What is the appropriate thing to do with an old wedding band? Why keep it? It just seems shady to put it in your fire safe so that it is protected. I know a bunch of people who have been married previously and none of them have kept the wedding bands. They have melted them down, thrown them out, sold them etc. What do you all think?

2/6/2008 10:52:48 PM

maybe to remind himself never to make that mistake again

2/6/2008 10:53:40 PM

maybe he likes it

it's his ring... so who cares?

2/6/2008 10:54:34 PM

why do hunters put deer heads on their wall? its called a trophy. just a different beast.

2/6/2008 10:55:31 PM

Why don't you ask him? It's not our damn business. It's almost not yours but since you're curious and he's your boyfriend you can probably ask him what it means to him.

Not everybody just throws stuff like that away.

^^^ Has a good point.

[Edited on February 6, 2008 at 10:55 PM. Reason : ^ made me look like a jerkass haha]

2/6/2008 10:55:44 PM

Uh I care. I should rephrase the subject. He's not exactly 'new' boyfriend. More like serious boyfriend who has discussed marriage with me. It's a symbol of his ex and I dislike that.

2/6/2008 10:56:33 PM

ok, serious answer - is he saving it for a kid?

2/6/2008 10:58:14 PM

it's his past, so he can remember it how he wants

you should be more focused on the future

2/6/2008 10:58:34 PM

so what instrument does he play again?

2/6/2008 10:59:52 PM

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"maybe he likes it it's his ring... so who cares? "

yeah really

Everyone is entitled to how they feel, but this kinda rubs me the wrong way i guess.
That's a part of HIS life that has NOTHING to do with you. Don't make it into an issue when there is nothing to make an issue about.
Is he still seeing her?
Does he still have feelings for her?
If he is your serious boyfriend and y'all are talking about getting married, he obviously cares about YOU.
Don't start shit where there isn't any.

2/6/2008 11:01:49 PM

skin flute?

sorry....i just saw the opening for it....never mind me

2/6/2008 11:01:59 PM

who left whom ?

2/6/2008 11:02:45 PM

[Edited on February 6, 2008 at 11:05 PM. Reason : uhhh]

2/6/2008 11:05:28 PM

I mean, I wouldn't get all bent out of shape about it unless you're married to the guy

2/6/2008 11:05:54 PM

Way to be a bitch.

I picked out my wedding band with a lot of thought, and if something happened and my wife left me, I'd have a hard time. I'd get over it, but I also wouldn't just toss my ring. I'd stop wearing it, but I like it and would keep it.

As long as he has no more feelings for her, then why does it matter? Did you give back every piece of jewelry one of your ex's gave you? Probably not. So stop being a cunt and accept him for who he is and that is part of his past.

2/6/2008 11:06:40 PM

2/6/2008 11:06:57 PM

^^I agree.

way to further the opinion that we're all batshit crazy

[Edited on February 6, 2008 at 11:08 PM. Reason : .]

2/6/2008 11:08:08 PM

Scranton, PA<3

2/6/2008 11:08:15 PM

I see nothing wrong with him keeping it.

2/6/2008 11:08:54 PM

curb check his ass

2/6/2008 11:10:26 PM

way to be a bitch

2/6/2008 11:10:42 PM

you know, that's how problems start (and its typically the female), by someone getting upset over something that does not matter.

2/6/2008 11:11:57 PM

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"Way to be a bitch. I picked out my wedding band with a lot of thought, and if something happened and my wife left me, I'd have a hard time. I'd get over it, but I also wouldn't just toss my ring. I'd stop wearing it, but I like it and would keep it. As long as he has no more feelings for her, then why does it matter? Did you give back every piece of jewelry one of your ex's gave you? Probably not. So stop being a cunt and accept him for who he is and that is part of his past. "

+1

2/6/2008 11:19:26 PM

not to mention he's not even wearing it, he's just keeping it.
ugh! this kinda shit pisses me off so bad

2/6/2008 11:21:25 PM

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"you know, that's how problems start (and its typically the female), "

amen

2/6/2008 11:23:06 PM

if you're concerned that he still has feelings for her, then that is the real problem. not a ring.

2/6/2008 11:24:26 PM

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"Don't make it into an issue when there is nothing to make an issue about."

telling this to a woman is a lost cause

2/6/2008 11:26:28 PM

hahahah yeah but I try
i just KNOW there are reasonable girls out there (just look at the chick's replies to this thread)!

2/6/2008 11:29:14 PM

Is his ex dead? I'd keep my band. Does he have kids? Young kids see themselves in the wedding band - it's a part of daddy's hand. My 2 yr. old daughter spins mine around my finger all the time, wouldn't understand my removing it even in the case of divorce (try explaining that one). I'd keep it on just for that reason, and I don't care how great you think you are. She wins. There's a hell of a lot of family symbolism in the wedding band. Family is hard to undo.

Then again, it could also be a reminder of what not to do next time, like marry someone so possessive she can't think of what a wedding ring might mean to someone aside from her own petty self.

Are you overreacting? Probably.

2/6/2008 11:33:50 PM

Quote :

"I picked out my wedding band with a lot of thought, and if something happened and my wife left me, I'd have a hard time. I'd get over it, but I also wouldn't just toss my ring. I'd stop wearing it, but I like it and would keep it."

Agreed... just because the marriage is over isn't a reason to get rid of a nice ring...

I'd keep a nice rock

2/6/2008 11:34:12 PM

maybe he's not exactly divorced

2/6/2008 11:35:13 PM

Unless you have thrown away/given away/sold every single thing an ex has ever given you, then I'm afraid you are being a raging hypocrite right now.

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"It just seems shady to put it in your fire safe so that it is protected."

So it seems shady to put monetarily valuable objects in a fire safe...

Work with me here. It's an object. A relatively valuable object. I know wedding bands don't break the bank, but gold is gold and having some around isn't a terrible idea just as an investment. The price of it is pretty stable, to the point that if human civilization collapsed right now, a gold wedding band would still be worth a couple of goats or something.

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What this all boils down to is that you are insecure about the relationship. There are one of two possibilities here:

1) You have a good reason to be insecure, as he's done something real to make you wary. The relationship will probably fail.
2) You're just generally insecure about relationships regardless of what the guy does. The relationship will probably fail, as will any future ones until you get your act together.

2/6/2008 11:36:44 PM

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"More like serious boyfriend who has discussed marriage with me. It's a symbol of his ex and I dislike that."

Then buy him a new one.

And grow up.

2/6/2008 11:55:52 PM

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"Uh I care. I should rephrase the subject. He's not exactly 'new' boyfriend. More like serious boyfriend who has discussed marriage with me. It's a symbol of his ex and I dislike that. "

Well guess what, you knew he had been married. He's loved another woman enough to marry her. That means a whole lot. He will always have feelings and memories of her adn their relationship.

You can go and guess what that rings means, but you honestly don't know, unless you ask him. Even if it is because of the love he had, get the fuck over it. Grow the fuck up.

All that matters now, is that you love each other.

[Edited on February 7, 2008 at 12:09 AM. Reason : The fact he isn't wearing it says everything.]

2/7/2008 12:08:59 AM

awwww, she's offline now

2/7/2008 12:11:26 AM

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[Edited on February 7, 2008 at 12:26 AM. Reason : this is stupid]

2/7/2008 12:19:52 AM

At least a couple have, and they agree with the rest of us.

2/7/2008 12:24:23 AM

,

[Edited on February 7, 2008 at 12:26 AM. Reason : whatever, like you people matter]

2/7/2008 12:25:29 AM

Hahaha

It takes a big man to recognize when it's time to just pull out and nuke the thread from orbit

2/7/2008 12:28:27 AM

wtf dude

^lolz

[Edited on February 7, 2008 at 12:28 AM. Reason : .]

2/7/2008 12:28:38 AM

nastoute's just on his period

2/7/2008 12:29:51 AM

you know the fat thing was half compliment

you should focus on that and get those miles in

2/7/2008 12:32:52 AM

hey PackBaby, maybe you should quit being a bitch about it ok

2/7/2008 12:34:23 AM

nastoute apparently has very strong opinions about the subject that he doesn't want to share.

My ex-girlfriend gave me a computer chair and a wallet. I'm sitting on both at the moment. Now, admittedly, the chair and wallet don't have as much emotional significance as a ring, but then again the chair and wallet are in daily use, whereas the ring is locked up.

But what these things do all have in common is that they are objects, with a specific practical purpose. Chairs for sitting, wallets for holding beer money, and gold for retaining value.

[Edited on February 7, 2008 at 12:42 AM. Reason : ]

2/7/2008 12:41:38 AM

brain

size of squirrel

2/7/2008 12:43:45 AM

my guess is that it is seriously contextual

and that a lot of you have no clue on what you're talking about

i personally thing that PackBaby has every right to worry

it's very smart for her to do so...

2/7/2008 12:44:35 AM

she should also talk to him rather than asking idiots on tww

2/7/2008 12:46:27 AM

^ nobody would ever do something that sensible!

2/7/2008 12:52:38 AM

there's something to be said for looking out for yourself in terms of self preservation, but other than that, unless someone can actually make a logical statement in favor of behaving like a psycho bitch I will hold to my opinion.

2/7/2008 12:53:07 AM

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"New boyfriend is keeping his old wedding band"

TELL HIM TO RELEASE THEM AT ONCE OR YOU'LL CALL THE COPS!



[Edited on February 7, 2008 at 12:57 AM. Reason : ]

2/7/2008 12:56:50 AM