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cddweller
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1.) Her husband died last year and today's the anniversary for their wedding
2.) We do not get along at all and haven't spoken in months
3.) She's bwning a new guy now

Should I still wish her a happy anniversary? She'll probably act pissed as a knee-jerk reaction to any type of interaction I initiate between the two of us, but it might be worth it.

11/11/2008 7:20:17 AM

LivinProof78
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no

he's dead


no more anniversary

11/11/2008 7:21:53 AM

cddweller
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Ok, cool.

11/11/2008 7:22:55 AM

DPK
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Uhhh... no.

Unless you want to piss on his grave.

11/11/2008 7:23:17 AM

cddweller
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11/11/2008 7:25:28 AM

G.O.D
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the good ettiquete here is to not. since she has since moved on (physically) and your relationship with her is rocky, it is not worth any more possible damage.
perhaps it would be nice to leave a note or some flowers for him on his grave. I am sure that your sister might probably do this too, but right now she needs to sort these things out for herself.

11/11/2008 7:34:31 AM

joe17669
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no

he's dead


no more anniversary

11/11/2008 7:35:41 AM

chembob
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i guess if you want to piss her off you could remind her about her dead husband.

11/11/2008 7:36:37 AM

wdprice3
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wtf? are you demented?

11/11/2008 7:42:02 AM

cddweller
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Sure.

11/11/2008 7:42:50 AM

wdprice3
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oh ok.

11/11/2008 7:44:14 AM

sumfoo1
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HEY REMEMBER YOUR DEAD HUSBAND! THAT GUY WAS COOL RIGHT??

is essentially what you'd be saying if you wished her happy anniversary.

11/11/2008 7:44:48 AM

wdprice3
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^I was gonna post that

11/11/2008 7:46:06 AM

redwop
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Don't do it...Just wait until the holidays to contact here if you are looking for an ice breaker to try and talk to her.

11/11/2008 8:01:54 AM

vonjordan3
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wait wait, she was married and it has been less than a year and she is with some other dude already? Thats fucked up dude. how long did she wait?

11/11/2008 8:23:29 AM

wdprice3
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^well, as long as she wasn't getting it on with the new dude on the day of the funeral or before, I guess there's nothing really wrong with it....

11/11/2008 8:24:38 AM

vonjordan3
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^ thats what I was thinking

11/11/2008 8:25:59 AM

wdprice3
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lol.

I wouldn't call that decent or even nice, but technically, not wrong

11/11/2008 8:28:06 AM

slackerb
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Gee, I wonder why the two of you do not get along....



I would be Braveheart-when-he-finds-out-you-killed-his-wife-to-get-to-him pissed if you did this to me.

11/11/2008 8:29:55 AM

pttyndal
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guess she jumped on the "til death do us part" part of the vows.

11/11/2008 8:32:47 AM

qntmfred
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LP and sumfoo1 nailed it

11/11/2008 8:48:32 AM

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lol @ this thread

11/11/2008 8:49:26 AM

Grandmaster
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didn't you just make a thread asking TWW if you should celebrate the anniversary of his death?

11/11/2008 9:11:05 AM

jcs1283
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On the contrary to what many others have posted here, I would say that it can't hurt to send a card (versus a phone call or face-to-face due to the ongoing issues you stated) acknowledging the date. I would say this is especially significant if this is the first instance of her wedding anniversary with her now deceased spouse or if she has children from this marriage. You may also consider including in the card a short but caring note offering your condolences again and maybe a reminder of something joyful you remember from their wedding day. Who knows, this could be an opportunity to begin to close the gap between you and your sister. Yeah, she might become angry, but it appears you have little to lose.

11/11/2008 9:34:25 AM

SaabTurbo
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THIS THREAD HAS LOWERED THE PERCEIVED INTELLIGENCE OF cddweller.

11/11/2008 9:36:12 AM

CeilingCat
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I agree with what jcs1283 said. You could either call or send a nice "thinking about you" card just to say hello and that she is in your thoughts. I think it's a sweet gesture that you want to do something for her.

11/11/2008 11:49:36 AM

Arab13
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didn't she marry some geriatric as well?

Quote :
"no

he's dead


no more anniversary"


durr

11/11/2008 11:52:24 AM

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[Edited on November 11, 2008 at 11:52 AM. Reason : ]

11/11/2008 11:52:39 AM

Spontaneous
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^^ lol

11/11/2008 12:03:54 PM

joe_schmoe
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Quote :
"We do not get along at all and haven't spoken in months"


wishing her a happy Dead-Husband-Anniversary-Day would be a really good ice breaker.

the only thing that would be better is if you could find a way to include her new fuck in the festivities.

maybe you could incorporate it into a sunday brunch with the three of you. just be sure to wear all black.

11/11/2008 2:01:46 PM

pilgrimshoes
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so she married a really old dude too didnt she?

11/11/2008 2:02:29 PM

pawprint
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The only reasons for wishing her a happy anniversary would be to cause pain and continue to furthur the gap you have with your sister. I think that would be a pretty heartless thing to do.

11/11/2008 2:10:02 PM

roddy
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send a card

11/11/2008 2:29:46 PM

Str8Foolish
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The question is: are you really this stupid, or are you cruel?

11/11/2008 2:34:33 PM

themodernage
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MO
RON

11/11/2008 2:36:41 PM

roddy
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put in the card a wedding photo.....on the back of the photo, write "thinking of you" or "miss you."

[Edited on November 11, 2008 at 2:39 PM. Reason : w]

11/11/2008 2:38:34 PM

GGMon
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how old was her husband?

11/11/2008 2:47:43 PM

wwwebsurfer
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__X__ When death do us part
_____ Adultery
_____ Divorce

11/11/2008 4:35:36 PM

roddy
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^^87 and she is 28.

[Edited on November 11, 2008 at 5:23 PM. Reason : w]

11/11/2008 5:22:31 PM

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