a little awkward seeing them out. I feel like getting back on there and saying awkward shit just to get them to stop messaging me. PS, I'm not bragging to any degree. I've been not messaged before (twice), and usually the ones that do message me back, or start the messaging or whatever are so fucking boring I cut it off by being an asshole with boring conversation to match, or say something offensive, etc.

11/29/2011 6:36:24 PM

oh look...Ira David Wood IV is a potential match...

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/SydVisco?cf=regular


I guess he finally found out his whore girlfriend was cheating on him while he was off doing Shakespeare in Virginia and partying in LA

12/1/2011 3:14:46 AM

that whore

12/1/2011 8:13:01 AM

Updated my shit. Not sure why, I never send out messages or winks or pokes or whatever they are

12/1/2011 8:30:27 AM