and you have no idea how they feel

1/24/2008 8:56:05 PM

grow a pair and put some [words] out there, newb

1/24/2008 8:56:44 PM

fap

1/24/2008 8:57:28 PM

stock up on the antidepressants

1/24/2008 8:59:23 PM

grow a pair and put some [words] out there, newb

1/24/2008 9:00:07 PM

1/24/2008 9:00:52 PM

go for it

1/24/2008 9:01:30 PM

I'm going to have to agree...gather your fortitude, man.


My husband was completely clueless how much I loved him when we were just friends. I literally had to spell it out for him. It's paid off though...been together for over 3.5 years as a couple, going on our second year of marriage in April.

[Edited on January 24, 2008 at 9:04 PM. Reason : d'oh...typo]

1/24/2008 9:03:47 PM

well why the fuck couldn't you take the first step there huh?
don't have the nads to put yourself in our place?

1/24/2008 9:12:46 PM

^apparently, she did, hence "i literally had to spell it out for him."

kthx.

1/24/2008 9:13:27 PM

spell it out in the normal cryptic girl speak? or say "hey, you wana go out with me?"

1/24/2008 9:14:22 PM

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"spell it out in the normal cryptic girl speak?"

That's not "spelling it out"

1/24/2008 9:15:13 PM

^^

Quote :

"That's not "spelling it out""

newb

1/24/2008 9:16:17 PM

to you it is.

there is a big difference between how guys spell it out, and how girls think they spell it out to guys.

1/24/2008 9:16:33 PM

More like..."Is there a reason you have failed to ask me on a date, thus far?" Then I asked him on a date.

1/24/2008 9:17:05 PM

get really drunk and text them how you feel

it's sure to work

1/24/2008 9:17:25 PM

^^^no

spell it out is



"JESUS CHRIST, I FUCKING LOVE YOU"

kthx.

1/24/2008 9:17:28 PM

Quote :

"to you it is. there is a big difference between how guys spell it out, and how girls think they spell it out to guys."

You have dated mcfluffle. You know better than to make such statements. Granted, she's not quite as forthright as me, but what you seem to think 'spelling it out' means to us is really 'kinda telling it'.

'spelling it out' means saying it in such a way that there is absolutely no room for misunderstanding, ambiguity, or opacity, and then sticking around in case he has questions.

Example:

Some women hint to their man they wanna do something in the bedroom. I fucking tell him. We were making out, and I said "I like bondage" instead of a girl putting a scarf or some shit on a bed. That's the difference between "telling" and "spelling it out"

[Edited on January 24, 2008 at 9:21 PM. Reason : I know I think like a guy and all, but I'm REALLY not the only one!]

1/24/2008 9:21:24 PM

Anh, I don't do much in the way of cursing or blaspheming. My way was about as straight forward as I get.

I suppose it doesn't really matter how we got to the married part; it didn't matter that I had to do the pushing for that first date. The big thing was I didn't just sit on how I was feeling. I knew back then that if I didn't take the first step I would forever regret being a chicken. Turns out from later conversations he had been too scared to take the first step because he knew it would be a serious relationship (we'd been friends a long while prior).

Have a little faith and give it a shot.

[Edited on January 24, 2008 at 9:24 PM. Reason : asdsd]

1/24/2008 9:23:22 PM

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"Turns out from later conversations he had been too scared to take the first step because he knew it would be a serious relationship (we'd been friends a long while prior). "

awwwwwwwww

1/24/2008 9:25:28 PM

^^^

1/24/2008 9:26:39 PM

http://raleigh.craigslist.org/cgi-bin/personals.cgi?category=mis

1/24/2008 9:27:05 PM

That's what I said.

I married a great guy.

1/24/2008 9:27:14 PM

i express my love through sex

1/24/2008 9:30:44 PM

1/24/2008 9:31:20 PM

nvm.

[Edited on January 24, 2008 at 9:32 PM. Reason : x puppy, why the sad face. cheer up pretty girl . ]

1/24/2008 9:32:10 PM

^and you let them stay the night

and they say chivalry is dead

1/24/2008 9:33:02 PM

haha, and people think dnl is creepy...

1/24/2008 9:33:32 PM

Quote :

"Carolina Fan - m4m - 60"

lololol
http://raleigh.craigslist.org/mis/550632741.html

1/24/2008 9:37:47 PM

"Yeah...I think I lurve you and stuff"

1/24/2008 9:39:30 PM

Quote :

"puppy, why the sad face. cheer up pretty girl"

I'm happy, that wasn't a sad face.

1/24/2008 9:40:29 PM

love..


" hey, you, yea, lets go out and do it "

1/24/2008 9:43:21 PM

someone post that tom cruise video at oprah show

1/24/2008 11:20:25 PM

tell them how you feel dammit, if you get denied then move on

1/24/2008 11:21:08 PM

If you don't have a chance with this person, bury your feelings and move on. If you have a chance.....I've never made it that far.

1/24/2008 11:23:06 PM

being rejected by someone you love probably yields the most abject, horrible feelings imaginable.

f'real.

trick: don't fall in love.

truth: you're going to anyway.

1/24/2008 11:24:49 PM

^ thats true, but there is also something to be said for knowing what the other person thinks (even if its not what you want) and being able to move on

1/24/2008 11:26:59 PM

Quote :

"being rejected by someone you love probably yields the most abject, horrible feelings imaginable."

1/24/2008 11:27:01 PM

Quote :

"truth: you're going to anyway."

You have no way of knowing that.

1/24/2008 11:27:28 PM

IDB

1/24/2008 11:27:35 PM

the key there is being "able" to move on. there are billi0ns of degrees of attachment, intensity of feelings. granted, if you've never been involved with said person, it ought to be easier to move the hell on.

1/24/2008 11:29:04 PM

Quote :

"there is also something to be said for knowing what the other person thinks (even if its not what you want) and being able to move on"

Me personally, I'd rather not ever know.
|
V lol

[Edited on January 24, 2008 at 11:30 PM. Reason : Jen]

1/24/2008 11:29:42 PM

i ask them to drop their pants. They figure out they love me pretty quick

1/24/2008 11:29:53 PM

love is you watching me leave.

1/24/2008 11:31:38 PM

1/24/2008 11:32:23 PM

i would rather know how the person feels so at least you can move forward, keeping yourself guessing just kinda keeps you in limbo for a while.

1/24/2008 11:36:58 PM

I wish I could fall in love, but my heart has turned cold and black

1/24/2008 11:39:33 PM

mines turning a nice shade of gray. Im thinking thats just gona get worse with time

1/24/2008 11:43:07 PM

y'all still have one?

that's wild.

1/24/2008 11:44:21 PM

Gotta keep the blood circulating somehow

1/24/2008 11:44:58 PM