I just saw this on another message board and though it would be fit to post here. This gets a big WTF from me.

http://www.elle.com/Life-Love/Society-Career-Power/Girl-Crazy-Women-Who-Suffer-from-Gender-Disappointment

I would link the article but it is over the 10,000 character limit.

Cliff's Notes: Batshit crazy women who are obsessed with having girls get depressed/consider abortion when they find out they're pregnant with boys. They are trying to live their own frilly princess lives vicariously through their girls.

edit: Son of a bitch I added an extra S an dropped a P in the title.

[Edited on October 16, 2009 at 7:55 PM. Reason : ]

10/16/2009 7:54:43 PM

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"It’s easy to dismiss the GD crowd as a bunch of heartless nutcakes."

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"“I completely disassociated myself from my [unborn] baby.” She considered an abortion but says she couldn’t go through with it because she’d already seen the fetus on the ultrasound. “If there had been any way to have found out the sex earlier, I would’ve terminated.” Even now, knowing her son? “It is difficult to say, because I do know him,”"

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"It’s easy to dismiss the GD crowd as a bunch of heartless nutcakes."

10/16/2009 9:44:10 PM

The article almost acts as though the issue gets resolved when the person in question actually gets the gender they want (or at least one of the doctors interviewed does):

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"“Most obsessions can’t be resolved,” says the 56-year-old Steinberg, who is stout, balding, and jolly—a Santa Claus of sex selection. “But here is an obsession that can be resolved. My patients get their girl, or their boy, and they’re happy as pie.”"

But really, just how inferior are these boys going to feel over their lifetimes with a parent who exhibits such an incredibly obvious favoritism towards one sibling? That's not to say that still doesn't happen in a few normal households, or say that they won't end up just sucking up the problem and leading normal lives anyway... but damn these women be crazy.



Also...

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"“For try No. 1, [patients] may be getting financial help from their family,” he says. “For tries No. 2 and 3, they’re mortgaging homes, selling cars.” In 2010, he plans to begin offering sex selection at half price out of his Guadalajara, Mexico, clinic. “People are going to go crazy,” he says."

This isn't sketchy or unethical at all!

[Edited on October 16, 2009 at 10:15 PM. Reason : .]

10/16/2009 10:12:31 PM

While the article might say that -- read the last few paragraphs (quoted below). The woman has girls, and then is disappointed because 'they aren't everything she thought they would be.'

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"Two girls! Is Lewis in heaven? “Yes and no,” she says. “In the end, my expectations of what it would be like to mother a daughter were not fully realized.” Eliza and Jamisyn don’t like to play with dolls, don’t enjoy ballet. “Neither is really frilly,” Lewis laments. “They don’t want to do the things my mother and I did. I have to shake myself and say: You got what you wanted. So why do I feel this longing still? It leads me to believe that this GD thing is far deeper than meets the eye. I’m actually exploring it in therapy myself because I want to understand it.” In the meantime, Lewis is trying to accept her daughters as they are. “I’ve tried not to take it out on them, but there have been pangs of anger, of disappointment, pangs of, I went through all this, and now you’re not cooperating? Didn’t you read the instruction booklet on how to be a daughter? If a dream is held that long, then you better believe it becomes a well-crafted dream.” And indeed, Lewis is not ready to call it a day. “I still try every once in a while. I say, ‘Let’s have a princess party.’ They say, ‘Mom, you know we don’t like princesses.’ ” Lewis laughs ruefully. “I don’t give up easily,” she says. “I’m pretty tenacious.”"

These women are messed up in the head.

10/16/2009 10:51:29 PM

^ The part you quoted didn't sound that crazy. Or has no father ever been disappointed that his son/daughter refuses to play football?

And, hell, she seems to be taking the rejection remarkably well. Some parents punish their children emotionally when they don't behave as demanded. A child should consider itself lucky if all it needs to do to achieve parental approval is pretend it likes dresses.

[Edited on October 16, 2009 at 11:13 PM. Reason : .,.]

10/16/2009 11:11:57 PM

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"It’s easy to dismiss the GD crowd as a bunch of heartless nutcakes."

10/17/2009 3:01:04 AM

It's easy because they are.


^^ There are men who are disappointed that their sons don't play football, but I'm not sure that there are many men willing to mortgage their property and sell their cars to finance medical procedures to ensure more and more sons until they get one they can live vicariously through.

That's crazier than hell even by woman standards.

10/17/2009 3:53:31 AM

thankfully i have never suffered gender disappointment while on a date

10/17/2009 3:55:30 AM

I feel sorry for these kids who have batshit crazy mothers.

Obviously these mothers just see their kids as living dolls to play dress-up with. They wanted a specific gender child to fill some void in their life rather than dealing with whatever the underlying problem is. Their child(ren) are nothing more than human entertainment for them, but they can't get past the fact that these kids have their own personalities, likes and dislikes.

Sadly, I think this shit is way more common than it seems, perhaps not quite as extreme as the cases here.

10/17/2009 8:29:07 AM

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"A child should consider itself lucky if all it needs to do to achieve parental approval is pretend it likes dresses. "

You are severely fucked in the head if you think this

10/17/2009 12:52:15 PM

This is a type of crazy that's always existed.

What's really crazy is that they've given it a serious-sounding name, so as to somehow make it an acceptable condition.

10/17/2009 1:03:25 PM

GD sounds similar to loathing your kid for being gay

10/17/2009 1:13:43 PM

sounds like even when these batshit women wind up getting what they want, they end up with something like Jon Benet Ramsey.

10/17/2009 4:24:54 PM

This is no different than many of those crazy Eastern cultures (mine included) that seem so bent on producing male children. It also sounds extremely unappreciative given:

a) the number of couples that try to have any children but can't
b) the number of female orphans that are looking for homes

If you want a female baby so badly, then why not go adopt a female? May these women, if they succeed in having daughters, be cursed with hyper tomboys.

On the flip side, if we do start skewing the gender ratio with this practice, I suppose it balances out all those boys being produced back in other corners of the world.

[Edited on October 18, 2009 at 8:20 PM. Reason : .]

10/18/2009 8:20:26 PM

Selfish generation is selfish.

^Doesn't China have a one child limit? You can see how people might be warped under those circumstances. They want to carry on their family name.

10/19/2009 8:44:37 AM

^Not exactly. If you have a girl, you're usually allowed to try again for a boy. There's some lenience with rural families, though. Partially because they depend on children for livelyhood/survival, and partially because it's more difficult to enforce the law in rural areas.

Also, as far as the "selfish generation" thing...every generation is selfish, and every person is selfish, to some degree. There's nothing wrong with that. You've got one life to live, so I wouldn't suggest living it solely to please other people rather than yourself.

This whole thing is dumb, though. I agree that this is just women trying to live their dream of being a pretty princess through their child, and a male child just won't work for that. It's crazy, but not completely surprising.

10/19/2009 9:39:48 AM