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cddweller
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It has been recently brought to light that I am unable to detect body language of those who put up with my uninteresting babble for longer than they are usually willing.

Where do you draw the line, social prowess masters? Is there a time- or word-limit on how much we should inform others of our mundane quirks without invitation?

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[Edited on May 29, 2009 at 8:21 AM. Reason : .]

5/29/2009 8:21:09 AM

Willy Nilly
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autism spectrum?

5/29/2009 8:24:25 AM

Skack
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I, too, talk too much at times.

5/29/2009 10:06:52 AM

SymeGuy69
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If they seem bored...or say "uh huh" a lot...look around aimlessly searching for a morsel of entertainment while you flap away...

5/29/2009 10:09:10 AM

grimx
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i try not to talk too much in a group.
if i can't remember the last time someone talked then its been too long though

5/29/2009 10:09:58 AM

qntmfred
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i'm not sure how this relates to selfishness

also, my dad routinely writes mile long emails that could easily be reduced to 3 sentences and it pisses me off

5/29/2009 10:10:39 AM

cddweller
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^Exactly - he's hogging the stage, so to speak.

5/29/2009 10:12:01 AM

Skack
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I thought this thread would be about eating the last piece of pizza when you've already had one more slice than everyone else.

5/29/2009 10:40:24 AM

Slave Famous
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I hate going into the bosses office because he takes 20 minutes to tell me something that should take 2

a few times I've even subtlely pocketdialed his number (our office phones don't have caller ID) so he picks up and I can make my escape

5/29/2009 10:42:36 AM

Joie
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heh. that read was kinda interesting.

5/29/2009 10:51:39 AM

chocolatervh
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on the phone...
if i don't like you... 5 minute limit
if it is purpose driven... 1 minute after purpose is fufilled
if i like you... 10 minutes.
if you manage to talk to me on the phone for over 30 minutes and it is not an interview then i didn't want to be there for 20 minutes of it.
if you manage to talk to me for an hour it is because i don't know where you live or i would have just driven there.

in person
i stop providing fuel to talk about if your conversation is annoying to me.
i don't have a time limit but i get antsy sitting in one place for over an hour
if we are really good friends i'll just tell you i don't care. and i would expect the same.

5/29/2009 10:55:36 AM

JeffreyBSG
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usually I just say "Yep" in a slightly brusque manner, and they get the idea

5/29/2009 2:14:48 PM

casummer
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If people are not bouncing back and forth regularly after 2-3 sentences then you are being 'selfish' (not sure if thats really the right term) UNLESS the other party has asking you specifically about the information that you are providing. Even then they probably don't care but are being social. If you are telling more than one person the same thing then chances are neither one cared even though both asked. The more people you are repeating this too the less they care. Still there is some perspective, if you're going around telling people you know that you're getting married and giving them info about it thats one thing, but no one cares about how you got a flat tire and had to walk half a mile because you were in the middle of no where and finally got phone service then.

5/29/2009 2:40:26 PM

NeuseRvrRat
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i'm gonna take that name back if you don't quit with the blocks of text and post some quality material

5/29/2009 2:41:28 PM

schwank
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^words

hay - i have a neighbor like you - we all secretly hate you and your mundane stories

plz stop, listen to other's stories, and comment

5/29/2009 2:41:57 PM

wdprice3
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it's ok, you're a woman. no one is actually listening.

5/29/2009 4:32:47 PM

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