why is it that the harder you try to NOT think about something, the more you think about it?

more importantly, why the fuck am i still thinking about what could have transpired if only i would have realized how awesome he is?

and why, out of all my relationships, am i hung up on this particular one?

tonight just made it even worse. i just straight up asked him if he wanted to get back together and he said yes... but he's moving 200 miles away in a little under 3 months... so i know what would happen...

this guy is awesome. he's sweet, extremely loving, cute as hell, very talented... ugh.

i think i miss him more than he realizes

gaaaaaay.

i'm not even sure why i made this thread. i think i just wanted to bitch to no one in particular.

5/18/2009 11:56:39 PM

first

5/18/2009 11:57:13 PM

why can't you move with him

5/18/2009 11:57:33 PM

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"gaaaaaay."

5/18/2009 11:57:52 PM

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"gaaaaaay."

[Edited on May 18, 2009 at 11:58 PM. Reason : damnit]

5/18/2009 11:57:53 PM

Haha my friend used to play this awesome game called "don't think about elephants"

5/18/2009 11:58:08 PM

here, have this picture of a squid beak

5/18/2009 11:59:02 PM

who would have ever seen this kind of crap coming

5/18/2009 11:59:10 PM

yes, i imagine that shit on your dick sucks.

5/18/2009 11:59:32 PM

wait a second...aren't you a dude? but that would mean...oh my god




seriously though, that does suck.

5/19/2009 12:00:21 AM

well i for one am still genuinely interested.

5/19/2009 12:00:26 AM

because i can't just pack up and leave everything here... i'm still in school, i've got a fairly decent job...

but believe me, the thought has definitely crossed my mind. more than once.

i've been trying to forget about this dude for the better part of a year now... but he makes it so hard because he makes it so obvious that he still loves me... and we're really good friends...

tonight, for instance... what triggered all this... we went to jordan lake at like 9 and just laid in the grass and looked up at the stars (cliche, i know, but i love doing it) and he like cuddled up next to me and we talked about all this shit for... well, considering i just got home, i guess the better part of 2 hours.

i love spending time with him. i love everything about him.

this would be so much fucking easier if he just hated me... or at least didn't like me anymore...

i try to just not have any contact with him but... ugh...

fuck this

5/19/2009 12:00:27 AM

fuk this

evan just lih

5/19/2009 12:01:31 AM

who cares! schools are everywhere you can get a job everywhere (ok maybe not but just think positive)

you CAN pack everything up and leave

but i get that you don't want to. but you CAN. if you really do want to. and if you don't want to then you don't want to! maybe you should stop hanging out with him

5/19/2009 12:01:47 AM

well, I dont want to give you bad advice if this is just puppy love. But moving is no big deal, ive moved all over, it doesnt take as long to get your life going again as you think.

5/19/2009 12:02:32 AM

nah, puppy love was back in high school.

i went out with this dude for almost 2 years before i was retarded and told him i needed a break... and everyone knows what that means...

but i was fucking wrong.

part of me wants to move... but the other part of me wants to let him move on... i guess this sounds a bit retarded, but i don't see why anyone would ever want someone as unattractive as i am, and i was sort of a dick before i guess...

5/19/2009 12:04:02 AM

a man ought not to feel that way about another man.





























but yea...i've been through it and it sucks. it was with a female though.

5/19/2009 12:04:24 AM

cut him off. turn off your phone, don't get on the computer, go on vacation. and if you still can't get over it after a few days.. then move.

5/19/2009 12:05:31 AM

^i tried not answering when he called/texted or IMed me... but apparently he called some of my friends after a day or two to make sure i wasn't dead or anything... and stopped by my house to make sure i was all right.

see what i mean?

5/19/2009 12:08:09 AM

sounds like he doesn't want you outta his life...not fair to you

5/19/2009 12:09:03 AM

exactly.

and he totally wants to get back together... but i know that this wouldn't work being 200 miles apart, i've tried that before and it's horrible... and i really don't want to get back together with him just to go through this whole shit again in 3 months...

why can't people just be mean

5/19/2009 12:10:21 AM

maybe he's trying to convince you to move with him

or just playing you

or genuinely cares.


too bad its so hard to figure out which one!

5/19/2009 12:10:38 AM

yeah really, guys are assholes

5/19/2009 12:11:04 AM

evan, I think you should seek council from your mother on this important issue

5/19/2009 12:11:41 AM

be mean to him

5/19/2009 12:11:57 AM

enjoy the 3 months

5/19/2009 12:13:41 AM

the moment you move on is the moment he comes back into your life


without fail

5/19/2009 12:13:58 AM

WE WERE 5 STEPS
FROM ETERNITY
WE WERE 4 STEPS
4 STEPS PAST LOVE
AND 3 WISHES
WE WERE 3 WISHES
FROM TOUCHING THE HEAVENS ABOVE

5/19/2009 12:15:22 AM

is 200 miles that bad? if he's near highways that's 3-4 hours of driving. Weekend visits could potentially work (I've never been in a long distance relationship though)

5/19/2009 12:20:13 AM

will he be in the same state? or where? that is a good point 200 miles isn't THAT far. and people that have done real long distance would probably laugh at that. i haven't done "real" long distance but i've done long distance.

though apparently there is a difference between long distance and just distance.

5/19/2009 12:21:18 AM

i tried the whole long distance-ish thing (dude lived in wilmington)... even though i went down there as often as i possibly could, it just wasn't the same...

i think i just need to man up and realize that he'd be better off without me, no matter how it makes me feel

5/19/2009 12:23:55 AM

been datin mah woman for 3 years. she lives in thomasville and i in raleigh. its precisely 100 miles. we has made it work, gets shitty sometimes, but not too bad.

course its only an hour and a half.

5/19/2009 12:24:01 AM

that sucks, B

I guess it really depends on whether you think you will ever find a love this good again

if yes, cut him off
if no, accept that it's gonna be long-distance for awhile, and look forward to the time when the distance-factor will be gone

5/19/2009 12:27:39 AM

all good advice.

i think that right now i need to just make a playlist of shitty love songs and go lay down and think about shit.

50/50 chance of it making me feel even worse.

5/19/2009 12:29:39 AM

this would also be an appropriate time for keyboard cat to play me off

5/19/2009 12:32:35 AM

don't give in...that's the worst part, especially when lonely

5/19/2009 12:34:02 AM

200 miles really isn't that bad. I recently went through this sort of thing with a lady friend of mine. We didn't really start a relationship because she was moving 4 hours away, but after she actually moved, we really started to like each other. It was right around this time that she found out she landed a dream job 4500 miles away. I'm not in a position to just pick up and leave, so that's that for now. I knew it was going to suck when she left, but I wanted to make the most out of our time together. It didn't prepare me for the hurt, but I definitely wouldn't take any of it back.

5/19/2009 12:55:43 AM

^interesting first post

5/19/2009 1:10:59 AM

^^ gaaayyyyy

5/19/2009 1:12:24 AM

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"this would also be an appropriate time for keyboard cat to play me off"

but LOLOLOL

5/19/2009 1:27:18 AM

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"gaaaaaay."

5/19/2009 1:28:34 AM

tww sucks right now

5/19/2009 2:02:10 AM

there was a gay guy in one of my classes. for reasons not completely obvious to me, he thought i was gay. so he had a few classmates try to impress me by telling me how he did crosswords everyday, finishing all of them within 15 minutes.

so not only did he think i was gay, he thought i was a nerd. dbl pwnt >>,<<

5/19/2009 2:14:16 AM

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"why is it that the harder you try to NOT think about something, the more you think about it?"

damn. i just lost the game.




but on the real, if this guy is different than the other long-distance relationship you had in the past, who's to say it couldn't work out this time? especially when you two already have a history together, albeit an up and down one. you'd both be pretty invested in the relationship, so think about what could make it work this time instead of why it would fail.

and how much longer do you have in school? it might be that this time, if the duration of being long-distance would be shorter, having that light at the end of the tunnel might help a bit. why's he moving?

5/19/2009 2:21:23 AM

5/19/2009 2:23:19 AM

You dont want that guy anyway

He's a fag

5/19/2009 3:14:23 AM

lol 200 miles

if you can't make it work across 200 miles how the fuck do you think this is remotely special

5/19/2009 3:22:39 AM

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"damn. i just lost the game."

asshole.



anyway, to evan, if you want some more piece of shit advice from someone you don't know, just give it a shot again for the three months till he leaves. a lot can happen in that time, for better or worse. you may decide he's worth it and jet off with him, or it could go down in flames yet again. either way you'll have a better idea.

or, if you decide that's too risky, take the asshole way out (no pun) and fuck his best friend. he'll hate you and your decision's made! if you love'em, let'em go.

5/19/2009 7:05:12 AM

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"lol 200 miles if you can't make it work across 200 miles how the fuck do you think this is remotely special"

How far apart were you and Wolfy when you couldn't make it work?

5/19/2009 7:08:20 AM

set em up

5/19/2009 7:58:33 AM