Always talk your pediatrician about questions like these and have them judge your son's gait, but I can say that our son walked with his foot turned out at first. Doesn't at all now.

2/3/2013 2:14:10 PM

^Agreed.

It's really not unusual for a foot or both feet to either turn in or out when babies first start to walk, but it should straighten out as they become stronger more confident walkers. Just bring it up to your pediatrician, but I wouldn't stress over it so early in the process of learning to walk. And from my own experience with my daughter, who is a very late walker with some orthopedic problems, the doctor will probably just want to wait and see how it develops as long as it isn't severe or worsening.

2/3/2013 3:58:21 PM

Thanks!

2/4/2013 2:31:01 AM

Any suggestions for disciplining other than time out? Time out does nothing.

2/4/2013 10:08:35 AM

You only have one, right? My best trick is to ignore the one misbehaving and give the ones behaving something, dessert or a cool activity or something simple like a temporary tattoo.

2/4/2013 10:19:03 AM

Yes, only one.

I can't ignore the activity as either he or the dog is likely to get injured.

2/4/2013 10:27:19 AM

Ah. Well, just time out does nothing for me either, unless there is something cool going on and the naughty one is missing out.

2/4/2013 11:37:44 AM

Dear Lord don't ever get mastitis people. It's like the flu but worse.

2/12/2013 12:03:35 PM

When do u guys continue sex life after the delivery? I have been waiting for 3 months. And my partner tells me she hasn't fully recovered yet. She still has lochia. It's weird, b/c it should be gone after one month already.

2/22/2013 3:27:00 PM

Now I rely on porn and masturbation.

2/22/2013 3:29:09 PM

it can definitely take longer than a month for lochia to go away. depending on if she tore, and how badly, it make take her a while to be comfortable with sex again. it's definitely scary the first time around after tearing.

2/22/2013 3:51:48 PM

So 3 months is not long at all?

[Edited on February 22, 2013 at 3:58 PM. Reason : ;]

2/22/2013 3:57:49 PM

Whenever she (and/or her doctor) says so, geez.

2/22/2013 4:07:20 PM

Six weeks is the minimum time doctors ask you to wait to have sex and that's if everything goes smoothly.

And just because a woman is medically ready to resume sex, doesn't mean that she's emotionally or hormonally ready to resume sex.

Three months doesn't sound too long. And if you're being an asshole about it, she's definitely not going to want to have sex yet.

[Edited on February 22, 2013 at 4:26 PM. Reason : .]

2/22/2013 4:19:30 PM

I wouldn't want to have sex with you either if you talked about me like this

http://thewolfweb.com/message_topic.aspx?topic=634707&page=1

2/22/2013 4:39:55 PM

But it's not ur business, sorry.

2/22/2013 4:56:35 PM

If it's none of our business, why are you posting it on TWW?

2/22/2013 5:00:38 PM

I just follow her last sentence.

2/22/2013 5:04:48 PM

Wow, seriously, you might just win an award for being the douchiest husband on TWW.

2/24/2013 10:40:18 AM

Ridiculous. Why?
You know nothing, kid.

[Edited on February 24, 2013 at 10:46 AM. Reason : add another note]

2/24/2013 10:44:44 AM

^I read your entire thread.

You are arrogant and disrespectful to your wife.

2/24/2013 10:48:24 AM

I don't want to argue with you about it. But you just say it to protect the right of a woman. Your saying is not true.

2/24/2013 11:01:15 AM

Not often that I learn a new word on TWW. Thank you, TWW, for teaching me a new word today.


lo·chi·a
[loh-kee-uh, lok-ee-uh] Show IPA

noun, plural lo·chi·a. Medicine/Medical .

the liquid discharge from the uterus after childbirth.

2/24/2013 12:10:34 PM

That's a medical term. You won't know it if your wife doesn't give birth to baby.

2/24/2013 12:24:17 PM

When do you think that it is ok to allow your child to go use a public restroom alone?

My five year old son now knows the difference between the women's and men's restrooms. He does not want to go to the girls' room and wants to use the boys' room. I've explained to him that Mommy cannot go with him into the boys' bathroom, but I see this as being a continuing problem. He doesn't need my help and I have no problem waiting for him outside of a single person bathroom, but the thought of sending him into a large multi-person public bathroom alone just freaks me out.

3/18/2013 9:46:31 PM

My wife was pretty freaked out as well, but luckily we have two boys near the same age and so she started letting them go together. We also had a stranger danger chat about talking to people in the bathroom and she stands near the door.

3/18/2013 9:58:26 PM

Quote :

"so 3 months is not long at all?"

Well I am still on month 12 and counting, so calm the fuck down.

3/19/2013 12:05:30 AM

Quote :

"When do you think that it is ok to allow your child to go use a public restroom alone?"

I have let my daughter go since she was 3 1/2. <shrug> I'm not too worried about pedophiles hanging out in public restrooms and I have no reservations about running in there if she cries out or something.

3/19/2013 10:28:30 AM

^^ You have been waiting for a year after her delivery?

3/21/2013 11:11:55 PM

3/22/2013 12:57:48 AM

Question inspired by tonight's adventure in babysitting a sleep talker

What would you as a parent expect of a babysitter in event of a home invasion?

3/24/2013 11:40:14 PM

Tough to say, I know that now that I am an adult and have "matured" to a certain extent, I think that I have reached a point in life where death does not seem like the total bummer that it did as a kid. So, my priorities would be for the child.

So, I would call the police and try to find an easy way out of the house or go hide in an area where I could lock ourselves in.

But I will for sure install a panic room whenever I get my own place just for that purpose.

[Edited on March 25, 2013 at 5:13 AM. Reason : x]

3/25/2013 5:12:39 AM

In any situation, I expect an adult take care of themselves first so that they can either get help or care for the child. I don't expect heroics because I believe that heroics only puts everyone in danger. If the goal of an invasion isn't the child then anything that alerts to the child's presence and turns the intruder's attention to the child is negative. I worry that by trying to save or protect the child, you just engage the criminal and force the criminal to act. A friend is a police officer and emphasizes that most criminals are looking for quick and easy. A simple b&e turns into a murder when someone tries to be a hero -- instead of leaving your child asleep in their bed while they steal your stuff, they harm you (the hero) and the child. I've seen more than one story on ID where a child is left unharmed and the adults killed. In the cases where the adult and/or child are killed, I have wondered if the outcome could have been different if the adult had not engaged the the intruder. My two cents. I know that the popular and maybe instinctual answer is to save the child, but I think that the folks on the airplane have it right: put on your own air mask and then help the child.

3/25/2013 8:53:41 AM

^essentially this. It's a hard pill to swallow, but it's the truth. Granted, the chance of it happening so small that I wouldn't spend any time discussing it with the babysitter, but I wouldn't blame them if they ran; it's the best thing to do.

http://www.samharris.org/blog/item/the-truth-about-violence

Quote :

"One of the most common and disturbing features of home invasions is how the victims’ concern for one another and desire to stay together is inevitably used against them. By exploiting these bonds, even a single attacker can immobilize an entire family. By merely holding a knife to the wife’s throat, he can get the husband to submit to being tied up. Again, it is perfectly natural for victims in these circumstances to hope that if they just cooperate, their attacker will show them mercy. If you get nothing else from this article, engrave this iron law on your mind: The moment it is clear that an assailant wants more than your property (which must be assumed in any home invasion), you must escape. What if your attacker has a knife to your child’s throat and tells you that everything is going to be okay as long as you cooperate by lying face down on the floor? Don’t do it. It would be better to flee the house—because as soon as you leave, he will know that the clock is ticking: Within moments, you will be at a neighbor’s home summoning help. If this intruder is going to murder your child before fleeing himself, he was going to murder your child anyway—either before or after he killed you. And he was going to take his time doing it. Granted, it is almost impossible to imagine leaving one’s child in such a circumstance—but if you can’t leave, you must grab a weapon and press your own attack. Complying in the hope that a sociopath will keep his promise to you is always the wrong move."

[Edited on March 25, 2013 at 10:14 AM. Reason : .]

3/25/2013 10:13:26 AM

I feel better about my hesitation then. Long story short, middle of the night one of the kids shouted that someone was in their room and then a door opened. I grabbed the phone and started up the stairs and froze. I ended up calling out to see if someone was upstairs.

The ending is that all three kids were asleep and no one was in the house, but I wondered what the right thing to do would be if someone was actually there.

3/25/2013 10:19:16 AM

I'm not saying their parents or the cops would understand if you just ran and called the cops, but I would if I were them. We have "protect children (and women) at all costs" ingrained into our DNA by millions of years of Evolution. Bad guys take advantage of this.

3/25/2013 10:33:18 AM

It took me a bit to go upstairs to check on them, and simultaneously felt terrible for not going immediately and stupid because what in the heck would I do if I found someone upstairs.

3/25/2013 10:39:58 AM

Jack has to get tubes put in on Friday. I saw bottombaby's post on page 10 so that was useful. From what I've read, it seems like the recover in well under 24 hrs so that is good.

4/3/2013 8:49:55 AM

Toddler bed troubles. If you went/are going through it, how did you overcome keeping your kid in his/her bed? We dropped to the crib rail ~1 month ago (son is now 21 mos) and it's been...yeah. We have a baby gate at his door for his safety/not exploring the house or coming in to our room in the middle of the night. It's like he's terrified if we shut the door, and we did it all the time with no complaint when he was in his crib. He's back to frequent night waking which is in part the rail and in part my work from home job--which I did in the evenings and it required a 100% noise free environment, so if he cried out my husband would attend to him which then became habit.

I'm no longer with that job, so we could try CIO again which worked very well for us at 9 months, but I know it's not gonna be as easy at 21 months. Tonight we even tried locking his door--ugh--and it was awful, and as soon as we tried just leaving the door open he went to sleep. We locked the door in the first place because he would just stand at the gate and cry or look at us down the hallway if we left it open. We adjusted bed time from 7:30 to 8:00. He sleeps 8-7 but that's with frequent wakings and one nap that is 1 hr-1.5 hrs long...2 if I'm really lucky.

I dunno...aside from putting the rail back up (which I really don't want to do) I dunno what to do here.

4/8/2013 10:36:34 PM

^Put him back in the crib. You can't reason with a toddler.

4/11/2013 2:37:46 PM

Why don't you try to make the move to closing his door in stages? The Super Nanny has given some great advice on bedtime and it involves making these kind of moves gradually. I'd put him to bed with the gate up and leave his door open. Then I would make a special effort to stay out of sight, even if you have to hide in your bedroom, and then wait him out. (That's what we did with Silas. Silas would usually play a few minutes and then conk out.) Once he's asleep, I'd pull the door. I think that after a week of staying out of sight, he'll realize that nothing is going on after he's put to bed. Once he's use to that, then I'd work on progressively pulling the door closed when you put him to bed.

Amelia, who is the same age, is currently going through separation anxiety. I never went through it with Silas, but Amelia gets pretty upset when we're out of sight ESPECIALLY when there is some kind of barrier. She gets pretty upset over shut doors. Fortunately, we haven't had any bedtime troubles, but she's still in a crib.

[Edited on April 11, 2013 at 8:25 PM. Reason : .]

4/11/2013 8:21:55 PM

^^Again, I really don't want to do that. It's just delaying the inevitable. He was nearly able to climb out before I took the crib rail down, and that's a whole different can of worms.

However, since posting this he only woke once the night before last and last night he stayed in his crib all night sleeping 13 hrs straight.

So! Having reported his good behavior, he'll now go back to frequent waking and getting out of bed.

^Huh...that's kind of what we've been doing actually. Didn't know it was a method, and we've probably not been very consistent with it and it just kind of happens that way (eventually just leaving it open and then closing it when in bed...so closing it gradually each night then it's not so alarming--I get it; like it! ). I'll be more mindful of it and try it from now on and see what results we get.

[Edited on April 11, 2013 at 8:30 PM. Reason : ]

[Edited on April 11, 2013 at 8:31 PM. Reason : ]

4/11/2013 8:27:25 PM

Yeah, put a little bit of effort into being more mindful and methodical about it. I bet if you're consistent with it that things will improve.

If they don't, well, I'd blame it on the age. Amelia's terrible twos are already setting in.

4/11/2013 8:36:47 PM

My 2 year old is still in a crib and will get to stay there until she can sleep through the night (every night) and navigate stairs/unlock the baby gate by herself. Sometimes she goes straight to sleep, sometime stays up for 30~45 mins talking to herself in the bed. If she could get out of the crib, I would expect a tea party to go on until close to midnight everynight.

I am also not giving her the keys to my car or letting boys sleep over, despite that is delaying the inevitable. If your kid is able to get out of the crib....that is a different issue. Cut the legs off of it and put it on the ground.

4/25/2013 2:29:15 PM

My kid has been in a regular twin bed since he was about 18 months. I argued with the wife that we should wait until AT LEAST 2 years old, but she insisted. It has actually been fine, no issues.

4/25/2013 2:32:31 PM

My daughter is in the wakemed right now suffering from vomiting .
She was diagnosed as ear infection yesterday afternoon by a pediatrian but the symptom was getting worse at midnight. Now the doctor thinks she gets bacteria in her belly and hopes she will recover by medicine which helps her stop vomiting. Has any other baby had such disease b4?

5/4/2013 11:11:31 PM

The kids I watch have been passing around norovirus. So much vomiting.

5/4/2013 11:29:16 PM

my daughter had croup this week for her first birthday
luckily she got over it pretty quickly with no medication necessary.

5/5/2013 10:50:24 AM

Now the doctor thinks it can be a result of viruses in both stomach and breathing system

5/5/2013 12:04:55 PM

Pyloric stenosis? That's what she's suspected to have lately. I may need to spend another day in hospital.

[Edited on May 5, 2013 at 2:49 PM. Reason : A]

5/5/2013 2:47:40 PM