Hey, I just figured I would throw this out there for the older guys and the NCSU alums...

Recently, we started a group for cool, socially-active guys in the Triangle. Our group emphasizes a few things:

*Having an active lifestyle
*Socializing
*Self-improvement—whether it be social, personal, or professional.

If those things interest you, then feel free to check out our group's homepage: http://men.meetup.com/9/. We’re a just a few days old so we’re *growing.* Anyway, if any of you guys are interested and want to know more, just shoot me a PM.

Cheers.

12/6/2006 3:41:13 PM

Is this a gay thing?

12/6/2006 3:43:27 PM

Very creepy

12/6/2006 3:46:06 PM

Is this a gay thing?

12/6/2006 3:46:10 PM

LOL.

Man, you don't know how hard I tried to come up with a name that did not sound gay but that was still cachy. If you have any suggestions, please let mew know. The address homepage could use some work, but we're stuck with it for now.

In any case, no it's not a gay thing. Quite a few of our members (at least the ones I know personally) are quite good with women or have attractive girlfriends.

I just figured I would put this out there for older guys that were in the working world and looking for a social networking resource.

[Edited on December 6, 2006 at 3:51 PM. Reason : edit]

12/6/2006 3:47:22 PM

i read it as Social Resource for Active Gays in RDU

12/6/2006 3:48:32 PM

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"looking for a social networking resource."

http://www.myspace.com

12/6/2006 3:49:53 PM

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"have attractive girlfriends."

I know gay guys whose beards are very attractive...

12/6/2006 3:51:21 PM

if they are "socially-active guys" then why do they need a group to be social with.....?


I smell AIDS.

12/6/2006 3:51:58 PM

Damn, you guys are brutal. LOL.

But I totally understand the skepticism...

Anyway, here I try to answer some questions.

Q: Why did you start this group?

A: I started this group as a resource for socially active guys in the Triangle. At the very least, I figured it would be nice to have a place for guys to discuss relevant topics: social events, sports, nutrition & exercise, self-improvement, dating, career goals, etc.

Beyond that, I noticed two distinct groups of guys in the Triangle. First, it seemed like there are many cool guys, who may have a hard time networking with each other. Many of these guys are new to the area and do not know many people. Some of these guys work in fields in which there are not many young, socially active people.

The second group I noticed were guys who want to become more active but do not really know where to start. Maybe they recently graduated from college and are tired of going to keggers in someone's basement. Maybe they want to better themselves and could use some support.

Whatever a guy's background, I am confident this group will exert a positive influence on his life in some way--whether it be making new friends or simply reading something interesting on the message board.

Q: Am I a good fit for this group?

A: It depends. You are a good fit if you want to lead a more active life and want to better yourself. If you do, then I would say this group is ideal for you.

Q: Will there be meet-ups?

A: When the group gets bigger, I will consider an occasional meetup--maybe something like paintball, a sporting event, or an event where guys can bring dates. Other than that I think it would look awkward going out with a group of twenty or thirty guys.

As a general rule, guys become friends by doing stuff together--road trips, playing a team sport together, etc. If you are interested in meeting other cool guys, I suggest keeping an eye out for guys who mention they are going to be doing something you are interested in. If some guys mention they are going out at night to have a beer, then shoot one of them an email. If a guy mentions he wants to get a sports team together, then email him.

I am confident that there will be a good deal of socializing betweens members of the group. I think it best if it is natural and does not seem forced. Large, formal meetups will be treated as an occasional perk as opposed to the gist of the group.

[Edited on December 6, 2006 at 3:54 PM. Reason : k]

12/6/2006 3:54:15 PM

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"guys become friends by doing stuff together"

12/6/2006 3:55:17 PM

very homo

12/6/2006 3:55:43 PM

is this what became of legacy?

12/6/2006 3:56:33 PM

can we put wall to wall sand in the kitchen?

12/6/2006 3:57:23 PM

I stopped reading after:

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"Recently, we started a group for cool, socially-active "

12/6/2006 4:06:36 PM

Typically, networking is centered around a hobby or profession. This sounds like a post-college fraternity of sorts. I have nothing against it, but make sure you have a good vision and goals for your group. Otherwise, I see it falling to pieces.

12/6/2006 4:26:51 PM

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"If you have any suggestions, please let mew know."

http://straight.men.meetup.com/9/no.gay.sex/i.promise/

12/6/2006 4:30:24 PM

I just realized that it said guys and not gays

you should have just posted [no homo]

12/6/2006 4:31:39 PM

haha

"We're growing like a boner in a plump male ass!"

that should be your slogan

12/6/2006 4:31:40 PM

12/6/2006 4:31:44 PM

The language seems very forced...you need some marketing help BADLY

Do you know anyone in PR? Talk to them and get advice on all your wording.

[Edited on December 6, 2006 at 4:35 PM. Reason : ]

12/6/2006 4:33:43 PM

you should've started a drinking team instead

12/6/2006 4:36:39 PM

I know you mean well and I wish you good luck. But this group will end up being a gay meat market....

12/6/2006 4:38:01 PM

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"it's not a gay thing"

Can you garuntee that gays are not allowed? Cuz it seems that you are opening up a buffet for them.

12/6/2006 4:41:38 PM

perhaps the wolf web is not the greatest forum to solicit such members for your group.

12/6/2006 4:42:08 PM

12/6/2006 4:42:51 PM

Thanks, I already have friends.

12/6/2006 4:45:15 PM

is this about buttfucking in the bathrooms at the airport??

12/6/2006 4:45:57 PM

The URL is what made me think it was some type of homo site. "men.meetup"? Your first step should be to get a new URL.

12/6/2006 4:52:03 PM

how bout rtp.meetup.com ... sounds much less gay


Also, men in rtp already have a place to talk about sports, life, technology, ect...


Its called the wolf web

12/6/2006 4:57:48 PM

sounds pretty pointless

networking is easy around here

12/6/2006 5:01:29 PM

link definitely kills it.

12/6/2006 5:05:07 PM

RDU is an airport.
RTP is an industrial park.
The Triangle is a term for the regional Raleigh, Durham, and Chapel Hill area.

12/6/2006 5:48:17 PM

You know, I've been thinking lately that I need a new group. Since graduation, I can't go to Carmichael and all the friends I lived with on campus never want to do anything.

You gotta have a better name than men.meetup.com though. Half of those sites in other cities are gay.

12/6/2006 6:20:07 PM

When these are your interests:

Quote :

"Travel. Nightlife. Sports. Women. Exercise."

You are:

a) gay
b) uncool
c) both a & b

12/6/2006 6:44:25 PM

^Right dude, traveling to cultural spots around the world is *gay* and *uncool.*

Anyway…

The web address could use some work. But there is nothing I can do to change it as of yet. One thing at a time: we build up membership first. As for the paranoia about gays, it is unfounded.. Unless a gay guy enjoyed being part of a culture that endorses dating the most attractive woman—both mentally and physically—you possibly can, he would probably get bored quickly.

One of the defining aspects of the club is that it emphasizes learning a set of high caliber social skills. Most guys in society flat out do not have this: they get nervous talking to attractive women, or addressing a group, or “holding court” at a party. It is unlikely guys will admit this to themselves on a message board though. You can spot these guys because they get really defensive when you bring this stuff up. Just watch, they will go apeshit after reading this. To a certain degree, you’ve seen it already.

The guys in our social group have either acquired these social skills already or in the process of doing so. They are typically are very bright and range from entrepreneurs to doctors to researchers. I can vouch for this myself. By taking part in this club, you will absorb these social skills. If you have them already, then you are encouraged to join as well.

Here is what you really should consider.

--I can guarantee that if you got active in the club and stay active for one year, the following things would happen: you would be dating more high quality girls, you would be in physically better shape and more active, you’ll know 3x as many people in the Triangle, you’ll have skill-set that will take you further in your career. I can simply guarantee those things flat-out. Furthermore, the club is free. I don’t know your email, so spam is not an issue. You can leave at any time.

In one year, we will have a different url, sponsors, and will have begun to expand into different cities. If our current address is the thing that prevents someone from taking part in this club, then it for the most part, it is an issue of how he prioritizes his life.

I have to be honest. I expected a ton of skepticism—partly because there is nothing out there to really compare it to. It’s natural for some guys to have knee-jerk reactions. I probably would too. Anyway, if you have further questions, let me know.


[Edited on December 6, 2006 at 7:52 PM. Reason : k]

12/6/2006 7:43:28 PM

so its for socially inept guys?

12/6/2006 7:49:28 PM

Is this like Super Adventure Club?

12/6/2006 8:02:24 PM

why has no one yet said "buy an ad"

12/6/2006 8:06:16 PM

high caliber social skills? high quality girls? sponsors and different cities? What's so special about your group that it can guarantee such things?

12/6/2006 8:07:49 PM

maybe its a quixtar business in disguise

12/6/2006 8:14:33 PM

So is it just a rip off of this place?

http://www.trianglemenscenter.org/

12/6/2006 8:35:00 PM

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"Is this a gay thing? "

12/6/2006 8:35:01 PM

Hold my ankles while I do squat thrusts.

12/6/2006 8:36:30 PM

unless your men meetup is a clever ploy to disguise a team of ninjas i'm just not that interested

12/6/2006 8:59:16 PM

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"Huarache so its for socially inept guys?"

Hey man, I’m glad you responded.

I’m prone to go on tangents, so go with me here.

Here’s the thing. People typically judge others based on what they find scarce in their own lives.

A guy I know gets this a lot. When his guy coworkers find out how good he is with women, they suddenly want to be his friend. Suddenly, they all want to “go out to Lucky B’s” with him. They treat him like he’s a more worthy person. These guys are coming from a place of scarcity of women in their own lives. But the really fucked up thing is that his coworkers tend to take a negative view of men who aren’t good with women. They call them “fags”, “losers,” homos”, etc.

But it’s perfectly obvious these guys who throw around these terms, aren’t exactly lady-killers. The people who throw around these terms are typically midlings in the social ladder. To be blunt, the guys who throw these terms have probably been with eight or nine girls at most. Oddly enough, they think that is enough to judge some other guy, which is funny in my book.

You see this a lot with women too. I remember meeting girls at NCSU who would sleep with a guy because he seemed rich and drove a Landrover. They would throw subtle disparaging remarks at people, who were born into less fortunate circumstances. Their whole concept of other people was totally limited by their sense of financial scarcity.

Not to say you have, when a guy wants to call another guy “a loser” for some arbitrary reason, he unknowingly speaks volumes about his own social status.

If you want to deem another guy as “socially inept”, then that is the reality you have chosen to live in. I have stated plainly what kind of people are in the club and what people are invited to join. How you interpret it reflects you world outlook.

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"Shivan Bird high caliber social skills? high quality girls? sponsors and different cities? What's so special about your group that it can guarantee such things?"

Here is what I will guarantee. In the Files Section, I had posted a three-page introduction called “A Roadmap to Being A Cooler Guy.” I will move this to the “About Us” section. It will be up in roughly one hour, as I will need to change some formatting.

This is all I ask of you. You read it thoroughly and do two things: (1) Ask yourself if you need to work on this particular aspect of your life (2) Click on each link I’ve suggested and take two minutes to browse through it. That is all I ask of you. Here is the link: http://men.meetup.com/9/about/. Yes, the url still makes me cringe too.

If after going through and reading this introduction and giving yourself an honest assessment, you feel you don’t need any improvement in these areas or don’t want any improvement, then the club is not for you. That goes for anyone else. If you go through and don’t find one useful bit of information in the write-up or the links (or think it's all common sense), then this club is not for you. This is either implies that (a) you’ve perfected yourself and don’t need any improvement, (b) You already know every single bit of information in the introduction and the links, (c) you’re not self-aware enough to view yourself objectively to realize you need to improve. Shivian, you seem like an intelligent guy, so I figure (c) will not be an issue.

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"Raine34why has no one yet said "buy an ad""

I thought about this. One, I’m not making a dime off of this at the moment. Currently, I’m losing money out of my own pocket, so I have to watch the expenditures. Plus, I'm not trying to compete with the Wolfweb.

When I am in a better position, I will buy an ad or support the wolfweb in some other way. I think the creators of the site have done a really innovative thing (considering it's free) and deserve every dollar of support.

[Edited on December 6, 2006 at 9:50 PM. Reason : edit]

12/6/2006 9:50:16 PM

the wolfweb isnt a free ride shitbird

you got a service?

great

buy an ad

otherwise

IBTL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

12/6/2006 9:52:24 PM

that link fucking kills me man

12/6/2006 10:03:12 PM

You know this is all nice and everything, but as an inactive guy, I am feeling incredibly marginalized at the moment.

12/6/2006 10:08:54 PM

this sounds like the vince vaughn/owen wilson fan club or something

either that or amway

12/6/2006 10:21:38 PM