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Kiwi
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Oh CNN, you're always good for a laugh.

http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/07/20/bia.strong.black.marriage/index.html

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" "I love my husband" said Shanna Woodbury of their marriage. "But I feel so overworked and underappreciated. I work full-time like my husband, but if I don't maintain the domestic responsibilities of the house, nothing gets done. Added to that, I manage our rental properties and take care of everything for our kids, alone."

Her husband started to echo similar frustrations.

"I'm faithful to my wife, I give her my whole paycheck but I work the late shift and my job is demanding. When I come home, I don't need to hear her mouth -- I just need to watch my favorite football game in peace."

Shanna grows more overwhelmed, tempers flare and the two begin arguing more and listening less. Tension took over their home and their fighting began to take a toll on the rest of the family, resulting in disciplinary issues with the kids."


And 7,200 sq ft home.

7/20/2009 7:48:21 PM

quagmire02
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well, fuck

if black marriages fail, what's going to happen to us white folk?

7/20/2009 7:52:21 PM

FykalJpn
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black people work?

7/20/2009 7:53:23 PM

Kiwi
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us white folk held the black marriage down

7/20/2009 7:53:28 PM

quagmire02
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shanna is a whiny bitch...any stupid whore can manage rental property

7/20/2009 8:03:25 PM

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Black in America 2: Whitie Strikes Back

7/20/2009 8:05:47 PM

wdprice3
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sammich. make it. take it to him.

7/20/2009 8:35:12 PM

ThePeter
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"When I come home, I don't need to hear her mouth "


made me lol

7/20/2009 8:54:55 PM

NeuseRvrRat
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do you really need to hear mouth anytime?

7/20/2009 8:56:56 PM

khcadwal
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where does he work the late shift and have a 7200 sq ft home???

are you sure it wasn't 720?

hah.

7/20/2009 8:59:39 PM

ThePeter
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"Tension took over their home and their fighting began to take a toll on the rest of the family, resulting in disciplinary issues with the kids.""


Yeah, I'm sure that was it. Not the fact that the parents are too involved with themselves to give a shit about their kids.

^Probably a factory, which is likely means he's part of a union. He could also be an on-call engineer, who work 'round the clock. Plus the mom is working too, renting out properties and shit.

7/20/2009 9:02:44 PM

Kiwi
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ha I don't think a 720 sq ft place has enough room for six bathrooms.

7/20/2009 9:14:53 PM

BobbyDigital
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a lot of white collar jobs are 24/7 operations, and will have high paying positions working all hours of the night.

Cree is one I can think of locally that operates like that.

7/20/2009 9:47:08 PM

rwoody
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i admit i didnt click the link, but i dont get how the quote describes "black" marriage. seems like that quote describes half the marriages, period, right?

7/20/2009 9:56:33 PM

stopdropnrol
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^yea i don't understand why it's "saving black marriages". i dont think these issues they're facing are exclusive to black families.

7/20/2009 10:09:17 PM

BridgetSPK
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^Pretty much.

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"I work full-time like my husband, but if I don't maintain the domestic responsibilities of the house, nothing gets done."


Split the domestic responsibilities up between the kids. It takes fifteen minutes to check after their asses and take the power cord to their PS3 if they don't comply.

Problem solved, bitches.

7/20/2009 10:18:40 PM

Kiwi
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LOL CNN, you did it again!

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"Principal: It's OK to be smart and black

# Story Highlights
# Capital Prep Magnet School in Hartford, Connecticut, sends every graduate to college
# Principal Steve Perry founded the school to serve kids with backgrounds like his
# Capital Prep boasts a near zero dropout rate; Perry sets the highest of expectations
# Angela Burt-Murray: Parents must act as advocates for their children


HARTFORD, Connecticut (CNN) -- Principal Steve Perry doesn't believe in cursory inspections. For him, every single detail matters. T's are always crossed, I's are always dotted. Shirts are always buttoned and tucked in.
Steve Perry

Principal Steve Perry's demanding approach, tough love and high expectations have paid off at Capital Prep.


During his daily morning hallway inspections, he reprimands a student not wearing the Capital Prep school approved sweatshirt with a "That's not our gray." He then quickly peers into another classroom to witness a student acting up. "Don't do it! Don't do it! Don't do it!" he warns sternly. The student retorts "Why not?" Perry knowingly looks at him and simply says, "You're the upperclassman" and with that, the student sheepishly walks away.

It's all part of the daily routine of tough love and high expectations at Capital Preparatory Magnet School in downtown Hartford, Connecticut. It's a public magnet school, with a college prep school attitude. As Perry says, "If you don't want to go to college, don't go to Capital Prep. Go somewhere else."

Perry's demanding approach has yielded big results. The school of just under 300 sixth- through 12th-grade students boasts a near 0 percent dropout rate. That's a stunning achievement considering Hartford is one of the lowest performing districts in Connecticut, a state with one of the largest achievement gaps between black and white students in the nation. According to the Connecticut Coalition for Achievement NOW, an educational advocacy group, black students in Connecticut are, on average, three grade levels behind their white peers.

Capital Prep, a year-round school that is more than 80 percent black and Latino, can boast of sending every graduating member of its senior class on to a four-year college. In the four years since Perry founded the school, he has sent 80 students on to college. Video See how Capital Prep is defying the odds »

Perry founded the school with the specific purpose of creating a school that would serve students with backgrounds similar to his. Born to a teenage mother, Perry grew up impoverished in a public housing project just outside Hartford. He recalls, "I had to be a principal at some point, or a prisoner, because I spent more time in the principal's office than the principal."
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But it was Perry's fourth-grade teacher, Mr. Kensel, who saw the potential in Perry and set him straight. Perry knew he wanted to do the same for others.

"We decided we were going to open a school. We were going to serve mainly black and Latino children, but the only color I was looking at was the color of success," says Perry.

Perry has achieved that by holding staff and students to the highest expectations.

Breonna Arnum, 17, a senior at Capital Prep, believes it works.

"It makes a difference because everybody has the same goals as you. So it's not like anyone is there to pull you back. Everyone is going forward," Arnum says.

Her mother, Waynette Arnum, agrees. She believes it's a particular boon for students of color to be immersed in an environment with high demands.

"When you're in a school system and people look like you, and they're just as bright as you are, and they're kicking those As out and those 96s and 97s like you, you also know that you're surrounded by people just like yourself who are achievers," says Waynette Arnum. "And it's not an anomaly; it's not something that's rare."

She believes that seeing success is imperative, because black children need role models who look like them. Sound off: How can we keep our kids in school?

"For students of color, for black students, first of all, when you look at who your role models are, when you look at people that look like you, it tells us that we can do things," says Waynette Arnum.

In addition, she says black children are too often overlooked.

"I think that students of color are automatically stereotyped sometimes when they go into school systems that are predominately white," says Waynette Arnum. "The stereotype that there's no father in the home, that the parents don't care; we have a plethora of stereotypes -- that the kids have behavioral problems, that the boys should all be put on Ritalin or something of that sort. Yes, these are definitely issues."

These are issues all black parents must face, says Angela Burt-Murray, editor-in-chief of Essence Magazine. Burt-Murray is the mother of two black boys and she and her husband are not only parents, but also advocates for their children.
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"It starts with formulating that relationship with the teacher, letting the teacher know that you are an involved and concerned parent," says Burt-Murray.

Waynette Arnum agrees that parents have to speak up. That's exactly what she did.

"I definitely had to sit there and let the teachers know, let the school system know, let the parents know and let my daughter know that yes, I am an advocate," says Arnum. "And, all students deserve to learn equally."

Arnum believes Breonna was overlooked in elementary school, simply because of the color of her skin. It prompted her to not only stand up for her own daughter, but also to join a Students of Color Committee in the town of Manchester, Connecticut.

"There were definitely issues that were particular to my daughter that later I knew would be particular to all students of color. So that's how come I had to be involved," recalls Arnum.

Arnum believes if she hadn't stood up for her daughter, things could have turned out differently.

"I feel as though if I hadn't started off the way I had, Breonna still would have slipped though the cracks, even though we push her at home," Arnum says.
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Perry, the dedicated principal, agrees that black children can frequently be the victims of stereotypes. It's the reason he pushed so hard to create an environment where everyone was held to the same expectations.

"In our school, it's college prep for everybody; it doesn't matter if you're black or white. They can see that it's OK for them to be smart and black," says Perry.
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7/22/2009 6:59:02 PM

Str8BacardiL
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I do not see anything up there that had to do with them being black....all of those problems are your generic marital problems that can come up.

7/22/2009 7:07:18 PM

Fermat
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leave it to a white woman to save the black race from their barbaric ways

YOU HEARD ME, BLACK PEOPLE

7/22/2009 7:09:06 PM

Wyloch
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HAHAHAHA they live about a mile away from me!

7/22/2009 7:11:25 PM

jackleg
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"where does he work the late shift and have a 7200 sq ft home???"


you dont have to have a 9-5 to make the big bucks

7/22/2009 7:11:27 PM

ncsuapex
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BLACK MARRIAGES

A VILLAGE


THAT'S RACIST

7/22/2009 7:16:27 PM

ncsuallday
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make the kids do chores.

problem solved.

7/22/2009 7:29:12 PM

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