Because I come to TWW for all my relationship advice

Anyways, I actually want an idea of what goes through men's heads. Here's the scenario (words):

So you're a guy who hasn't been with anyone in a long time and you meet this really hot girl who has a boyfriend that she bitches about alot. You give a sympathetic ear and over the course of a couple months you become friends and you develop a hardcore crush on her. Then you confess your feelings to her, and she reciprocates, and a month later is broken up with her boyfriend, moving out of his place, and living with you while she finds a place. You and she date for about a month and then new year's rolls around. While she's been moving out of her ex's, he's been trying to convince her to come back to him every time he sees her. On New Years, he succeeds, and you spend a miserable night getting drunk, hoping she will call you, but knowing she's with her ex. Afterwards she calls you, and spends January miserable but talking to you online and on the phone on occasion. You have problems eating and sleeping. February rolls around, you resolve to stop moping. Feb 13 you meet a girl who's not as hot, but nice and interesting. You go on a date, then get a cold for a week, and during that week the other girl talks to you again, trying to pull you in. Once you're better you go on a date with the new girl again and things go really well, and you spend alot of time with her up to present day and beyond.

The questions:

You haven't fallen as hard for the new girl, so why are you dating her?

What's the likelihood that you're just rebounding?

What's the chances that if the other girl decides to ditch her bf again and comes crying to you that you'll be there for her?

If the chances are good that you are there for her, what are the chances you'd go back to her?





Yes, I could ask him these questions, but I also don't want to sound like the hyper-paranoid insecure girl I am deep inside. And I kind of want to let sleeping dogs lie.

3/22/2009 10:27:31 AM

stay with the new girl, old girl wants you back just because you have a new girl and is jealous

old girl has baggage, new girl doesnt

pretty cut and dry to me

3/22/2009 10:30:19 AM

Fucking bail

3/22/2009 10:30:31 AM

good morning!

so you are the not so hot girl who gives him a cold on the first date?
no he will go back to the first girl even if he is with for a long time....run while you can!

3/22/2009 10:31:36 AM

for first question:
old girl dissed you already, in a major way, so why risk going back to get hurt again

3/22/2009 10:32:26 AM

Doesn't matter who you are in this story, you need to eject from the entire situation as quickly as possible

3/22/2009 10:32:33 AM

^.
why would you want to be involved in ANY capacity in this kind of retardation and dipshittery?

3/22/2009 10:37:26 AM

Also if you've only dated a week how the fuck do you know this story

FUCKING

BAIL

3/22/2009 10:38:38 AM

The old girl sounds like a bitch.

3/22/2009 10:39:57 AM

who the fuck moves in with someone they are "interested in dating" while they're moving out of their ex's?

run, now, as far away as you can

and get with a dude who has no baggage and is emotionally available for a relationship

3/22/2009 10:42:36 AM

If you're new girl, then why are you so worried about being a rebound for a guy that only was with the previous girl for about a month? If it gives you those vibes, then the guy you're seeing has much bigger issues that you're going to have to deal with.

If you're the old girl, then play on player.

3/22/2009 10:43:14 AM

old girl you dated only for about a month but fell really hard for, and were really upset when she went back to her ex. She only lived w/ you for about a week while she was moving into the new apt.

New girl from Feb 25 to now, so its been a bit over 3 weeks.

[Edited on March 22, 2009 at 10:44 AM. Reason : g]

3/22/2009 10:43:22 AM

forget both of them.

3/22/2009 10:44:39 AM

If you're dating this guy, get out. He obviously has fucked up baggage. You do not want to be dealing with that baggage for the rest of the relationship.

3/22/2009 10:44:42 AM

you need a self help course or some shit because there isn't a person in this story without crippling self-esteem issues

3/22/2009 10:44:46 AM

you should go hit on old girl's current boyfriend for drama's sake.

3/22/2009 10:46:27 AM

^ Haha best advice in the thread

3/22/2009 10:47:02 AM

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"and get with a dude who has no baggage and is emotionally available for a relationship"

hahahahaaa


Yeah, I'd like to see one of those. I'd also like to see a person with no self esteem issues.

I'm usually pretty confident in myself, but the ex was smoking hot, and he's really hot himself. I'm not used to dating up the hotness scale.

3/22/2009 10:47:36 AM

And with that sort of attitude it won't last

3/22/2009 10:48:30 AM

how hot is the old girls's boyfriend? If he's not that hot, this problem just solved itself.

3/22/2009 10:49:27 AM

I know his name but can't find a pic of him. He's on myspace and facebook but the pic is of him in a car, and you can't see him.

Why would him not being hot solve the problem?

3/22/2009 10:50:48 AM

OP how old are you

3/22/2009 10:51:50 AM

older than you.

3/22/2009 10:53:10 AM

then you need to spend some time single and grow the fuck up already

3/22/2009 10:58:14 AM

I know my faults, this isn't the first time I've been paranoid in the beginning of a relationship. That's why I'm trying to take it out here instead of bugging my guy about it and coming off as insecure. I only act this way in the beginning of a relationship when there are factors and feelings that I don't know about and can't control.

3/22/2009 11:02:37 AM

hahahah yeah really
Please just get out of this whole thing. Just walk away from it.

3/22/2009 11:02:57 AM

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"Age : 86"

gtfo life tdub

3/22/2009 11:05:11 AM

Why would you want a guy shady enough to weasel somebody else's girlfriend

3/22/2009 11:06:55 AM

new girl the 1st girl seems like she's got major problems and would be most likely to leave the guy again or cheat on him.

if you are the old girl its best to leave the guy alone and stop messing with him. thats just messed up and cold.

3/22/2009 11:11:33 AM

Cause he's hot, and nice, and in shape but geeky and has cats and is into bondage.

And the bf introduced them, convincing him to talk to her b/c she seemed upset about things.

Why would a guy ask a hot guy to talk to talk to his gf for him?

^ and I am the poor, beleaguered, not-as-hot 2nd girl.

[Edited on March 22, 2009 at 11:15 AM. Reason : d]

3/22/2009 11:13:20 AM

Because he's stupid enough to date an immature bitch and then trust her around an immature prick

3/22/2009 11:15:13 AM

You haven't answered any of the questions I posed you know... You just keep tellin me to gtfo.

3/22/2009 11:16:49 AM

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"Cause he's hot, and nice, and in shape but geeky and has cats and is into bondage. "

There are plenty of guys like that. Except maybe the bondage part. You mean like he likes to tie people up or he likes to be tied up?

3/22/2009 11:20:17 AM

look if you were actually here to take advice then you'd take it

you need to cool your jets and sit at home alone for a while and work out whatever daddy issues you have

because as it looks from here, you're coming to the wolf web for relationship advice and you're older than 25.

fuck.

and beyond that, you're in the situation described in the OP and you're older than 25.

You need some therapy

3/22/2009 11:23:19 AM

^^both.

Did I ask for any advice?? No, I asked for opinions. I gave a situation and I want to know the likelihood of the outcomes I described.

[Edited on March 22, 2009 at 11:25 AM. Reason : sd]

3/22/2009 11:24:01 AM

these threads are always entertaining.

also.

Quote :

"you should go hit on old girl's current boyfriend for drama's sake"

[Edited on March 22, 2009 at 11:32 AM. Reason : .]

3/22/2009 11:24:13 AM

Quote :

""and get with a dude who has no baggage and is emotionally available for a relationship" "

Quote :

" hahahahaaa Yeah, I'd like to see one of those."

uhhh, these aren't hard to come by Maybe you're dating the wrong type of guys.

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"That's why I'm trying to take it out here instead of bugging my guy about it and coming off as insecure."

You are being insecure. You should do both of you guys a favor and walk away before you invest anymore time in this relationship. Why you would want to date someone with this kind of recent history is a mystery.

3/22/2009 11:24:49 AM

why in the hell is "being into bondage" a positive? what a sick freak. you guys are disgusting

3/22/2009 11:25:42 AM

The guy of your dreams comes along and you'd just walk away because you knew he was getting over a bad breakup?

^ hehe, you're just jealous I know how to have fun in the bedroom

[Edited on March 22, 2009 at 11:27 AM. Reason : df]

3/22/2009 11:26:37 AM

^ I think you probably need to sit down and sort out your personal shit if you're hanging a "guy of my dreams" tag on this lad after only knowing him for a month.

3/22/2009 11:27:40 AM

If it's actually as you describe it, then yes, yes I would. I've already been in a relationship similar to this and it was crap for over a year. I'd be retarded to do it again.

3/22/2009 11:28:22 AM

You haven't fallen as hard for the new girl, so why are you dating her? cause the first chick is nuts. can't make up her mind.

What's the likelihood that you're just rebounding? 0%

What's the chances that if the other girl decides to ditch her bf again and comes crying to you that you'll be there for her? 0%. done with her. she's a crazy bitch.

If the chances are good that you are there for her, what are the chances you'd go back to her? see above

[Edited on March 22, 2009 at 11:28 AM. Reason : that's just me]

3/22/2009 11:28:28 AM

riiiight... because shit like this is so erotic...



[Edited on March 22, 2009 at 11:29 AM. Reason : s]

3/22/2009 11:28:41 AM

3-some with the old girl and new guy.

3/22/2009 11:28:54 AM

think op has to be the old girl, cause she knows way too much to be the new girl

3/22/2009 11:33:30 AM

"guy of your dreams" is used as a basis of physical qualities. Sure, after another month or two, I may discover personality flaws that aren't worth putting up with.

Anyways, if yall aren't going to answer the questions instead of bitching at me, I'm out of here. Yall have a nice Sunday.

^^is that a skirt or a face mask or for arms?

[Edited on March 22, 2009 at 11:35 AM. Reason : df]

3/22/2009 11:34:00 AM

Quote :

"You haven't fallen as hard for the new girl, so why are you dating her?"

Because I've got nothing else going for me at the moment.

Quote :

"What's the likelihood that you're just rebounding?"

85%

Quote :

"What's the chances that if the other girl decides to ditch her bf again and comes crying to you that you'll be there for her?"

Pretty good.

Quote :

"If the chances are good that you are there for her, what are the chances you'd go back to her?"

High.

3/22/2009 11:38:27 AM

exactly. the fact that you even have to ask says more than I ever could say about bondage.

3/22/2009 11:38:55 AM

Quote :

"you need a self help course or some shit because there isn't a person in this story without crippling self-esteem issues"

3/22/2009 11:43:37 AM

set em up

3/22/2009 11:45:03 AM