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arghx
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Some of you may have seen a link to this article on yahoo.

http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/bullies.html


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"Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully. Tell your child to look the bully in the eye and say something like, "I want you to stop right now." Counsel your child to then walk away and ignore any further taunts. Encourage your child to "walk tall" and hold his or her head up high (using this type of body language sends a message that your child isn't vulnerable). Bullies thrive on the reaction they get, and by walking away, or ignoring hurtful emails or instant messages, your child will be telling the bully that he or she just doesn't care. Sooner or later, the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother your child."


This was obviously written by someone who wants to set education policy or just hasn't been in school for a really, really long time.

I think back to my middleschool days... I was on the receiving end and the bullying end, although admittedly it was more often on the receiving side. I wasn't really sure what to do, because I really had moral problems with physically fighting back for a while. Eventually I got into a fistfight with this one kid and did well enough that people didn't bug me so much anymore.

Anyway, if you do or plan to have kids, what are you going to do (especially for the boys, because it tends to be more physical) if/when this comes up? You don't want the kid to be a pussy but you don't want him to go crazy and hit people whenever he can't deal with them. Sometimes walking away works, but usually it doesn't. You just look like you can't stand up for yourself. I know with girls it's less physical and more triflin gossip and excluding people and shit (although boys have this stuff too), so the approach should be a different.

Any thought on this?

7/30/2006 10:50:53 PM

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that's a hard one

7/30/2006 10:54:30 PM

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Get the shit beaten out of you and shape that frustration into a lucrative career in some creative industry later in life.

7/30/2006 10:57:14 PM

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apparently i hit a kid in the head with a lunchbox

i also rammed a kids head into a metal post

hit a kid in the head with a chair

and in high school when this kid was trying to grope me and make fun of me on the bus i hit him in the head with a steel lunchbox repeatedly


i didn't get in trouble for only one of those things

but they were all worth it

7/30/2006 10:57:16 PM

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As a kid, I was pretty much friends with everybody. However, the "many men" principle did apply at times... I was taught to always tell some authority in the school. That way they can diffuse the situation, because it's part of what they get paid to do. In most cases, you never know how many kids you're speaking for by simply reporting the problem.

One time in middle school, a few kids from a rival school biked over to my school's yard, clearly looking for trouble. I was the only one out there, warming up for soccer practice. The first people to come to my side were my former bullies. The other school kids promptly got back on their bikes and rode away.

[Edited on July 30, 2006 at 11:00 PM. Reason : I've never believed in that walk away shit. If you're going to go anywhere, go to a teacher.]

7/30/2006 10:59:58 PM

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When I was in 4th grade, there was this fat fucking bitch who had failed about 4 times, and was supposed to be in the 8th grade. She used to treat all the kids at the bus stop like shit, so bad that one of my friend's mom used to come out there and stand with us so she'd leave us along.

That worked for about a week, because this was the most disrespectful little fucking fat whorebitch you could ever imagine. My mom used to hear my stories every day about what the fat lil whore would do, and straight up told me that she'd encourage me to beat the girl's ass if 1) it wasn't a girl and 2) she wasn't so much older than I was. It wasn't that my mom didn't think I could beat her, it's that she thought I shouldn't because she was a girl.

Finally one day, the bitch pushed shit too far and something inside me just snapped. She had been fucking with my best friend all week (you know how bullies rotate who they fuck with), and I just lost it. There was this piece of a "stick" laying on the ground (actually think of a 1.5-2' section of broom handle, but square) and I just picked it up and fucking FLUNG it at her while she was standing in the middle of the intersection yelling about some shit. Shit was classic, she was facing the opposite direction, and heard it helicoptering through the air behind her. She turned around, and it caught her right across the eyes. Couldn't have been a better throw, and there was blood just bursting out from her eyes. She ran home with me yelling "THAT'S RIGHT, BITCH," and we NEVER got shit from her again.






SO yeah, in short, what I'm saying is: encourage kids to fight back against bullies, and let them know that there's no "fair fight" rules when you're beating a bully's ass. The more you embarass them, the more likely they are to never fuck with you again.

7/30/2006 11:09:23 PM

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Walking away never worked for me. Eventually I just tried blending in as much as humanly possible. That worked for the most part.

I wish my parents would have stepped in a little. The kids threw pinecones at me at the busstop, and one got me right in the face, gave me some pretty nasty scrapes. My dad asked me what happened, and I told him, and he asked me why I didn't tell them to stop. As if those weren't the first words out of my mouth. And I had been walking away when they got me in the face. So much for that.

7/30/2006 11:10:38 PM

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Some of you may have seen a link to experienced this article on yahoo in real life.

7/30/2006 11:10:59 PM

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^^ See, if they're the same age, there's no excuse for that.


Actually now that I think about it, my parents used to encourage me to get into fights.



also as an addendum to that story, about 2 weeks later the fatwhorebitch got in trouble at school, and was in the principal's office. The principal saw the raccoon-like bruise across her eyes and asked her what happened (thinking the parents did it) and the girl told her.

then I got called down to the office, and they were like "we have to call your parents," so they did. Mom-dukes came down to the schoolhouse and was like "I TOLD HIM TO DO IT"

ahahahaha I didnt get in any trouble, either

[Edited on July 30, 2006 at 11:15 PM. Reason : .]

7/30/2006 11:13:12 PM

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The teachers should be more aware. I used to think there were pros to the school of hard knocks, but I look back and realize that a lot of the little snotnosed kids who used to torment me are in for a much rougher time than I am....payback's a b!tch.

I agree...put the frustration into something lucrative

[Edited on July 30, 2006 at 11:26 PM. Reason : ]

7/30/2006 11:19:06 PM

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WHIP OUT YOUR JUNK AND PEE ON HIS LEG

what he going to do... even if he kicks your ass you still pissed on him

7/30/2006 11:24:23 PM

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Ugh, having -kids- deal with bullies is asking for trouble

It's the parents that need to deal with that crap. The bully's parents are probably terrible people, too, but if they catch shit from the principal, teachers, and parents they're going to make the kid stop just to end the phonecalls.

7/30/2006 11:26:30 PM

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Most of the bullies I dealt with in elementary were the trash talk kind, they rarely did anything physical, but some of the shit they would say was terrible. One day walking from the school to the high school where my mom worked I was followed by abour 5 black kids my age, taunting me for about a quarter mile. 1 got in front of me and as soon as he stopped I decked him right in the jaw and just kept walking, they left me alone after that.

This is like cancer, you cant just ignore it and hope it goes away.

7/30/2006 11:29:44 PM

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Another observation - a lot of them peaked out at those days.

The quick wit and trash talking came from something they picked up from the kind of person who would lead them into whatever they would be doing for the rest of their lives.

The attitude is just something of a blue collar mentality. I know that sounds somehwat judgmental, but some of the biggest loudmouths I remember from school ended up being exactly just that. Looking back, you take things seriously when you're younger.

I remember a guy who would mercilessly taunt me, all day...and he was on the varsity football team while I was only on JV, so it was weird to kind of look up to someone who would consistently crap on you all day.

Well anyway, Dan now removes tree stumps for a living. I gues that's more to laugh at than anything he ever said to me.

7/30/2006 11:38:17 PM

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There was this really big white trash kid at my school. He antagonized everyone. One day, he locked some black kid in a locker after football practice and pissed on him. Pretty much a racially motivated attack. The guy got out of the locker and started beating the shit out of the bully, really thrashing the guy. One of the coaches who was in the vicinity heard what happened, so he stood by and let the ass-kicking continue for a split second longer than it should have before he finally separated the two.

7/30/2006 11:40:38 PM

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There's always a time to fight.

I don't have kids, but if I did, I would sit them down and explain the situation. If someone is physically hurting you, then it is your obligation to stick up for yourself. And when I say stick up for yourself, I don't mean just stand there or even just hit him if he hits you. I mean hurt him, and hurt him bad. Break his nose, bloody him up as much as possible, because until he fears you, he'll just do it again.

I have only ever been in one real fight in my life. I was a sophomore in high school, and I ended up dating this girl for a while. Anyway, the girls ex-boyfriend was livid, but he was a big pussy and he would never ever do anything. However, he had a friend who he got to torment me for like a whole year. By this I mean this friend of his (Eric) and like 5 or 6 of his friends would put notes in my locker threatening to hurt me. Or they would get in a gang and approach me while nobody else was around and threaten to beat me up. I was only 140ish pounds and really timid, so I never knew what to do. 6 guys verse me in an alley and I had no fighting experience.... ever. Anyway, it came to the point where I didn't want to ever be alone at school or around town, because these guys (and Eric in particular) scared the shit out of me.

One day during the summer after my sophomore year, Eric (and of course his group of pals) jumped me from behind. Eric was the only one who "jumped" me, but his friends were there expecting to watch him kick the shit out of me. Well, apparently I had some unknown fighting prowess (I had messed around with friends boxing) but I hit him a couple times and he realized that a stand-up fight wasn't a good idea. He then tried rushing me and I quickly threw him down and got on top of him. I could have seriously messed him up, because he could do nothing and I was in complete control. But stupid stupid me, I let him up without doing anything.

After that he would never approach me while he was alone (he used to) but he still would threaten me when he was with his friends (a few of them). It made me so mad, but I was still timid, so I never would retaliate. I knew in the back of my mind that I could "take him" no problem, I just didn't know what his friends would do nor of the consequences I would have from my family.

What I really needed was to sit down with my dad (I had grown up with my mom and she was always under the never hit anyone AND if you get in trouble at school you are SO in trouble when you get home mentality) and discuss this. I know he would have told me to hurt him, and make him remember why not to fuck with me. He was never an advocate of fighting, but after discussing it with him later he wished I would have broken something on him. He told me that I better NEVER pick on anyone, but if someone was being a bully (not just a jerk, but a bully) that you can't just stand up to them. He said that if it came down to that, I would never get in trouble for any medical bills nor school penalties, but ONLY if I was standing up for myself. I wish I would have known this before, because I think my life in high school (mainly my sophomore and junior years) would have been a lot easier.

7/30/2006 11:46:43 PM

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Quote :
"This is like cancer, you cant just ignore it and hope it goes away."


exactly


and ^ exactly


you can't be on some "oh, go to the teacher" shit, because the kid will end up looking like a bitch, and will never learn how to deal with their own problems.


tell em to stand up for themselves

tell em to fight dirty if they have to

and above all, respect and support the actions your child carries through with when it comes to bullies


after I beat that fat bitch's ass in 4th grade, I never had problems with bullies in school again. Your kid will get a rep of someone not to fuck with, and your kid can help other kids out with that rep.

7/30/2006 11:57:57 PM

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Just be the the leader of the kewl kids and you'll be fine son.

7/30/2006 11:59:40 PM

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^ ^ By the way, the bus stop story is an interesting read. It strangely characterizes your stick throwing skills to be like that of a ninja.

[Edited on July 31, 2006 at 12:00 AM. Reason : ]

7/31/2006 12:00:10 AM

Fry
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ppl stopped messing with me when they realized that i could beat the crap out of them if i felt like it

7/31/2006 12:02:26 AM

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I never really got picked on ever. There was this one guy in high school who would sort of harass me if I was ever in the same vicinity as him (I solved that problem by not being where he was), but eventually his stupid ass got sent to prison because he and a friend stole a shool bus in broad daylight. That's right; a fucking SCHOOL BUS. IN BROAD DAYLIGHT. I sure hope he earns the Darwin award some day.

I don't pretend to understand the bully mentality, for all I know they're really scared little children on the inside who have to assert their superiority over others to make themselves feel better. But I am not a fighter by any stretch of the imagination. I am a pussy and pretty much refuse to fight, but only because I'm afraid of getting into trouble. I wouldn't want my kid to be punished or suspended from school because he tried to defend himself from a bully. So the first thing I'd recommend is to tell one of the teachers. Let them deal with the bully. Some of you may think that this is cowardly or that it does nothing, but I feel as though that you're following the correct procedure by reporting the bullying. If this were the workplace instead of school, would you fight the bully or would you report him to your boss?

If, in the event that the teachers either can't do anything meaningful or just don't care, then you're pretty much SOL. But I will say this much; fighting is okay, but only as a last resort. Like how somebody said that they were backed into an alley by six other guys. If you can't get away and it's clear that they're looking for trouble, then you've got to brace yourself. You're unlikely to walk away unscathed anyway, so you may as well tear him/her up a little bit. You don't have to beat the ever living shit out of them, you don't even have to win the fight, you just have to make sure that they learn that any future engagements will not be worth the cost.

I may be a pussy, but I if I had a kid I'd prevent him/her from being one. I would make them understand that it is important to talk about the situation, though. They need to first try talking to the bully, see what the problem is. If the bullying still persists, then they need to tell a teacher or me. And if it's still going on, then all bets are off and I will look the other way if my kid kicks the bully's ass.

7/31/2006 12:03:07 AM

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^^^ If I had to do it again, I'll bet I couldn't. It was a one in a million throw to be that dead-on, and it was executed in slow motion it was so perfect.

^ See, I don't agree with that reasoning at all.

YOu're right about bullies being weak on the inside, and using outward shows of aggression to make themselves feel better about themselves, but that means (to me) that you can't reason with them.

It's like "Hey, do i want to talk to this kid about why I don't have any friends..... or do I want to take the easy way out and push him in the mud because it makes me feel good?"

A bully's going to take the easy way out, every single time.

For a kid to not be bullied, they have to impose their will on the bully. Take advantage of the fact that the kid really is weak on the inside, and press that button by beating the everliving shit out of them, or embarassing them, or whatever.

It establishes the regular kid's complete dominance over the bully, and eliminates all hints of fear. The bully's then resigned to being second class to that regular kid.

Sure it sounds pretty harsh when you think of it that way, but it's not any kid's responsibility to try and help another kid to see the error of their ways. It's a kid's responsibility to be a kid and not get fucked with on a regular basis.

[Edited on July 31, 2006 at 12:11 AM. Reason : .]

7/31/2006 12:03:37 AM

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My concern isn't that a kid help heal the psychological wounds of a bully, my concern is that the kid does everything that he is suppose to do first. I see what you're saying and all and I agree, but at the same time I don't want my kid to get the attitude that he can just slug somebody in the face every time they act like a jackass towards him.

There is a time and a place for fighting, I will not dispute this, but unfortunately we also live in a society where fighting is largely frowned upon. If my kid were to fight this bully (and preferably kick his ass), it wouldn't matter if it was in complete self-defense, they both get punished. I just want to make sure that my kid has reported this to the proper authorities first before taking matters into his own hands. If the proper authorities fail to do anything about it, then I'd rather see my kid get in trouble for fighting back against an aggressor than see him suffer any more abuse.

7/31/2006 12:17:44 AM

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Ok, well I can understand that.


It's always been my experience that the proper authorities don't do the things that need to be done.... namely, beat the shit out of the bully kid.

7/31/2006 12:20:04 AM

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[Edited on July 31, 2006 at 12:25 AM. Reason : ]

7/31/2006 12:20:44 AM

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I would just tell my kid "Next time he is bugging you, kick him as hard as you can square in the nuts"

Haha in high school they had this stupid thing they made us learn in the event of a confrontation. We were supposed to exclaim "DO NOT TOUCH OR HIT ME! I AM GOING TO WALK AWAY AND FIND AN ADULT SUPERVISOR!"

7/31/2006 12:21:17 AM

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This is a job for DUSO the Dolphin

7/31/2006 12:35:35 AM

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I'd had some trouble with bullies throughout my school years. The problem originated, IMO, because I went to a completely pussy-ass suburban middle-upper class white elementary school where everything was all happy puppies and kitties and everybody got along. THEN I went to a middle school where they bussed in kids from rougher parts of town, and that was added to the fact that everybody was fucked up in middle school (yay puberty I guess). Basically I was a quiet, shy individual who didn't really see any interest in confrontations. If somebody was an aggressive dickbag I just ignored them and let them be. Still, there was plenty of verbal abuse, which I think eventually led me to just become as non-sociable as possible except with the rare people I knew from years past (or who sought me out as a friend for whatever reason they had). I mean I had been randomly jumped twice by a couple groups of black kids for some reason, but I slid my way the hell out of it and backed away into safer territory (near a cop).

Most of the shit I got was verbal, and most of the time I'd just shake my head and ignore it. I knew well that most of those guys are just losers and that they knew it too. One of the guys who did it was very obviously a victim of abuse at home (you could see it the odd two or three times he'd dress out in gym class, covered the fuck over with bruises), but in my cynical heartless manner I decided it'd be better if I didn't report it. I got abuse from him, but he got worse abuse at home (looking back I should've reported it and the bruises but I was much more bastardly and evil back then).

The only time I responded to bullying with physical violence was in high school. I bought a shitty pair of steel-toed boots. Basically a wrestling douche in an A+ cert course would harass me every day (he really didn't want to take the class, I was just there to learn something, and I never provoked him once or even did so much as look at him funny to have sparked any of the abuse). He did it for the upper part of a year, doing so much as throwing my shit off the table towards the end of the year (probably out of frustration that I didn't give him the pleasure of a response, I was a very very patient individual back then). One day he just said something that pissed me off when I was trying to sleep in class (1/2 the week was spent doing this b/c the teacher was also a coach who had other shit to worry about, he'd just skip out on teaching some days), so I sat up, moved my chair over, turned, and while sitting kicked him as hard as I could in the shin (what a little bitch right? well it worked). I laid back down and he punched me once in the shoulder, haha (no damage, was wearing thick clothes). He stopped verbally abusing me after that entirely, only once or twice towards the end of the year when I was studying he tried to smack some shit out of my hands (but I knew he'd do it so I just gripped the shit tight so he wouldn't get the pleasure of me bending over for him to pick stuff up), but he left me alone after that.

I wouldn't recommend fading into the background and becoming a rather dark, unpleasant character like I did as a result of bullying. I'd recommend that a parent teach their kid to report it to the parent, the parent then reporting it to the authority, and should it continue fully recommend that the kid stand up for himself by any means necessary, short of killing anyone.

I know that the school authorities will generally do jack shit in a situation with bullying, unless your kid was harmed to the point that the school ends up in the news or something.

Oh and yeah, that article is bullshit. Saying "I want you to stop right now" and walking away with your head up in the air looking like some bitch ass fruit will probably result in something like a ball or rock hitting you in the back of the head. Your kid will have to deal with the bully right then and there. If the bully is seriously abusing a kid verbally to the point where he needs to respond in his own defense, he needs to say something besides "stop it". If he's being physically abused, asking them to stop then walking away like you've just won the battle will probably result in more physical abuse (or a straight up bitch move like tackling him and bloodying his face). It's a damn shame that any article online would tell parents such garbage. If I had followed that advice in middle school I'd have gotten the shit knocked out of me on more than one occasion.

[Edited on July 31, 2006 at 12:56 AM. Reason : haha, my serious posts always have too many words in them and are way too serious...]

7/31/2006 12:55:08 AM

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Outside of moonman's story of someone getting what he deserved, there have been two references to race...beyond the racially motivated attack..

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" I was followed by abour 5 black kids my age, taunting me for about a quarter mile."


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" mean I had been randomly jumped twice by a couple groups of black kids for some reason"


I normally don't play the race card for any reason, and it's not really the best P.C. topic to discuss.

Some of the kindest support has been from some of my black friends growing up. I have had certain people stand up for me at a time when others wouldn't.

7/31/2006 1:05:37 AM

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Yeah, I mentioned the race because I felt those two "jumpings" were racially motivated, as there was no motivation that was otherwise apparent (I didn't know those kids, nor did I even do so much as look at them funny, I kept to myself as a kid).

It's cool that you had a more diverse cultural background, including supportive friends from varying backgrounds, but I grew up in white fucking suburbia and went to a school where the kids who were bussed in from south raleigh clashed with all the little upper middle class kids from white fucking suburbia.

7/31/2006 1:22:12 AM

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HEY MCFLY

7/31/2006 1:23:30 AM

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^ I lol'ed on myself

7/31/2006 1:25:46 AM

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Quote :
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It's always been my experience that the proper authorities don't do the things that need to be done.... namely, beat the shit out of the bully kid."


too bad a lot of schools can't do anything to kids anymore. it's pathetic.

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"Haha in high school they had this stupid thing they made us learn in the event of a confrontation. We were supposed to exclaim "DO NOT TOUCH OR HIT ME! I AM GOING TO WALK AWAY AND FIND AN ADULT SUPERVISOR!"
"


they told us that as well. dumbest thing i ever heard. among my family, policy was that if you got hit, you had every right to take em down. otherwise do what you can to avoid it.

only thing that kept me from a couple fights was the fear of gettin arrested, etc.

7/31/2006 1:30:23 AM

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"Outside of moonman's story of someone getting what he deserved, there have been two references to race...beyond the racially motivated attack.."


Well, considering I had to walk through/near a place called Manteo Circle to get to the highschool, and also considering there wasnt a single white family in that development, and considering there were plenty of other "non-white" kids walking through there I viewed it as a "Hey lets go get the white kid" kinda thing. I consider that "racially motivated". But like I said, once I socked one kid in the jaw and dropped him they left me alone.

damn I consider a whole lot.

[Edited on July 31, 2006 at 2:02 AM. Reason : wtf]

7/31/2006 1:44:44 AM

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"SO yeah, in short, what I'm saying is: encourage kids to fight back against bullies, and let them know that there's no "fair fight" rules when you're beating a bully's ass. The more you embarass them, the more likely they are to never fuck with you again."


yep, with the emphasis on "embarrass them."



but as for the original post, how you carry yourself is great preventive medicine. i remember having a buddy in college who just kinda slouched and slimed around. he was like 6' tall, and at least average build, but got no respect. he ended up getting in fights and altercations all the time simply because people gave him shit.

i'm only about 5'8", but i tend to act like i'm about a foot taller, and if you do, that's generally how people will treat you. i'm NOT saying to act like an asshole--that's a different thing than carrying yourself with a presence.

7/31/2006 1:52:18 AM

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"Mindstorm: It's cool that you had a more diverse cultural background, including supportive friends from varying backgrounds, but I grew up in white fucking suburbia and went to a school where the kids who were bussed in from south raleigh clashed with all the little upper middle class kids from white fucking suburbia."


BULLSHIT. That was more puberty than race. Anyway, what middle school did you go to?

[Edited on July 31, 2006 at 2:16 AM. Reason : sss]

7/31/2006 2:03:23 AM

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to an extent, i agree with Duke

7/31/2006 2:25:03 AM

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And, by the way, a lot of you sound like nerds. If you got "bullied" when you were in high school, you probably deserved it.

That leads me to my anti-bullying deal. How about not making your kids dorky nerds who come to school with mullets, 80s gear, and scifi novels?

7/31/2006 2:26:38 AM

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it is a shame to say that a kid shouldn't be able to look/do as he/she pleases within reason... but really there are some things that kids should be taught to do/not do to avoid problems like that.

i was a nerd, but i was also a varsity wrestling and varsity football captain... kids have to find some way to balance it out and take care of themselves at least to some extent... my case was kind of different from average... but my point was that i learned to take care of myself and i did gain respect from a lot of people, despite the nerdy, easily laughable characteristics i had

7/31/2006 2:32:07 AM

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this is the primary reason that before I teach my son to walk, I will teach him the DDT.


i just made friends with the Latinos. I was pretty much bilingual due to studying my ass of in spanish class, and we were all pretty close. Nobody messed with me because those fuckers i hung out with were crazy.

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7/31/2006 2:39:03 AM

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I like this thread.

7/31/2006 2:46:04 AM

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I wonder if this kid gets bullied. Some of you may have seen this before.


http://www.xsunderground.com/thechilde/


7/31/2006 3:11:45 AM

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Some of us? LOL. That kid's a born pimp.

7/31/2006 3:23:07 AM

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7/31/2006 7:32:16 AM

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Draw out a plan to kill him with steak knifes with a crayon on the bottom side of a wooden toy box lid like me and my cousin did... the guy that lived beside him used to give us hell, and we decided one day we were going to kill him

7/31/2006 7:50:09 AM

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Bridget you know you like it when I read you those sci fi bedtime stories

7/31/2006 7:52:43 AM

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Quote :
"And, by the way, a lot of you sound like nerds. If you got "bullied" when you were in high school, you probably deserved it.
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I was an asshole in high school, I picked on everybody... no one was safe

7/31/2006 8:01:34 AM

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i will make sure that my kids either learn to box or learn martial arts at a young age. of course ill teach some discipline to go along with it, but the bully will either be smart enough to pick an easier target, or be dumb and get his ass beat.

7/31/2006 8:47:43 AM

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Who REALLY gets bullied? I mean honestly...in all of my grade schooling, no one ever got the shit beat out of them unless they were in a gang or something. Of course, there was always some kid who would be like "what are you looking at me like that for?" and get some attitude, but I never saw anyone get their ass kicked or anything.

However, the worst bullying, by far, is done by girls. Gay men are usually a step beyond them when they get mad at you, but girls are the worst. I have seen classmates made anorexic by other classmates, girls slashing one another's tires, lots of other stuff. Girls are batshit crazy...end of story. One girl who just graduated from my high school was the yearbook editor, and there was some other chick she didn't like who was hitting on her boyfriend, so she blacked out her teeth in pictures and photoshopped her to look fat. Well, the victim's family is suing the school system and all this other shit, and the purpetrator almost didn't get to walk at graduation, and could have possibly been un-admitted from UNC (the only college she applied to).

7/31/2006 8:58:15 AM

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"Who REALLY gets bullied? I mean honestly...in all of my grade schooling, no one ever got the shit beat out of them unless they were in a gang or something. Of course, there was always some kid who would be like "what are you looking at me like that for?" and get some attitude, but I never saw anyone get their ass kicked or anything."


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7/31/2006 9:09:37 AM

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