was this guy named Rob, LC?

7/7/2013 2:09:29 PM

That guy sounds like a great catch! Don't let him get away!

7/7/2013 2:25:46 PM

AHA, that reminds me of the messages DivaBaby19 posted. Some dudes are so eager and so scared of rejection that any hint of it will make them lash out like lunatics. Even taking a few moments to write back is perceived as active disinterest.

7/7/2013 4:24:10 PM

yeah, sounds like dude knew a chick from NC and things went way south. obviously he's over it, though

7/7/2013 4:30:43 PM

Actually met a decent girl from OKC the other day. Unfortunately work schedules will kind of keep up from date two for another week or so. I'm not big on serial texting or phone calls, and so far I'm not thinking she isn't either. So TWW, what's appropriate to keep lines of communications open for the time being?

7/7/2013 6:10:02 PM

Gchat

7/7/2013 6:49:38 PM

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"AHA, that reminds me of the messages DivaBaby19 posted. Some dudes are so eager and so scared of rejection that any hint of it will make them lash out like lunatics. Even taking a few moments to write back is perceived as active disinterest."

this. And it's actually quite frightening to think that these bullets aren't always dodged, and you actually end up MEETING these people.

7/7/2013 10:38:14 PM

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"Actually met a decent girl from OKC the other day. Unfortunately work schedules will kind of keep up from date two for another week or so. I'm not big on serial texting or phone calls, and so far I'm not thinking she isn't either. So TWW, what's appropriate to keep lines of communications open for the time being?"

in my opinion the texting and calling just for the sake of it can fizzle out an interesting new relationship faster than limited communication. there have been a few girls with whom it turned out to be a chore just to get through the days texting. i get that you want to say hey and so do i, but no need to have these long drawn out nights of stuff like that. plus once you get to an actual date you realize you've talked about everything worth a damn on the phone.

i would be up front with her. tell her you aren't a big talker or texter, but that she's on your mind and you just wanted to say hey, see how her day went, and are looking forward to getting together with her.

7/8/2013 7:51:44 AM

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"texting and calling just for the sake of it can fizzle out an interesting new relationship faster than limited communication"

Learned this the hard way lol.

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7/8/2013 8:56:21 AM

^ truth on the over texting. I've been seeing a guy for the past few weeks and we can go days without talking and it seems to be working a lot better than the usual constant texting method

7/8/2013 9:30:07 AM

Right now I pretty much only text to make plans or if I have something unusual to say and I feel like that works way better. If she wants to talk more... she will.

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7/8/2013 9:37:49 AM

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7/15/2013 3:15:03 PM

I got some updates

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7/15/2013 3:22:43 PM

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7/15/2013 3:27:48 PM

the girl i'm dating now was my highest match % on okcupid

7/15/2013 4:33:01 PM

Yeah the girl im banging was one of my highest % on this shit but I never talked to her on there. Life is strange.

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7/15/2013 5:06:58 PM

i want to see what kind of % me and the bf would get, but without having other people think i'm looking for a date.

7/15/2013 7:21:14 PM

My ex gf is on there and she's like 95% match 50% friend. Sounds about right. lol

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7/15/2013 7:23:07 PM

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"I love to travel and go to concerts, my favorite band is 311."

:backs out of profile slowly:

7/17/2013 4:42:52 PM

at what age does a serial dater turn into that denim Nautica shirt with a khaki collar and cuffs hanging on the clearance rack?

7/17/2013 7:17:45 PM

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"i want to see what kind of % me and the bf would get, but without having other people think i'm looking for a date. "

then make blank profiles with no pictures and answer questions

7/17/2013 7:20:06 PM

^^37

7/17/2013 7:25:28 PM

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"I'm new to this whole online dating stuff. I'm a caring and loving lady that is ready for a serious and long lasting relationship with no BS. I'm seeking for a caring,honest,loving,loyal,faithful and understanding man,someone that is family oriented and that know's what he want in life. If you are the type of man am looking for then you can get back to me with your cell number so I can contact you on there and we see where it lead us."

Occupation: Teacher



i want to send a message saying only THEN WHO WAS PHONE!?

7/19/2013 10:36:45 AM

Um. Someone has to be a teacher. Hello? We can't all be engineers.

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7/19/2013 10:38:47 AM

i'm more concerned with her grammar

7/19/2013 10:40:13 AM

Maybe you should be a teacher then.

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7/19/2013 10:41:10 AM

their is know way

7/19/2013 10:46:47 AM

It's surprising how far in life some people will get without knowing how to write a paragraph.



Or is it? Not much really surprises me nowadays.

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7/19/2013 11:40:40 AM

Date three: showed up in sweatpants stoned off his ass and fell asleep sitting straight up.


I officially give up completely.

7/19/2013 12:06:49 PM

^^My profile dont have no paragraphs.

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7/19/2013 12:11:27 PM

^^ Funny. Sucks...but funny

Date 3. Exposing her to Arrested Development with a marathon at my place. Will probably cook some stuff just to show off a bit.

7/19/2013 12:14:06 PM

gotta cook with them even if they're one of them 2013 liberated feminist womens who don't know how to cook and have no job

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7/19/2013 12:19:10 PM

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"Date 3. Exposing her to Arrested Development with a marathon at my place."

very nice, already having the first house date. those are the best, fuck going out.

7/19/2013 12:24:04 PM

^Exactly.

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"gotta cook with them even if they're one of them 2013 liberated feminist womens who don't know how to cook and have no job"

I had thought about that at first, but it will most likely be just snack type food rather than a full blwon meal. Homemade salsa, maybe some baked brie...nothing that really can really entertain 2 people.

I have the idea of making sushi together at some point, that's a good 'do it together' kind of meal prep

7/19/2013 12:34:07 PM

Haven't been on since I got engaged a year ago, but getting pussy on this site was positively like shooting fish in a barrel.

Key Things to look for:

- if they mention their favorite drink in their profile.

- if they say they enjoy 'snuggling' or 'cuddling up on the couch' - they are likely to do that on the first real date.

- If they list any kind of rap: (lil wayne, etc.) in their favorite music - they are used to being degraded and will probably let you glue their eyes shut.


I found a great place to take a girl for a first date was to show up to a karaoke bar like an hour early to talk and get to know eachother. Once the drinks get going and it gets loud, you don't have to come up with fun things to talk about anymore....just a great chance to get hammered and goof off.

~ 75 percent chance of boning after a date like that.

7/19/2013 1:52:19 PM

solid advice.

to be honest though, my OKC experience has been awful. just seems like here in CLT it's filled with the trashy girls from the fringe towns. and 30+ year old bisexuals. I guess i'm not really into shooting fish in a barrel so i haven't really be on the prowl on that site like i could be.

7/19/2013 1:55:41 PM

That's exactly what one of my friends said about raleigh. That might be an age thing but he's my age and i don't see those people in raleigh. Delete your questions. Try again. Answer less.

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7/19/2013 2:11:04 PM

Do you people not have Tinder?

7/19/2013 2:13:26 PM

I can't have an app for this shit. I mean what would my gf think if she saw i had tinder

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7/19/2013 2:16:03 PM

Hide in the folder with the calculator and the compass.

7/19/2013 2:19:32 PM

^lol

7/19/2013 2:19:53 PM

Is that an iphone joke? I have a man phone

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7/19/2013 2:21:30 PM

I'm on Match and there aren't many hot girls. I can't imagine how many creepy messages the hot ones must get every day. It seems like all of these girls went to UNC, which is no surprise I guess.

What do y'all say in the first message to these girls? I usually just comment about something they like that we have in common or ask more about something they're doing with their life.

Only one girl in like 25 has replied and after 6 emails it seems she's more interested in selling me her camera than anything else

7/19/2013 2:23:38 PM

Say? I thought the protocol for breaking the ice was a picture of an erection.

7/19/2013 2:25:14 PM

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"after 6 emails"

You looking for a date or a pen pal?

7/19/2013 2:35:25 PM

the first message is the worst. it's a lose lose. comment generically on the profile and they'll probably just ignore you. come off too crass in a joke and they'll call you a dick and then ignore you. it's hard to be genuine and not come off soft IMO.

that's why i changed up my profile dramatically and basically said "if you like what you see let me know". the last few girls i've gone out with have actually messaged me first.

but yeah, that first message sucks.

7/19/2013 2:35:27 PM

No its not. Say something generic as fuck like "Hey whats up?" then say something generic about their overall profile "its pretty cool that you don't smoke crack and like food" and then comment specifically on one thing "Omg, I love the Krallum show. Have you seen the episode where they go to the skeleton dimension?". From here, either say something totally off the wall to get their attention or just be lame and wrap it up. Its the after-messages that are hard because well... most of the girls on here are retarded as fuck, so you have to pretend that they're just being lazy and they aren't actually that uninteresting. You have to carry on a conversation basically with yourself until you feel like you've sent enough messages to ask for their number.

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7/19/2013 2:48:14 PM

what age range are you guys using?

i think i'm 24-32. maybe i should jump down to 21 and up to 40

7/19/2013 3:04:10 PM

18 to 25

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7/19/2013 3:06:12 PM

always 18 for the lower end

you're trying to get laid not have something meaningful, right?

I think I'll change my age to 23

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7/19/2013 3:08:25 PM