So, I had some work done on a wall in my apartment bathroom. The guys that came out dont work for my apartment complex (they're an outside company i guess) and when they were leaving the younger one asked if I had a boyfriend and if he could have my number. ...

While initially I was just kinda amused/slightly grossed out, when I called and talked to my mom about she said I should report him to my apartment complex for being unprofessional. What would you do?

10/6/2006 3:21:20 PM

first of all you should make threads with better titles

how much longer will you be living in the complex

10/6/2006 3:23:29 PM

not report him to anyone. he just asked for your number...

10/6/2006 3:23:46 PM

Can I get your number?

Send it here.
http://brentroad.com/mail_compose.aspx?user=25672

Oh yeah and upload some photos.
http://brentroad.com/photo_add.aspx

10/6/2006 3:24:20 PM

Nothing... don't be a douche.

You got hit on by an ugly guy... say no, move on.

10/6/2006 3:25:42 PM

^ agreed. Sure it wasn't professional but these were construction guys. Just smile to the fact that you were cute enough to be asked. Don't be offended. That makes you a bitch.

10/6/2006 3:30:22 PM

mexicans love hitting on some white girls

i think its the goal of all these little subhumans

they love the white skin

10/6/2006 3:32:11 PM

^^ ya...i wasnt planning on it. but my mom brought it up so i thought i may consider it. i guess she's just paranoid about her little girl.

10/6/2006 3:33:55 PM

No offense, I'm not being a TWW jackass--but you're 21 and got hit on--unless he "patched up your drywall" without your consesnt or was REALLY unprofesional, then I wouldn't even worry about it.

Report him for being unprofessional? There is nothing unprofessional about politely asking if you're taken (hell, I'm actually impressed people still ask that nowadays).

The world is already to whiney as it is, last thing we need is guys getting in trouble for casual flirting.

10/6/2006 3:51:48 PM

I agree with mildew and Raige. Keep an eye out though. He does know where you live,has an idea of who you live with, and if you'll be alone.

10/6/2006 3:52:32 PM

Way to go, darkone. I'm sure making her irrationally paranoid will help lots!!1

10/6/2006 3:57:44 PM

give me a break
I'd love it if you moved to new york city or something

10/6/2006 4:00:50 PM

na keep it cool, take it as a compliment

10/6/2006 4:04:58 PM

i hope you told him you had a boyfriend
now he is going to stalk you

you should go and buy a gun and a dog
and not just any dog, a big dog.....a big, scary dog

and then you should make another thread about it

10/6/2006 4:17:53 PM

^^^^

^ Tigers are far more effective from a home/self defense perspective.... unless they eat you.

[Edited on October 6, 2006 at 4:21 PM. Reason : additional comment]

10/6/2006 4:20:45 PM

i could almost guarantee if you complained he would be fired


so it depends if you feel like taking someone's livelihood just b/c he thought you were fuckable

10/6/2006 4:51:35 PM

hahahah you know what's funny

if this chick needs a good story to tell for the day, or doesn't have any drama pop up in her life in the next few days, she just might do this

she just might get this guy fired so she has something to make noise about

10/6/2006 4:55:35 PM

^ im not that big of a bitch. although it did cross my mind "what if he's an illegal immigrant...."

10/6/2006 6:51:18 PM

what if i was to tell you that you will probably be raped because you dont know how to tell a white lie

is that something you might be interested in?

10/6/2006 7:26:24 PM

Just take the compliment and forget about it. I guarandamntee if this guy was white and somewhat goodlooking this would have been one of those delightfully romantic stories you would giggle about with your similarly superficial girlfriends.

10/6/2006 7:54:09 PM

Yep, the answer has been given. It was unprofessional for him to do it, but you don't want to cost him his job for having bad judgment.

Just make sure he doesn't stalk you.


Oh yeah, and FDT

[Edited on October 6, 2006 at 8:20 PM. Reason : fdt]

10/6/2006 8:20:18 PM

There sure are a lot of men posting in this thread ...

... so from a woman's perspective, I agree it was unprofessional but at least he waited until the job was done (would've been really uncomfortable if he'd asked earlier) and was polite enough to ask if you had a boyfriend. I'm assuming you said no to the asking for your number ... but think about it, he could've just gotten your number off the work ticket. about what darkone said ... regardless of whether this guy exists, it's always a good idea to be aware of your surroundings esp. at night/alone whether or not you have a boyfriend to "protect" you. I wouldn't be worried about it unless he actually does take your number off the ticket and start calling/stalking.

10/6/2006 8:46:41 PM

OH NO A BOY ASKED ME OUT

I'M GOING TO CALL MY MOM

10/6/2006 8:47:10 PM

Your mom needs a good lay. She is way too uptight.

10/6/2006 8:55:23 PM

^^^ thanks for a females perspective finally.

^^ i actually didnt call my mom because of that. i called her because they actually came and took care of a problem that ive been asking them to fix for 2 months now.

10/6/2006 9:46:51 PM

dont sweat it

10/7/2006 5:13:04 PM

it's only unprofessional if he's ugly.

10/7/2006 5:24:31 PM

this thread makes me laugh

10/7/2006 5:25:15 PM

<--------'s wife speaking

From now on, assume that if a male asks if you have a boyfriend, that they are planning on asking you out. If you feel comfortable with the situation and are possibly interested in going out with them, and assuming you don't have a boyfriend at the time, tell them the truth. However, if this male is not your type or you just simply don't want to go out with him for any reason, lie and say yes, you do have a boyfriend. It will save a lot of worry on your part and will not hurt his feelings when you turn him down. Trust me, I worked in a grocery store for 2+ years and this happened to me...I used this advice many times to spare a male's feelings or to get out of an uncomfortable situation.



[Edited on October 7, 2006 at 10:19 PM. Reason : sdf]

10/7/2006 10:18:28 PM

*girl's pov*

DO NOT REPORT THIS GUY FOR ASKING YOU OUT

While it may seem unprofessional, I doubt a guy trained to fix dry wall has a lot of professional etiquette.
Secondly, your mom has reason to worry, not about this guy (he seems harmless) but about you in general.

^She has the right idea. Never disclose to someone that you are alone, even if you have a female roomate. People ask simple questions to get info they can use against you. While Raleigh is not crawling with crime, it is a large city which is home to many girls via multiple universities/colleges. Be smart.

Also, hone your intuition. It comes with age and maturity but you can often times decipher the creep from a guy who was just interested in a date.

10/8/2006 1:15:29 AM

dont be so fucking obessed w/ yourself

you probably arent even that hot
get over it

10/8/2006 2:12:22 AM

of all the people to talk

on each level of your post too

[Edited on October 8, 2006 at 2:16 AM. Reason : .]

10/8/2006 2:16:09 AM

First off, this thread is useless without pics.

Second, there is nothing wrong with a guy asking a girl for a number in that context. You all were not working together, so it's all good. I used to pack payrolls a few years ago and once this hot hottie came in with her boss for something so about a week later I sent her a letter with her paycheck and surprisingly she called that same evening. Was probably fluky, but hey it worked.

10/8/2006 2:19:45 AM

this thread is worthless without pics

10/8/2006 10:04:10 AM

^^^^ You need a lesson on where the line between having good self esteem and being vain are drawn from your other thread on your wedding dress.


Anyway, from another woman's perspective, I think Skyfallen has some legitimate concerns about
her safety if some strange guy asked her out. I would be a little creeped out too and if I had told my mother, she would have been as well.

Like others have said, you could either brush off the remark politely, or if not in the mood, could have been curt. I used to work at a car store, and a simple "Fuck off" would suffice with unwanted advances.

However, I wouldn't report this guy, it does seem his interest in you was genuine. And, if filing a formal report, might lead to a lot of unnecessary paperwork on your part. Just take it as a lesson in how to deal civilly with guys in general.

10/8/2006 12:18:11 PM

0/10 B

10/8/2006 1:48:06 PM