Need some advice as to how to approach this. I rent 2 rooms in my house, one of the people has lived with me for 4 years and the other since October. The male roommate has had his g/f over EVERY night since early December. I know she has a place of her own to live (at least I thought). As far as I know she isnt eating my food or anything but she is there nightly and takes showers etc. The other roomie is getting pissed and she wants me to say something. She couldnt shower yesterday before work due to the g/f being in there. The male roomie pays rent (not on time mind you) and I know that will be his "defense" when he is appoached about this. Any advice?

1/14/2009 11:49:10 AM

whatever you do. don't confront him irl.

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"The other roomie is getting pissed and she wants me to say something. She couldnt shower yesterday before work due to the g/f being in there. "

all luls aside. is this a 1/br joint?


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1/14/2009 11:49:26 AM

bake cookies

1/14/2009 11:52:56 AM

Write a note and tape it to his door.

1/14/2009 11:54:10 AM

ask him to shower with his ho if she's gonna use the facilities -- other than that I'd tell bitchy roommate to get over it unless they're fuckin' in the living room or something

1/14/2009 11:55:58 AM

^^that's the type of shit you do when your roommate relationship has deteriorated past the point of no return.

[Edited on January 14, 2009 at 11:56 AM. Reason : .]

1/14/2009 11:56:07 AM

Both of you need to talk to him when the girl isn't around, since she's pissed and it's your house (from the way it sounds).

1/14/2009 11:56:20 AM

^^^^how much more cuntish can you get ?

tell the motherfucker if its an issue, but if he has his own bedroom, then the bathroom/living room/kitchen is the only real issue here

If they're domination common areas, maybe say something

Otherwise, if its in his room, and they're not making crazy sex sounds every night, its not really an issue, unless you want to evict him, which you have every right to do

[Edited on January 14, 2009 at 11:56 AM. Reason : x]

1/14/2009 11:56:27 AM

Man up and talk to him. as far as I am concerned if its like EVERY night that's a bit ridiculous coming from another person's view. the other roommate prob. paid to live with 2 other dudes not 2 dudes + gf. I can see this getting annoying. your roommate should have enough respect not to have her over every night and should go over to her place too. its common sense.

1/14/2009 11:56:36 AM

tell them to work out their shower schedules, and learn to live with a roomie's sig. other!!!!!

1/14/2009 11:56:54 AM

if he has 2 other room mates do you think its a one bedroom place

^ fuck that...tell him to up his share of the utilities since she is there all the time

[Edited on January 14, 2009 at 11:57 AM. Reason : sadf]

1/14/2009 11:56:56 AM

in this case br=bathroom

1/14/2009 11:58:56 AM

Id probably record video's of them having sex and post it on TWW

1/14/2009 11:59:07 AM

so the male roomie shares a shower with the female roomie?

1/14/2009 12:03:47 PM

yes the 2 roommates share the main bathroom

1/14/2009 12:05:21 PM

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"She couldnt shower yesterday before work due to the g/f being in there."

tell him this shit is unacceptible for a non-rent paying 'guest'

this is why you need a lease. with 'guest' limits (2-3 consecutive nights/days x number of times a month)

1/14/2009 12:09:31 PM

is the female roomy or male roomy's girlfriend hotter

rank them both 1-10

no real relevence here, I'm just curious

1/14/2009 12:12:33 PM

Solution... kill the male roommate and have a 3some with the female roommate and dead roommates girlfriend.

1/14/2009 12:13:52 PM

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"I rent 2 rooms in my house, one of the people has lived with me for 4 years and the other since October."

The important part is that it's your house. If you want the guy to pay you extra for the girl basically living there, tell him. If he doesn't agree, he can move out and you can find a new renter that won't have a live-in gf.

1/14/2009 12:15:10 PM

simple the gf got to respect the house or peace out because she isnt contributing anything

she is a detriment to paying tenants and is being a squatter

you generally dont let people squat around no matter where they are in the house common areas or otherwise


review the lease, count the names on the lease, and count the number of people tryna live up in your place. if there are more peeps than names on the lease match names with the people standing there, whoever is the odd man out tell em bounce or at the very lease carefully review their tendencies

[Edited on January 14, 2009 at 12:17 PM. Reason : k]

1/14/2009 12:15:11 PM

i share a shower with my female roomie

hell, sometimes i'm takin' a shower while she's brushing her teeth and whatnot

such is the benefit of knowing someone for a long time

1/14/2009 12:15:29 PM

anybody NOT paying rent in YOUR house needs to GTFO

1/14/2009 12:30:30 PM

I sorta moved in with my boyfriend when he had roomates. I wasn't technically living there, but I pretty much stayed every night and sometimes showered there. However, it was discussed with all of the other roomates beforehand and he had his own private bathroom. One of his other roomates also had his girlfriend living with him. But of course, his roomates were chill and we were all friends. This situation does not sound like everyone is friends and all. I would say that he should have gotten clearance with you and the other roomie before the g/f was coming over every night and showering. That's something I would definitely bring up when you confronted him.

1/14/2009 12:58:00 PM

1/14/2009 1:03:13 PM

i think its pretty selfish of your roommate to have her stay over every night and use the bathroom to the point it bothers the other people in the house.

i used to rent rooms and would make it clear to the renters that chicks staying over every once in a while was cool, but that i didnt want a 3rd roommate.

1/14/2009 1:05:54 PM

Take a giant crap in the shower every day, then when you see the girlfriend ask her how she likes them apples?

1/14/2009 1:23:32 PM

^ LMAO

1/14/2009 1:25:27 PM

The fact that she is staying there every night isn't really the problem. He pays his portion of the rent so he can have anyone stay that he wants to. The problem is her using the shower every day.

His chick taking a shower every now and then would not be a big deal, but if she is taking showers there every day then he needs to pay a higher portion of the utilities. I have had this same situation before

[Edited on January 14, 2009 at 1:28 PM. Reason : a]

1/14/2009 1:27:17 PM

Don't confront him about it. Instead complain on an internet message board, then be passive aggressive towards him.

1/14/2009 1:28:40 PM

start walking around wearing only a sock.
















on your foot.

1/14/2009 1:29:36 PM

1/14/2009 1:32:59 PM

if she is living with him or staying there 5+ nights or more, i think you should just divide the utilities by 4 instead of by 3 and tell the 2 roommates to work it out. you don't want a hostile environment.

i would also say that a paying roommate should ALWAYS have precedence over a significant other who does not contribute towards rent/utilities.

1/14/2009 1:33:58 PM

if he owns the house he makes the rules

end of story

1/14/2009 1:46:39 PM

I had a roommate who basically had to let girlfriend live with him for like 4 months because she lost her job. We sat down and talked about it, and decided we wouldn't change the rent since they would be sharing his room, but we divided the utilities up 4 ways instead of 3 for the duration she was there. That is pretty much the most fair way to go about it.

If your roommate doesn't agree with that, then he needs to tell his GF to stop taking showers at your place.

1/14/2009 1:52:01 PM

The good thing is that the female roommate is the one bitching about it so you can basically act as a third party with a vested interest in resolving the matter. While I think the female roommate is the one who should bring it up with him, it's definitely easier for you to talk to him. You can just say that the female roommate is getting annoyed by some things and you think some changes need to be made. That keeps you from looking like the bad guy, but still gets the issue resolved.

And if she's going to be sucking up your heated air and using your water she should be contributing somehow. Even if she just cooks an awesome dinner for everyone once a week on her dime; she needs to do something. That's just not cool for you and the female roommate to have to deal with a frequent guest who isn't contributing.

1/14/2009 2:30:05 PM

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"Take a giant crap in the shower every day, then when you see the girlfriend ask her how she likes them apples?"

bwahaha

1/14/2009 3:09:04 PM

if u even want to compromise with them id say not only divide the utilities by 4 instead of 3 but the rent as well. She is living somewhere for free. But she should really shower at her own place you are letting her sleep there for free. Also, while this is hyprocritcal of me, you should NOT at all feel uncomfortable or out of place in YOUR home so do what you need to do to fix that, perhaps putting that wording in there would help them feel bad about letting her stay so much.

1/14/2009 4:51:01 PM

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"The fact that she is staying there every night isn't really the problem. He pays his portion of the rent so he can have anyone stay that he wants to. The problem is her using the shower every day."

Could be a problem if it was put in the lease that the tenant needs permission for overnight guests. It a clause that I've seen in a lot of leases and has held up in court.

But other than that...u should up that fuckers portion of the utilities (if his girl is still using a lot of water, watches the cable, uses the electricity, etc.).

1/14/2009 4:58:14 PM

So, did you post the note on his door yet or not?

1/14/2009 4:59:56 PM

seriously though, just talk to him. i would imagine and normal person could see how it might be annoying. then next time add a guest clause into your lease to cover your ass.

1/14/2009 5:01:42 PM

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"The fact that she is staying there every night isn't really the problem. He pays his portion of the rent so he can have anyone stay that he wants to. The problem is her using the shower every day. His chick taking a shower every now and then would not be a big deal, but if she is taking showers there every day then he needs to pay a higher portion of the utilities. I have had this same situation before"

I disagree, especially if the landlord lives their as well. A 3 br house can get pretty crowded, very quickly with 4 adults living there. Your later point about splitting the utilities is fair, but it doesnt account for the inconvenience of there being another person there all the time.

1/15/2009 10:28:36 AM

FOURSOME

will solve all problems

1/15/2009 10:30:27 AM

Quote :

"Take a giant crap in the shower every day, then when you see the girlfriend ask her how she likes them apples?"

1/15/2009 11:41:28 AM

Quote :

"Take a giant crap on them apples every day, then when you see the girlfriend ask her how she likes the shower."

1/15/2009 11:44:21 AM

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"I disagree, especially if the landlord lives their as well. A 3 br house can get pretty crowded, very quickly with 4 adults living there. Your later point about splitting the utilities is fair, but it doesnt account for the inconvenience of there being another person there all the time."

If the landlord didn't state up front that he couldn't have overnight guests, then he has no leg to stand on. However, I assume that the lease states that subletting is not allowed. If the chick is spending more than 4 nights a week there, then it could be viewed as a sublet. Especially considering she is using the utilities and common areas.

[Edited on January 15, 2009 at 11:47 AM. Reason : a]

1/15/2009 11:44:46 AM

Wow, what a whiny bitch.

1/15/2009 11:52:08 AM

did the dude sign an actual lease?


if not....throw his shit in the yard

1/15/2009 11:53:43 AM

^. I am about to have to do that with my roommate. He is not on a lease and I have basically just let him stay until I found another roommate. Well, my lease is up in February. I told him on Monday that he needs to be out by 1/31 and he said "damn, that's going to be tight, I will see what I can do". To which I replied "No, you don't get it, you will be out by January 31st". I need at least a week to clean up his nasty ass bathroom.

1/15/2009 11:55:38 AM

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"If the landlord didn't state up front that he couldn't have overnight guests, then he has no leg to stand on. However, I assume that the lease states that subletting is not allowed. If the chick is spending more than 4 nights a week there, then it could be viewed as a sublet. Especially considering she is using the utilities and common areas."

if you live in the same house with a renter you can do pretty much what you want short of unsafe living conditions (kick them out for no reason etc etc.)

1/15/2009 11:56:49 AM

i completely understand

1/15/2009 11:57:03 AM