i'm curious as to what everyone's opinions are about having booze at a baby shower.

it seems to me that having alcohol at a baby shower is just rude to the mom-to-be. it's a shower for a woman who is pregnant and unable to enjoy alcohol, so why serve it? if it were me, i'd be pissed as hell that everyone was drinking wine and liquor while i opened my gifts and sipped on water with lemon.

thoughts?

5/7/2009 10:20:20 AM

Somehow I read this thread title as "throwing a baby in a shower of alcohol?" and was all like "that seems like a bad idea"

5/7/2009 10:21:27 AM

5/7/2009 10:21:54 AM

Its like being a DD

If you're not a complete douche, you can still have a good time with no alcohol

and its not like these women will be getting hammered drunk anyway, proabably just a few glasses of wine

I say not big deal

5/7/2009 10:25:38 AM

went to a baby shower in december and there was beer
went to a diaper party and there was a keg!!!

going to a baby shower this weekend, a brunch, and i bet a million there will be mimosas
and another baby shower at the end of the month...also betting there will be alcohol of some kind.

although most of these baby showers have been less frou frou and catered to a younger crowd. they've all also been co-ed so the alcohol tends to appeal to the men. the brunch baby shower this weekend will probably be frou frou, but i still think there will be mimosas knowing the people hosting it.

5/7/2009 10:26:24 AM

wow
i'm obviously stuck in the more conservative part of the 60s with my views

5/7/2009 10:27:10 AM

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"it's a shower for a woman who is pregnant and unable to enjoy alcohol, so why serve it?"

The shower is really for the guests, and guest like to drink. Should lactose intolerant kids not have ice cream at their birthday parties?

All the baby showers I've been to were co-ed and had booze.

5/7/2009 10:27:45 AM

first, i've never seen a co-ed baby shower.

second, since when is a baby shower for the guests? you bring presents for the mommy and shower her with attention. it's for her.

5/7/2009 10:28:32 AM

i think that it would be a little disrespectful...

like smoking in front of someone who is trying to quit

5/7/2009 10:29:07 AM

It's not like the showers are on Friday nights and everyone is getting hammered.

5/7/2009 10:30:29 AM

i don't mind admitting that my views are off the mark and old-fashioned. i just wanted other people's opinions.

5/7/2009 10:30:44 AM

then your friends need to get with it!! co-ed showers are fun they're more laid back.

the diaper party was by far my favorite...we grilled hamburgers and hot dogs, played cornhole, and of course there was the keg i mentioned. there were other couples there with their little ones, and it was a lot of fun.

and after actually having a shower, i really am not a huge fan of sitting there opening gifts while people "ooh and ahh"...it's very awkward. i'm not 10 anymore. the co-ed showers have been much more lax on the gift opening and exhibition of the gifts (except for ours...we still sat in a circle while everyone stared, but it was funnier/felt more lax i s'pose b/c it was co-ed). floating showers are good for that too. you just open as they come in and then put on display instead of sitting in a circle and everyone stares at you.

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 10:34 AM. Reason : ]

5/7/2009 10:32:23 AM

Who drinks liquor at a baby shower anyways???

5/7/2009 10:32:37 AM

the mommy-to-be if she's a real woman

5/7/2009 10:33:28 AM

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"frou frou"

lol... so that's how you spell that...

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"since when is a baby shower for the guests? you bring presents for the mommy and shower her with attention. it's for her."

Aren't birthday parties, wedding receptions, etc. for the guests? If not, why have games, food, dessert, parting gifts, etc.? I mean, there's the guest(s) of honor, but why have the party if it's not for all the guests?

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"i think that it would be a little disrespectful... like smoking in front of someone who is trying to quit"

I disagree emphatically. There is nothing disrespectful about drinking in front of a pregnant woman; nor is it disrespectful to smoke in front of someone who is trying to quit. I do not understand people who think those would be disrespectful -- what do they think respect is, anyway?

5/7/2009 10:36:37 AM

If a woman is being showered with $$$$ worth of presents and she is pissed because she can't have one drink while being lavished upon....

Yeah, she might want to talk to someone about that.

5/7/2009 10:37:35 AM

If you rub it in you could be a dick about it..."MMM, this beer is sooooo good"

Just like eating a burger in front of a dieting fatass

but unless the woman is a raging alcoholic

she's not gonna spite you for your Bud Light Lime

5/7/2009 10:38:29 AM

I TOTALLY agree with you. Personally, I love beer, and if I had a baby shower and everyone was drinking beer around me... I'd be pissed. That's like dangling forbidden fruit in front of you. Of course, I wouldn't touch it because that's bad for the baby, but still. What the fuck. I remember when my best friend's step-sister brought booze to her baby shower (after saying don't bring any). You think the wrath of a normal woman is bad?? Try feeling the wrath of a pregnant woman... It was NOT good.

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"and its not like these women will be getting hammered drunk anyway, proabably just a few glasses of wine"

I don't know about you, but I wouldn't trust some of my friends or relatives around alcohol at an occasion like that. Some people just cannot control themselves, no matter where they're at!!

I've never seen a co-ed baby shower either...

5/7/2009 10:38:42 AM

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"Somehow I read this thread title as "throwing a baby in a shower of alcohol?" and was all like "that seems like a bad idea""

5/7/2009 10:38:55 AM

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"I TOTALLY agree with you. Personally, I love beer, and if I had a baby shower and everyone was drinking beer around me... I'd be pissed."

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"Yeah, she might want to talk to someone about that."

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"I've never seen a co-ed baby shower"

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"i don't mind admitting that my views are off the mark and old-fashioned."

5/7/2009 10:41:58 AM

wow, i'ma start calling you Quoteasaurus Rex.

5/7/2009 10:43:11 AM

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"wow i'm obviously stuck in the more conservative part of the 60s with my views "

now that you realize this ... get back in the kitchen and make your husband a sandwich

5/7/2009 10:44:02 AM

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"lol... so that's how you spell that..."

i didn't check the dictionary so it may be wrong

5/7/2009 10:44:57 AM

^^^^ You can like and enjoy beer without being an alcoholic...

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 10:45 AM. Reason : .]

5/7/2009 10:44:59 AM

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"I've never seen a co-ed baby shower"

It's entirely possible that you saw a co-ed baby shower that no men wanted to (or were made to) attend.

5/7/2009 10:45:21 AM

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"they've all also been co-ed so the alcohol tends to appeal to the men."

Yeah, I think a baby shower without alcohol would pretty much be a guaranteed "chicks only" affair. Except there would probably be that one poor sap who gets dragged there and is miserable the whole time.

5/7/2009 10:45:45 AM

^ Maybe that's why I think it's weird to serve alcohol -- I've never heard of a co-ed shower and have only been to females-only which just had punch.

I guess if I were a guy and dragged to one I would want a beer... but do the men hang out with the women and play all the games and shit like that??

5/7/2009 10:46:58 AM

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"You can like and enjoy beer without being an alcoholic"

no shit

but unless you're incredibly immature or you're 8 years old

you're not going to throw a hissy fit if someone else is drinking and you can't

5/7/2009 10:47:03 AM

^ You can be upset about something without throwing a hissy fit and acting like a 12 year old

5/7/2009 10:47:40 AM

^^^^ there might be hot chix there!

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 10:48 AM. Reason : ]

5/7/2009 10:47:45 AM

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"but do the men hang out with the women and play all the games and shit like that??"

that's the main difference (that i've seen) btw co-ed and all female showers. there's been none of those (IMO) stupid baby food taste test, chocolate in the diaper, shower games. it's just about getting together with friends, good food and company, celebrating a big event in the parents-to-be's lives.

5/7/2009 10:49:54 AM

so for the 9 months of your pregnancy you'll avoid any and all social gatherings where alcohol might be present, because it will make you upset that you can't partake ?

get the fuck out of here

5/7/2009 10:50:43 AM

^not at all, that's going from one extreme to the other. what a fucking choad.

5/7/2009 10:52:24 AM

^
I think he's asking Samwise16...

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"You can be upset about something..."

The point is: Why would you get upset?
Like sd2nc said:

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"If a woman is being showered with $$$$ worth of presents and she is pissed because she can't have one drink while being lavished upon.... Yeah, she might want to talk to someone about that"

Being upset that others are drinking around you when you can't drink, is unreasonable and immature.

5/7/2009 10:55:53 AM

contraire

You said you'd be upset that others would be drinking while you weren't

Which would lead one to believe any situation where these circumstances alligned would create similar feelings of dread and dispair

don't act like I'm turning the tables here

5/7/2009 10:57:01 AM

^i said at a baby shower thrown for me, i would feel that way. specific instance here, not a general statement.

^^aaahh, i see. i'm all for people drinking alcohol, even if i can't. but at a baby shower, i just don't think it's something you need to have. it's just a few hours of your time on a saturday/sunday afternoon, and alcohol just doesn't seem appropriate.

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 10:57 AM. Reason : /]

5/7/2009 10:57:09 AM

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"it's just a few hours of your time on a saturday/sunday afternoon"

says who?

5/7/2009 10:57:47 AM

^says my idea of a baby shower?

my bridal shower was a few hours on a saturday afternoon. there was no booze. it was half girlfriends and half family members (all women) and the idea of booze never even entered our minds.

every baby shower i've ever gone to was the same way. a small gathering of women who give gifts to the special bride/mom-to-be and it only lasts a few hours. no real need for alcohol.

this is just my opinion of course. obviously everyone is different.

5/7/2009 10:59:42 AM

ATTN: MALES

If you are asked to go to a coed baby shower, don't fucking do it. It is an all time world renowned TARP.

5/7/2009 11:08:06 AM

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"so for the 9 months of your pregnancy you'll avoid any and all social gatherings where alcohol might be present, because it will make you upset that you can't partake ? get the fuck out of here"

No, not at all. But if it's my day and I request alcohol to not be there then you're damn right I would be upset if someone did it. Because honestly, I just don't think it's something you need to have alcohol at.

Now if it's a co-ed get together, I wouldn't mind having one of those and if people bring beer, then fine. But when my mom is throwing a special shower for me, I don't want alcohol there.

Geez, maybe I should have rephrased at the beginning to state I won't have alcohol at my shower therefore I would be pissed if someone brought it!

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"Being upset that others are drinking around you when you can't drink, is unreasonable and immature."

This just shows you're jumping to conclusions and assuming I would be pissed during the whole 8 months I knew I was pregnant at any time alcohol was present... not true.

5/7/2009 11:16:18 AM

You don't need alcohol to have a good time...

But who am I kidding... This is tdub and none of you will believe me.

I believe the idea of alcohol at the baby shower should be run by the mother-to-be. And if allowed, it should be limited to a bottle or two of wine so those who wish to have some can enjoy a glass. I personally wouldn't want it, but I'm never having a baby so I'm not worried about it

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"ATTN: MALES If you are asked to go to a coed baby shower, don't fucking do it. It is an all time world renowned TARP."

I went to one and enjoyed it...

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 11:22 AM. Reason : .]

5/7/2009 11:18:22 AM

my sister had a baby shower that was a kegger.

it was awesome - she's not a drinker anyways, so i guess she really didn't care

5/7/2009 11:19:27 AM

Maybe I care about it because I know a few relatives/friends who would get drunk and put all the attention on them, in a very obnoxious way.

5/7/2009 11:21:49 AM

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"I believe the idea of alcohol at the baby shower should be run by the mother-to-be. And if allowed, it should be limited to a bottle or two of wine so those who wish to have some can enjoy a glass."

This is pretty much how I feel. I haven't thought about if my shower would be co-ed or not, but if it is co-ed, I would like the guys to have something to drink. I would just do some beers and wine, or some champagne cocktails if it was a brunch type thing.
I personally don't mind being around people drinking while pregnant. But, at my baby shower I would like people to drink just to have a drink in hand, not drink to have a good time or get hammered (which I know none of my friends would do anyways!)

5/7/2009 11:27:10 AM

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"I would like people to drink just to have a drink in hand, not drink to have a good time or get hammered "

Bingo. If there's a chance someone can't handle their alcohol, don't serve it, don't invite them, or politely speak to them about the matter.

But you know what they say about playing with fire...

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 11:29 AM. Reason : .]

5/7/2009 11:29:19 AM

WHY THE FUCK IS EVERYONE HAVING BABIES IN THIS RECESSION?

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 11:31 AM. Reason : ]

5/7/2009 11:30:50 AM

3^i'm sooooooooooo getting hammered at yours

^mother nature doesn't understand economics

[Edited on May 7, 2009 at 11:32 AM. Reason : ]

5/7/2009 11:31:04 AM

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"But, at my baby shower I would like people to drink just to have a drink in hand, not drink to have a good time or get hammered (which I know none of my friends would do anyways!)"

I think I would only be able to trust my older Catholic relatives with this, and even then I know some of them would end up getting tipsy. Fact is, even if I spoke to some of my relatives I know they would still get hammered, even if it was behind my back

Maybe I should just have a no-alcohol one then a co-ed bbq. Either way, I don't really have to worry about this for a while

5/7/2009 11:36:50 AM

well if you were super lame you could always have O'douls

but you'd have to be super lame

5/7/2009 11:39:21 AM

set em up

5/7/2009 11:41:27 AM